tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post760142093311922157..comments2024-02-13T05:20:46.558-05:00Comments on A CUP OF JO: Motherhood Mondays: Do your eyes light up when you see your child?Joanna Goddardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18109285188206811042noreply@blogger.comBlogger108125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-48124882786657043242014-10-27T14:42:33.802-04:002014-10-27T14:42:33.802-04:00just like your mother, I still love the sound and ...just like your mother, I still love the sound and the sight of my two adult children. It NEVER gets old and for that I am thankful and blessed.cakegirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05937861882306370326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-42894509781641894652014-04-15T12:33:17.402-04:002014-04-15T12:33:17.402-04:00Hi there. I really appreciate the points you made....Hi there. I really appreciate the points you made. I don't think I've actually thought about it in that way. I can really appreciate how you approached the subject matter and what you said really gave me a new perspective. Thanks for taking the time to write this all out.<br /><a href="http://perawatanternakbudidaya.blogspot.com/2014/04/cara-budidaya-kroto-atau-ternak-semut-rangrang.html" rel="nofollow">Budidaya kroto</a><br /><a href="http://bestbudidayatanaman.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Bisnis Budidaya</a><br /><a href="http://bestbudidayatanaman.blogspot.com/2013/01/Panduan-Budidaya-Jamur-Tiram-dan-Penjelasan-Tata-caranya.html" rel="nofollow">Budidaya Jamur tiram</a><br /><a href="http://bestbudidayatanaman.blogspot.com/2013/01/budidaya-melon-dan-cara-menanam-melon.html" rel="nofollow">Budidaya melon</a><br /><a href="http://bestbudidayatanaman.blogspot.com/2013/08/Budidaya-Jambu-Biji-dan-Cara-Menanam-Jambu-Biji.html" rel="nofollow">Jambu</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03575096662387765218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-72664284533807141332014-02-14T17:59:47.003-05:002014-02-14T17:59:47.003-05:00Thanks for reminding me how important this is. I l...Thanks for reminding me how important this is. I love my child more than anything in the world and she fills my heart with such joy. I need to remember to let her know this even when I'm overwhelmed with emails, bills, working, etc. Because when it comes down to it, I would drop everything in a heartbeat just to have a hug from her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-5891126569946712922014-02-14T17:59:22.569-05:002014-02-14T17:59:22.569-05:00Thanks for reminding me how important this is. I l...Thanks for reminding me how important this is. I love my child more than anything in the world and she fills my heart with such joy. I need to remember to let her know this even when I'm overwhelmed with emails, bills, working, etc. Because when it comes down to it, I would drop everything in a heartbeat just to have a hug from her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-22252648693933676152012-12-04T07:58:56.074-05:002012-12-04T07:58:56.074-05:00I'm behind on my blogs, but wanted to comment ...I'm behind on my blogs, but wanted to comment that the Toni Morrison piece on Oprah is in the back of my mind all the time. Although right now it's hard not to smile when I look at my 4-month old daughter, it's an important point that we need to be reminded of as they get older. Thanks for posting!Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14877843518405281105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-11193726542265492862012-12-03T19:53:08.821-05:002012-12-03T19:53:08.821-05:00I work at a design firm and there is a theory when...I work at a design firm and there is a theory when designing children's hospital rooms to always put artwork above the bed that will elicit a smile or positive reaction from adults. This way when a kiddo in the hospital bed sees the reaction of someone walking into their room it’s a good one! Stephanie G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05348999851083086759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-76759556258017782722012-11-30T00:48:54.896-05:002012-11-30T00:48:54.896-05:00You are the sweetest person and a GREAT mom!!!!!You are the sweetest person and a GREAT mom!!!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08110692417080347611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-71158334046953988232012-11-29T16:23:33.035-05:002012-11-29T16:23:33.035-05:00I hope my comment does not get deleted for not bei...I hope my comment does not get deleted for not being "nice," but I think an outsiders' perspective (since every comment posted sees it your way) might be healthy here. The type of expectation that you're setting up -- both for parents and their children -- that children *must* get a special happy face *everytime* they enter into the room is unrealistically high. For example, your child need not get a special loving look if he or she keeps on entering into a room where you're working, when he/she knows that this is your working time. They should get a reaction that is appropriate - i.e., a gentle reprimand. This is not to say that your actual love for them waxes or wanes with their behavior -- I too believe that a mother's love should be unconditional -- but this outward display of beaming maternal love strikes me as both oddly contrived/performative and detrimental to the child's development into an individual who respects boundaries and recognizes that even mothers must have them. jy196https://www.blogger.com/profile/03363862499243015698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-6684284064141109512012-11-28T22:50:49.927-05:002012-11-28T22:50:49.927-05:00I used to have the happiest face EVERY time my lit...I used to have the happiest face EVERY time my little one walked in the room though lately life has thrown a few curve balls and i have noticed that this has stopped. I am aware of it and have made a very conscious effort now to give her my happy face first, not my judgmental one. Children should never be at the forefront of our problems, they are little innocent pure beings and should be treated as such. We as mums, and dads, should thank our lucky stars that we are fortunate enough to have these little people in our lives xsuzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08212490575372646792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-64069453657099115342012-11-28T19:14:26.532-05:002012-11-28T19:14:26.532-05:00My sons are 28 and 25 years old. Yes, I light up i...My sons are 28 and 25 years old. Yes, I light up inside and out when I see them, still.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15358904926897857523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-70637954175799516622012-11-28T16:42:05.511-05:002012-11-28T16:42:05.511-05:00What a sweet post. My face truly does light up wh...What a sweet post. My face truly does light up when I see my son. I look forward to seeing him all day. When I get to school to pick him up, as soon as he hears my voice or sees my big old smile, he claps his hands and drops whatever he is doing to run over to me for a big hug. (He's 16 months old) I will pay close attention to this from now on! I want him to say "ta-da!" and then watch me smile. I do try to make him really giggle at least once a day.<br /><br />Every time I call my dad, I always ask if he is busy and he always says "I'm never too busy to talk to you" and it gives me a nice feeling which I carry with me...Mindy Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01237144478337679738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-81598704610090909392012-11-28T11:49:53.497-05:002012-11-28T11:49:53.497-05:00You sound like the greatest mom. My mom does not h...You sound like the greatest mom. My mom does not have the same effect and I feel like maybe that has pushed a little on me, but luckily my bf is the same way. I used to want to hide smiling when I got home to see him, but I no longer feel that way. I will make it a point to be like that with my kids! I want them to feel relieved around me, not stressed!jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07385209009242567143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-35953480950294404112012-11-28T06:35:34.786-05:002012-11-28T06:35:34.786-05:00Joanna, what a great post! Congratulations on bein...Joanna, what a great post! Congratulations on being such a thoughtful parent, Toby is really lucky! Like you, I also believe its the little things we do that build special people. What you said about lighting up made me think of this one time I was home and my grandfather arrived for lunch. I smiled happy and stood up to greet him and he imediately told me how special he felt seeing that I was genuinely excited he was there. So I guess it works both ways! Im glad you made me think of this today, thank you!xox LaisLais Hauschild Cobrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07467873618382663392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-33761726309877389972012-11-27T23:32:19.757-05:002012-11-27T23:32:19.757-05:00Sadly, the question is necessary. Some women aren&...Sadly, the question is necessary. Some women aren't loving even though they are mothers. :(Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13938586138263801095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-30765495856699930842012-11-27T23:31:20.344-05:002012-11-27T23:31:20.344-05:00Sadly, the question is necessary. Some women aren&...Sadly, the question is necessary. Some women aren't loving even though they are mothers. :(Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13938586138263801095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-34873704471889994692012-11-27T23:02:24.295-05:002012-11-27T23:02:24.295-05:00Thank you for reminding me... I think my eyes ligh...Thank you for reminding me... I think my eyes light up when my boys enter the room, but lately I've been so overwhelmed that maybe they don't? Well. I'm certainly going to be more cognizant of it now! Lauren Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07358496490976869347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-49798279709900009362012-11-27T16:26:17.708-05:002012-11-27T16:26:17.708-05:00I love your anecdote about calling your mom. I kn...I love your anecdote about calling your mom. I know exactly what you mean. It made miss mine and wish I could still talk to her. Great post :)Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14651875256239125562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-91246308309030292092012-11-27T13:25:18.939-05:002012-11-27T13:25:18.939-05:00What a lovely post!
http://hotcinnamon.blogspot....What a lovely post! <br /><br />http://hotcinnamon.blogspot.com.es/Damahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00992384156949146040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-88395489766382132602012-11-27T12:47:34.021-05:002012-11-27T12:47:34.021-05:00I read this somewhere before, I'm not sure whe...I read this somewhere before, I'm not sure where. I've made it a point to always show him how happy I am the minute he walks into the room. And I see the same joy mirrored in his eyes, and it is AMAZING.<br /><br />That "ta-da!" bit is the sweetest thing. He's a lovely boy. :)thelisashow.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06094387050324793603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-30585017112036512292012-11-27T07:41:55.778-05:002012-11-27T07:41:55.778-05:00This line really stuck with me too when I saw her ...This line really stuck with me too when I saw her on Oprah, and I think I naturally do this with the ones I love. I too have tried to explain the concept to my boyfriend. He's Parisian, and they aren't the most effusive/smile-y people, and also aren't known for making eye contact (sorry to generalize). He has a close Brazilian friend, and I think one of the reasons she exudes warmth is the way she genuinely lights up when she sees you. Although he's drawn to that, he doesn't necessarily emulate it... I'm hoping this comes with time.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17506084811123828788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-18016737144102625142012-11-27T05:42:46.307-05:002012-11-27T05:42:46.307-05:00Love the 'ta da' thing, very, very sweet. ...Love the 'ta da' thing, very, very sweet. My two-year-old son would do something similar. He'd walk in to our bedroom in the morning (always in front of his older brother)throw his arms up in the air and shout "surprise!" He's three now and doesn't do it any more, and I miss it. The way I describe having children, is that it's like Christmas morning, every morning when I see them first thing. That's a very sentimental thing to say, but that's just the why it is for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-22078685378714067192012-11-27T02:17:58.999-05:002012-11-27T02:17:58.999-05:00I grew up with my grandparents constantly around. ...I grew up with my grandparents constantly around. Till this day my Opa's eyes light up whenever I'm around or whenever I face time with them. The same thing happens when he see's my son. No matter my mood, I always make sure to greet Charlie with bright eyes and a big smile (even if he's the one in the bad mood). I<br /><br />xo<br />RachelAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04703227190465345565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-28430684063414129172012-11-26T23:38:44.366-05:002012-11-26T23:38:44.366-05:00My eyes do light up whenever I see my daughter Zar...My eyes do light up whenever I see my daughter Zara. Whenever she wakes up in a good mood, I am always greeted by her smile and laughter. I always kiss her cheek or forehead before and after returning from being out running errands or such. It's an amazing feeling! I can't wait to watch her grow and be more expressive (hopefully good words). lol. :)Brenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06214513598985525907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-40941427187656531682012-11-26T23:28:06.810-05:002012-11-26T23:28:06.810-05:00Omg I just read your birth story! Made me tear up....Omg I just read your birth story! Made me tear up. My best friend gave birth during Hurricane Sandy, which I drove through in order to attend! Talk about intense. It is the most amazing, profound thing when the baby's head pops out. You can't NOT cry and laugh.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12862935403393181644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-67403217724008974512012-11-26T23:08:55.637-05:002012-11-26T23:08:55.637-05:00I LOVE that Toni Morrison quote and always remembe...I LOVE that Toni Morrison quote and always remembered it for any child I interact with but especially with my sweet boy who is 2 1/2. When I have been gone only briefly or he comes back from the playground with dad, he always yells, "Mama" or I yell his name, and we rush to hug. I always make sure to get down to eye level.<br />It is amazing to see how children react to you when you "light up" at their presence. One commenter wrote that it should happen with any person in your life. I agree. I think I need to be a little more enthusiastic when I say hello to my husband!Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15600071048317818303noreply@blogger.com