tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post5201054245590133550..comments2024-02-13T05:20:46.558-05:00Comments on A CUP OF JO: Do or Don't: Kids sharing a bedroomJoanna Goddardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18109285188206811042noreply@blogger.comBlogger306125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-48487000526814874292015-02-10T10:47:53.145-05:002015-02-10T10:47:53.145-05:00Do not make the two kids share a room because it w...Do not make the two kids share a room because it will be a disaster. I had to share a room with my older sister since I was born and we always got into fights. Once the kids get older they both will want their own spaces. For now they can share abedroom buy one they hit age 6 and 7 they should have their own spaces.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14323534240635148182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-3482084499127431182014-04-15T12:37:56.344-04:002014-04-15T12:37:56.344-04:00Hi there. I really appreciate the points you made....Hi there. I really appreciate the points you made. I don't think I've actually thought about it in that way. I can really appreciate how you approached the subject matter and what you said really gave me a new perspective. Thanks for taking the time to write this all out.<br /><a href="http://perawatanternakbudidaya.blogspot.com/2014/04/cara-budidaya-kroto-atau-ternak-semut-rangrang.html" rel="nofollow">Budidaya kroto</a><br /><a href="http://bestbudidayatanaman.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Bisnis Budidaya</a><br /><a href="http://bestbudidayatanaman.blogspot.com/2013/01/Panduan-Budidaya-Jamur-Tiram-dan-Penjelasan-Tata-caranya.html" rel="nofollow">Budidaya Jamur tiram</a><br /><a href="http://bestbudidayatanaman.blogspot.com/2013/01/budidaya-melon-dan-cara-menanam-melon.html" rel="nofollow">Budidaya melon</a><br /><a href="http://bestbudidayatanaman.blogspot.com/2013/08/Budidaya-Jambu-Biji-dan-Cara-Menanam-Jambu-Biji.html" rel="nofollow">Jambu</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03575096662387765218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-10137334136429342612014-01-20T16:43:04.626-05:002014-01-20T16:43:04.626-05:00I shared a room with my younger sister (2.5 years ...I shared a room with my younger sister (2.5 years difference) from when she was born until I was about 7 - we bickered constantly, woke each other up, etc. I ended up sleeping in the study instead, which eventually became my bedroom.<br /><br />Now, I'm 15 and she's 12 and we share a room again - and get on great! We love chatting, sharing each others hair stuff, etc. - the only annoying thing is when one of us wants a friend round for a sleepover then there's a bit of negotiation (and generally someone sleeping in the living room)Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11232320210991486742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-6429459341349955322013-06-20T10:04:20.093-04:002013-06-20T10:04:20.093-04:00I have twins and we just bought a new house so the...I have twins and we just bought a new house so they can have a room each. I think its important for kids to have their own private space and individuality (and thats coming from someone who has co slept for 29 months). If they choose to share later on I wont have a problem with it, nor if they continue to want to cosleep, but it will be their choice. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07874044544610647619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-25036596462920107202013-03-12T17:03:41.092-04:002013-03-12T17:03:41.092-04:00Shared a room 4 my whole life- hated it, was an an...Shared a room 4 my whole life- hated it, was an annoying lack of spaceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-53903299479713171922012-12-17T16:36:12.787-05:002012-12-17T16:36:12.787-05:00I remember the first moment I realized I had never...I remember the first moment I realized I had never shared a room with anyone -- I was a grown woman, newly married and annoyed that there were another persons shoes in "my" bedroom.<br /><br />I somehow managed to make it my entire life (childhood, college -- went to a school with the fancy new individual dorms, young adulthood -- lived by myself). It was quite the shock to realize I'd now have to share a bedroom for the rest of my life.<br /><br />I think it's great for siblings to share bedrooms. That being said, that does become problematic after a certain age with the boy/girl privacy thing.<br /><br />Just something to consider -- raising children is not only about giving them a comfortable first 18 years. It's also about raising a productive adult. Every child needs private space, but you may do your child an adult favor by making them learn early that there are others in the world.GingerLandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01429166306512785212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-26634858041823681142012-12-04T16:38:11.828-05:002012-12-04T16:38:11.828-05:00I agree with plch. A room of your own was a luxury...I agree with plch. A room of your own was a luxury when I was a kid in the 70s and 80s. I shared a room with my younger brother for 5 or 6 years. No negative effects. We were lucky to get our own rooms later on. But almost everyone I knew shared a room with somebody unless he/she was an only child or had a much much older sibling (8-10 years difference.)Christihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14685803820759245439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-32746009583325327042012-12-04T16:35:14.204-05:002012-12-04T16:35:14.204-05:00I shared a room with my brother for 5 or 6 years. ...I shared a room with my brother for 5 or 6 years. I have fond memories and I like the poster above who said that it helps kids learn to sort out differences themselves. Lots of kids don't know how to share a room when they go to college now! I don't think there is a problem having a boy and a girl share a room until puberty hits and they will want some privacy.Christihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14685803820759245439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-71388560912861175752012-12-04T10:35:38.914-05:002012-12-04T10:35:38.914-05:00As a little kid, I loved sharing a room with my si...As a little kid, I loved sharing a room with my sister. Um, duh, BUNK BEDS! It was comforting having her there, and having someone to talk to when you trail off to sleep. Once we got in high school, we were a little more interested in our own rooms, but I think it's totally awesome to share a room, maybe even crucial, for younger kids. <br /><br />I am one of five children, and growing up, the girls had a room and the boys had a room. There was also a spare bedroom downstairs with a king sized bed. When we were young (ages 3-9), we'd all eventually migrate to the big bed downstairs! It was fun to all be together, like a sleepover. At first it was just a fun thing to do while watching movies, but soon we started to prefer it, and no one slept in their bedrooms. My Mom didn't want us all sleeping in a pile like puppies, so she eventually moved down one of the bunk beds. She just went with it. It was a phase that lasted about a year... Looking back, it seems a little weird, but I love those memories. Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374061632056967446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-78949828893522927292012-12-03T18:10:47.832-05:002012-12-03T18:10:47.832-05:00I had my own room until my sister Grace was born w...I had my own room until my sister Grace was born when I was four. I remember my first room, when my sister was old enough to sleep in a cot, our parents moved us into the BIG room at the front of the house. It was a three bedroom house that my mum had grown up in, my parents bought it off my grandparents when they married. My first room, which then became my parents room was the middle size wise (small room was my uncles, who didn't need his own room but it was always kept as Michaels room and had his stuff in it from when he left for the RAF). I loved my first room but I loved sharing more, many a night when Grace was a toddler we escaped, me pushing my little red chair up to the baby gate climbing over and lifting it for her to crawl under. We used to sit at the top of the stairs giggling until are parents moved us back. They then adapted the gate and escaping wasn't as fun without my little sister. When we moved on Grace's 8th birthday we were excited at the thought of having our own room but in reality it was a hard transition and for weeks we'd sleep in each others rooms and months still talking through the wall. By the time privacy was preferred we had our own space. :)<br /><br />Sorry for ramble, was nice to think of it again!rebekah tatlow photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12247286668444542055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-70969758114733886672012-12-02T18:17:00.816-05:002012-12-02T18:17:00.816-05:00My sister and I shared a room from when I was 7, s...My sister and I shared a room from when I was 7, she was 9 for about 5 years. I have fond memories of when we first shared a room- decorating our walls for every season/holiday, doing crafts together, reading together...<br /><br />But then as we got a bit older- I would say when I was 10, she 12, it became very difficult because we had such different personalities...she wouldn't want any of my friends to go in "her" room, if we got in an argument she would take it out on my things.<br /><br />I remember feeling so relieved when my mom decided to split our finished basement into two rooms- one for each of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-1580638315827398932012-12-02T12:35:49.731-05:002012-12-02T12:35:49.731-05:00I haven't read all of the comments, but for me...I haven't read all of the comments, but for me it depends on the kids, and also the age difference. My boys are two years apart, so they were able to start sharing a room at 3 and 5 yrs old. I think they are definitely closer because of it. But our friends have an 8 yr old, and a 3 yr old, and at this point the 8 yr old isn't interested in sharing a room with his little brother because the age difference makes it hard for them to really talk at this point. So it just depends on the situation, and the personality of the kids!Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04345132402257630297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-57562742612401634562012-12-01T16:01:34.624-05:002012-12-01T16:01:34.624-05:00So refreshing to see this response. I always share...So refreshing to see this response. I always shared a room with my sister and while there were plenty of times I wanted my own room, it taught me so much about getting along with other people. Life isn't all about getting what we want and having our "own space". Even as an introvert I can appreciate that not being able to retreat into my own world was very formative to the person I am today. It drives me crazy when people move out of houses that are perfectly adequate because they think their children are all entitled to their own rooms...this mentality wastes so many resources. Plus, I feel like I was a lot more prepared for having college roommates and marriage than my classmates and friends who had always had their own rooms. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-30372903923925694112012-11-30T13:45:27.019-05:002012-11-30T13:45:27.019-05:00I shared with one of my sisters and I must admit i...I shared with one of my sisters and I must admit it was hard in our teens but we are so so close, the absolute best of friends and I definitely attribute that to our time in that room! Fights and all! Graciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268272882998196550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-51334539470858205542012-11-28T19:07:05.381-05:002012-11-28T19:07:05.381-05:00Oh, man. For the parents, I think it's easier...Oh, man. For the parents, I think it's easier to have separate bedrooms when they are young. I've woken to a serious 5am "Wild Rumpus" one too many times. That having been said, my boys adore sharing a room. They proudly show off their space to anyone who walks through our door. The one thing we made sure to do was give them their own private area within the room. For example, the closet is divided in two. They each have their own things on their own side. They each have a basket. They each have a shelf. I find that to be super important.<br /><br />At the end of the day, they are building a bond that is already apparent. Go for it! Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13773502326608122264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-34207556739357222872012-11-28T17:41:30.485-05:002012-11-28T17:41:30.485-05:00I vote seperate rooms but that's only because ...I vote seperate rooms but that's only because I had my own room (even though it was the tiny 3rd bedroom!) <br /><br />It's nice to have your own space, but then sometimes I would sleep on a spare bed in my Sister's room to stay up late chatting which was nice. Not sure I'd have liked it all the time though!Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648895688162284839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-86606791044712443632012-11-28T15:43:25.983-05:002012-11-28T15:43:25.983-05:00Share! I have the best memories of late nights ga...Share! I have the best memories of late nights gabbing with my two sisters and pouncing on them to wake them up first thing in the morning. We would stay up and watch the lightning in the summers and peek out and see the fresh snow on an early winter morning. Even later when we had our own rooms I would always try to sleep in their room on the trundle bed. We are still very close and I think sharing a room really initiated that bond.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04626988374434034291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-10576516670076108842012-11-28T15:23:48.367-05:002012-11-28T15:23:48.367-05:00I always had my own room (probably because I'm...I always had my own room (probably because I'm the only girl in a family of 4 kids). I think sharing is okay if the kids are the same sex. It's okay for opposite sex siblings to share when they are really young, but at a certain age, I think they should have their own rooms. But if its two boys or two girls -- totally fine in my opinion. It will make them closer! Good luck!Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13565686419303292787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-70795850316095771302012-11-28T14:25:09.127-05:002012-11-28T14:25:09.127-05:00I shared a room with my older sister when I was yo...I shared a room with my older sister when I was younger. We loved it and even though our parents said we could have our own rooms we didn't want them. <br />At some point though (I'd say it was when I got into first grade) we got our own rooms. I believe it's ok while kids are still young but at some point it gets unavoidable to have separate rooms. Especially a girl-boy combination probably won't work out forever. <br />So I'd say it depends a great deal on the length of time you are planning on having your new home. I'd guess you are going for living in your new home for a longer period of time, since once you have a beautiful home in the city where you want to spend the rest of your life, you probably won't want to move out that fast. Plus, moving can be a pain.. not to mention that you'd have to move with two little kids. <br />I hope I was helpful. Have a beautiful day and don't worry too much.. it will all fall together just fine. I wish you the best of luck so you find the perfect (&affordable!) place for your family :)Carolin H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15745200140809495509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-7759037533645408582012-11-28T13:53:56.005-05:002012-11-28T13:53:56.005-05:00My sister and I shared a room for a bit - then we ...My sister and I shared a room for a bit - then we each got our own room. At one point, we actually moved our furniture around so we had a "sleeping room" and a "changing room" because we liked sleeping in the same room! <br /><br />I think the issue becomes, what if your next child is a girl? A boy and girl sharing a room is probably less desirable that sisters or brothers. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05104547542589322851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-64759015229327382822012-11-28T11:25:05.957-05:002012-11-28T11:25:05.957-05:00My sister and I both had our own rooms but I felt ...My sister and I both had our own rooms but I felt lonely in my room and wanted to be with her so we could talk and be together (I'm 5 yrs older!) so growing up, I slept in her trundle bed until I left for college. Only then, when I came home during breaks, did I sleep in my own room. :)nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07678267212991436580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-44439340064555862282012-11-28T09:22:25.492-05:002012-11-28T09:22:25.492-05:00Wow, I am really surprised at how many people are ...Wow, I am really surprised at how many people are pro-sharing! I'm an only child and as a result have always wanted/appreciated my own space, even if tiny, that can be just mine.Lesterheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14765275228101232670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-64487830253385377842012-11-28T08:42:06.976-05:002012-11-28T08:42:06.976-05:00I shared a room with my sister, she is 3 years old...I shared a room with my sister, she is 3 years older than me, for almost 20 years!!! I loved it when we were younger, but when both of us grew up, we needed our own room, because when I wanted to study she wanted to sleep, or when I wanted to sleep she wanted to watch TV. It's really difficult when you are older than when you are a kid. :)Mafer Vargashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06292640869489758259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-40170773221276583532012-11-28T03:53:51.705-05:002012-11-28T03:53:51.705-05:00Without getting into the question of whether or no...Without getting into the question of whether or not have your kids share a room, I would consider this: you're going to buy a new house, that's a huge step. I'd want to have that extra room. Sharing a room will be a matter of choice then, which is so much nicer. So if you're able to afford that third bedroom, go for it! Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06074337343432800815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28060897.post-38104760096229586352012-11-28T00:06:10.546-05:002012-11-28T00:06:10.546-05:00I shared a room with my older sister up until she ...I shared a room with my older sister up until she left for a uni further away when I was around 18, and it was just fine! Sure it was annoying at times but when my family bought a new home when I was around 14, we had the choice of each having a room or sharing a room and having an office room/reading room and we decided to share. It even surprised my parents because ever since I was a baby I've always been a rather private person, a prude, etc. but my sister was just an extension of myself (but a healthy version of that, when she left I did not start miserably failing at life, thank goodness). Of course we had fights, etc. but I think that sharing a space created bonds we wouldn't have otherwise. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com