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Thursday, March 07, 2013

Nora Ephron, as remembered by her son

This week the New York Times ran a brave and beautiful remembrance of Nora Ephron by her son Jacob Bernstein. It must have been really hard to write. One wonderful passage–of many—was...

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Another thing she requested was a pineapple milkshake, so Max brought one from Emack and Bolio’s, made from fresh pineapple. But as far as my mother was concerned, a milkshake is one thing that’s actually better with crushed pineapple. Dole.

“When I get out of the hospital, I’m going to go home and I’m going to make a pineapple milkshake with crushed pineapple, pineapple juice and vanilla ice cream, and I’m going to drink it and I’m going to die,” she said, savoring the last word. “It’s going to be great.”

On this day, I told her some things. After she moved to her bed, I said that sometimes, I thought of the possibility of her not being around and wondered if I’d ever be able to write again. If I’d even want to. And she told me that I would, that I would find it within me, and that whatever happened, she hoped my brother and I would lead the kind of lives where we did stuff big enough to occasionally say, “Wow, I wish Mom was around for this.”

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Read Jacob's full story here. It's really beautiful.
(Top photos by Elena Seibert; bottom photo of Nora with her sons—Jacob on the left—via the New York Times)

51 comments:

Kylie said...

Isn't this amazing? I read it yesterday over breakfast and pondered how wonderfully personal the piece was the rest of the day. I just watched PBS' Special, "Makers: Women Who Make America" this week, and Nora is featured a few times; what a special person she was.

anne taylor said...

I miss Nora Ephron all the time. Just the other day, the PBS documentary Makers featured an interview with her, and I still can't believe she is gone. She was such a light in this world, and her creativity and artistry are things that this world will cherish for generations. I know I will make my kids watch her movies, and that they'll love them. I can imagine me and my daughter watching You've Got Mail together, like I did with my mom when it first came out. And they'll be like, "Why is the internet so slow in that movie?" haha.

Can't wait to read this article. I've been putting off reading Ephron's books because I don't want to run out of her words. As a writer, she still inspires me daily with her charm and wit and vivacity for life.

And now I have to try a pineapple shake. :) Thanks for sharing.

Mollie @ Jennings Brae Bank Farm said...

Thanks for sharing this. I've been meaning to read some of her books, and this kind of tribute is the push I needed.

Lejla said...

Beautiful piece...

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That Girl Shelley said...

That was such a beautiful article for such an amazing person. I love ' ...and I would lead the kind of lives where we did stuff big enough to occasionally say, “Wow, I wish Mom was around for this.” Beautiful!

gina said...

wow, such a gorgeous piece and lovely tribute to his mother.

Manda said...

Beautiful.



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Erika said...

I just read that entire article and it is very beautiful, and inspiring. She seems like such an interesting lady - someone you wish you had the chance to sit next to at a dinner party.

alice in nomansland said...

My mother and I often speak about Nora Ephron as if she were a friend of our family that passed--so much so that my (new) husband was convinced that we knew were. This piece is lovely and I hope I can pay my mother such a lovely tribute when that moment comes.

Kate Sullivan Corpuz said...

I read the article last night & I was so touched. She is missed!

tragicsandwich said...

"And she told me that I would, that I would find it within me, and that whatever happened, she hoped my brother and I would lead the kind of lives where we did stuff big enough to occasionally say, “Wow, I wish Mom was around for this.” "

I don't know about Nora Ephron's sons, but I feel that way about my mom every day, whether the stuff is big or small. What a lovely tribute.

Found-Food said...

I'm crying now.

theconstantwayfarer.com said...

Oh man...totally sobbing at my desk. So beautiful!

H said...

This is beautiful. Thank you Joanna, I would have never read the article if you hadn't mentioned it.

Lisette said...

I love how mothers dream big for their children. I know my mother is my greatest cheerleader in life.

Sandy at You May Be Wandering said...

Crying as I read this.....thanks for sharing, Joanna...

brittney elizabeth said...

amazing. i love this: "she hoped my brother and I would lead the kind of lives where we did stuff big enough to occasionally say, 'Wow, I wish Mom was around for this.'" love this so much.

Love me if ya dare said...

Such a wonderful piece!

Tina said...

I read it this morning. She is a gem! I can't help but wonder how he must wish she could read it.

Jesse said...

of course i know the outcome, but the whole time i was reading this article, i kept thinking, "she's going to make it, she's going to make it, she has so much more to do."

emily said...

What a beautiful passage. I have lost several family members this year and I fully understand the "wow, I with mum was around for this" feeling.

-Emily

CHEVRON and GEOMETRICS said...

Wow. This is so incredible. All of it. Nora Ephron was a true, beautiful inspiration. x

little lady said...

Well I just weeped all over my keyboard. I immediately sent this to my mother as Nora was (and still remains) our favorite. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful article that is so perfectly titled.

Erin said...

I so admire how beautifully this piece is written. It reminds me so much of watching my own intimidating, brilliant, beautiful, creative mother pass a few years back. Well sung, Son.

Brandy said...

"Whatever happened, she hoped my brother and I would lead the kind of lives where we did stuff big enough to occasionally say, “Wow, I wish Mom was around for this.”"

Yesterday when I read this, I sent that quote directly to my mom! So very true, and such a different, more beautiful way to look at it.

Fancy Nancy said...

Thank you for telling us about this article, as the mother of 2 sons It touched my heart.

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Bea said...

Oh this is so moving, what a beautifully written tribute. My heart hurts!

It's International Women's Day today in Australia and Nora Ephron was one of those women I'll always look up to, admire and be inspired by. She was amazing.

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sumslay said...

Wonderful article. Thank you for sharing!

QueenB said...

im crying at my desk. ahhh. thanks for sharing

Shelly said...

That article was great , thanks for sharing it.

Tish said...

That made me cry. Oh moms...

justabitreally.com said...

thanks for sharing. so moving and a wonderful tribute to all moms, especially nora. xx

Catherine Masi said...

Equal parts lovely and cool, that woman. And, from what I've read she was also genuine and very kind. What a touching and life affirming perspective on her as a mother and as a human. Thank you for sharing, Joanna.

jm said...

Lovely.

Alina said...

Thanks for sharing. That really was a lovely article.

Design Scouting said...

I just sobbed my way through that article. So heartbreakingly honest.

blancapate.com said...

I have a lump in my throat just reading through that article. Thanks so much for linking us to it! I lost my mother-in-law to cancer just last year - she was 54 years old. And those last days in the hospital, waiting for death, are the worst and longest days of all time. But they are some you will never forget. I love how Ephron's son captured that time so eloquently. xo

JeanneW said...

For Nora fans: Her sister, Hallie, just wrote an essay for Oprah magazine. http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Nora-Ephrons-Mother-Hallie-Ephron-Essay

Edie Tobias said...

I adored her and miss her. Thanks for sharing this lovely tribute. Made me cry, but in a good way.

Lynford Rozario said...

Lovely...:)
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Daphné said...

Thanks for sharing Joanna. Actually made me cry. Beautiful, beautiful piece. And beautiful, beautiful woman for sure.

Jack Andrew said...

This the great way to express feeling and give tribute to MOM!

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Sandra Carson said...

Lovely...:)
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Jaime @ La vie...J'aime said...

I saw him on the Today Show and it was a great segment. Look forward to reading.

aa31b8d4-3390-11e0-b088-000bcdcb471e said...

This is beautiful. I also can't believe I've never made a milkshake this way. Duh/Yum!

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Lotta i USA said...

Love Nora !


Thanks for sharing.

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Thank you for sharing this was. The above passage quoted was beautiful.

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