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Thursday, May 23, 2013

Do you wax?

We've talked about a bunch of intimate stuff on Cup of Jo, so I figured I'd make a confession...

I've never waxed. Ever. Not one single time.

Is that weird? Normal? Honestly, it has never really occurred to me to get waxed. And the guys that I’ve dated—and, uh, gotten to know better—haven’t seem to mind at all. We never even talked about it.

But! All my friends these days seem to get waxed, so am I the odd man out? Some people really go for it: One of my friends gets waxed even when she isn't dating anyone. She says she just does it for herself. (!) Another friend got waxed at 39 weeks pregnant so she’d look better GIVING BIRTH. Now that is commitment.

Do you wax? Does it hurt? Is it expensive? Do you get it in certain shapes? I feel like a five-year-old to have to ask!

Here's a little poll, in case you'd rather answer anonymously:


P.S. More girl talk: Do you wear thongs, or pee in front of your significant other? Also, vibrators.

(Cute underwear by Calvin Klein)

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grapedidit.com said...

Haha - I've actually posted on this EXACT subject a few times! Right before giving birth (when you can no longer, ahem, see yourself) I've waxed with both babies. Not exactly fun. My husband is v. non-commital about it, but I like it (once the actual waxing is done). Kind of like when you've just shaved your legs - it's a nice feeling. That said, I only do it once in a blue moon - like before a baby or beach trip :)

Unknown said...

Am 30 and have never been waxed. Husband has never queried the current tidy method of shaving so I've never even thought about it. Have had eyebrows and legs done in the past and the thought of someone doing that to my hoohar (esp when pregnant so apparently super-sensitive??) makes me want to sob!!
So yes. I'm a no! Xx

megan said...

I just did my second laser hair removal and I LOVE IT! I had waxed a few times before and it was so painful! I liked the results but ouch!

Bailie @ The Hemborg Wife said...

I have never gotten waxed anywhere besides my eyebrows and once my armpits which was horrible! I just shave and when I was single if the guy was that picky he was not worth it to me!

Heather said...

Ha! Thank you for this post :) I'm always curious about what other women are doing, but nobody ever wants to talk about "that" stuff.

Personally, I'm too much of a wimp for waxing. It seems so scary! And painful! But I also know a few friends who do it on a regular basis, and they seem a-okay. Hmmm.

Camille said...

I wax during bathing suit season for peace of mind (probably stemming from that one time I was at the pool when I was about 9 or 10, and I could see a lot of someone's hair peaking out...). It's honestly not too painful-- pop some ibuprofen half an hour beforehand, and exhale as they remove the wax and you'll be fine.

Sara in America said...

No waxing since I got the area lasered. I have a standard old school shape (no brazilian!) but the areas around, etc are all hairless. FOREVER! No stubble, no ingrowns, just soft, smooth skin. I love it!

Doody Mac said...

I had my upper lip waxed ONCE when I worked at a day spa, and I said never again! Nope. One of my best friends had a bikini wax and bruised from it. That in itself scared me enough not to ever do it.

Avery Lieberman said...

I got a brazilian when I graduated high school and I will NEVER put myself through that again. I've never experienced childbirth so waxing probably pales in comparison but it was the worst. I'd rather be furry cat.

Lauren said...

This is one of those things it seems like everyone is doing...based on these comments it's interesting to see how many people actually haven't! (I've never done it, the idea of a stranger pouring hot wax on my bits is just too much for me!)

Michelle Panting said...

I'm so glad you posted about this! I've only waxed one time for a beach vacation. It wasn't too expensive (25ish) and it didn't hurt as badly as I'd anticipated.

I feel weird sometimes too, because nearly all my friends wax and I think it's a bit much. As long as you keep it neat and clean, I don't see why any partner would have a problem with it! I'm not a porn star for crying out loud!

http://www.fullbellywornsoles.com/

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monica mulhern said...

old school shape wax since I was 16 and I do it for myself too. I like your friend got waxed before giving birth. I would like to try laser so it last much longer.

catherine sprunt said...

I usually wax my bikini line myself to keep things neat and tidy. But before a 3 week beach vacation this year I went the whole hog at a salon and got a Hollywood and underarm wax. It was a little uncomfortable, socially, and yes - it hurts. But I'm really glad I got my underarms done especially because I couldn't take a razor on the trip with me (we only had carry-on backpacks) and, luckily, I didn't need it!

Bonnie said...

I do wax (just bikini, not all the way) and I also do it for myself. It just feels better. I hate shaving down there since I have sensitive skin and it gets so irritated.

Mindy said...

I'm always curious what people do before baby. I figure the doc's seen so much, I'm sure she doesn't remember and doesn't care what the area looks like, she's more concerned about the health of mom and baby so I decided to try not to worry about it. Other than that I did it for my wedding and that was it, not worth the pain! Plus I found that it's not completely smooth with waxing so what's the point, really?

PS Camille, I had the same experience where it went halfway down the thigh! Ew. After that I was surely shaving for bathing suit season.

Erica C. said...

I have once - for my honeymoon where I would primarily be wearing a swimsuit the entire trip. My husband really liked it, but as long as I keep my area trimmed I don't think he cares too much. I keep it trimmed primarily for myself, but it is nice to know he likes it too.
Even if I had the budget to wax regularly I don't think I would. It's pretty painful and I don't wear a swimsuit too much to make it worth it. I have heard, though, that something called "sugaring" is less painful and just as effective. They use a sugar-based solution and go "with" the grain. It's not nearly as common as waxing and salon in my city does it, though I'm sure finding one in NYC wouldn't be a problem at all.

CER said...

Am definitely a regular waxer - brazilian baby! And though I appreciate it's [awesome] impact on a relationship, I adore doing it for myself as well -- I just feel neater and more streamlined, I suppose. Much more effective than shaving. Once I have some money in the bank, I want to get the area lasered so I don't have to deal with the patchy regrowth and yes, obnoxious ingrowns.

everydaytorunway said...

I swear by sugaring at Shobha. Not nearly as painful & its basically sugar, honey, lemon. I go every 4-5 weeks but it does get expensive :/

megan said...

OMG, I had that same experience and it is still traumatizing!

Kid-Friendly Clayton said...

Yep! Completely bare. I just started again, though, after a 2-yr. break when I had my son. My waxing gal is the only beauty service provider I've ever been loyal to (I've been going to her since 1999). In fact, I've even moved to a new city, but I still see her for a wax whenever I'm in town. I

Erica C. said...

*and NO salon in my city does it.

MouseClark said...

I've been put it off it since I got burnt with wax that was too hot, that was far more painful than the pulling out of the hairs!

Sarah Villafranco said...

Joanna, if you haven't watched this, you must. Now. I beg of you. (Just not with Toby around.)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nIBx1eMhzHQ

nicole said...

I just recently got a Brazilian wax for the first time ever. And LOVED it; I'm still loving it, actually. It wasn't nearly as painful as I thought it would be. It hurt, but it wasn't as bad as everyone said it would be. Try it! xo.

Alyssa Gapske said...

I've only gotten my face/brows waxes once and I never ever will do it again. Well, maybe for a super special occasion, but my skin just completed reacted. I'm fine with shaving.

megan said...

I used to wax regularly... it was much easier than shaving all the time. I decided a few months ago to do laser. I'm half way through and am THRILLED about it.

Sarah said...

I am an ob-gyn. PLEASE do not wax or shave before having your baby, or an pelvic surgery. It creates micro tears in the skin which puts you at risk for infection. Your doctors and nurses have seen IT ALL. Do what makes you feel good but this is a silly thing to do!

S.R. said...

I don't see a point in it. Why wax? Isn't shaving enough? So no, never. x

Sarah_Marie said...

I think waxing is something typical american. All of my friends and I are shaving, even if we are not dating. We all do it for ourselves.

Sarah said...

I get waxed and I pretend that I do it for my boyfriend. Like, I always try and make him feel guilty haha! But I really do it for me. I'm so itchy and uncomfortable when I don't! It was awful and painful the first time but now it's not so bad. I've waxed my eyebrows so often that I don't feel any pain anymore even when I wait a long time (sometimes a year or two) in-between waxes.

The biggest problem is that I'm so lazy that I always wait too long to get a Brazilian and then it hurts a lot! I should look into laser hair removal but it seems so expensive!

lexianne said...

I wax regularly and I do my bikini line myself at home. I used to do my armpits too, but now I have an epilator I use for both areas. Shaving gets too painful for me. After doing it so long, it really doesn't hurt at all and the regrowth is much finer. I'm looking forward to getting laser one day!

aly said...

Yes! Always! For everything! I wax my legs and my bikini area and never ever shave. I've been doing it since I was in high school so I don't feel the pain anymore, and even when I did it's just a sting for a second then it goes away. I go into "hibernation" for the winter but without getting a bikini wax I would never be able to wear a swimsuit ;). I've done a brazilian a few times, at first I thought it was gross, but it's actaully nice because you feel so clean, but that one definitely hurts!

S.R. said...

Woohoo! I'll keep that in mind when I'm having a baby:)

Lisa said...

Wow, I guess I'm realizing I'm the odd one. I wax every once in awhile, but I don't actually find it all that painful... I mean, yeah, it's not comfortable, but not too bad.

joana said...

hey!
i know waxing is a cultural thing, but i thought in the us, in general, it was the normal/standard thing to do. i'm portuguese, and here it's the most normal thing in the world. women who don't get waxed are considered weird... lol i've always waxed (sice i was like 14 i think) and i recently started laser waxing, so now i don't have hair where i don't want it anymore, basically. and for us it's totally normal to «do it for us», i actually love being waxed, even if no one sees it but me! but i imagine it's because i'm used to it. anyway, just to tell you that at least in portugal it's the standard thing, you rarely see «unwaxed» women!

Monkey Girl Crafts said...

I only started waxing about a year ago, its not painful at all, but I have an amazing waxer, and its realatively inexpensive $38 in San Francisco, every 5-6 weeks. I do it for me, not for a guy, its nice to have it trimmed and what not. :)

collette said...

I've tried twice, but ended up leaving with a half-wax because it hurt so bad. Taking a pain reliever first does not help. I'd have to go in drunk. It is expensive. Now, facial waxing - that is something I spring for every 3 months - and I'm a blonde.

Darcee said...

Never waxed anything, ever, and never will. I have super sensitive skin. Even threading my eyebrows makes my skin flare up. I can't imagine what waving would do to my skin in my nether regions :-/

Megan F said...

Just had this discussion at my book club. Most of us don't due to pain, but I was glad to hear I wasn't the only one who suffers red bumps around my bikini area no matter what I do. I'm planning on laser hair removal along my bikini line and under arms.

Carly said...

Here's another P.O.V: the hair is there for a reason - to keep out the bad stuff! Waxing in particular (as opposed to shaving, Nair, etc) rips the hair out of the follicle, leaving the potential for infection, which could then travel... Most women's docs are NOT fans of waxing because of these reasons.

More: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/257885.php

(As well, there's the fad angle - in the 70's, the fashion was the opposite... the more hair the better!)

shararehali said...

Honestly... don't do it. I'm Iranian...in that case I knowe what I'm talking about.

hsultan said...

I live in the south of Brazil and since it's soooooo cheap and widespread and not painful, I wax pretty regularly. They use hard wax here, which is MUCH less painful than using the strips, and it's really just not a big deal. You go into the little stalls in the salons and the ladies are like, ok, what do you want done, ok, strip, and then it's over in 15 minutes TOPS.

Mary Kate said...

Agreed. I did it once and it was probably the most painful thing I've ever had to experience (but I too have yet to experience childbirth).

In NYC I feel like I'm the odd one out, most of my friends do it on a semi-regular basis and one of them considers me bizarre for not doing it, they all claim you "get used to" the unbearable pain, but I don't see the point in putting myself through that.

Shaving + those hair removing creams for me, thank you.

Another Girl said...

I love it. As a poor recent college grad, I can't afford to do it very often, but If I could afford the luxury I'd do it all the time-- even if I were single. It only hurts for a second (it feels like a quick burn, like the second you touch a hot pan on the stove)and then feels great! A MILLION times better than shaving.

cora87rs said...

if you on't wax, what do you do joanna? shave? do you use a cream to remove the hair?

synapse said...

i've never used waxed anywhere... well i tried once on the legs but it was too painfull and my skin is so sensitive that i got all lumpy and red and sore, like a bad reaction to something. with that said, i'm a pretty hairy girl (man-like legs!) so it is an issue for me. normaly i use a machine from the knee down and razor or cream from the knee up (and armpits). the boring thing is that if i shave in the morning, that night i can already feel the little hair spikes! and i can't be shaving everyday! who has the time and/or skin for it?!?! as for the nether-region... well, i might say everyting is a bit wild as i just trim but i never got complaints :þ

i always think that everyone is shaved/waxed/whatever everywhere everytime and i'm the only one who goes by more... cavemen-like? lol oh well, i never show my legs in public so i guess i'm ok.

thank you joanna for the topic :)

Natalie said...

I wax my underarms during the summer months. My first time, a few years back, I made my boyfriend come into the room with me to hold my hand since I was so nervous. He said I didn't even flinch and that next time he's staying home haha. I'm a big ol wimp and it truly was not bad. My bikini though....that still freaks me out but I'm sure I'll try it one day.

Diana said...

Joanna,There is a place where I'm from in San Antonio, TX called The wax bar. They have complimentary liquor and wine in the waiting area!

Rebecca said...

Some of us have to wax because if we don't it pokes out around the sides of our bathing suit!!! I'm surprised no one has mentioned that. Shaving causes a lot of ingrown hairs for me and if you wax, you only have to do it, like, once a month.

Manda said...

I haven't tried it!
Thought about it millions of times but if Hubs is happy- me too! :)

Manda from Eat Cake

Desiree Fawn said...

Never waxed either -- not sure I want too, haha :)

Lindsay May said...

I take a Tylenol right before, and it's like ripping off a Band-Aid-only hurts for a second. I get a bikini wax which is just the sides and front, I always leave a little strip. Depending on where you go it ranges from 30-50 dollars. What's nice about waxing is the more you go the less hair grows back. Something about getting a wax makes you feel sexy, I highly recommend a least trying it once!

AX said...

I do wax. brazilian is my preference, but I leave a "landing strip". (Take ibuprofen half an hour before your appointment and tip really well). I have not been in awhile, it became the cost I felt most comfortable cutting since you CAN be like millions of other women and make-do at home without too many life-altering effects. I would recommend not trying it for the first time while pregnant or the first week after your period. You will decide pretty quickly if it is for you or not.

Mariana Pereira said...

Ahahahaah So funny! I am brazilian and of course I wax. Bikini area and upper lip, once every 20/30 days. Every single woman I know wax. But what you in the US know as the brazilian wax is not exactly what we do here. We wax only the areas around, not everything! What you mean by "the brazilian" sound crazy to me and I don´t have any idea why is it called this way in America.
Also, it doesn´t hurt at all (I am 20 weeks pregnant and still doing it) because the ladies that do it do it very well and quickly!
:)

S.R. said...

So good!!!!

Marissa said...

I typically stick with shaving, but always wax for beach vacays. It just last way longer.

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Elise said...

You should try sugaring! It's like waxing but instead of hot wax they use a ball of fresh sugar, water and lemon juice. Once I started sugaring I have never gone back to hot wax. I think it's less painful (still painful! I'm not going to lie) and I like the results better afterwards too. Less redness and bumps. Good luck! :)

Sarah Villafranco said...

Makes me cry laughing every time...

Hannah said...

In Argentina and Brasil not only does everyone wax every 3-4 weeks but they do it themselves! eekkkk. No thanks, I would much rather pay someone to inflict pain on me!

Lana said...

I have never waxed. The thought of it frightens me! To those women who say it pokes out of the side of your suit, can't you just touch up with a razor? Also, Jim thinks pubic hair is sexy! So I kind of lucked out. I mean, it's not like he wants it ala 1970's, but he doesn't mind a little bush. LOL! Speaking if bush, because that's what it was when I was 9 months pregnant, NO EFFING WAY I would have waxed. Who cares what anyone thinks when you're about to suffer serious trauma there anyway? And I wouldn't want to risk an inflamed ingrown pubic hair follicle on top of everything else.
Now, onto thongs. I used to wear them, but stopped for 2 reasons.
1. They sometimes feel scratchy.
2. No matter who much I wiped, I somehow always seemed to end up with a tiny bit of poop on it. Don't act like it hasn't happened to you!
http://www.mondaysnugget.com/

Olga said...

Maybe is a cultural thing. I am from Barcelona (Spain) and I always wax, whether I am dating someone or not. And my (girl) friends here do the same. In fact, it's the common thing here. I like to do it for myself, I feel cleaner (I know, it makes no sense...) and I wouldn't like to be seen in a skirt, shorts or at the swimmingpool / beach without waxing.

Shelley said...

I shave and use Sally Hansen Bikini Line Spray. It rocks - no bumps ever. I have gotten waxed though prob 5 or 6 times. I don't like in-between period of time! I know they say it gets less and less each time but I just can't be bothered with a growing out phase.

I have always liked having nothing going on down there haha ;) maybe it's just my generation!

Cherri Porter said...

Probably those of us who don't wax simply aren't doing enough online porn, so we seem like we're in the minority.

Shaina said...

If I could find the time and money to do it regularly, I would. I always think it will hurt and it ends up being not that bad. I got waxed at 37.5 weeks pregnant because I couldn't see anything down there, and I just wanted to feel cleaner. I must say it was so nice for the birth. I did it all for me and it was so worth it! It took about 15 minutes and a lot less pain than I anticipated. I have waxed off and on for the past 9 years. My husband doesn't seem to care either way. It is definitely all for me (well and feeling more comfortable wearing a bathing suit).

Katie said...

Waxed bikini line a couple times. It is not for me. I hate shaving my bikini line, as well, because I have really sensitive skin. One day, a friend introduced me to a beard trimmer. Sure, it grows in quickly, so you have to keep up semi-daily maintenance, but no ingrown hairs, no inflammation, and it works.

sarah said...

I had it done for my wedding. Everything. Partially because the wedding night was going to be a first time experience for both my husband and myself. I really love it though and wish that I had done it more often while I was single for myself (and I had expendable money). Haven't done it since my 2 yr old was born but would in a heartbeat...just money, time. I really should do it for myself more often, or try and keep it neater than I do, but the regrowth with shaving is more unbearable to me than the waxing. I love getting waxed. Maybe Im just a masochist.

Lana said...

Totally! Also, pubic hair traps in pheromones! They are there for lots of great reasons!

Alison August said...

Nope! I've had my bikini line waxed like once about 12 years ago - OUCH! I shave. I'm married, I'm sure my hubs would probably like it if I did wax, but I don't really think he cares much either way. I shave, and that seems to work just fine. So, nope! You're not alone:) I'm glad to know that I'm not either.

Elise said...

You should try sugaring! It's like waxing but instead of hot wax they use a ball of fresh sugar, water and lemon juice. Once I started sugaring I have never gone back to hot wax. I think it's less painful (still painful! I'm not going to lie) and I like the results better afterwards too. Less redness and bumps. Good luck! :)

milliandjoshvincent said...

So interesting that most of your readers are in the same boat - never wax!

Aracely said...

I waxed once and it was painful but I liked the results. It was right before a beach trip for my husband's company so I felt like I needed to be extra sure that nothing was going to stick out anywhere! I was about 5 months pregnant at the time and it was painful not to mention the esthetician was squeezing my pelvis making it even more uncomfortable. Oh and it was a bikini wax so a strip was left. I know women who get waxed monthly and have been doing it for years. I can't make that type of committment! :) My husband actually shaves me and does a great job. We have a process and use a ton of products to not feel irritated afterwards. I wouldn't mind getting a wax every now and then.

Olga said...

By the way, you get used to it and it doesn't hurt much, except maybe sometimes the bikini line. I could do it at home, but I prefer to pay an esteticiene to do it for me!

Jessica said...

I only wax during bathing suit season. Similar to other posts, I am pretty hairy and having a lot of curly cues hanging out of my suit, doesn't seem so appealing. I wax just enough to keep it neat.

Shelley said...

Also, because I forgot to mention what waxing is like - it doesn't really hurt that bad. People make such a fuss about it, I can't really imagine a man getting it done haha they are babies.

but if you go to the right place (ask friends) it does not hurt hardly at all.

cassiopeia said...

so i'm weird ;)

Unknown said...

Oh! This explains why when I went the one time in Argentina it wasn't very bad at all, and then when I did a groupon and came in dc it was horrible. (that and they didn't make sure to tell people how long not to shave, so it was ineffective outside my bikini line, and I had to come back.)

Jesse said...

i've only done it once and it was not worth the pain.

sarah nadine said...

i don't wax, i sugar :) it's like waxing but a lot less painful in the aftermath (only hurts for the moment, no lingering pain). i do it mainly for myself ... just another way to feel pampered!

i'm pregnant right now (with my second one) and sugared all the way through my first pregnancy. a little more painful, but the results > so worth it.


xo

sian said...

reassuring to see that over half the people who did the survey don't, i always assumed that i'm the only person not to wax regularly. however, maybe everyone else has a naturally neat muff. mine left to its own devices is like something from a 70s hippy commune! i use strip wax to do my bikini line myself (not that often but certainly before donning a swimming costume). once you've put the stuff on your skin/hair you HAVE to rip it off quickly. you can. not. bottle. it. hesitation results in a very sticky waxy mess, the horror. my sis lives in oz and is getting hers laser-ed, apparently everyone does out there.

Só sedas said...

The first time I waxed I was 11-12 maybe. Later I get laser (I was 20) and am very happy about that. It is wonderful! Never bother about epilation again and it is so much cleaner! But here in Portugal is kind of normal. I've never shaved (only between laser sessions) and I don't like it at all. The hair gets stronger, doesn't last any time at all and you can always guess the little shade of cutted hair. Go for the wax and you will never want another thing!

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Sara said...

In Portugal almost every girl waxes at least the bikini area, and legs and upperlip. Now with laser lots of girls remove all the hair in the pubic area. But here it's really a regular practice. It costs around 10 dolars to wax bikini area and every hairdresser has a private room with a beauty specialist who does it.

fawn said...

"Its impact on a relationship"? Wow...

Giulia said...

Here in Barcelona we always wax. Just like Olga above me said:) You can get it done quick, for cheap and it lasts a month or so. When I lived in the US nobody did that, they all used razors, so I definitely indulged and stopped waxing for two years. When I came back and went told the lady at the waxing place that American women use razors she told me "oh, that's why their legs look like men's" oops? That's not true, though, hahaha. Cultural differences and habits.

The truth is that it doesn't hurt, it's not pain, but if you think about it and get freaked out (me the first times) it can be stressful.
I think you should try it, even if it's just once a year or so. Your skin feels soft and baby-like (the day after), it's wonderful!

Julia1983 said...

I did a brazillian once and it turned out amazing. I went to a cute boutique in downtown Seattle where they serve Tequlia in a carafe in the waiting room for all their anxiety ridden clients! I went in and the gal was super friendly and did an amazing job. I was suprised about how clean and nice I felt after. It also made me feel more comfortable with myself in bed with my BF. But its expensive and I would rather spend the monthly up keep money on hair or nails. But if I could afford it I would be hooked.

Julia C. said...

I used to get Brazilians and really, they weren't so bad! Maybe I just have a high pain threshold. Now I just shave. Waxing started to seem impractical to me - expensive and you have to let it grow out a certain length in order to get it long enough to wax, which got annoying - the whole point is to be smooth! I feel more in control with shaving.

Abby said...

I'm flabbergasted -- it sounds like most ladies here who don't wax shave instead. Am I the only one who has never done anything to remove any pubic hair? I wear bikinis, but, ahem, just tuck it all away, and I've never had an issue with any hair showing.

Maybe because I'm Asian and thus not all that hairy, but I still have hair down there, and it's never even occurred to me that it's a necessary thing to do to get rid of it. No one except myself and intimate partners ever sees it and if any of them were upset about it (which, btw, would be totally weird to me), they certainly weren't saying anything that was going to jeopardize what was about to happen!

AMY said...

My nurse friend told me I should wax before giving birth and I just reminded her that I might POO while pushing so I don't think anyone's going to be grossed out by the hair!!!

Gretchen said...

My cousin had a waxing appointment set before giving birth to her second child and ended up being in early labor while she was getting waxed! As if that wasn't enough pain to go through! There is nothing pretty about giving birth, I don't know why you'd try to make THAT pretty.

Design Revisted said...

I wax it all. Honestly, it doesn't hurt that bad and if it does, you need to find a new place to go!! It takes about 15 minutes and as long as you are relaxed it is over before you know it.

When I was traveling once, a lady did take about 30 minutes, but it was the best, longest lasting wax job I've ever had. If she wasn't 8 hours away I'd go to her every time.

Nina said...

I'm middle eastern so, yes, I've been waxing the sides since I was in high school. Then, a few years ago, my waxing lady forgot that I only do the sides and put the wax in underwear-territory. I've been addicted to the full brazilian ever since. My husband couldn't care less. I do it because I am literally uncomfortable when the hair grows out. I've already talked to my waxing lady about coming to my house just before the twins are born- not for the doctor, but because I assume I wont be able to wax for a while after the births.

Michael said...

Well I'm just going to answer all the questions and give you TMI about me! Yes to thongs and peeing with the door open. #2, never. Yes to vibrators but rarely. It's not the same doing it myself. And as for waxing - IT'S AMAZING! All that fuzz is gone and it stays gone for a MONTH! The first time I went I popped to Tylenol, just in case, and it was an absolute breeze! Of course it's a different feeling per person but I had no pain and felt like a million bucks when I walked out. I just wanted to tell everyone, but you know, my little secret :)

Betsy West said...

Man, I used to wax all the time and loved it. I swore by it. My waxer used to get everything off in less than 20 minutes and about 5 rips. She never used strips- only the soft wax. I've never had a good experience with strips. Then my beautician moved and I started to sing a different tune. I had to get two ingrown hairs excised and even after that I still gave it a go. The hunt for a perfect wax continued. The straw that broke the waxed camel's back: before my wedding, I went to a beautician recommended by a friend and she botched it big time. Not painful, just really heinously bad design. I wanted a landing strip to give a couple irritated hairs a break, but she waxed everywhere BUT my labia. That might be TMI, but what the hell. It was hilarious- my husband and I laughed about it- but I haven't been waxed since. I do recommend giving it a try though. I hate having hair down there, so I'll probably get lazered instead of trying to find a good waxer. That unicorn simply doesn't exist anymore. :)

Nina said...

I'm middle eastern so, yes, I've been waxing the sides since I was in high school. Then, a few years ago, my waxing lady forgot that I only do the sides and put the wax in underwear-territory. I've been addicted to the full brazilian ever since. My husband couldn't care less. I do it because I am literally uncomfortable when the hair grows out. I've already talked to my waxing lady about coming to my house just before the twins are born- not for the doctor, but because I assume I wont be able to wax for a while after the births.

Inari said...

I shave. Everywhere! I've considered waxing for the convenience of not having to spend as much time in the shower every-other-day, but the pain and price just never seems worth it in the end.

I even shaved up until the day I went into labor, and I was over two weeks late (read: HUGE).

I'd love to have laser removal done so I could just be done with it forever, but that's expensive and uncomfortable too. Granted the pain a couple times and then never again is certainly more worth it than the pain and cost every couple of weeks forever.

katlat said...

I hate the "little girl" look of hairless. Really feel this is a feminist cause to take up -- I don't believe for one minute that women do it "for themselves". They do it because guys have ingrained it in them that women should be hairless, and anything else is repulsive.

There's a great discussion of this in the hilarious Caitlin Moran's How to Be a Woman.

Katherine

Sarah said...

I've only gotten it does once because I wanted to try the infamous House of Wax while living in London. I was really pleased with the results, but man was it painful! I'd probably keep it up except that it's quite expensive and I hate making a lot of appointments. haha

Gabriella said...

I like the results of waxing much better than shaving--it lasts longer and I don't get little annoying bumps the way I do when I shave around there. Plus, I've never found it to be too painful. And yet, I'm lazy...

Cristina said...

I think I'm not wrong if I say that it differs even from country to country. Here in Italy every woman I know waxes!!
(in some rare case they don't use wax but razor or cream but, really, I don't know women that leave all as it is ;-)

Cristina said...

Ah, btw, € 9 just yesterday ;)

erin said...

I love waxing, it gives a reasonably long lasting result and isn't particularly painful, it makes me feel more confident and more comfortable too believe it or not. I actually find shaving more irritating as the regrowth occurs very fast, with more ingrown hairs and redness! There are a lot of options for home waxing nowadays as well, which are quick easy and relatively low-pain! I've just started using the Veet EasyWax system which is really great and fast.

Joanna Goddard said...

these comments are so eye-opening (and some are making me laugh out loud). i love you guys. and the wanda sykes video is hilarious—thanks, sarah!

Shayla LaFreniere said...

I've been waxing for over 15 years (I actually have an appointment with my girl today at 2pm) I've never shaved in between my waxes since I started. I get everything waxed! My underarms, arms and from Belly Button down to my toes. :)

For the Bikini I just get a regular deep bikini (basically a little landing strip is left). I have a skin condition that causes me to break out in hives when I shave (it's the way my hair grows back) so I had to start waxing but am so happy I did because I love it.

Yes it hurts but over time you adjust to the pain and it gets less painful as the hair grows back finer with each waxing. I highly recommend that you don't shave in between because that will affect the hair growth, it won't grow back as fine and therefore will hurt quite a bit each time and you results won't be as good.

BTW like your friend, I also hope to be able to time my waxing with giving birth when my husband and I get pregnant this year. :)

I'm also looking into laser hair removal so if anyone knows about that, I'm all ears. :)

Cristina said...

ah.. it's hurt just a little bit, let's say "the more you wax the less it hurts" beacuse the hairs tend to become thinner, weak and decrease in number.

inaina said...

are you only asking about a certain area? I tried to wax my legs once... one or two stripes, it hurt like hell... a couple of years later after I lost my memory I tried it again, again one or two stripes and then I remembered and turned to shaving again...
always thougt about going to a professional... but never made it... shaving is okay. (o:
ina

Shelby Wills said...

I have never waxed either! Don't feel bad :) I will be reading this responses with you, haha.

Brittany @ Pro-Soup Propaganda said...

I have only waxed once and usually use a razor but then have to deal with ingrowns and bumps. I just did my second round of laser hair removal and I am PSYCHED! After only two visits there is so much less hair than normal. I'm getting my underarms done, as well, and after those two visits they are almost completely hair-free! It's $175 per visit to do the laser hair removal and could potentially take 6-10 visits, but to not have to worry about hair removal for the rest of my life? SOLD.

Lexi said...

In VT it costs around $60 depending on where you go. I did it once and it hurt so bad that I haven't done it since!

Christy@SweetandSavoring said...

I like these confessional-type posts. But there's no option on the survey for "Used to, but gave it up". I used to get my eyebrows and upper lip waxed; now I just use tweezers. As for my nethers, I trim and *sometimes* shave. But like you, Joanna, my husband doesn't care and I've never felt any sort of pressure to change up my routine.

DiezPasteles said...

You are so insanely lucky never to have to wax. I look like I'm smuggling all manner of spiders if I don't. Ooof.

17 beats. said...

LOL i tried to get a wax at 39 weeks and the woman who usually takes care of me was like, "NO WAY ! GET OUT OF HERE !" she was petrified the pain from the waxing was going to induce labor and i'd give birth on the waxing table.

now that i have a little one, i don't have as much time for the maintenance, so i no longer do it.

Julia C. said...

I think she just means her significant other finds it attractive and that's a good thing. That doesn't seem so controversial to me!

laura_d_f said...

The idea of waxing is really scary to me. Plus, the finished result is kind of prepubescent little girl, which is because that's the last time I naturally looked that way. Also, I am unsure of why people would wax before giving birth. I am pretty sure doctors and nurses do not care whatsoever about hair down there when a woman is in labour.

Spencer and Michelle said...

I get waxed once in a while. Before summer or a tropical vacation when I'll be spending a lot of time in a bathing suit. I also got waxed at 39 weeks pregnant, but no so I'd look better. I friend of mine DIDN'T and she said when she was stitched up they stitched hair up as well. Very painful for her. TMI? After this post I didn't think it would be! I am very thankful I did. It made the self-care post-natal much easier I thought.

Marissa Williams said...

I do a brazilian every 4-6 weeks. The most annoying part is the growing in in-between visits. It's definitely less irritating than shaving and obviously lasts longer. The first time I ever considered waxing down there, I got the bright idea to do it myself, figuring I'd be more at ease in the comfort of my own home... Oh how wrong I was. After hours of torture and tears, I gave up, called a salon and made an appointment for the next day. The esthetician was done in 10 minutes (no joke) and it was a much better experience!

Liz Moran said...

My first wax felt like I was dying, but 7 years later the pain is almost nonexistent! I even do it myself about half the time. Honestly, waxing just irritates my skin less than shaving (weird, I know).

Also, my waxer said that in beauty school they had to practice on one another and he's had eeeeeverything waxed and the #1 most painful place to to have it done is...armpits! Who knew!

I dress myself said...

I am a crazy fanatic shaver. I shower morning and night and shave legs and elsewhere so frequently that I barely ever have any hair or stubble for that matter. I have tried waxing (Brazilian style) but it means to allow the hair to grow long enough that there is something to wax and I just can't do it. What I do works for me and it doesn't matter whether I'm in a relationship or not or if I'm in pants or skirts or bikinis, I just always do it for me.

Nata said...

Love this conversation! Too funny:). I'm a every 2-3 month waxer. But not brazilian! I don't even like to think how painful that would be, plus you've got to have a little something there....the hair does actually serve a medical purpose:). I like the middle ground. Not a classic bikini wax and not brazilian; I do a "french bikini". I pay about $40 and agree with other readers, who said, take some Advil first and you'll be fine. It's totally worth it. Razor burn from shaving is no fun!

Trout1 said...

Have never.. Can't understand why women are afraid to look like mature females...Hubby would be freaked out if I looked like an 8yo..

lauravaughn said...

I've gotten "sugaring" done before a couple of times, but I've never gotten waxed, so I can't really compare. All I can say is that - it HURTS! I moved and no one in my current city offers sugaring, and knowing that it is supposedly the less painful alternative to waxing, I just can't even bear the thought of getting waxed.

Christy said...

Giving birth was less painful.

bodhi said...

Laser is the way to go! I used to get horrible, painful and unsightly ingrown hairs after shaving & waxing. Laser has been incredible. It is a little expensive, but the results last months (eventually permanently) and I don't have to think about it anymore.

It hurts a little, but not nearly as badly as waxing, and you don't have the discomfort/itchiness of growing in after a wax. I usually take 2 advil before my appointments.

If you are in NYC - Stephanie Goldman is amazing. She is so nice and makes and , er, awkward situation much more normal. I don't know that name of her business, but her number is (917) 371-0398. Best decision I have made for myself.

Unknown said...

Despite being Brazilian (Ha!) I do not shave so often as my compatriots, it's been a long time since I've waxed for the last time. And yes, it hurts A LOT. But in Brazil people take waxing pretty serious and it's quite rare to find women who never wax. Lots of men (and women) think that women that don't wax are dirty, they consider waxing not only a beauty but a sanitary procedure, which smart women know is bullshit, there is nothing unclean in pubic hair :P Since I hate this sexist "no pubic hair" obligation that women has to live under, I refuse myself to cope with. I am moving to Finland next semester and I hope waxing is not so popular there haha

Emily said...

I wax, and purely for myself. I don't think it hurts all that much, and it can get expensive. I go through spurts where I'm really on top of it going every 6 weeks, and then I won't go at all. It's mostly a seasonal thing. I don't feel very cute in my bikini with razor burn. A wax makes sure no stray hairs are creeping out either.

Cláudia said...

In Europe almost all women do it, during the summer and winter and even when we are single. Better than wax, only if you can do the laser.

Blades only as a last resort. The results are quite different.

Our family said...

Never. Grew up in the midwest and don't think it's super common there. But have lived on the east coast for 6 years and that seems to be the only acceptable option. glad to know I'm actually in the majority!

Emily said...

What about when you are in a swimsuit? I don't know about you - but my pubic hair grows much wider than my bikini bottoms. I wax so that it doesn't show. And that is definitely for ME. I'd be horrified to walk around with a big old 80's bush peaking out.

Nicole said...

Yes! Love that someone else thinks about this, too!

L said...

I totally agree. I have referred the guy I am dating to that chapter of her book!!!! It is a MUST read for everyone, women and men alike!!!!!!

jule said...

well, like all (!) of my girl friends, I shave "down there", because I don't like to have hair coming out of my bikini bottoms, but I am a waxing virgin, too. Mostly because I think it is weird to have a stranger apply hot wax to your vagina in the backroom of some shop. I think I would have to get hammered before I dared to do this...;)

Alison Pearldiver said...

I got waxed for the first time for my honeymoon because we were going to be camping/swimming/hiking for 2 weeks and I would not have the opportunity to use a razor. Since then I have kept up with it and it does get easier (less hair). I now just do it myself and occasionally go to someone if I am pinched for time. No brazilian though, that just sounds like torture and it can be pretty uncomfortable when it grows back. I think of my waxing schedule as keeping tidy.

Sarah said...

I had a bikini area wax for my honeymoon and it was extremely painful. I almost left after having just one side done. I will never do that again! I don't know how women get it done regularly. Ouch!!

Erin said...

Love the feel of a wax - it does feel nice and tidy, and I do hate shaving. BUT, not living in NYC where there's affordable quick waxing, I find it too expensive and inconvenient to do regularly. Someday when the kids are older, I hope to be so much better groomed (this goes for SOOO many things, it's horrible!).

Alison Pearldiver said...

I also live in a beach town and it is real common out here to get waxed, since going to the beach and wearing a bikini is also pretty common. I also think it is a little weird to not have hair down there, if you know what I mean, after all I am not ashamed of being a woman.

Adi said...

Thank you for this comment! I have friends who worry about what their doctor will think, and I try to tell them that a doctor who studies female anatomy isn't going to be "grossed out" by the hair that's supposed to grow there! It's sad that this is something women have to worry about in our society.

Elsa said...

I find the thought of waxing yourself bare pretty nauseating. I mean, haven't we all gone through puberty? Why do women want their genitals to look like those of a five year old girl? I think there's something very dark about getting a full wax.
I understand that if you were swimming or on the beach, you wouldn't want any growth on show, and that's fine, but the whole thing? No thanks. I'm proud of the fact that I'm old enough to have pubic hair. And I hope that my boyfriend would too. I am a woman, not a little girl.

Inari said...

Considering I've always shaved it, since I can remember -- regardless of whether I was dating or not (I still thought boys were repulsive when I started), it's definitely for me. It just feels cleaner and much more comfortable. Especially in the summer time. I'm not really concerned with how it looks, but how it feels. To me, having everything all wild down there is just not comfortable.

Jane Bond said...

I was a monthly Brazilian waxer starting from when I was 18 til about 22 and then I discovered laser and it changed my world. I lasered everything except a landing strip and while I still have some hair there, it's so fine that I take care of it with a razor when I want to. I also have been waxing my eyebrows and upper lip since I was like 14. The hair is much finer now and while I used to have to go every 2 weeks, I know only go once a month. I'm also in the process of getting my underarms lasered. It's just nice to not have to think about it when I want to wear a bathing suit which in the summer is pretty often. :)

Mother of Style said...

I might wax if I had the time!

Jess said...

I've waxed myself (never again), paid to have others wax me (mortifying at first, but worth it once you get used to it) and eventually paid to have laser hair removal.

Marlene @ Jade and Fern said...

Ha, what a great post title to see in my Bloglovin' feed! I personally do not wax my lady parts, though I do use a standard trimmer (my boyfriend's) to keep things tidy. I like to have a clean grassland, as opposed to a tundra or a jungle. :) I do get my eyebrows waxed though.

Amy said...

Unfortunately for some of us, shaving creates all kinds of yucky problems (ingrowns, whiteheads, etc.) - sorry TMI but it's the reason I wax. I am always envious of girls who can shave but I just can't. Agree on having an excuse for not doing it while pregnant though :) I also am in the group that doesn't find bikini waxing to be very painful - obviously not enjoyable but easier than getting blood drawn or a shot. And about 1 million times less painful than eyebrow threading. Now that is TORTURE.

Whit said...

Yes to waxing! I don't do it enough but the full "Brazilian" makes everything so much tidier! I shave in between waxing but unfortunately get horrible ingrown hairs. Here in Dallas they've opened a new franchise called "The Pretty Kitty". It's pretty fantastic.

I read "How to be a Woman", I'm a huge fan of the book, however I also believe part of being a woman is recognizing what turns you on. I definitely feel sexier minus hair! To each her own!

Julia said...

proud to be a NATURAL woman! we were made with hair and thats the way it should be. What is with all this society-thinks-women-should-be-hairless-goddesses business? I am a young feminist trying to be empowered by my womanhood rather than be oppressed by the cultural feminine ideal. Women were getting along just fine with all their hair in all the right places until some men on madison avenue started telling us what we needed to look like. If women feel better keeping themselves primp and tidy, then great, but we shouldnt all feel like we have to if we don't want to. Plus...it's freak'in itchy down there when its growing back!

gshust said...

so funny. i posted on this very topic last week. i, too, was one of those crazy pregnant ladies getting waxed at 38 weeks!

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sciroli said...

Go full brazillian! Even if no one is going to be 'getting to know' that area, it is worth it. It is painful the first time, but the pain is very quick and does not last long! Then you are done for 4 weeks and dont have to worry about the terrible aftermath of shaving. Comes back in soft as well not itchy!

TIP: ask your waxer how long they book their appointments for. A good waxer books for 15 minutes! Mine is done in 10 minutes - done and on with the rest of your day! x

Rach said...

I got my first brazilian before our vacation to Mexico a few months ago and this article pretty much sums up my expierence. It is hilarious and such a fun yet informative read. Enjoy.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/2011/my-first-brazilian-wax-take-2/

Tracy S said...

I've never done it. I was born in another country where no one even shaves, I only started shaving when I started to live here in US (which was 20 yrs ago). But I've never taken to waxing, it's just not the type of thing I discuss with my friends, but now I'm curious and yet discouraged, after reading some painful experience. OUCH. I do want to try bikini wax though, but I know I'll sound stupid since I have no idea what that really entails.

Rach said...

I got my first brazilian before our vacation to Mexico a few months ago and this article pretty much sums up my expierence. It is hilarious and such a fun yet informative read. Enjoy.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/2011/my-first-brazilian-wax-take-2/

jm said...

Never have waxed! Ouch!

kel.bow said...

I have done both sugaring and waxing. While I see less ingrown hair with sugaring and no bruising, it takes much longer. Waxing is a few quick movements where sugaring covers a much smaller area and it feels like they go over the same area a couple times.

Mary said...

The first time I went, my best friend and I did shots in the day spa parking lot.... that helped.

Melissa said...

Nope I've never waxed. Seems too painful!

Kimberley Wenzel said...

I don't wax, but not because I can't stand the pain. I don't like paying for it! It's about $50+ every time and I just can't justify the expense when me and my husband are the only ones that see it. My husband doesn't care that I don't do full on brazilian since I do shave and trim. That maintenance enough protects me from any bathing suit issues and I save the money for manis/pedis/haircutes and other beautification treatments that more people see!

Devon said...

I had to start waxing at age 14 :/ I was a competitive swimmer and my dermatologist said if I kept shaving my sensitive skin, I'd have permanent scarring! I honestly don't think it's bad/painful at all (I'm saying this after being a 14 year veteran though!). Brazilians are great - especially if you have a talented and funny aesthetician!!

Patricia Paramo said...

I LOVE this post!!! I didn't know there were so many women out there that didn't do anything to it!!

All my friends to brazilian all the time...(I'm serious!) I've never done brazilian and probably never will.

I wax and it still hurts ALL the time. I'm saving up to do laser :)

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Clarissa Endo said...

Well, I'm brazilian and that's very common here. Once I started waxing my axillas, I started doing "there" also. But now, lasering is becoming even more popular than waxing, 'cause it's permanent and no one I know enjoys the waxing experience. Even if we are used to it, still hurts. It's a cultural thing, so I never heard anybody saying that won't do it, but it feels natural to us.
But I have a friend that is pretty radical about it, and can't stand the period beetwen waxing sessions. So she pluck them out! One by one! I couldn't believe when I heard it, but she said she prefers doing that than going natural in front of a guy.

Kara said...

Once you are over age 40, the sideburns start growing out of your pantylines and down your inner thighs. And I'm not even a hairy person! So, there's that.....
Waxing hurts a lot for exactly 5 seconds, and then the hair doesn't come back for 2 months or so. and the shaving bumps - ouch! So yes, I get waxed :)

Jasmine_W said...

I try to wax regularly rather than shaving because my skin/body hair responds better to waxing. It is certainly more expensive but for me its worth it. I started waxing about two years ago in college(for my own benefit)and believe it or not i did my own first Brazilian with a drugstore waxing kit!It was time consuming (hrs to do a proper wax)but worked at the time. Now i go to a professional salon which takes only 15 mins, so much quicker, ha! Pain was never really an issue but i am extremely ticklish down there, so i giggle during every waxing session.

I say do what makes YOU happy!

Silvia said...

I used to wax pretty regularly, but it gets very expensive and it hurts! So now I mainly rely on creams and shaving, although I suppose I may wax before vacations or other extended beach outings. I'd like to try lasering as well, but I just haven't gotten around to it yet.

For the other traumatized readers who saw women in bathing suits who hadn't trimmed, I'm definitely terrified of the whole swimsuit thing where the hair sticks out too! When I was in high school, I saw one of my teammates' hair sticking out and ever since then I religiously shave or wax before wearing a bathing suit!

Caitlin said...

I love Cup of Jo, read it all the time, but have never commented before--this post deserves a comment! If someone asked me about five personal habits that changed my life, brazillian waxing would certainly be on the list. It's wonderful! I know it sounds strange to hold waxing in such high regard, but I can't even express how much of a difference it makes. It gives you such a boost of confidence--a little secret that only you (or maybe a few others) know about. You feel cleaner, sleeker, slimmer, and sexier. You'll be amazed by how much cuter you think you are. I've converted so many of my friends and they all swear by it. I'll never go back to my no-waxing days. Go for it, Joanna!

lafemmebohemeblog said...

I used to get such terrible razor burn that I had to start waxing, and I tried to keep up with that for awhile, but it sure does get expensive, so I ordered my own waxing kit and have been waxing myself for years! The hard wax (I use GiGi) is actually very easy and works just as well as getting it done professionally. I think since I'd been waxed multiple times by someone else it was easier and less painful to start doing it myself. To get real personal, I used to do the Brazilian thing, but started feeling like I wanted to keep a little of my "womanly" hair, so I leave a little triangle on top (which is exactly the spot where it hurts most to wax, so its a very practical decision! haha) I am by no means militant about it, so I go through plenty of "hairy" phases as it grows in and I procrastinate, but with summer coming up and a beach trip scheduled every weekend that is probably about to change!

openrhoads.com said...

I was persuaded by some girlfriends to wax for the first time about 5 years ago. With trepidation (and a low threshold for pain) I went to "the best" waxer around. I, as many of the gals here have, popped 2 advil before, to dull the pain. 20 minutes later, I was bleeding in every hair follicle (thanks blood-thinning Ibprofen!), which later turned into scabs, which finally healed to reveal new hair growth. Terrible!

As you can imagine, I will never wax again. My (less gruesome) best friends are laser hair removal and an electric shaver (no bumps!).

simone antoniazzi said...

I was a regular bikini waxer (every 3 weeks) for years, I then had it done when I was about 5 weeks pregnant and didn't yet know & I'll nearly passed out from the pain, those pregnancy hormones definitely make a difference!!!

I didn't realise not waxing was so common though, here in London everyone gets it done. I'm talking just a normal bikini wax, you couldn't pay me to get a Brazilian or a Hollywood, way too painful - and I also want to look like a woman not a 10 yr old girl.

I do it for myself though, my husband has never really commented.

Interesting reading all the responses :)

Darren and Nikki said...

I have been getting waxed for years. I did a baby wax right before I had my scheduled c-section. You are much more sensitive so it hurt more but my OB told me to thank my waxer!

Moni O. said...

Yes! I agree.. maybe shaving is less painful in the moment, but when it gets irritated or the hair starts to grow, it's just uncomfortable and, personally, it kind of hurts a little.

I do wax, bikini, it does hurt.. but it's a 10 second pain.. and then you are set for weeks... for summer I am all pro waxing.

laurenfoode.com said...

ME TOO! i vividly remember being at a pool and noticing a woman with hair sticking out of her bathing suit and i thought it was totally bizarre.

now i get waxed every 3 to 4 weeks. if i shaved it would grow back by the end of the day (i know, super cute) and my skin is sensitive so it would be red bump city. one 10 minute trip to the wax lady and vamoose! gone. so easy and it just makes me feel fresher.

Emma said...

For those of us that have dark, coarse hair, shaving technically works but causes very sharp, dark stubble almost right away. That plus ingrowns = unhappy times.

Amber Marlow said...

My entire enchilada is smooth as a whistle, and so shall it remain (save for a little bit on the front part, for visual effect ONLY). My current boyfriend has no preference, and even when I was single, it was 100% for me.

lisacng @ expandng.com said...

I've waxed twice - once for my honeymoon and another for a summer vacation. It's not that expensive, but you really have to trust the person and hopefully the person has a lot of experience. I got my first at a spa, and she was great. She made sure to count before pulling off the wax strips and she applied pressure at the spot immediately after pulling off the paper (it helps to relieve the pain). I've gotten one at a salon/nail shop, and though we were behind a curtain, I'd rather have the privacy of a closed room in a spa place. As for shape, I like the Brazilian, no hair anywhere. Nevertheless, I don't have time for that anymore and just shave at home when I'm getting ready for a beach vacation. As long as no hairs are visible around the bathing suit, I don't need to be all cut. Plus, when it starts to grow back, the prickly hairs feel weird on the skin.

Winnie said...

Oh please! I wax for my own comfort and to feel more confident in a bathing suit.

If that's really how you feel, then don't shave your legs or your armpits, don't wear heels that elongate your legs, don't highlite your hair, don't wear any makeup, don't whiten your teeth, don't paint your nails. Because guess what? Men like those things.

What about women who are with men that prefer some hair? But they wax it off because they themselves prefer it bare?

It's about personal preference.

Amber Marlow said...

Oh, and yes, maintaining a Brazilian is really expensive. But it's my pussy. It's totally worth it.

Emma said...

I don't know anyone (myself included) who doesn't do some form of pubic hair removal.
So, you're unique! Go on with your bad self :)

Unknown said...

I have been waxed about five times but I much prefer laser hair removal.

Chelsea said...

My skin is too sensitive for shaving, so i waxed (not brazilian) either at home or in a salon for about 5 years before i got laser hair removal. 2 years later and i am so so happy that i did it!

lipstick and soda said...

that's not weird at all! i have had my legs, bikini area, armpits and upper lip waxed before, but currently, I only get the last two waxed. i guess it's different for everyone, but getting my legs waxed is the most painful thing ever for me! thanks for sharing!

Emma said...

I've been shaving my pubic hair since puberty because I prefer it smooth and hairless. Even if I was dating a guy who liked pubic hair, I'd continue to shave because that's how I prefer it. What I think is kind of anti-feminist is telling women who shave that they look like "little girls".

andra / fox lane blog said...

i am totally a waxer... unfortunately since moving from the usa to ecuador i had to stop so now i am a compulsive shaver and i really miss the convenience of waxing. i agree with your friend - i do it for myself! and it's a little painful but i always felt the small amount of pain was worth the fact that i was well groomed for about a month. oh - and personally, NOT into shapes! LOL.

Chelsea said...

My skin is too sensitive for shaving, so i waxed (not brazilian) either at home or in a salon for about 5 years before i got laser hair removal. 2 years later and i am so so happy that i did it!

Unknown said...

Putting baby powder on the area afterwards helps tremendously after shaving! At least for me. But unfortunately it does grow back super quickly.
I'd love to get waxed but I'm too much of a wimp, the though alone makes me want to cry.
Funnily enough the topic of hair or now hair has come up quite a few times in recent conversations amongst my friends and I was surprised to hear that the majority of guys were totally pro hair! Many said they want to see a woman not a little girl. As long as it's all a bit tidied up...

Gee + Vee said...

This makes me feel so great! I've never waxed either, and always wondered how many other women did. It's never been a thing I'm super comfortable with; wish I had the confidence that others do!

Debbie said...

Not true at all. I'm 50 and shave but don't really even have to very often. The older you get the less hair you have - at least in my case.

lovecourtxoxo.com said...

(I should preface this by saying I get brazilian waxes every 4-5 weeks) The first time I ever got waxed I went to a place that does normal, hot wax (what most places do). AND IT WAS SO PAINFUL. My palms were sweaty and I had to force myself to let the lady finish. I wanted to cry. After a few days, it STILL hurt. I vowed never to go again. About 6 months later, somehow I convinced myself to try it again (I love, love the results). This time I went to a spa that does "hard wax." It's a tad bit more expensive (sometimes), but leaps and bounds better. Now when I go, I don't even flinch. Seriously, It's not bad AT ALL! The reason is because it only attaches to the hair and not your skin. I suggest trying it just to see if you like it, but make sure they use a hard wax. You will thank me, i promise. :)

Court @ love court xoxo

Emma said...

Shaving/waxing your pubic hair wouldn't make you look like an 8 year old, though.
I don't know what you look like, but the youngest I look is maybe 25 on a good day. No way pubic hair removal takes that many years off or it'd be the latest anti-aging secret!

Amber Marlow said...

LOVE Caitlin Moran, TOTALLY disagree with her about this issue. I do absolutely do it "for myself". I do it even if no one sees it. Plus, if you saw me naked head on, you would have no idea that I actually have a Brazilian, because I leave the front part, and everything else 'round the bend gets waxed. I like the way it feels.

It's so easy to call a hairy woman a feminist, but those of us with porn star labia can be feminists, too, and I would never attempt to shame a woman for how she chose to keep her body, hairy, waxed, or whatever.

Elizacb said...

I usually only go to get waxed before a beach vacation. It hurts (!) but it's worth it to not have to worry about anything while I'm on vacation. I have been considering it the more pregnant I get, but that whole pain thing is a big deterrent.

Haley said...

I definitely wax, and lately I've been doing it myself since I moved to a pretty remote area and I don't trust the "spas" around here! I use the Bliss Poetic Waxing kit, and I can get about 4 waxes out of one kit, including under arms too. Prior to waxing I used to shave but you never really get rid of the hair. I think it may be a generational thing, since ALL of my girlfriends either wax or shave; none of us have ever really thought about just letting it go. I love the smoothness and the clean feeling, plus...everything looks way prettier down there without all that hair covering it up!

Emma said...

I think you're reading way too much into it. I've always preferred it bare because I'm not a big fan of body hair and like it smooth and silky. Nothing "dark" there. No worries about confusing myself with a 5 year old, as I'm about 5 or 6 times the size of the average 5 year old, not to mention the boobs, hips, c-section scar, etc.

SMS said...

I use an epilator for bikini area and under arms and love it. It's only painful the first time (quite painful, actually) when there's a lot to pull out, but now I do touch-ups regularly and it doesn't hurt at ALL. It's so much smoother than shaving and you don't need to do it as often. Highly recommend. I've also gotten a Brazillian a couple of times, to try it out and OMG - the pain. Plus, it left me bruised and sore for a week (I have sensitive skin) - once, right before a Hawaiian vacation. On the website of the waxing place I went to, they have a FAQ, and the answer to the question of "Does it hurt?" is "Does James Brown get down?" :)

megan said...

ALL the time, regardless of whether I'm dating... it just feels better to me and when you're dating, trust me it feels better ;)

JULIA said...

To all the women who have said something akin to the following:
"I'm not ashamed of being a woman"
"PROUD to be a WOMAN"
or something or other about not conforming to he ideals mean have laid out for us

You're being a bit closed-minded and judgmental, don't you think? Feminism is all about choice and recognizing what makes you feel sexy. For some of us that's every strand in its place, for others it's a tidy up and for someone like me it's every last dark and curly gone gone gone. And whether I do it without the intention of it being seen by anyone other than me, or whether I do it because it turns my husband on is my own choice to make. And my turned-on husband turns me on by proxy, so in the end, it's all for me, baby. Feeling sexy, however I choose to feel sexy, is how I celebrate my womanhood and femininity.

Joanna, I say give it a try if it's something you're thinking about! Go for a full Brazilian, but leave a generous landing strip on top - that hair up there is the most deep-rooted, and so it hurts the most. The labia and sides really aren't that bad, and the butt hole (I can't believe I just typed that) doesn't hurt ONE BIT (and IMO, is the best result - so clean!).

I hope you report back if/when you try!

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Katie Peterson said...

I have the whole shebang waxed regularly. It's definitely for myself, but my guy likes it too! It hurt quite a lot the first time (unbelievable was the word I used), but since then it has not been too bad. For one thing, it's over very quickly and my, em, waxer lady (what to call her?) is very good. I find shaving daily to be much more painful because of the irritation to my skin and hair folicles.

aa31b8d4-3390-11e0-b088-000bcdcb471e said...

I love getting waxed-- it's super awkward but the smoothness and long lastingness can't be beat. I get crazy ingrowns if I shave and both my boyfriend and I prefer it bare-ish down there. It cuts down on sweat/irritation down there especially in the summer and when I'm working out and he just likes being able to find the target more easily lol. It's pricey but I've found a small place on 7th ave south that does it for 1/2 price of other places in the city plus it's clean, convenient, and no appt. necessary.

Doody Mac said...

SO good!!! Hahahahaa.

Sarah said...

Waxing was so painful and left me with such terrible bumps/inflammation/ingrowns, that I just dreaded the aftermath. I found a groupon for laser hair removal (sounds sketchy, I know) but figured it was worth a shot. SO RIDICULOUSLY GLAD that I did it. 6 semi-painful (not nearly as bad as the waxing itself though!) treatments later, and I never have to think about it again. Again, so glad I did it!

Fernanda Abreu said...

LOL :) I´m brazilian so you can imagine that I wax. Everybody does, or at least use the trim and rasor thing. No one does what you people call "the brazilian" thing. Brazilian women in general thinks that it is weirds to look like a young kid, but this is such a personal issue. I don´t think it´s painfull at all and it´s really cheap. I pay something like U$ 15-20, in a very good place.

Doody Mac said...

LUCKY!!

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