tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post5457936832660843195..comments2024-02-13T05:20:46.558-05:00Comments on A CUP OF JO: Motherhood Mondays: How to talk to little girlsJoanna Goddardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18109285188206811042noreply@blogger.comBlogger455125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-82947795024329687712015-03-24T12:37:43.671-04:002015-03-24T12:37:43.671-04:00why is this so hard?
i already messed up 3xs today...why is this so hard?<br />i already messed up 3xs today and its only 12pm.....<br /><br />challenge accepted.<br />thank you for helping change the conversation, JoSASSNEWYORKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13675887680366853686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-79706456432346061242014-07-05T06:21:35.563-04:002014-07-05T06:21:35.563-04:00Are you a Pregnant Mom? you want to sleep well at ...Are you a Pregnant Mom? you want to sleep well at night? Get <a href="http://www.thepregnancypillows.com" rel="nofollow">Best Pregnancy Pillows</a>How to Check JAMB Resulthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05009603961588104952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-464942753988241272014-03-12T05:54:05.407-04:002014-03-12T05:54:05.407-04:00I must have been an ugly kid, because everyone wou...I must have been an ugly kid, because everyone would compliment me on my math skills, and i agree! We should encourage little girls to be smart, to become leaders, to do something great with their lives. it has been bothering me great coming back to Cyprus, and realizing that women here think they were only meant for the house, that they can't do anything with their lives. And these women raise their girls the same way. It bothers me so much i want to scream! But me personally, everyone talked to me as if i was a genius, but i always felt insecure about the way i looked. It is very important to let girls know they are Beautiful! If a person thinks they lack in looks or brain it's as damaging.The Ampelophilosofer!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04818967771426246629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-90717679113911296052014-03-11T10:40:52.489-04:002014-03-11T10:40:52.489-04:00It is fabulous that a post like this continues to ...It is fabulous that a post like this continues to resonate three years later. Think of all the little girls that have been and will continue to be influenced by these real conversations. Thank you for this post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01909460117841153285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-3163145630652287072014-01-30T07:00:36.724-05:002014-01-30T07:00:36.724-05:00Very nice articles and very wonderful
Dress up ga...Very nice articles and very wonderful <a href="http://www.dressupgames.pk/" rel="nofollow"><br />Dress up games for girls</a> and I love it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04400369629140054526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-49457462704514542212013-12-04T13:09:26.962-05:002013-12-04T13:09:26.962-05:00It seems to me that you have written from your pra...It seems to me that you have written from your practical experience. I like it. You have write what I do generally. I regularly visit <a href="http://www.attractthemnow.org" rel="nofollow">Attractthemnow</a> and learn this kind of attitude.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03354104291264001155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-49404862804108589502013-10-25T07:32:00.908-04:002013-10-25T07:32:00.908-04:00I find this helpful. I struggle to talk to most ch...I find this helpful. I struggle to talk to most children -- they don't seem to respond much. It's easy to take this personally and assume I don't come across as interesting or trustworthy or something. So with girls I do fall back on clothes, etc., but this has reinforced my resolve to stick to more interesting topics. It's so important!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-72393500343718415902013-09-25T19:32:11.285-04:002013-09-25T19:32:11.285-04:00This is one of those topics that I can see both si...This is one of those topics that I can see both sides of. I LOVE hair and clothes, etc. so my first instinct is to complement. On the other hand, it really does reinforce the idea that image is the most important thing for girls to worry about. Similarly, my niece LOVES hair, make-up, and clothes as much as I do. However, she's 3 and shouldn't really be worrying about these things yet, but is it simply because she loves them the way I did when I was her age? I loved make-up because my mom wore it and clothes because they were both an outlet for creativity and a way be whoever I wanted to be (still the same today). When I let her try on my make-up I want it to be because she loves the process or the colors, not because she thinks it makes her more worthwhile as a person.<br /><br />I bet that little girl loved her shoes and sometimes it's just fun to share in the joy of sparkly red flats. Maybe phrasing it differently or saying something like "Those remind me of my favorite shoes growing up..." would help change the focus.CatieBeattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17571587640019446735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-84465914563603202272013-09-23T23:43:34.123-04:002013-09-23T23:43:34.123-04:00This reminds of The Little Prince ... and btw we ...This reminds of The Little Prince ... and btw we do this to boys too in a different way .. I find myself complimenting their superhero shirt and asking what sports they like ... lol <br /><br />“Grown-ups love figures... When you tell them you've made a new friend they never ask you any questions about essential matters. They never say to you "What does his voice sound like? What games does he love best? Does he collect butterflies? <br /><br />... instead they comment and ask questions about appearances ... (among other) <br /><br />" Instead they demand "How old is he? How much does he weigh? How much money does his father make? " Only from these figures do they think they have learned anything about him.” <br />― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little PrinceElvihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06883628062420689675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-63778641620507608832013-09-23T14:58:24.589-04:002013-09-23T14:58:24.589-04:00I love this topic because I try very hard not to b...I love this topic because I try very hard not to buy anything for my two year old niece that would impose gender. I refuse to buy any easy bake ovens, Disney princess kitchen sets and vacuum cleaners. Instead, I purchase puzzles, coloring books and reading books and she loves them all! But of course, she loves the tupperware in the kitchen above all else, stacking and unstacking! For those interested in the topic, look up Cinderella Ate My Daughter by Peggy Orenstein.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-33589412892378913162013-09-19T23:50:05.376-04:002013-09-19T23:50:05.376-04:00What a great idea!
I am a Retired Substitute Teach...What a great idea!<br />I am a Retired Substitute Teacher and I miss the active-interaction I had with all (my) students.<br />This post makes me ask how can I get back in contact with the kiddos when they all are rushed from place to place and not given the time to "enjoy" by reading?Charles van Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05666422612413699904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-62741383735113031502013-05-15T20:47:20.553-04:002013-05-15T20:47:20.553-04:00Thank you so much, I missed this article but what ...Thank you so much, I missed this article but what you said is going to stay with me and hopefully help our family.Bec Clarkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963474290449370294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-57204681844029414752013-05-11T10:47:27.970-04:002013-05-11T10:47:27.970-04:00Absolutely LOVE this idea. After just reading the ...Absolutely LOVE this idea. After just reading the beautiful co-sleeping post and now discovering this gem you are officially my new favourite blog. Brava!bajantomorrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03198064859856775446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-87342174228008591752013-02-06T15:15:17.425-05:002013-02-06T15:15:17.425-05:00Thank you for this. I have always had trouble tal...Thank you for this. I have always had trouble talking to youngsters. Always asking, how's school? What subject do you like best? I even do this with my 8-10 year old granddaughters. Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996561799251870236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-30961583125201033642012-11-05T18:41:17.498-05:002012-11-05T18:41:17.498-05:00I love this concept, but I definitely think a girl...I love this concept, but I definitely think a girl is born with a certain desire to be beautiful... Obviously society has warped that idea to an unhealthy extreme... But I don't think there's anything wrong with telling a little girl she looks pretty. Just not ALL the time. There definitely needs to be a balance of talking about girly things, and talking about adventures and books, and telling a girl she's smart and creative, not just pretty... <br />As far as telling a girl she's beautiful leading to things like plastic surgery... I for one, never decide I want to get a boob job or botox because someone compliments me on my looks... It usually gives me a boost of confidence and helps me to stray from that sort of thought. <br /><br />These are obviously just my opinions, and you are definitely right about people doing it too often. But in moderation, and when it's a genuine compliment, I think it's perfectly fine.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10361619591553441703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-82450161374678964202012-10-04T01:18:01.690-04:002012-10-04T01:18:01.690-04:00I really like this idea. For some reason it has ne...I really like this idea. For some reason it has never popped into my mind. It's too easy to talk about how pretty a little girl is. But actually, I'll admit that i do not really know how to talk to little children boy or girl, so it's probably easier to defer to topics I'm used to. I will definitely try this.Yanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10150077868441418703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-37775667909807553842012-08-07T21:38:36.852-04:002012-08-07T21:38:36.852-04:00I love this! I worked with children at camp this ...I love this! I worked with children at camp this summer, and if I wasn't sure what to say to them, I always asked them what they were reading.Elizabeth Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15280081585818518671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-27828398936934434512012-07-18T00:46:10.936-04:002012-07-18T00:46:10.936-04:00I really love this - thanks for posting. Had to j...I really love this - thanks for posting. Had to jump over and read the Lisa Bloom article, too. I don't know that I can add anything new or different than has already been posted here, but let me be one more vote for YES! With our daughter, Husband and I hope to show her that all parts of a person are valuable, that it's the whole person. Do we tell her she's beautiful as well as engaging her in conversation about her interests? Absolutely - because that's important, too. She loves clothes and shoes and takes pleasure in creating her own outfits. So complimenting the look she creates is complimenting her creativity in that area. It's really about finding the right balance, understanding the person in question, and helping her learn that no one part of a person is the only part. We want her to know that being healthy, strong, and kind matters. Will any of us know these things about the next stranger we meet? Probably not. But just keeping the idea in the back of our minds that there are many options to open conversation other than simply the standard "nice dress" or whatever, gives us lots of opportunity.<br /><br />Again, thanks for the post. Loved it, loved the conversation in the posts. I enjoy your site! :)The Meaning of Mehttp://www.themeaningofme.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-34210585928079885702012-07-17T10:23:41.564-04:002012-07-17T10:23:41.564-04:00I love this article and a great idea.Unfortunately...I love this article and a great idea.Unfortunately, we grow to think it is quite natural to compliment a child's looks, not getting to emphacize who they really are..Thank you. I will remember this. Never too old to change how we see things.Kathynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-73988550300928798352012-06-05T12:58:46.419-04:002012-06-05T12:58:46.419-04:00I love this idea. My brother and his wife recently...I love this idea. My brother and his wife recently adopted a little girl and it has been very insightful and I refer back to it when I have conversations with her. She is so funny and engaging when you allow her to be. Today I found this article http://thinkprogress.org/alyssa/2012/06/04/494018/study-tv-hurts-the-self-esteem-of-girls-and-children-of-color-but-bolsters-boys/ <br />and thought it was interesting in relation to how to talk to girls- and how cultural norms are projected through different media formats. Although we think we have achieved equality in many ways in the United States today- when we look back at how children are subconciously socialized we see that there are still many more steps to go.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06769173798249352428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-87868664257393054522012-04-28T18:26:48.194-04:002012-04-28T18:26:48.194-04:00the conversation souns really interesting, thanks ...the conversation souns really interesting, thanks for this postscotthttp://howtoimpressgirls.org/1/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-28855248311981049822012-04-24T14:57:30.630-04:002012-04-24T14:57:30.630-04:00This is awesome. Beyond awesome. I'm in a teac...This is awesome. Beyond awesome. I'm in a teacher prep program, and often fall into the "complement" trap. This leads to such better conversation- and sends a message. Love it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-60156206194943974162012-04-05T15:02:44.131-04:002012-04-05T15:02:44.131-04:00I love this idea! But i also think in some cases a...I love this idea! But i also think in some cases a compliment can be a good thing. there are some girls that you can just tell they don't get praised a lot, and hearing a compliment from a stranger can mean A LOT. :]Ellienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-60868222823767366012012-03-21T13:55:30.835-04:002012-03-21T13:55:30.835-04:00I love this and really really try to do this often...I love this and really really try to do this often (I have two little girls of my own). I find it hard though because looks are so "external", so it is easier to say to ANYONE that you are just meeting "I like your earrings" or "Great shoes!" rather than "Hi! What do you like to read?" I guess I need better true ice breakers to start up conversations with kids - once we know each other I tend to ask the deeper stuff, but I do find myself often reaching out to boys and girls alike by complimenting their lunch boxes or their quirky ensembles or things like that. Advice welcome :)Grayson Dempseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17750320291890763514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-8206147079217702722012-02-23T16:39:02.482-05:002012-02-23T16:39:02.482-05:00I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter, and she is so be...I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter, and she is so beautiful, but I have to remind myself that her outer beauty is not why I love her. She is clever and ridiculously funny, and she takes such risks that I never did or would. I am in awe of her, and so I try so so so hard to tell her that she is smart, kind and important (if you've read "The Help" this will resonate). Every child, girl or boy, should hear these things every day.LBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02020007972340500112noreply@blogger.com