tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post5552474068451980665..comments2024-02-13T05:20:46.558-05:00Comments on A CUP OF JO: Motherhood Mondays: How long would it take for you to feel ready to travel without your baby?Joanna Goddardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18109285188206811042noreply@blogger.comBlogger209125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-65685313741955049982012-07-06T22:56:40.269-04:002012-07-06T22:56:40.269-04:00i just spent 3 days away from my baby. it was awes...i just spent 3 days away from <a href="http://ajalake.blogspot.com/search/label/ace" rel="nofollow">my baby</a>. it was awesome + scary, all at the same time!<br /><br />hope you're enjoying your long, holiday weekend! and, check out a cup of jo on <a href="http://ajalake.blogspot.com/2012/07/have-good-weekend.html" rel="nofollow">the gold hat.</a><br /><br />xx,<br />Aja Lake<br /><a href="http://ajalake.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">the gold hat.</a>Aja Lakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15387454394692628396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-81426044641589453222011-10-28T11:08:13.502-04:002011-10-28T11:08:13.502-04:00Wow the inn in Vancouver seems amazing! But if I&#...Wow the inn in Vancouver seems amazing! But if I'm more in a chill-out mode rather than an exploring mode, I think I'd go with Jamaica. I love the bridge and thatched roof!Emmahttp://forgettingdetails.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-35196820724510268532011-10-24T21:15:18.923-04:002011-10-24T21:15:18.923-04:00This post couldn't have been posted at a bette...This post couldn't have been posted at a better time! My husband and I just got back from a 2 WEEK cruise to Hawaii... which meant leaving our 1 year old at home.. did I mention it was for 2 WEEKS! Although we very much enjoyed our alone time (which was needed) we couldn't shake the feeling of Jude being so far away from us. My husband would reassure me that everything was ok, he is getting to know his grandparents, we need 'our' time together, Jude would still recognize us when we got home, all the things I knew in my head, but my heart hurt being away from him. I had to try to not think about it so much or the tears would start building up. 2 weeks was just too long for me. I think mini vacations are always good for the parents to have their time.. We go on over nighters often (working for Marriott does have its benefits!) but man, 2 weeks was much, much to long for me to spend away from my munchkin.the lye'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03527297819977701644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-58480605665260391212011-10-21T16:50:40.581-04:002011-10-21T16:50:40.581-04:00My parents never traveled on their own, but I thin...My parents never traveled on their own, but I think it would've been good for them. My sisters and I wouldn't have minded at all. One, because we'd get to stay up late. :) Two, because its important for all parties to take a break, parents included. Parents have a very different relationship with each other, and as kids, we forget that and just think of us as a family. But they were once young and madly in love...so its good for parents to nurture that.Karina Cifuenteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13378943041218148343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-2900649070494799392011-10-20T16:24:22.290-04:002011-10-20T16:24:22.290-04:00Uh...never? I have to confess I don't really u...Uh...never? I have to confess I don't really understand the leaving-the-small-child thing.<br /><br />I don't think it's worry. I think it just feels wrong to me, for us and for her, at four years old. Perhaps if it is a mom you're leaving the kid with it feels OK?<br /><br />This, to me, is an individual parenting thing like, oh, say, cribs - you feel your way to what works for your family. <br /><br />Our baby wouldn't take a bottle and didn't go to daycare, so I suspect we grew our parenting instincts around the fundamental fact that she always needed to nurse and one of us always needed to be 'on duty'. And now we've accepted that. We're sort of a sheepdog family, everyone present and accounted for at all times (we work at home so literally...everyone.)<br /><br />I think it would be tough to go away, really, because then you come back to life and it's a shock!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-19022733810436040022011-10-20T12:47:41.383-04:002011-10-20T12:47:41.383-04:00The first time we left our first girlie, it was fo...The first time we left our first girlie, it was for a weekend with some very good friends (we live far from relatives). She was 13 months old. We did one more weekend trip when she was about 15 months old, and then when she was 17 months old, we went to France for a week without her. !!! She stayed with my mom (we'd all gone and stayed for a week ahead of time, since we live on opposite coasts) and she had a good time, although we were both overjoyed to see one another when we got back! <br /><br />I'm glad we did it when we did. Working up to a longer trip was a good idea - and having someone you can leave the kiddos with that you love and trust is important.Jennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-1651321260099782772011-10-20T08:09:45.112-04:002011-10-20T08:09:45.112-04:00miami!! maybe jamaica. vancouver is nice but after...miami!! maybe jamaica. vancouver is nice but after spending 2 summers in alaska, seeing whales isnt as spiritual as you may think!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-5232207978208945432011-10-20T07:28:30.572-04:002011-10-20T07:28:30.572-04:00Thank you for this post! It has reassured me.
My m...Thank you for this post! It has reassured me.<br />My mother in law has generously shouted my husband and I tickets to New York (from Australia) to visit my sister for 2 weeks from boxing day. Its the trip of a lifetime but I'm soooooo nervous about leaving my baby who will be 10mths. I know the 4 year old will have a blast. Both sets of Grandparents will be looking after them so I know they will be spoilt rotten but its SO FAR AWAY!Nick & Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01121593665641197683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-86071047806010501612011-10-20T05:12:27.175-04:002011-10-20T05:12:27.175-04:00Hello Johanna,
Always read your articles with a lo...Hello Johanna,<br />Always read your articles with a lot of interest! Few weeks ago, when you published your post about travelling with your baby, I was the one who talk to you about the matter of travelling without baby.<br />My name is Jenny, French and mother of a little beauty named Louisia, 14 months old.<br />And my partner and I decided to travel for a week in Sicily without Louisia. It was very very hard days before leaving but as soon as we arrived there it get easier (even if we called my parents everyday to have news!) I am sure you will handle it and there will be holidays for little Toby too ;-)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13945212215889914305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-11655204341255356372011-10-19T23:10:14.716-04:002011-10-19T23:10:14.716-04:00I have a 6 yr old and a 3 yr old and have never sp...I have a 6 yr old and a 3 yr old and have never spent a night away from both of them. I've been away from my 6 yr old for 5 nights total in his life (4 different 1-2 night sleepovers in 4 yrs). And I've never spent a night away from my 3 yr old. Honestly, I have no desire to do so. A date night would be plenty for me. But, now that both kids are weaned (I nursed each of them until just before they turned 3 yrs), both sleep in their own beds (we coslept for a long time), and both are old enough to understand when we explain things, I would consider a weekend away. But, I still can't see doing a whole week away. I'd rather travel with them.Sarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-74209614087413465242011-10-19T17:40:43.811-04:002011-10-19T17:40:43.811-04:00Ooo...that place in Jamaica for sure! That restau...Ooo...that place in Jamaica for sure! That restaurant looks amazing and I want to sit on that bridge, looking at that beautiful water!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972061296399330832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-9379114956751396712011-10-19T16:07:03.000-04:002011-10-19T16:07:03.000-04:00I just left my one year old last week for 5 days!!...I just left my one year old last week for 5 days!!! every year my sisters and my mom do a girls trip-no kids allowed! so my husband had him in the evenings and my best friend who my son thinks is his grandma had him during the day. everything went PERFECT! the only bump in the road was he grew a new tooth while I was gone so my poor husband was up with a teething baby all night. it was hard to be gone and when i came back i felt like a stranger, like i was an observer of my child. once i put him down for bed and woke up with him bright and early the next morning-i was back to being mommy! being gone made me realize how important it is for couples to get away for some alone time. Good Luck!Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01154453957157407822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-67433371211554606462011-10-19T15:07:00.303-04:002011-10-19T15:07:00.303-04:00While eating diner with my hubby, we were talking ...While eating diner with my hubby, we were talking about it . Mathis is one year old and Philippe asked me where would you like to go to vacations . I started to tell him: Greece , Croatia ... And he said to me but Mathis is not going to like it and I answered back but vacation with Mathis is not really vacations so We are thinking about going alone but I don' know if I would be abble to do it . I'm waiting to read about your week end , may be it will help meMélanie A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00461777271465249074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-35993089479138883732011-10-19T14:31:30.654-04:002011-10-19T14:31:30.654-04:00my husband and I were planning a long weekend away...my husband and I were planning a long weekend away, but he just started working again, which is good, but darn it...we were finally ready to leave our 2 year old with my parents for a long weekend! My little guy has only recently spent the night at my parents' on his own. Even though my mom was totally up for it ages ago, I just felt guilty leaving him I guess. I don't know... I def should have done it sooner though because it's been a great success so we've been doing that more often which gives us a little break here and there. Have a great weekend away - it will be wonderful! -lbsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-19241813225689241352011-10-19T12:50:48.421-04:002011-10-19T12:50:48.421-04:00Wow, Joanna, this post could not have come at a mo...Wow, Joanna, this post could not have come at a more perfect time for me, as it's something I've been thinking a lot about the past few weeks. Our daughter is 10 months old and we have not spent any nights away from her. I'm at the point where I'd love a weekend away with my husband, but I'm still nursing and she won't take a bottle. I figure by the time she's weaned (hopefully by 12-15 months??) we can plan for something beyond the date nights we currently do, but it's hard. <br /><br />Also, my parents are not really in a position to come stay with her, and my husband's family lives out of state, so getting help in place is a challenge. <br /><br />But your post--and all the comments--is inspiring and will give me something to look forward to! In the meantime, have a wonderful weekend with Alex and enjoy every minute!Leslienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-29292039044039867382011-10-19T11:02:08.889-04:002011-10-19T11:02:08.889-04:00i love these awesome comments about the rockhouse,...i love these awesome comments about the rockhouse, it sounds like a dream! and i love all your insights/thoughts on traveling without babies. so fascianting. we're all the same! :)Joanna Goddardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18109285188206811042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-45501840411417188972011-10-19T09:45:26.818-04:002011-10-19T09:45:26.818-04:00I left my first two boys both at 4 months old for ...I left my first two boys both at 4 months old for the hubby and I to go to Las Vegas both times. It was hard for sure, but since it was Vegas and you should only stay there 2 nights or you get into adult trouble;-), it was the perfect amount of time away to ease us into the uncharted territory of being child-less. Now that we have 3, we've only been able to get away once just bc none of the g-parents can handle all 3- shoot, we can hardly handle all 3 sometimes and we're only in our 30's! But do it, just pull the trigger and get away- even one night is enough to jump start your mommy and wife battery! Have so much fun whatever you choose!!Jennifer of JennySue Makeuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07479015467524348055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-61619370212855376812011-10-19T04:42:57.203-04:002011-10-19T04:42:57.203-04:00i just travelled solo to the US (from Australia) f...i just travelled solo to the US (from Australia) for 10 nights without my two boys (3yrs and 10 months). i had insane fears of something happening to me while away but once i got on the plane, i thoroughly enjoyed myself. Starting missing them about 1/2 way through but didn't overshadow the good times. i appreciate their company more than ever now that i'm back!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-83328373504412424552011-10-19T02:19:36.439-04:002011-10-19T02:19:36.439-04:00No travel for my parents in my childhood, because ...No travel for my parents in my childhood, because we were living at or below the poverty line until I was seven and my mother went back to work (I have a sibling with a developmental disorder and my mother waited until we were old enough to be alone in the afternoon to go back to work). So, weekend drives up to Portland once or twice a year - and then when we were better off and my brother and I were preteens, we began taking annual trips to Ashland to see Shakespeare. =) I was 28 before I first crossed an ocean, though when I was eight we did drive up to Vancouver, B.C. for a four-day stay - with a stop in Seattle to see the touring museum collection "Moscow: Treasures and Traditions," just released for the first time to western countries by Mikhael Gorbachev. My parents were pretty amazingly selfless - what little travel we were able to do, mostly in state, always contributed to our general education and cultural refinement, even from a very young age! (I loved that show; I still remember the glittering orthodox monstrances, Peter the Great's sled, and Katherine the Great's dresses.)fleur_delicioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01500249000124155885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-48937031757178278862011-10-18T23:41:43.746-04:002011-10-18T23:41:43.746-04:00We don't have kids (yet) but Derek and I alway...We don't have kids (yet) but Derek and I always wish we could afford to travel more while we still have the flexibility! We make do with staycations and nearby travel! <br /><br />All three of these destinations sound like a dream! Though I just got lost looking at that blue, blue water on RockHouse's site.<br /><br />Enjoy your weekend getaway! And happy birthday to Alex!Taylor Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04999450812257403839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-57978397193291826232011-10-18T23:18:23.557-04:002011-10-18T23:18:23.557-04:00hey joanna! check out a cup of jo on the gold hat....hey joanna! check out a cup of jo on the gold hat. xoAja Lake [the gold hat.]http://ajalake.blogspot.com/2011/10/travelogue-cedar-key-florida.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-10058869443307741282011-10-18T22:45:03.681-04:002011-10-18T22:45:03.681-04:00We left Lucia for the first time when she was abou...We left Lucia for the first time when she was about 11 months. It was brutal at first for all the obvious reasons. My parents sent me a photo about 30 minutes after we dropped her off and she looked SO happy and like she was having so much fun that I felt ridiculous for being so worried. Obviously we missed her (obviously) but it was so important. It's great for them to have time with other people and let's face it, it's great and extremely important for us as parents and for our relationship outside of being mama and daddy. Two days was perfect for the first time. Then in September we went away for five days. We had an amazing time but by the 4th day I was ready to see our girl - we both were. Still, it was so nice to be away...read a magazine, sleep until 9, stay out until when ever, etc.<br />Anyway, that first weekend away helped us to relax about leaving her. And last weekend we had a little staycation for my husband's 40th. Now we're planning another trip for my birthday in February...just a few days. And she'll have the best time ever with my parents. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619953390847121652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-29973209446427090322011-10-18T22:44:34.689-04:002011-10-18T22:44:34.689-04:00Wow, what a hot topic - so many comments! My oldes...Wow, what a hot topic - so many comments! My oldest child is almost 6 and my youngest is 2.75. We haven't taken any trips without them, but are planning to do so at the end of the year. I think they will both do great!BDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07020346241531204502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-73932474370332326432011-10-18T20:56:24.375-04:002011-10-18T20:56:24.375-04:00We took a mini weekend getaway when Levi was six m...We took a mini weekend getaway when Levi was six months old. We were only about 40 minutes away and had a great time! And is the Jamaica spot the Rockhouse?! Been dying to get there...<br /><br />P.S. We went to Vancouver Island and did some whale watching on our babymoon. :)Jamie @ charmingly ordinaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18367319345245200616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-41769377388153745122011-10-18T19:47:27.184-04:002011-10-18T19:47:27.184-04:00I am really hoping for a husband & me (or just...I am really hoping for a husband & me (or just me, I'll take that too) trip before Christmas. We'll see. Europe, ideally.<br /><br />We've done a few no-baby nights. Twice for just one night when he was one/one and a half, and 5 nights last fall when he was almost two (NYC). We slept in foreva and it was luxurious. But better than sleeping in was shopping and eating at restaurants without a kid. Amazing!adriannehttp://www.bennettwilliams.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com