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Thursday, May 02, 2013

Wedding question: What would you do differently?

My friend Megan and I were chatting the other day about how we loved our weddings, but there are little things we'd change if we had a do-over. Just for fun: What would you do differently if you got married again (to the same person, of course)? Here are some things I might switch up...
Skip the awkward family portraits (no one frames those anyway, right?) and instead join our friends for the cocktail hour!
Plan my speech! Alex and I had decided not to give toasts, but halfway through dinner, I felt so giddy and excited that I lept up and grabbed the microphone. Thus ensued ten minutes of rambling and blubbering. Looking back, it would have been so much nicer if I had written a coherent toast ahead of time, and afterward I kept thinking of things I wished I had said. Alex, of course, somehow stood up and gave the most beautiful speech off the cuff! (Here's a fill-in-the-blank toast and nine couples' funny toasting moments).
Flowing locks are so romantic, like a loose braid or casual ponytail.
I loved my simple J.Crew dress, but I'd take another cue from their models and wear this amazing deep pink lipstick.
My shoes were uncomfortable and I ended up barefoot by the end of the night, so I'd switch it up with cool oxfords under a wedding dress, inspired by this pretty bride.
What a fun idea to serve a cheese wedding cake.
Of course, I'd keep a bunch of things the same, but it's fun to think about what we'd tweak in hindsight!

What about you? What would you do differently if you got married again? Anything you regret? Another friend told me, "I wouldn't get drunk for a start," ha!

P.S. Wedding ideas: Old-fashioned veils, colorful shoes and big kisses? And did you cry at your wedding?

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HeatherP said...

I would have spent the money on a professional photographer rather than use my brother. He'd never done a wedding before so the pictures didin't turn out too well. Fortunately, a few years later we became acquainted with a very talented photographer who did a beautiful session for us in our wedding clothes.
I would also have had the groomsmen get nicer clothes. We just had them get some dress pants, a shirt and a tie. Unfortunately, the style we suggested didn't fit some of the guys too well and they didn't say anything because they didn't want to cause a fuss. The result was kind of "fat-guy-in-a-little coat." The groomsmen pictures were super awkward.
Otherwise, our wedding was wonderful and I loved every part of it.

melissa said...

One of the nice things about getting married a second time is that you get a chance to do exactly this (well, not exactly, usually it's not to the same person)! :) My first wedding was super traditional, stressful to plan, and exhausting, and when it came time for me to get married again, I would have rather had my wisdom teeth out again than go through all of that a second time.


My first wedding:
-traditional wedding dress and white veil
-about 150 people (almost everyone we invited came!)
-fancy invitations (cost us about $1000)
-bridesmaids and groomsmen
-fully catered buffet from an annoyingly superstitious caterer
-full wedding cake
-30 minute ceremony in a church with walking down the aisle, readings, prayer etc. service was conducted by a pastor we didn't know
-tons of fancy flowers from a local florist
-no drinks
-held in an out of town location
-had to get ready in the sunday school room of the church
-paid a ton of money for a pro photographer who took 2 years to get us our pictures

My second wedding (which was absolutely perfect and I wouldn't change a thing):

-green dress that I had made for me, cost about 1/5 of my original wedding dress and was way more comfy
-made a lace wedding stole for myself
-held it in a private room in a local restaurant
-5 minute service was conducted by our best friend and was nonreligious (wrote our own very straightforward, modern vows)
-20 guests
-food was a small menu of the restaurant fare that I put together, and was AMAZING. restaurant desserts instead of cake since neither of us really get into cake.
-full bar and some wines I selected
-made the invitations myself online, $15 total and $10 for custom stamps
-got ready at our hotel in comfort and leisure and drove ourselves down the street to the restaurant
-got the flowers from our local farmer's market from a very charming local grower
-next door neighbor (who is a photographer) did the pictures


I'm glad I had my first wedding in the sense that both sets of grandparents were there (they're all gone now) and a lot of relatives came that I never see. But I would not change one thing about my second wedding, it was absolutely perfect and when it was over we all agreed that we wanted to go back and do it over again.

parisbeekids said...

Our one big regret, we forgot to prepare a list of people to have our picture taken with. The result being we had hardly any posed pictures with our families! Luckily they all figure throughout our albums, but I periodically kick myself when I think of the beautiful photos we *could* have had. That said, we did do the best we could, and this is even with an amazing wedding planner, so I suppose it just was not meant to be!

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Emily said...

I'm getting remarried in two weeks and I love getting the chance to plan another wedding knowing what I know now (plus having Pinterest makes it so much easier!) My first wedding (in 2007) was large, fairly traditional, and expensive. The biggest change this time around is size, and I can't emphasize that smaller is so much better when it comes to weddings. My biggest regret was how little time I had to talk to my guests and I didn't want to repeat that.

We're doing it all in my parents' back yard and keeping everything casual and homemade. There are things that I would never skimp on and that's the photography, food and wine:)

Mina said...

Oh my gosh - we had a cheese cake!
Since we had two big celebrations a couple of months apart, for the second one, we didn't feel the need for another tiered wedding cake - so a while after dinner we rolled out a cheese course with a tiered cheese cake!
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I also wish we had done speeches to each other...

Fashion for the rest of us said...

Our wedding as a celebration (the dress, the party, etc.) I would not change at all! But I would make sure that our families would not ruin the day for us -- sadly, as it has happened. That means: I would not ask my mo to be the wedding planner, for instance...

Meryl said...

Like a few others have said, little regrets are for vow renewals! Our wedding was pretty laid back and small. One regret was that I wish we'd been able to invite a few more people, but we had a numbers restriction. Also, and this is random, I had planned for milk to be served with our cake for everyone (since the hubs can't have cake without it) and I completely forgot about it!

Meryl said...

Also, when my husband was the best man at his friend's wedding and it came time to give his unplanned speech, one of his lines was, in an Al Sharpton sort of way, "Let Jesus rain down upon you!"

That should make anyone with speech regret feel better.

Elizabeth Hall Conley said...

Rented a freaking photo booth!!! Not wear sunglasses walking down the aisle (I looked mean and you couldn't see how happy I was) and stored our wedding cake in the hotel fridge. We left it in our honeymoon suite and ants devoured it. I am hoping to get my do-over on one of our anniversaries to re-new our vows.

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Sarah said...

My husband and I are both photographers who had been recently shooting for a local wedding photographer. He offered to shoot our wedding for free, so we were definitely up for that. I've always been in love with photography, it is my career and passion, and all I wanted was to have a quaint, cozy backyard wedding with close friends and family. And most importantly, I just wanted beautiful photos. I made all my table decorations by hand, everything was Pride & Prejudice inspired (like the big white ball from the movie). I SO regret letting my mother in-law send out the invites, because she then told later that instead of about 35 close friends and family, she had invited all of HER friends, which put the list of people to above 100. Then I didn't have enough money to buy all the lovely white chairs and white lace tablecloths for the outdoor reception, so we had to get rolls of plastic table clothes and cut them to size, duck tape them down, and we ended up with BROWN plastic chairs that they managed to get for free. We couldn't do the gourmet dishes I wanted, so they got pasta catered. It turned out horrible, of course. Not that it mattered, cause the only thing I ate the whole day was maybe one bite of each thing, and a sip or two of wine. I was so distracted the whole time. What made it worse was our photographer "boss" had been shooting like a mad man, and we thought we had some great moments captured. It turns out that all his gorgeous previous wedding photos he had on his website were all shot by OTHER talented photographers he hired. And our photos were so bad that kids from the audience with iphones took better photos. I was and still am devastated. We haven't printed, uploaded, or framed even one of our photos from that day. And I pretty much regret most of the day and what happened, except the part where we said "I do". Because I know that's all that matters! But being a wedding/fashion photographer, I just wince when I think of the disaster.

samantha lee said...

I loved my wedding! I would do a smaller venue but keep everything else. I want it all just in a smaller place, probably our favourite restaurant/bar.

betseykerr said...

Totally agree! Best thing ever was the videographer! I tell everyone I know getting married what a great investment it is! I was so surprised how thankful I was to have the video! Plus we watch it every anniversary.

Simone Brett said...


1. Wish I would have had alcohol at my wedding (it wouldn't have gone over well with some family members).

2. I would have not used the tacky streamers I chose for the send-off and used sparklers instead!

3. I would have cut most of the guest list... there were a lot of people I had never seen in my life before!

Nora N said...

I would have picked a local florist since they charged a lot let And ours left a lot to desire, and I would have figured out how to dim the lights come night time..other than that, nothing =)

Cams said...

We had an extremely laid back, chill wedding that turned into a serious dance sesh at the end. Totally bad ass wedding, but the laid back, cool vibe resulted in 90% of our guests smoking pot in the bathroom or out on the porch throughout the reception. We had 200 guests.........lol. Thankfully my conservative parents let loose and were to busy being drunk dance machines to notice it!!! HAHA!

HP said...

I'm extremely happy with the man, my hair, the flowers, the professional photos and the fact that we did have a video done.

I would change a lot though.
- The video was done by a friend of my mom's and he set some of it to music. The song? Girlfriend by Avril Lavigne ("She’s like so whatever, You could do so much better") - WHAT?
- Also, I would not have bridesmaids - they made everything a struggle for months and were only concerned about themselves. I still look back and feel like they ruined the day for me.
- I would've prepared a full speech ahead of time, instead of just jotting down a list of names to thank - it's hard to find the words when you're up there.
- I would've liked to have someone looking out for me - collecting all of the notes and items guests were giving me, and ensuring the servers didn't clear my courses before I'd had a chance to eat anything. My aunt gave me a copy of the grace she said and the servers cleared it away or something. I'm too embarrassed to ask for another copy.
- I might not have assigned the seating or would've done a better job/cared more about the dynamic at each table.
- Would have gone home that night instead of to a hotel. We paid a lot for a room at a swanky place where the shower didn't work and we were only there for 6 hours as we had to run home to host a BBQ for the out-of-towners and close friends - wish that had been the real party - it was SO much more fun.

The best little thing I remember:
- When one of my friends stayed to the very end and ensured we had a cab to our hotel and paid for it in advance.

HP said...

ps. I should also mention that the friend who made sure we had a car was a single dude!

Also, we're both HUGE music people but by the time we got to choosing our song and our father-daughter mother-son dance song we were burnt out and just got the DJ to play some songs that really meant nothing to us. Wish we had concentrated on that more.

Catie said...

I wouldn't have attendants (those friends would have been helpful and supportive anyway without the matching red silk dresses), I wouldn't wear a wedding dress, and I would have made my playlist crazier. Other than that, my wedding was exactly what I wanted: it was a simple thing at B&B on a lake, one of my best friends played music and then we played David Bowie for the recessional and at the reception, and we had cheese and cake and wine. It was great. :)

Megan said...

Same here. Our wedding planner was the only vendor we hired sight unseen and she was a disaster. We moved from FL to VA 5 months before the wedding and were getting married in OH. We thought it would help to have someone help us the day of and reduce stress related to a big wedding (~220 mostly family). Wrong! She trotted out to greet us to the reception and walk us in only to be greeted by one of the bridesmaids confronting her about not knowing where to sit. Not a good sign. We ended up having to put band aids on things throughout the reception that she had forgotten/overlooked. Thankfully few people noticed some of the issues that arose but it took me a long time to get over my disappointment.

We were both so concerned about making sure everyone else was happy that I think we lost sight of what we wanted. Thankfully our marriage has also been wonderful and the irritation with wedding day issues has faded over the past 5 years.

Jenny said...

A few things I would have changed:
1. I wouldn't have procrastinated and left the program (and assembly) until the last minute. So stressful!
2. We didn't have assigned seating since it was a buffet but we majorly messed up and didn't have reserved tables for our families. I have awful memories of my grandparents cramped in a corner with a bad view. So sad.
3. I would have gotten my dress fitted. I thought it fit well and wanted to save the expense but it ended up looking too big in the chest area.
4. Finally I would have had a videographer to capture our vows, friends/families, and my Dad's speech. He passed away almost 2 years ago and I would give anything to listen to that speech again.
Overall everything worked out and we walked away as a married couple as planned!

Rose said...

haven't been married! but I just love the Kennedy wedding pictures, such a sad story in so many way. Your wedding pictures are lovely and very timeless I think.

As a bridesmaid though I'd say I'd touch up my make up before pictures! (vain) and totally with you on the shoe front!

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♥Bonita- Bunny♥ said...

My goodness, beautiful photography! I like how they all look naturalistic!

Monica Merel said...

Girl, you made me laugh. Ha!

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csext said...

We had no wedding party and it was such a great decision! Less stress with fewer detail decisions to make, less personalities to deal with, etc. We just got skilled friends & family to help out with details that they were good at

csext said...

- no attendants, less stress, loved it
- my dress was amazing, even though it was more formal than i originally planned and was probably too formal for the wedding I ended up having
- did my own makeup after many sessions and study at various department store counters. I did great but spent a lot of time on the prep.
- got my hair done by a wonderful lady, we did a trial run which was perfect, and I should have shown her the picture of the trial because I was less of a fan of the day-of version!
- guest list: fewer coworkers, more friend-friends. our wedding was right before we moved out of state and we were thinking of it as a going away bash and wedding, but guest-wise it was more wedding (and a little gift-seeking, now that I think about it) and less bash.
- on the bash note, more dancing! I shoulda got a real DJ instead of getting a friend-who-has-DJ'd to play from a set of pre-selected songs off our own collections. We're a little eccentric with our music, so I might have had more dancers if there was more recognizable music
- we had hearty appetizers, not proper dinner. I still would go this route, but had more food & more variety, and had more of it myself.
- set an expectation for husband and I to spend some more time together at the reception, we only danced together at the first dance (which was last-minute, he insisted on no first dance because he's shy and not much of a dancer, then I panicked and made him dance with me so that other people would be comfortable getting up and dancing) and we hardly saw each other the rest of the time because I was trying to get people on the dance floor and he was having a heart-to-heart with a friend in a back room.
- maybe put a little flourish into the ceremony, it was all talking and about 6 minutes long. we did have unique vows, which DH messed up on a little bit (and I don't regret at all, it got a great laugh and one of our best pics is the moment afterward)
- would probably go for videographer, because you get all caught up and end up missing a lot

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Importance of Mehndi in Indian Weddings

Indian marriages are known for their many rituals. In fact, the beauty of Indian weddings comes forth in the numerous traditions that are associated with the special celebration. Marriage day being the most important day in one's life. Infact one whole ceremony dedicated to its celebration popularly known as "Mehndi Ki Raat". Indian marriages are incomplete without dance, music and lots of laughter.

It is a common belief that the darker the color the mehndi leaves on the hands on a bride, the more will she be loved by her husband and mother-in-law. However, the significance of applying mehndi during weddings is not restricted just to sentiments and beliefs. Although these beliefs make the application of mehndi a much anticipated and charming tradition, the actual reason is of much deeper significance.

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Once the prospective bride and groom is selected by the families and their kundlis matched to make sure that they have a happy married life , the big Indian wedding starts unfurling with its numerous unique culture. Marriage will happen to everyone sooner or later. May be you are busy pubbing and clubbing today but for a happy and secure tomorrow marriage is the only way out. Indian Marriages are not only about the couple, they involve the whole family. The Mehndi night is a festive night in the girl's family where professional Mehndi artists draw intricate designs in henna on the hands of the bride and other female members. During the Sangeet, professional entertainers are brought to regale the guests.

The individuals not only marry each other but tie an everlasting bond with each other's family. The Shagun is exchanged by the prospective families which consist of numerous gifts to the soon to be the wed couples. The wedding rituals start with the Haldi ceremony that is done to purify and ready the bride and groom for their union. Haldi and oil is poured over their body and hair by the family members after which they are forbidden to leave their house.

When any one's marriage is settled, an auspicious day is fixed for the wedding. On the appointed day the bridegroom is taken in a grand procession to the bride's house. He is generally clad in white silk with saffron spots on it. He wears a crown of flowers on his head. He is seated on a fine mare and is joined by a large number of men carrying different sorts of articles of pomp and grandeur. He is accompanied by his relatives and friends who are attired in their best clothes. The children wear very gaudy dresses. The procession is generally led by a band. At intervals fire-works are let off.

When the matrimony procession reaches the bride's house, shouts of welcome in different forms rend the air. The Swaagat is the ritual to welcome the groom and his entourage by the bride's family. The kith and kin of the bride come out to receive the bride-groom and his party and conduct them to a hall richly decorated and illuminated for the occasion. The bride watches the arrival from one window of the house, careful not to gaze upon his face and then comes out to welcome him. The guests and visitors take their seats in the same hall where they are served with tea and sweets. Some who are accustomed to smoke are offered hookas. Afterwards they are led to the dining hall where sweets, pudding, puries and other dainties are lavishly served to them.

During Vidai, the bride's brother is entrusted with couple's care. The Baraat leaves for the groom’s house are announced with drum beats and is welcomed by the women of the family. The wedding reception is the party thrown by the groom's family to announce the wedding and this usually takes place a day after the wedding.

Marriage involves all-the families! And the best of all, it Creates Generations! So think guys and hail this medium of happily remaining in a long term relationship.



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Brooke Billingsley said...

That's the one thing I would change too. My DJ was pretty terrible...UGH. I don't even like to think about it!

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Sindhi Wedding

The Sindhi wedding is presided over by a special priest known as "Mehraj", specialising in matchmaking and a Guryanni , who presents the horoscopes of eligible boys and girls to those for a match.

Pre Wedding Rituals

Once the prospective bride and groom is selected by the families and their kundlis match to make sure that they have a happy married life, the big Sindhi wedding starts unfurling with its numerous unique rituals.

Janya or the sacred thread ceremony starts with the groom donning the sacred yellow thread while the Mehraj whispers Guru Mantra in his ears. Though this ceremony ritualistically should be performed during adolescence , most Sindhi's now prefer to do this day or two considered incomplete. After this comes the two step engagement ritual called Kachchi Misri and Pakki Misri.

Kachchi Mishri

Kachchi Misri is the informal engagement between the bride and the groom , where they are given coconuts and misri that signifies their acceptance into each other's families. The shagun is exchanged by the prospective families which usually consist of numerous gifts (Shagun) to the soon wed couples. Additionally the bride family sends 5kg of sweets, five coconuts , a basket of fruit and a small token amount of money to the boy's family. The groom's sister covers the bride's head with a red duppata and feeds her suji sheera , followed by the other relatives.

Pakki Mishri

Pakki Mishri is the formal engagement ceremony where the rings are exchanged in the presence of the priest , either in a temple or at home. The groom's family gifts the bride , clothes, cosmetics and jewellery , with which she is then adorned by the groom's sister and sisters-in-law. Similarly the bride's family gifts a clay pot of misri. This is followed by a Varmala ritual where the bride and groom exchange garlands while the families finalise the verbal promise of their marriage or shaadi.

The engagement is followed by Berena, performed ten days before the marriage, where is satsang is dedicated to Jhulelal, Sindhi God. Dev Bithani refers to the installation of chakki (stome grinder) in the homes of both the bride and the groom, while a Brahmin priest performs the ritual. After this ceremony, the couple is not encouraged to leave their homes and Ainars (marriage guards ) are appointed for them. During Lada , the groom's family invites the women in their neighbourhood for a musical night where they all sing traditional songs accompanied by dholak beats.


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An ode to the wedding songs in Punjabi Wedding

Punjab is the state of festiveness. It is said that punjabis can groove to the beats of dhol even if there is no occasion. As such, when there is a shaadi in the house, it given them a reason to sing and dance. In Punjab, there are different genres of songs when it comes to marriage songs. There are categories divided on the basis of moods and situations.Some of the most popular categories include:

Gharouli de Geet: These are happy songs that are sung when the pitcher is filled for bride/bridegroom's bath on the day of the wedding.

Sehra: As the Hindu priest ties the sehra (flower veil) on the forehead of the groom while chanting sacred mantras, the close family members sing sehra songs to pep up the environment.

Suhag: A fairly popular category of wedding songs, the suhag songs are sung by the bride herself as she praises her of her life. Some of these wedding songs also reveal her anticipation of the approaching life in her husband's home. In some households, bride friends and cousins also sing these songs on her behalf.

Jaggo: Jaggo songs are sung a night prior to the wedding. These songs are sung as a celebrative way to invite the neighbours to the wedding.

South Indian Melodies

Laali: These are songs of praise for the bride and the groom who are seated on a swing in a
ceremonial manner and are rocked back and forth. The back and fro motion of the swing in the ritual signifies the waves in the sea of life while the chains represent the eternal karmic link with god. Their movement on the swing depicts that the couple is together in body and mind that they would together cross the ocean of life.

Nalangu: During this ritual, the new bride sings and calls her husband to spend time with her. These songs fill the atmosphere with a sense of merriment. The time signifies the breaking of ice between the bride and the groom as there are several other playful activities that take place, subsequently. While family members break papads on the couple's heads toward off evil, the bride anoints husband's body with sandalwood and sings to him. The female relatives poke fun at the couple and the in-laws while singing songs.

Adding a Zing of Culture

A part from the pre-wedding ceremonies that are replete with the sounds of traditional wedding tunes and lyrics, these days marriages are also witnessing a sort of rebound that seem incomplete without these rhythms and libretto. Live performances usually have the popular singers belting out hit numbers some originals, some legendary wedding songs that set the mood for the evening and get the guests tapping to these numbers. Traditional wedding songs are those symphonies that have bouts of emotions hidden behind, that bring people together to celebrate and have fun and that which any Indian marriage is not complete without.

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Leanne Boyd said...

Does anyone have opinions on NOT having bridesmaids/groomsmen? I have never wanted that, which makes me feel kind of awful because I love my friends... Opinions please!

Swiss said...

If someone is still reading this post for ideas I have a couple. I never did the wedding thing but had nice parties after- less formal and still fun. For my daughter's wedding I learned a couple of things- the coordinator for the day is a great idea...I had to run around at the last minute and some things did not get done right....we had a Chef to put things together I had made but he didn't listen- I made 100 loaves of cruty french bread to go with the antipasto and he didn't warm it and serve...it was really needed, people had to wait too long for the main food.

Also at the end of the evening no one was planned to ahead take everything down, clean, etc. The groom's family did and were mad and got mad at my Ex who got madder - it was not pretty. There are so many things to learn when you have a Wedding, get help if you can.

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*The sangeet
*The Reception

Engagement
This is the first of the formal ceremonies. Traditionally , rings and gifts are exchanged between the bride and the groom's families. Ascertain ring sizes and buy the engagement rings well in advance, so that the couple can try them out before the ceremony.

Mahendi
Indian marriages are known for their many rituals. In fact, the beauty of Indian weddings comes forth in the numerous traditions that are associated with the special celebration. Marriage day being the most important day in one's life. Infact one whole ceremony dedicated to its celebration popularly known as "Mehndi Ki Raat". Indian marriages are incomplete without dance, music and lots of laughter.
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Ceremony

The Baraat is also a wonderful part of the indian marriage. The groom with the sehra tied to hide his face sits on the horse, while his mother holds a lamp lit for the household deity. It is merry ritual when they set forth for the marriage venue along with a band of musicians playing popular tracks, with his relatives groove their way to the wedding. The Swaagat is the ritual to welcome the groom and his entourage by the bride's family. The bride watches the arrival from one window of the house , careful not to gaze upon his face and then comes out to welcome him. At the entrance the groom places his right foot on top of the bride's foot to denote his dominating strength in their future life together. In the Sindhi tradition the groom is seen as the embodiment of lord Vishnu on the wedding day. The couple is seated with a screen separating them so that they cannot see each other while his feet are washed in a bronze thaali with raw milk by the bride's brother and is known as Paon Dhulai. The couple now gets ready for the wedding ceremony and is taken to the wedding platform where the ceremony is to take place.

Sangeet
Decide whether it will be a small family gathering or a big event with a professional band in attendance.
*Book a Mehndiwali well in advance. She/he should bring the necessary material.
*List the songs and hand out the lyrics to all or you can use taped music as a back-up.
*Hold practice sessions prior to the wedding, if you are so inclined.
*Arrange for snacks or a caterer if the gathering is large.

Reception
Decide whether it will be sit-down affair or a buffet.
*Make the arrangements in advance and confirm with the venue manager/caterer in writing.
*Specify the number of guests expected to the caterer if you do not want to pay for extra food.
*Confirm arrangements a day before the event.
*Set up a gift table and assign a family member to receive gifts. Maintain a list of the gifts.
*Allocate space for alive band, bar and dining.
*After the reception, move flower bouquets and leftover liquor to the couple's residence.

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Your Wedding Handbook

Get Organised

Plan your leave from work

Apply for leave work as much in advance as possible. Complete all pending tasks
and divide the workload between cooperative co - worker. “This way you can get up
to speed real quick when you return from your blessed – out honeymoon”

Delegate small wedding day tasks

Delegate duties in advance – get a couple of close friends to be by your side during
the ceremony to calm your nerves and handle the gifts, some relatives (in rotation)
to greet guests at the entrance, someone with a list of all vendor contact
information.

Have a chat with your photographer

Decide the theme you want for the marriage pictures and give the photographer a
list of moments you want captured.

Pack your accessories and wedding night bag

Pack a bag with all the accessories you’ll require to get dressed on the wedding
day. This includes jewellery, makeup, hairpins, safety pins, undergarments. Leave
this bag next to your wedding dress along with your bag of “just – in – case” items.
Also, pack a small bag to carry with you to the hotel for the wedding night. This bag
should have everything you’ll need. Besides lingerie, make sure to pack a change of
clothes for the next morning, your cosmetics pouch and a midnight snack (since no
one seems to eat at their own wedding!)

Gather Memories

Make a DVD of the days leading up to the wedding

“What I’m sure I’ll continue to find truly endearing and entertaining in the years to
come is the DVD of my wedding preparation – from the sangeet practices to the
makeup trails to some heartfelt moments with my family”
Maybe you can include messages from your close friends and family as well.

Write out ‘Thank you’ notes

A lot of people have worked tirelessly, spent lots of money and treated you like a
princess in the weeks leading up to your big day. Make some time to write
personalized cards for all of them and give it to each one before the wedding
ceremonies begin.

Look And Feel Your Best

Oodles of pampering

This is perhaps one of the most essential and enjoyable parts of your pre – wedding
routine. Book appointments at least 10 days in advance for your pre – wedding
beauty regimen, preferably at a spa you frequent. Make sure to include a stress –
relieving massage to soothe those nerves.

Get lots of sleep the night before

“No matter what beauty regiment you go through in the days before your wedding,
unless you’re well rested on the night before the big day, you will neither look nor
feel your best,”. “The last thing you need is a headache putting a
damper on your mood.” So the evening before your wedding should be a quite one –
spend quality time with your family, eat a healthy meal and get at least eight hour
of sound sleep. Eat something and use the washroom before the ceremony. You
have got a long day ahead of you. Grab a healthy snack before you put on your
makeup and use the washroom right before you head out to the mandap”

Focus on your husband – to – be

If, in spite of your best efforts, things get too chaotic, try this trick : “Every bride will have a moment of nerves, no matter how perfect
everything around her is. It’s human nature. When this happened turned complete focus on my handsome fiancé and on the beautiful life we were about to
embark upon together. My mind instantly quietened down and I had a lovely smile
on my face that made me look even more fabulous in the pictures”. Maybe
you could even give his friend a note to slip to your fiancé right before the
ceremony. This could pep things up a bit for the two of you and help ease the stress
too!

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Great expectations

Life is full of surprises, particularly if you are a newly - wed . Expressjodi you a glimpse into the future and tells how to be prepared to face married life

Love is all about romance whereas marriage is a lot about responsibility. When two different individuals from different backgrounds live together, differences of opinion on things like spending habits, career, having and raising a baby, sharing household responsibilities etc, are bound to crop up, the key is to broaden your outlook and accept all the changes that marriage brings, and to remember that marriage is a momentous change for you and your spouse. And, fear not, over a period of time, you will find a way to make it work.

Responsibility

With marriage comes a whole lot of responsibility. "From the time you ger married, the decisions you make will not be yours alone, but your partner's as well. This is because your choices will impact both of you. But this doesn't mean that you're tied to a ball and chain. "It only means you have a companion with you for life. In fact, in your capacity as a spouse, you become your partner's caretaker, friend, confidante and even punching bag etc.

Finances

Arguments over money are bound to happen, so be prepared for it. And unless you establish some ground rules for dealing with financial issues, you will continue to have these arguments. Bear in mind that you are now a part of a unit, and no longer flying solo.

In - laws or outlaws?

if you thought that marriage is all about sharing your life with your significant other, think again, and this time, factor in your in - laws into the equation. When you're used to a particular lifestyle, moving in with your in - laws can be a rude shock. You will be required to make changes in your daily routine. Like waking up a little earlier to help around the house or rescheduling your plans on weekends or even modifying some of your eating habits. these might seem like an additional burden, particularly if you are a working woman. Remember to keep an open mind when it comes to handling your in - laws. They may be rigid in their ways, but there is always a way to work out a compromise.

Sharing space

Marriage involves sharing everything - whether it is sadness or glad tidings, chores or finance, which can be a difficult task. This is why marriage necessitates an equal contribution from both side. " Sharing is absolutely essential for a happy marriage,. Besides making it easier to run the show, it also brings you closer to your partner, and cement a bond in a way that only experience can.
Differnces of opinion

Shaadi brings two different individuals together, as well as two sets of arguments for everything. Remember that your husband is as new to the marriage and the relationship as you, and he is facing the same issue for the first time as well.Irrespective of the nature of the relationship, any two people are bound to have differences of opinion at some point of time, It is how you handle these differences that mtters. The best antidote for deviant interest lies in adapting to the situation. "Be carteful not to retaliate for the sake of it,"

Planning for the future

As a single independent working woman, you may be used to your lifestyle, going on holidays or splurging on the latest pair of Jimmy Choos. But married life is a journey and you need to plan carefully to get to your destination. "Planning is the key. Make sure you and your husband are on the same page as far as long - term goal are concerned," "Whether or not you plan to have a baby or deciding on investments for the future and are thing that you should discuss in advbance, if you want to avoid unpleasant surprises in you married life,"

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Brahmin Shaadi
Historically, the Brahmins in india were divided into two major groups based on geographical origin of the people. The Brahmin groups that lived to the north of the vindhyas were referred to as Dravida Brahmins. Each group was further divided into five sections according to the regions of their settlement.

Sagaai
The Sagaai or the engagement ceremony symbolises commitment However, the South Indian Brahmin do not lay stress on the presence of bride and the groom in their Sagaai, rather it focuses on commitment between the parents of the groom and the bride. 'Latto' i.e., 'engagement plate' Which consist of coconut, flowers, turmeric, betel leaves and betel nuts hold more importance, in their engagement ceremony. The Maithil Brahmin bride of bihar makes her wedding affair stand apart by receiving the blessing from the Dhobi's (washerman's) wife - a compulsory tradition in the Bihari Brahmin wedding.

Haldi
In Haldi ceremony turmeric powder is mixed with milk, almond oil and sandalwood and applied to the bride and the groom. In Kashmiri Pandit this ceremony has a twist becuase cold, white yoghurt is poured on the bride as an alternative to haldi. ritual is followed by a special custom called Shankha (shell) Paula (coral) in bengali Brahmins, where seven married women embellish the bride's hand with red and white bangles, the shell is supposed to calm the bride and the coral is believed to
be beneficial for health. Mehndi is also applied on every bride's hands during the Mehndi ceremony. However, a Bengali Brahmin bride applies alta (red dye).

Jaimala
After the ceremonious arrival of the groom, the garlands are exchanged between the groom and the bride, while the priests chant mantras. Jaimala is the symbol of unifying two souls into one. But in tamil nadu, "Oonjal", a unique jaimala ceremony is performed and could be best decribed as a tug of war. In this ceremony, the women sing songs to encourage the bride and groom to exchange the garlands while the uncles persuade the soon to be couple not to Exchange the garlands.Before the ceremony of jaimala, the bride makes a majestic entry in Bengali weddings.

Mangal Phere
Fire is considered the most pious element in the Brahmin weddings and seven circles around that fire holds the seven promises that the nuptial couple make to each other amidst the Vedic mantras. The Brahmin wedding is deemed incomplete without the seven rounds around the sacred fire. Unlike other Brahmin weddings, in Gujarati weddings only four pheras are taken which are called the mangalpheras where the pheras represent four basic human goals of Dharma, Artha, Kama, and Miksha (religious, moral, prosperity and salvation). Likewise in Malayalee Brahmin weddings, pheras are taken only thrice.

Post wedding ceremony vidaai
After pheras, the bride's family and friend bid her teary vidaai (farewell). The Kashmiri pundits make their vidaai even more special. their charming ritual, "roth khabar" is performed on a saturday or tuesday after the wedding. In Roth
khabar, the bride's parents send a roth (bread decorated with nuts) to their son - in - law's family. But the bride accompanies She stay with her parents and returns only when someone from in laws comes to fetch her back.

Griha pravesh
The new bride is greeted by her mother - in - law with Arti and tilak. The bride, who is regarded as the Goddess laxmi, enters the groom's house after the groom's house after kicking rice - filled pot. In Kannada Brahmin marriages, the groom changes the name of his wife in the name change ceremony where he decides a name for his wife and inscribes it on a plate containing rice with a ring. In Bihar, a very strange ritual is performs at the groom's place.

paper_flowers said...

Don't get me wrong.. I love that I married my gorgeous husband but I would seriously change so many things for my wedding that it's not even funny!

Because I had to bring the wedding date forward by 3 months (yes! you read correctly, 3 months), most of my family, cousins etc. and closest friends who live overseas couldn't make it. I know it was difficult for my cousins as most of them have kids, but I'm simply devasted that ALL of my closest girl friends didn't even put effort into it. Also, because of the change of date, I had to "cutoff" my bridesmaids (I originally had 3 including my sister but obvioulsy had her alone at the end, which was very sad).
So if I could do my wedding differently, I'd change: Move the date to a few months after the original, the venue, colour theme (should have stuck with the original colour!), flowers, hairstyle, car hire, and without hesitation, the 'so not creative' photographer! It was so bad I have tears in my eyes every time I think about my wedding. =(

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