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Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Goodbye vs. Ghost

When you go to a big party, do you say goodbye to everyone or quietly slip out and thank the host later? (I'm a fan of the latter.) If you're not sure what to do, Wendy McNaughton and Caroline Paul put together this hilarious flowchart about how to get on out of there. Thumbs up.

(Illustration via Explore)

27 comments:

Sophie said...

I am SUCH a fan of a 'French exit'. That way, everyone wins!

collette said...

I always say goodbye to everyone. Otherwise, it's like, where did so-and-so go?

Lauren E. said...

This is hilarious! I recently spent time with my boyfriend's massive Hawaiian family and it took us about half an hour to leave because not only do you have to kiss every single person goodbye but then every other auntie has a story for you before you go. It's lovely and exhausting at the same time.

Joanna Goddard said...

sophie, agreed! :)

fay316 said...

Yes, yes, yes! Thank you for this PSA for the ghost/French/Irish goodbye at weddings. It is so overwhelming to say all the goodbyes after all the hellos at the end of a wedding-especially when you just want to dance :) Great guide!

Laura said...

I come from a large Southern family in which long goodbyes are expected and required unless you want to be considered rude. I don't know that I have EVER left any sort of party or gathering without at least a twenty-minute goodbye.

Joy said...

This is hilarious. Also -- mind blown. You can ghost at your own wedding?!

Linh Vo said...

Haha love this. I say bye at family functions but for all others, I usually only say bye to the host and ghost the other peeps. haha
Linh
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nadine said...

I just googled the ghost exit, turns out I've been doing it right almost all the time without even knowing it. Whew.

J Johnson said...

Most of my family and friends are big fans of the ghost exit - myself included. However, my husband comes from a very Southern family and I have discovered it is impossible to leave without hugging everyone, being offered to take home all the leftovers and being told "Don't be a stranger, now" although you saw the same people, like, a week ago. It's very overwhelming for me :)

megan bachmann said...

haha this is hilarious and so true!

BreeB714 said...

I think it is absolutely AWFUL to leave a party without a goodbye.. Especially if each person when they arrived was announced and greeted.. Whats wrong with the "Bye Everyone" wave anyway

Kiri Cragin Folwell said...

This is so funny! Not going to lie, I am a fan of the ghosting but my mother would kill me if I did that.

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Nina Leung said...

This is great! Though I believe that in any situation, you MUST say goodbye to the host. Doesn't matter what the situation is.

Kate in Austin said...

A discreet farewell to the host and then Ghosting every time (this does NOT go down well in Texas - only so long my 'i'm british and new here' is going to work for!)

Bocado bakery said...

My husband and I call it smoke bombing. You throw your imaginary smoke bomb and whoosh! You've disappeared... So if we're in a big party or crowded event and itching to leave, we just look at each other and one of us goes "smoke bomb?" And in less than 2 min we're out of there!
For small gatherings I'm a big fan of the "bye everyone" wave though...

Xo-

Cecilia

Rebecca said...

We actually ghosted our own wedding just a few weeks ago! We knew we'd see everyone the next day and it was nice for us to just sneak away especially as we don't drink and everyone else does. Plus it's our wedding we can do what we want right?! X

The Health-Minded said...

Great topic! My husband and I always, at the very least, find the host and hostess and thank them and say good-bye. Other friends we are close with we find as well. Loved hearing everyone's responses!

tara said...

Haha the Irish Goodbye! Love hearing it called Ghost.

liveloudcoaching said...

I was wondering what the etiquette was for a wedding since I have to bow out of one early this weekend. Feel much better being encouraged to slip out quietly! ;)

Jolene - EverydayFoodie said...

I like to slip out, as people always try to convince us to stay if we tell them we are leaving. It gets annoying.

Rachel said...

This chart is awesomely hilarious! I still remember one of the first get-togethers I went to with my (now) husband. He's Iranian, and most of the guests were Iranian, and I've since learned that you never exit quickly in those circumstances. Near the end of the evening he mentioned that maybe we could head out. I grabbed my purse and jacket and was ready to go in about 5 minutes ... and stood awkwardly near the door while he spent at least half an hour saying goodbye to everyone individually (sometimes circling back a second time to certain people). It's so exhausting!

Sammi Egan said...

I think I just shout a general "Byyye" and walk out. I hate taking forever to leave somewhere!

Mallory Fay said...

Man, I really like ghosting more than I should. It is a way of avoiding awkwardness.

Jessica Holmes said...

Oh, I really wish some of my guests at my wedding could have done a 'ghost exit'. I felt like I spent so much time saying goodbye (what a downer) instead of dancing the night away!

Sofía said...

Loved this!

domonique matthews said...

this is awesome. i remember you bringing this topic up before. i am in your camp for sure. ghost (when appropriate)

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