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Monday, January 28, 2013

Motherhood Mondays: Potty training

Last week, we tackled potty training. Toby was a champ, but it was intense. Here's my diary, if you're interested (and I'd LOVE to hear your experiences)...

Saturday:
We went cold turkey. No more diapers. He was happy to sit on the potty, but wouldn't actually pee in it. Tons of accidents. In the evening, he peed on my lap and dissolved into hysterical laughter.

Sunday:
Stayed home naked. Hilariously classic reversion, poor thing. Kept saying, “I’m a baby! I’m sleepy! Waah waah!” Cried when we asked him to sit on potty. We were wondering if this would work out.

Monday:
Miracle! Woke up and was happy to pee! He would announce, “I pee on potty,” then walk over, sit down, pee, get up and resume playing. Alex and I gave each other a secret high five! A couple accidents, but overall a great day.

Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday:
Ups and downs. Some accidents, some resistance, some successes. We had him wear pants but no underwear, so he'd realize he wasn't in a diaper. Told me earnestly that he missed his diapers, which was kind of heartbreaking.

Friday:
Now, finally, he's reliably peeing when prompted. Instead of expecting him to initiate, we decided to have "potty time" every 90 minutes or so. We treat it like a normal part of his daily routine, just like lunchtime or nap time. Seems to be working so far!

Two tips from this website that surprised me: Instead of saying "pull down your pants," it's easier for your toddler to understand if you say "push down your pants." And if your child has an accident, don't say "It's okay," since that sounds as if you're granting permission; instead, just calmly say, "Oops! Remember, pee goes in the potty, not on the sofa."

How has it gone for you? Any funny/crazy/embarrassing moments? I'd love to hear. (One reader said she motivated her daughter with Lindt chocolate truffles!)
Toby wears Honest training pants for naps and bedtime, and we're going to have him start wearing Thomas the Tank Engine underwear—instead of going commando—for the rest of the day. (I've heard that swim diapers also work well for those first few tricky weeks, since they feel like underwear but are absorbant.)

P.S. Those little legs!!!

Of course, we're thrilled that it's working...
...but I'll secretly miss these anchor diapers:)

(This post is sponsored by The Honest Company, whose mission I adore, and whose diapers, training pants, wipes, lotion, shampoo, soap and many other awesome products we use for our family. In honor of all things baby, they're offering free shipping with the code JoFreeShip3, until February 11th)

165 comments:

rhubarbandlinen said...

Just curious, how old is Toby? I've heard 18 months is the "right age" while others say to wait until 2 or 3. My daughter is almost 17 months, so I'm starting to plan ahead! Thanks!

Inari said...

My nephew was motivated by cutting out colorful shapes from construction paper and floating them in the potty as targets. Every time he hit a target there'd be a big house-wide celebration in his honor.

Cherry Blossoms said...

Wonderful to read. My daughter turned 2 in Dec and is now showing interest.We bought her a pink potty that she has used 3 times. I am not forcing anything on her, just taking her lead. I plan on hitting it up hardcore though this summer. My fingers are crossed that it will only take a few days-to a week like you stated here.

Julie said...

Those chubby legs are killing me! That's a great tip about not "granting permission"...I'll have to file that one away for the future!

Eleanor Rae said...

Oh well those Thomas undies are just the coolest ever! Good luck Toby! xxx

maggie, mama said...

This is so helpful and encouraging! My son is two-and-a-half and we're thinking of starting in the next couple weeks. Did you talk it up before starting, or did you jump to cold turkey?

Erin Fallon said...

I was potty trained by my great grandmother... she bribed me with frilly panties that had ruffles on the bum. I was a girlie girl so it totally worked - and started a life long obsession with lingere... hmmmm

jm said...

Toby looks ridiculously cute in those Thomas pants!

sumslay said...

That's so cute! Love the comments so far as well.

My niece was potty training at a year old (diapers are expensive!), and essentially anytime she said she had to go, my sister would take her to the potty (even if she was tricking). I remember one time in particular when we were driving the two hours to my parents house. She said potty, and we pulled that car over, pulled out the little potty and she went on the side of the road. Hahaha!

I haven't asked my parents, but I think I was probably 3, and my mom said I begged for diapers for a loooong time afterwards. I'm lazy, what can I say. ;) Hopefully he won't regress too much when numbero dos comes and diapers are back in the house.:\

thewednesdaychef.com said...

Oh my goodness, his sweet little legs!! I could eat him up. Love the photo of him standing at the coffee table, like he's 35 and at a bar. :)

Belle on Heels said...

My mom potty trained me using sweet treats too. She said she knew I was trained when I would go to the bathroom and then head into the kitchen and get the treats for myself. In hindsight I guess that their approach was kind of like training a puppy, which is a little weird, but it worked :)

Alexa said...

hooray, toby!

love those baby legs :)

Joanna Goddard said...

it's so much like training a puppy, haha, including them peeing all over the sofa :)

Joanna Goddard said...

sumslay, yes, i've heard kids sometimes regress when the new baby comes. hopefully he'll be so used to the potty at that point that it will be okay (we still have five months, thank goodness.) and that's so cute about peeing on the side of the road! i'm sure parents will do anything to keep it up, haha.

Joanna Goddard said...

meggie, we started talking it up a few days ahead of time. alex kept telling him that they were going to have a "potty party," and that he'd get to have lots of juice (we never really give him juice, so he was psyched).

gc said...

Congratulations, Toby! Just curious as a mom of a 2.5 year old daughter August (who is a couple weeks younger than Toby), how's it going with poopoo? And nighttime? Do you take on nighttime diapers as a whole separate thing or everything all at once? My daughter is showing ZERO interest...and it was interesting: I asked her daycare/preschool about it, and they said they actually thought she was not physically ready yet. Her brain isn't quite yet able to signal to herself to HOLD it and also to communicate before (and not during or after) peeing and pooping.

So we've been holding off and not pushing it at all.

Anyway since you are pregnant, it's probably great timing to tackle this now as opposed to later when a new baby can be a tough transition for the older sibling. Bravo to all of you!
Ginny

Joanna Goddard said...

rhubarbandlinen, he's about 2 years and 8 months. so i think he's on the older end for potty training, although it probably depends on each individual child. we were going to start a bit earlier but figured it would be best to have him in diapers over christmas vacation (airplanes, taxis, etc.)

Sharon Beesley said...

oh wow--so cute!!!

Joanna Goddard said...

ginny, that's so fascinating! i think every child is so different. he hasn't pooped in the potty yet; i heard that's a MUCH harder step for kids since it seems scary. alex asked him if he wanted to, and he actually said, "daddy, i scared." which was so sweet and sort of sad! so he's been pooping overnight in his diaper/training pants. and we are still having him wear diapers/training pants at night and will tackle that down the road. ps this might be the most TMI comment i've ever written:)

Kerry said...

Wow, good timing. We are starting this week with our little dude, as well.

Those photos are just the best. Cute little baby boy.

Stephanie said...

Oh I adore little toddler bums and legs in undies! I have twin girls, so I know you'll find our venture entertaining...long story short, after one week of intense potty training, one of mine is fully potty trained (except at night) and the other is back in diapers full time and 100% opposed to going near the potty! A hysterical reminder that all kids (even twins) are so different and sometimes we are on their clock!! ;)

maggie, mama said...

Haha! Love this plan. I'm on it!

Meryl & Russell McLendon said...

GREAT job!! For y'all and Toby. I offer this tip, and only because no one really emphasized this one for me, and I learned the hard way. Whenever you are out and about, make sure to locate a bathroom or show him where a bathroom is. We were at a playdate and my sweet girl, four months strong into potty training, scuttled over and peed in a corner of my friend's living room... which made sense to her, as we tucked an emergency baby toilet in the corner of our living room. All she could say, bless her heart, was "where was the potty??" I felt awfully bad. Live and learn. =)

tpanddz said...

We did Hand Checks ( a la dr Harvey Karp) as a reward which Worked for our daughter. ( and much easier than the sticker method as I could never seem to find the stickers!

Unknown said...

sweet baby legs. just a quick thing i learned that no one really told me about. some of the little toddler underwear is really uncomfortable. hanna andersson makes underwear without exposed elastic. it's also slightly thicker and is called training underwear. it's pricier than what you might pay for a pack of those thomas underpants but it won't rub their legs and the waist part doesn't irritate them. we waited till my son was around toby's age. it sounds like you guys are doing all the smartest things-not putting any judgment or emotion in the potty training makes it easier, in my opinion. my son was around toby's age when we trained him. we were very business like always regarding the toileting. he never held his poop, rarely had accidents beyond the first week or so, and seems very well adjusted regarding pooping and peeing. if i had to do it again, i'd do the same things you are doing. good luck.

Julia from Dozen Flours said...

So it's been a long time since I potty trained my son (he turned 17 last week!) but it was such a big deal I still remember it like it was yesterday. Here are the highlights I remember:

- I would put two or three Cherrios into the bowl and let him play target practice by peeing on them. He LOVED this.

- When he would have accidents I wouldn't change him right away. It sounds so mean but I'm make him wait so he could be uncomfortable and understand the consequences for not using the potty. He was very stubborn and would refuse to go sometimes. This worked great for getting him to go more often. He hated being wet and would walk around like a bow-legged cowboy.

- Going number two took a while. He would cry and carry on but after talking to him about why he wouldn't go "poop-poop in the potty" he finally confided in me. He was actually afraid that monsters were going to bite him on his bum if he went number two (no idea where this came from). So I took a little spray bottle, drew a picture of a monster and then put a big red "X" over it and filled it with water. When he had to go number two it was his job to "spray the monsters" away before he went to the potty.... literally he'd spray right into the bowl and we'd chant "NO AWAY MONSTERS" and he felt safer! Once we did that, he was good to go (literally!). Anti-monster spray worked great for other applications too. ;)

- I'd also make it a big deal when he used the potty. We'd sing songs and I'd hug and kiss him and give stickers and sometimes a Skittle or an M&M as a reward. I mean I made sure everyone knew how proud I was.. even if we were outside of the house. It was a BIG deal! However, when he'd have an accident I wouldn't get mad but I would not show any emotion either... and he knew I wasn't happy.

Good luck -- it's such a big milestone!

NikoTush said...

The Poopsmith song by Over the Rhine is a fun soundtrack for potty training. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZWoxVr05mk

jasmine said...

oh goodness, toby is so ridiculously cute. like everyone else, i love, love those chubby toddler legs.

watch out with those swim diapers... they hold in solids but not liquids (the reason they're great for swimming is that they don't absorb and swell up like regular diapers.) not awesome for your couch or carpet :)

jasmine said...

oh wait, maybe cloth swim diapers WOULD be okay -but the disposable ones wouldn't...

jennygen said...

AGHHHH he is SO CUTE! Those legs! Great tip on "push" down the pants!

wanderlynn said...

I'm so encouraged by this! My little guy and I tried to tackle potty training a few months ago. His daddy was deployed and I was hoping it would be a pretty straightforward. Then his bottom molars started coming in just was we began and neither one of us had the emotional strength to stick to it. We have decided to hold off until a couple of months after his little brother is born (any day!) to try again. I must find those Thomas undies in the meantime!

Vivian said...

Toby is absolutely adorable! However I couldn't help thinking of his reaction when he's about 20 and he discovers his potty training saga complete with photos online! :-). My kids would have killed me!! It's amazing the things I thought (and still think) were just too cute and my kids are appalled by them. Just a thought I wanted to share.......

Shoko said...

this is so exciting! way to go, toby! you're doing great! :)

monica mulhern said...

My son, resisted potty training with a passion and a friend who teaches handicap adults told me to find his motivation. My son was two so we motivated him with little cars from the movie CARS, he carried a picture of the car all day and at the end of the day he got the little car for going pee in the potty...it worked specially well for number 2's...he got a Cars Mack truck for going number two in the potty all week and for the whole week we pasted the picture of the bribe next to his potty, worked like a charm specially after trying food coloring in the toilet, cheerios to pee on and m&m's as treats which didn't work. Great job Toby and might I say those are super cute undies, you should check out H&M undies for kids, super cute and comfy.

rach said...

Oh it always kills me when they stand on their tip toes!!! So cute!

Glad potty training is going well, I've got another year before I tackle this but I'll kept the tips in mind

Rebeka said...

I don't have any kids but I was a nanny for the sweetest girl for about 5 years. She resisted potty training like nobody's business. I would take her to the bathroom to potty every hour or so, even though she said she didn't have to go. She would sit there, not go, walk out into the livingroom and within 5 minutes have an accident. Finally after about 2 months she wasn't having accidents anymore. Right after that I think she realized her mom was pregnant again (they had told her before but I think when she started showing that's when the little girl really started to understand), and she totally regressed. Ohhhh it was such a nightmare. I hope this all goes better for you. It already sounds like it is (minus the whole peeing on you thing haha). Good luck! I'm sending you and toby lots of positive potty thoughts.

Lady Grey said...

Sounds like a great method... I have to remember it for when my little guy is older.
xo
(ps who knew potty training photos could look so beautiful!)

leah f said...

adorable photos! i have been really slowly introducing potty training to my little one. she is only 19 months, and i think that is kind of young, but she has a potty in the bathroom, some training pants, and some undies, and eventually we will get there.

one tip i heard that has worked for a few of my friends is to wake them up about two hours after they go to bed, let them use the potty - then back to bed. everyone i know who has tried it says they wake up accident free.

it sounds like things are going good - congrats!

Nancy Cavillones said...

We are still working on going #2 in the potty over here but my 2.5 year old started going to school in underwear last week, with the blessing of her teachers. She has the same Thomas underwear, which she picked out! I'm having a baby in August, so it would be nice to have her completely trained by then! Go, Toby!

Nancy Cavillones said...

yes, we do this! I used to put my sleeping daughter on the potty before I went to sleep, and now she wakes herself up to pee in the middle of the night. (She's 4.5)

Laura Connelly said...

My dad tells me that when I was being potty-trained, he would leave dimes on the window sill "from the birds" who had knew when I had used the potty!

Catherine said...

Fantastic work, all three of you! Toby is such a heartbreaker. What a gorgeous little boy. I went cold turkey with my two, in summertime. Both my girls were really great, but I do believe a lot of it is luck too. And I have heard girls are easier, but how would I know when I have girls. A mattress protector is a must.

I totally agree with the legs too. My youngest is almost 4 and I will certainly miss her squishy little thighs when she starts to elongate.

Laura Connelly said...

*who knew! oops!

Nantucket Daffodil said...

Glad things are going well! In the side profile picture....he looks JUST like you :)

Lynn said...

Omigosh. The picture with him at the coffee table, legs crossed giving you that cool hipster look, adoooorable.

Patty said...

Those legs! One could publish a book of pictures full of squishy chubby baby legs.

Ashley@MarriedLane said...

Well, we had success until a trip to the hospital for a swallowed quarter set us back (she had asked to wear a diaper that day anyway, and it ended up being more convenient for our overnight hospital stay anyway). She's back to normal now, after having the quarter surgically removed from her throat through her mouth, poor thing! I showed her the photo of Toby and said "Look, he's a big boy and he gets to wear big boy undies!" She was not amused. Worth a shot! :)

Chelsea MacMeekin said...

Honest is seriously an amazing company! I was relieved when they launched right before our little peanut was born. We couldn't be happier with them and I'm a little sad for the day that we no longer than those anchor diapers.

Chelsea
Haute Child in the City

Kara Workman said...

wow - good job on tackling so much in a week! go toby!!!

xx, kara

myheartscontentblog.com said...

We've just done our little boy. He was totally clean by his third birthday (although he still wears a nappy at night). The thing that worked for us was apps...if he pooed in his potty, he got a (free) new app. Within two days we were there!!!

catwing said...

My son has the same undies! I love it so cute. Anyways, he is at the same step as Toby. We have been daytime diaper free for one full week and are putting him diapers for nap and bedtime. This past weekend both days during nap time we went into check on him and found him totally naked. As we entered the room he announced "I peed crib!" Awesome! The second day we even dressed him in his sleepsack and footie jammies and he still houdini-ed his way out! I'm taking it as a positive sign- he no longer wants to sit in pee- although it's meant a lot of laundry for us!

laurenfoode.com said...

Those legs! That relevé! A born dancer, if I may be so bold.

officiallyobsessed.net said...

Congratulations on all the progress so far! My girl Zoe's 18 months, so we're about a year behind you, which means I bookmark all child development posts (including the super-helpful advice in the comments) like this for reading again in the next year.

She's been indicating to us lately when she has pooped, which I've heard is the first step (of, like, 492) towards potty-training -- while I'm not necessarily looking forward to the process, I can't wait for the utopia that will be never having to change one of her diapers again!!

Bookgirlbklyn said...

Once our son mastered the little potty (which we did with a healthy dose of M&M bribery), we would put Cheerios in the toilet and have him take aim at the target. He looooved target practice!

Maria said...

Ha I can't believe that your son has exactly the same legs as my daughter! She is 2.5 years old and was potty trained more than two months ago. However she will still not tell me when she needs to go so I have to remember to take her often enough. Our problem is poo poo... she happily does it in her pants and once done runs to me and says proudly "mama I need the loo" like I've told her to do. I'm trying to explain to her that she must say it before the poo not after but so far with no luck ;-)

Hip-baby Mama said...

We are up and down, too! L.E. will be three in March. She'll pee when we put her on the potty but won't go on her own. She cries when we say, "Time to go on the potty!" I still will put her on and she's happy when she's done. It's a process!

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KKat79 said...

Congratulations! This is very similar to how we did our little guy at 22 months, very trauma-free and he was great after the first week. I can count the accidents (pee or poop) on one hand. Actually, one time he did whip it out and start peeing on the kitchen floor while looking at me with a defiant look after he had been trained for 6 months or so, it took everything I had not to show my dismay (he would have realized what a powerful weapon he wielded!) and we just cleaned it up and told him that that wasn't a good thing to do. Must have handled it ok because he never did it again!

lisacng @ expandng.com said...

I'm so glad you're having a pretty easy transition. How sad it was when he said he missed his diapers though. Aw. Your post inspires me to get to potty training our 2 yo and purchase some training pants and undies. How cute is Toby!

Sarah said...

Thank you so much for the resource and to share your experience. My husband and I decided just this morning that we are going to attempt potty training over President's Day Weekend next month and I am doing research now in anticipation!

Judy said...

I'm curious how you think Toby will feel when he gets a bit older and sees these photos on the Internet. A simple google image search of his name shows a multitude of baby pictures and soon these will be part of that. They're nothing to be ashamed of, but I definitely wouldn't want my potty-training photos out for anyone to see.

melissa said...

he is so sweet! my guy is about there, too. i'm nervous for all of the accidents--did that stress you out? thanks for sharing!

Sherry said...

I agree. We watched five nieces wear night time diapers and decided we wouldn't go down that road with our son. We went cold turkey before he turned three and never looked back. He is a light sleeper but there were many night time accidents over the course of two weeks. But after that initial period, he wakes up and goes on his own, no accidents.

In the Marginalia said...

I babysat for a family who had a little boy who would NOT wear underwear, at all. He was potty trained and wore pull ups through the night sometimes, but he refused to wear underwear!! He is in kinder this year, and they finally got him to wear underwear by saying you HAVE to wear them in school. The dad also got him to wear them on their trip to Hawaii by saying he couldn't go unless he put some on to be on the plane (so they didn't have a messy accident in the air), but other than that, he hated the way they felt. It just seemed normal for him and honestly didn't cause many problems. Hope Toby learns to like them! :) Most men seem to have a thing for being naked though. haha I'm pretty sure my hubby would be naked all the time if that was appropriate.

-Lexy

Nicole @ GF Shoestring said...

To anyone who mentioned bribes - hear hear! It's the one and only time I bribed each of my 3 children for "good" behavior. Never with food though, since I'm nutso about food=love (thanks, Mom). But with totally cheap trinkets (my son was all over Matchbox cars). Now, years later, all 3 of my kids have bits & pieces of potty training trinket memories and think it's downright hysterical. And so do I. No harm done!

A.Kelley said...

Glad you were able to tackle potty training, but I must ask if you have thought through the fact that you are posting photos of your son in his skivvies in order to make money. Do you wonder how he'll feel about that when he is 17? Do you think it is fair? Seems a little exploitative to me - and I wonder whether I would appreciate my parents doing this to me. Remember, the internet is written in ink.

paper friday said...

We read some lovely 'potty' books with my little one before the big day and he really enjoyed those and gave him a reference point. And he really liked the idea of 'big boy pants' too, I took him shopping where he chose his own

Sarah Stone said...

my daughter is a month younger than toby, and I feel like we've been potty training for everrrrrr. She got a potty for christmas and we've been talking about using the potty ever since. I think it was just in the past week or two that she really seemed to get it, 18 months seems too young for most children to figure it all out. Maybe we just need to tear to potty training band aid off, and do the naked thing like you did! Glad yo hear you're having such success!

Sara said...

great sequence, and I love the juxtaposition of thomas the tank engine and Ib Kofod Larsen curved wood chair..that's real mid century modern.

Alyssa said...

Congratulations! What a milestone. Is reversion a British term? I more familiar with the time regression http://tinyurl.com/back7a5.

Darina Daniella said...

Oooooh! So freaking cute! I love his little chubby thighs. And I love how he's standing with one foot over the other. Good job, Joanna- keep it up. I think it's great how relaxed about it you are.

samantha hahn said...

Oh yay sir Tobelot. Congrats on all of your progress in such a short time.

kater said...

The little girl I have been babysitting since she was 4 months is on the later end of potty training--the school she is at now wanted her to (she just turned two in October) and it was interesting! After a week or so her parents seemed to have problems getting her to use the potty, but with me and the other babysitter she was 100% fine! She would even tell us she had to go and off to the potty! But with mom and dad it was like she was less self-conscious or something! She also started really hating the diaper, so that made things a little easier.

Elisabeth said...

About this... I haven't had kids myself, but I used to watch my friend's son from time to time, who is about 3 1/2. My friend was told by one of the University childcare people that little kids are often afraid because they think they're losing part of their body (like their ear just fell in the toilet or something). Anyway, I thought it was really interesting. My friend and her husband talked to their son about pooping and also let him watch them go whenever he wanted to. Kind of funny one day, I was staying at their house and he announced that he would be watching me go to the bathroom! I wasn't quite sure what to say!

EvenAndy said...

Go Toby!! I am currently going through potty training with my middle child. She is definitely not cooperating most days. It has been easier with the cold weather because we have been staying indoors. Good Luck!

Hiệp Phát. VN said...

hey babay ^_^ iuiu

Anna said...

My son was the best when he was little! The poor kid was potty training over the weekend too :)
Congrats!!!

kati said...

THOSE LEGS. i'd leave him with no pants on every day, too cute :)

Kate said...

Our daughter potty-trained herself at 16 months. By then, she'd been walking for 8 months, which I do think helps. Now she's 25 months, and I keep expecting her to "forget" or "re-diaperize" (it's totally a word.) My son was NOT this easy to potty train, so I'm still a little unconvinced it was really this simple. Is it a girl thing? Maybe because we used cloth this time? I don't know, but I'm happy about it!

Julia [life on churchill] said...

So exciting! My little guy potty trained at 2 1/2, I thought girls were supposed to be easier but it took me 6 months and it is finally clicking for her at 3 1/2. For her I bought a notebook from the dollar store and some stickers. We took the notebook and stickers everywhere and she loved the incentive.

betsy said...

toby's little tush in those thomas undies is just too cute! we're potty training our almost two-year-old, and we've had many ups and downs. she had it mastered with no accidents for the first week then lost interest. we think she has it down now, though. yesterday, in the middle of my nephew's baptism, she said she had to go. when i brought her back into church, she turned around and announced to the entire pew behind her, "I GO POOPY ON THE POTTY!" :)

valerie said...

We totally went the bribe route when our son was almost two. In retrospect it seems absurd, but it worked and he totally got it. We made a potty chart and he got a sticker on the chart for every pee pee and a sticker and an m&m for every poo poo. I understand the anti-bribery campaign, especially when it comes to food, but we were also pretty casual about it, so I don't think we did any lasting damage ;)
The next week we upped the ante and said that if he could go a whole week with no diapers and no (or minimal) accidents, he could pick out a Thomas train. Poof! Instant potty learning. Like magic. At three and a half, he is one of only a few of his friends who never wears or asks for a diaper anymore, but he does occasionally wet the bed, which I'm pretty sure is normal. We are expecting a baby sister in a few weeks, so I'm holding my breath about potty regression. Even though he's been out of diapers for so long, I've been warned by friends that it's almost inevitable. We'll see!

Em said...

Sounds like things are going great. I think the other issue with popping is that they honestly don't know how to do it sitting down. Once he could stand, Henry almost always popped while kind of leaning on something. When we were potty training him it became clear that he just couldn't figure out how to transition to sitting down. So for a couple days we had him sorta squat instead of actually sit on the potty and that worked. Eventually he was able to do it sitting. :) BTW it is crazy how much Toby looks like you and Lucy now...I feel like more than when he was younger.

Rachel @ Existation said...

I know you're probably just focusing on the peeing thing at this point, but I nanny for two little boys, and I have one piece of advice: EVERYONE POOPS, by Taro Gomi. The younger of the two was having the hardest time learning to potty train, and then one day, on a whim, I bought that book and read it to him, and voila! The rest of that day and the next, it just kept getting easier and easier. I made it a point to ask him, "Are you like the baby in the book who goes to the bathroom in its diaper, or are you the big boy who sits on the potty and goes to the bathroom on it, and wears underwear?" He was insistent that he was the big boy and not the baby, and I think it really helped put things in perspective and strengthened his resolve. So yeah, just an idea! Good luck! =]

RR said...

Your son is adorable.

I've been trying really hard to not judge but I think it's inappropriate to put pictures of your son in his underwear on the 'net. There are a lot of creepy people. I'm a big believer in consent and as a minor child, he is not able to give his. Sorry but just something to think about.

Ellen said...

Glad it is going well! You guys are pretty positive, it seems, and that helps in potty training... nice to have a sense of humor!

I do feel quite badly for Toby, though, having his potty training story and PHOTOS all over the Internet. In his little underwear? Kids being techy as young as they are these days, you don't have too many years until he realizes this and if it had been me, I would have felt deeply betrayed. Worth a thought...

Michelle Vinson said...

Toby and my son are about the same age and we are working on potty training also. He is doing amazing at home and now goes without being reminded. I have not ventured out though . . . have you? What's your plan for the first day out in the real world without a diaper?!

Sarah D said...

I'm glad you're seeing progress. And, T is adorable, for sure. However, I feel compelled to say that I find it distressing that you've publicly posted, with pictures and your real name, about such a personal childhood issue. This is now permanently "out there", for the rest of his life. Permanently. Not good. There must be other topics to write about and certainly a different way to talk up your sponsors.

Lyann said...

Great Job! Potty training is HARD. I think your method was a hit. It took us 6 months to potty train.

Valerie said...

Potty training has been the most challenging thing for me so far as a parent. A few things that helped for me: don't get obsessed (I did) with the number of accidents. Accidents were part of learning for my son - and how I reacted to them was key. I got frustrated a lot, I mean A LOT and almost wanted to give up at times. I believe there were even a few tears - mine mostly. I finally found that giving up control was the thing that (mostly) worked for me. At that point he was big enough that when he had an accident he was able to clean himself up and knew where the dirty underpants were meant to go. My son is 4 now and there are still some accidents - I just have resigned to the fact that some things only come with maturity...and lots of reminding.
Good luck!
PS- if your son has trouble pooping on the potty tell him a little fib that the poop goes down the pipes to the ocean and helps to feed the fishies! This helped somewhat during my son's Nemo obsession.

Erica said...

I have a little one that is about to turn three in just a few weeks. Peeing was easy for us, he doesn't even use a diaper for bed! But and this is a big but, he will not poop on the potty. He demands a diaper every time. Do you have any tips?? I have tried EVERYTHING, my husband even offered him money, which I think he would had gladly given him had he pooped! No dice!

Ann Cundy said...

Did you see the link on the Oh Crap, Potty Training blog for the Squatty Potty? That would be QUITE a blog post. Woah!

Kenly said...

Our 2 yr old son forced the potty training issue by pulling his clothes off while home (and in bed), which of course included his diaper. He started peeing in the potty right away, but like some other posters children WON'T POOP on the potty. Any tips? How'd you get him to sit for poop time?

tasmia said...

i did potty training for my son at one year old. Every 2 hours i used to take him to toilet(i used toilet seat for kid). He was not comfortable with diaper.Potty training seems easy for me as it took only a week. Its just a routine like breakfast, nap time or play time.

Lilyana Gan said...

Joanna, I was potty trained by my mom. She basically brought me to the potty every 60 or 90 minutes and made a "ssshhhhh" sound to imitate the sound of pee so that it would trigger me to "let go". I guess it worked! All my other siblings have been potty trained and I helped her with 2 of my siblings. Yippee! :D

jessd6 said...

Congrats on potty training! Reminds me of a story of when my mom was working on training my youngest sister. They were at the checkout at the grocery store, and my sister told my mom she had to go. So my mom said, "okay, honey, we're about to go home and you can go pee," or something to that effect. And I guess my sister was really insistent, but my mom was in the middle of paying for her groceries...so my sister went over to a stack of handled shopping baskets, and turned one over, sat on it...and peed. My mom was so embarrassed! But you couldn't be mad at the kid, she did tell her she had to go! She had the right idea, just not in her potty chair. (BTW, said sister is now almost 20 and we still tell that story all the time.)

E. and Baby P. said...

i waited until my son was 3 and entering pre-school and honestly peer pressure potty trained him. in his 3rd month at preschool, he was potty trained.

Schenck cath said...

I think it's smart and makes a lot of sense to sit your child on the potty every couple of hours, he/she won't be able to know from those early days when he/she has to go, or they'll tell you too late! i did this with my kids and it was done in a week or 2, but again, we took the potty everywhere (so as to avoid the shopping basket incident from Jessd6! About the kid who requests a diaper to poop in, you can totally say that he's potty trained, as he totally is in control; that's a kid who knows exactly what's going on and who can wait until he has his diaper to poop. i've read somewhere to try a transition trick: have one of the larger, deeper potty chair, and place an open diaper in that, instead of on the child. He'll still get the reassuring diaper and transition to the potty more easily. also (that's from a friend of mine who's a child psychologist) play lots of games with your son (this poop fear concerns mostly guys apparently) where you place toys in something and they come out the other end... It seems to be working somehow! Good luck to all of us moms and dads!

Amanda said...

Wow! Toby looks so big in these photos! So grown up :) Joanna, you always seem so calm and down to earth... do you ever get worked up/angry? I work with little kids all day, every day, and as horrible as this sounds, sometimes it's so hard not to get a bit snappy with them, even though they're just being kids.

Sandra Carson said...

Ha ha ha very funny..liked it
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mamalooks said...

Our son is 2.5 y/o but I don't think he's ready to be potty trained yet. He refuses to sit on the toilet (with an adapter), he doesn't even show any discomfort with soiled diapers. His teacher at school says he is not interested at all.
Plus we (the parents) are very busy at the moment, so I think we'll wait for a couple of months until the Easter holidays and see how the situation is then.
Good work, the 3 of you!

Mandy Byron said...

Our son was quickly potty trained fortunately when he was just a little over 2 years. However, we had no accidents for a long time (one or two only over the last year), and now that he is almost 4, he is having more accidents than ever at school! He doesn't like to go on his own to the bathroom and holds it much too long. Not sure how to tackle this one. We already have him in elastic band pants etc. to make it as easy as possible for him. Time to start rewarding him again perhaps...

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Michelle Brunner said...

My daughter turned 2 in December also! We have had a potty for her for awhile but she really hasn't shown much interest. I am also planning on going hardcore with the potty training this summer since I am a teacher and will have more time and patience for potty training. I wish you lots of luck!

Katya said...

Joanna I had 2 of my kids potty trained by bribing them. But no chocolate. With the first one I would buy those capsules with creatures that you suppose to grow in the water. So every time he would pee, he would get a chance to pick one and grow. It was fun! They have a wide range of themes from vehicles to safary animals. Even now with my 4yo I bribed him into learning to wipe his bum with 1 new pokemon card for every time he does it on his own. This system worked for us very well and the funny thing is after a few weeks when they manage things on their own they forget about prizes themselves.

Nancy Cavillones said...

My daughter, who is 4.5, was having a similar issue in school earlier this year. Her teacher told me that sometimes, as they get closer to Kindergarten, they start to regress a little. It didn't last very long, thankfully and she seems to be back to normal.

Charli said...

I don't my mum had to potty train me when i was two because i had to be clean in the kindergarten. In summer we went to london where i fell in love for a poccahontas underwear set at a disney store. So my mum told me if i would stay clean the whole london stay, she would grant me that wish.
I stayed clean the whole week except for one accident and got my my super fancy poccahontas pants (although my mum would have bought them anyways for later =))
Very cute pictures! I hope everything will go well when the second baby arrived!

Double the Giggles said...

Fun times! Honestly, it happens when they are ready...no matter how hard we push the idea and the training techniques. I had every type of training potty and seat in the house for my boys and they went with none of them - just sitting backwards on the potty was how they decided they liked to go. One thing I did during our 'commando' week or so was to have them help clean up their messes. No yelling or getting upset, just say something like, "Yucky! This goes in the potty. You have to clean the mess you made." I also made my twin boys take off their own wet undies after accidents. Again, I told them I didn't want to touch them because they were wet and yucky. Obviously, I took care of a more thorough clean-up after their clean-up attempts, but if you make the accidents turn into a chore for them, they tend to learn a little faster ;) Also, M&M's helped us tremendously!

Ad Del said...

I cannot wait to start potty training my little boy.

Meredith said...

I think my mom was having a little trouble with getting me motivated to potty train, and so one day she had the brilliant idea of promising a trip to visit "Mr. Clyde." He was our bank teller, and when we went through the drive through, he would give me a piece of candy. I totally fell for it! A single piece of candy from a bank teller did the trick :) Bribery is awesome--especially when all it takes is a Dum Dum :)

Courtney said...

We just started last week with our 2 1/2 year old and we've had a combintation of great days and plenty of accidents too! I'm hoping she'll get the hang of it soon, but I'm not always convinced she knows when she has to go.

I would also suggest trying some cotton training underwear like Gerber, iplay or Kickypants. They have just a little padding in the bottom (they still get wet, but for small accident it's less likely to go through to their clothes and your couch!).

Altax said...

Lovely pictures and awesome photography.

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Marshall M said...

hi, im actually the manufacturer of Thomas underwear and would be happy to send you more if he has an accident.
with my children, we would let them sit on the toilet each night before bath time, this way they were comfortable there. we skipped the whole potty thing, we didn't want an extra transition in life. while the child would sit on the toilet we would give them a toy catalog and tell them they can have what they want when they make. eventually the great event would occur, we would put on underwear and drive straight to the toy store. important rule, never go back to pampers once the child has been given underwear, then they might think they have a choice. good luck

Amanda said...

From hip to knee...that line, those wrinkles, gosh it takes me back to that time for each of my three daughters. So, so wonderful. And really, despite all the work, such an awesome adventure!

em said...

cutest bum ever :)

Barefoot Golightly said...

We went absolutely cold turkey. This was ten years ago and I was against pull ups and diapers at night. I put a pad down under him that I could throw in the wash and replace with a new one if he had accidents at night. I just felt like kids are in diapers too long as it is and the pull up industry is about $$ more than anything else. We kept him in for about three days trying to master this. Then I think he pooped in his underwear for about five days straight and that was the end. I'm pretty sure we had a preschool deadline which is why I wanted to get it done with. Pooping in his favorite Thomas underwear (i bought so many of them and remember throwing a pair away at Barnes and Nobles) was something he did not want to do!

cortney said...

what a brave mama you are going cold turkey!

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Fashion for the rest of us said...

Hi Joanna! I would advise against swimming diapers, because they tend to be quite tight and if your son goes for a number 2 they can be quite messy to remove without spilling the beans, if you know what I mean :)

Lan said...

First of all - do legs get any cuter than that?? love it!
We also did cold turkey with our son...there was lots of TV, and a whole lotta smarties on hand. We stayed home for a whole week - didn't really leave the house at all. By the end of it, he was doing well with peeing but no-go on the pooping...that took a few extra weeks. Sounds like everyone is doing a great job.

Emily said...

I'm intrigued by the cold turkey idea. Any ideas on how this would work if your child is in day care, though?

Emily said...

I'm intrigued by the cold turkey idea. Any ideas on how this would work if your child is in day care, though?

Amie said...

Oh my gosh, this is epic! Well done daddy & mommy! Can't wait to experience this phase of my life!!

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Katie said...

This is a really interesting article about how squatting is a more natural/healthful way to poop. You should check it out. It might be helpful when training Toby to go #2.

http://wellnessmama.com/7013/a-proper-way-to-poo-squatty-potty-review/

Christine Meyer said...

One of my friends used either red or blue food coloring in the toilet (changes to orange or green), and it worked wonderfully!

Danny said...

Those Thomas undies and that little bum are seriously killing me.

Susan M. said...

Love this. So successful and Toby looks wonderful. (photos not exploitative; they're tasteful and adorable). I'm into potty training w/my 2 1/2 year old, so I have a few of questions. As you put Toby to bed with training pants, not diapers, how much sheet and pajama-changing have you been doing? Or did he understand to stay dry right away? Is he in a crib, or can he get out of bed himself to go potty? I've been using a diaper for naps and overnight, but I think that might be slowing him down on the getting the stay-dry concept.

cleartheway said...

Super cute! I'm so glad it went well for you guys! Keep your positive and encouraging attitude and everything will be fine. =]

Kate from Clear the Way

Kate said...

Swim diapers do not absorb. Both disposables and cloth are made to hold in solids, not liquids. Cloth trainers, on the other hand, often do have a small amount of absorbancy.

Sarah W. said...

So glad you included so many photos showing those precious chubby legs! Toby is a love...I'm glad that the potty training was for the most part a success. I think the frequent pottying is the key - kids just don't know what they don't know (am I hungry? tired? full of pee?).

Caitlin said...

Way to go!
Side question - Where did you get your coffee table? I am looking for something very similar

Notes from Holly St. said...

yay for Toby! We haven't tackled potty training yet but it's on the horizon and I'm not really looking forward to it.

I can't stand how adorable he looks in his little underwear. So sweet!

ailidh briar said...

With my two, I did early potty training - I'd sit them on the potty when I was in the bathroom (since they'd freak if I went without them anyway!) from about 6 months, or sitting unassisted. I was just incorporating it into their day as a part of the routine, on waking, before naps/after teeth brushing, that kind of thing. It's worked really well for my family, and both were out of diapers before 2, though each child is different and I don't think early training is the 'point'. Anyway, if you are interested, there's super hardcore ECer's ('Diaper-Free Baby by Christine Gross-Loh) and there's a more traditionally western approach outlined in 'Diaper-Free Before 3'. You know, in case you want to read MORE before your next babe arrives. :)

toi said...

i like this. i am slowly incorporating potty time with my daughter. she 14 months so hopefully I can tackle the potty training full time this summer and it's warm and we can get easy access to the diaper.

good work, joan :)

Stephanie @ Henry Happened said...

We just started potty training with my little guy after Christmas (he turns 3 in Feb). After his first successful toilet experience we ran around the house singing the "Peepee on the potty song" ... and I guess he got pretty excited b/c then he promptly pooped under the Christmas tree :)

Mad Max and Family said...

Mine just turned 2 this month so I haven't started thinking about it yet ... he just got a baby sister too 3 months ago. I was thinking about trying this about 2 and 1/2 ... IF he shows interest - that's the biggest part. I heard wait until they show interest. He also has a few other transitions to make this year so I didn't want to do them all at once.

A few posters mentioned about your photos. They are very lovely, but I would personally worry about 1) what he may think one day and 2) any other weirdos out there on the Internet viewing them. Just curious on your thoughts regarding that!

-Tara
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bellebyrd said...

We are currently in 'at your own pace' mode and I think our daughter's bladder is adult size. She made a big puddle at a pizza parlor this weekend. And I'm not sure how to have her use a public toilet anyway.

Sammi said...

my bosses really struggled at potty training with two out of their three children. the first one had no problem and caught on right away. the second got it, understood it, but just would not accept it (then decided about 8 months later that he wanted to start wearing pants instead of diapers) and their third child, a girl (the older two are boys) didn't like the potty after two weeks of many accidents they decided to leave it for a while. a couple of months later she announced she wanted to use the bathroom like her brothers, and they didn't have a single accident.
only problem was she wanted to show everyone her new undies all the time for the first month hahahaha :)

courtney said...

To be honest I did nothing. The week of my oldest sons third birthday he decided to train himself. Into big boy underwear he went, we never even did training pants. He never had an accident! Hoping my second is just as easy :)They say not to push boys...

Jessica Seegert said...

Love those little legs! Positive reinforcement works well too- we clapped and cheered when our oldest would use the potty!

Also quick question for you, where is that perfect cream colored rug from?!?!

Mooch said...

Love the wooden step ..... where did you find it?

sian said...

we watched the film 'flushed away' a LOT during the potty training period. it seems to be a potty truing set text amongst my mama friends! x

Brittany Lauren said...

What a sweetheart in those photos! How cute are those anchor diapers! Where did you get 'em? I'm pregnant with my first right now (4months) but I feel like time will fly so fast I'll be in potty training before I know it!

Lindsay said...

3 things:
1. His little legs slay me - adorable
2. We LOVE The Honest Company. I'll never use anything else.
3. My little guy - Grey - is only 8 months old but I'm bookmarking this post for when it's time.

Good stuff!

domonique matthews said...

nothing but undies during the day is the way to go. nap/bedtime is a whole other thing. the two aren't related and it could be a long time in between dry during the day and dry at night. love those thomas the tank engine undies. my son wore those too, such sweet memories of him toddling around the house in those! good thing he has no idea his tush is on the www. :-)!

VintageDanielle said...

Chubby little legs!! I like your tips about the wording.

www.minipiccolini.com said...

We went cold turkey with our son and potty-trained him in 3 days when he was 23 months old. I think the 3-day method is super and we will definitely use it again with our youngest son when it is time. But I definitely will not be potty-training our littlest one as early we did with our first. I sort of regret training Alec so early - it's such a big responsibility for such a young child to take on...

One thing that really worked for us was using a rewards chart while we were training. Alec "got it" right away and seemed to really motivate him. And, happily, he didn't expect the rewards to continue forever once he was trained. I made my own simple chart: http://minipiccolini.com/2012/11/diy-potty-training-chart/

www.minipiccolini.com said...

Our son (he is 25 months old now and we potty-trained him at 23 months old) goes to nursery school (5 days a week, 9-3). We stayed home and stayed in for 3 days to train him -Saturday, Sunday and Monday. Then we briefed the staff and sent him back to school on Tuesday. Mistake. He was fine the first day, but his second day back was catastrophic. I decided to keep him home for the rest of the week to see if we could get our new routines more established. Now he is fine at school but he usually wears pull-ups, at least for nap time and when they are playing outside (in winter overalls etc). So I would just try to plan for a few extra days before you expect to go back to your regular routine.

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kiwigem said...

We had success with the "naked weekend" technique (sounds so much more exciting than it is, doesn't it?). My favorite potty training story was when I discovered that my son had taken to peeing behind the Christmas tree. I guess the whole male peeing-behind-the -tree thing runs deep! I don't know how many times he did it before I figured it out: It was quite a cleanup, but I was laughing so hard I didn't really mind.

Ana M* said...

Hahaha! One of my little sisters peed on a chair at a travel agency when she was potty training, and it has become the cute story we tell at every gathering!

kiwigem said...

Ha! My oldest accidentally flushed his Thomas underwear down the toilet, and the way we found out was his anguished screaming: " Oh no, Thomas! THHOOOMMMAAASSS!!!! Mom, we have to save him! GET A ROPE!!"
Get a rope.
To save the underwear.
I nearly died.

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PetLoverIndia PLI said...

Thanks for sharing above information! I really appreciate this post, Puppies are so delightful and just not possible to resist. But we expect them not to peeing and pooing all over the dwelling. So here are some of tips you can use to set up to potty train your puppy:-

• Understand that puppies needs to go to the bathroom a lot as a young puppy has a very small bladder, and they haven't yet cultured the talent to control it. So keep it in mind this when it comes to potty training your puppy.

• Establish yourself as the leader; this will help in earning your puppy's respect, trust and admiration. And your puppy will star following all your potty training instructions.

• Uphold a stringent schedule when you take your puppy out to go potty. Travel through the same door and use the same direction. With your awareness of your puppy's peeing preferences, foresee when she'll want to urine and bring her to the puppy bathroom.

• Never forget to encourage your puppy every time she pees in the right spot. Thrash out your cheery, joyful voice and lavish her with adulation and praise. Your puppy now has an emotional ingenious to do her job in the right place.

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Kelly Brown said...

Thanks for sharing your experience. For someone who is preparing to start potty training their child this was very helpful.

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Cayla Fortin said...

Potty training a child is a process of trial and error. It is both exciting and frustrating. Be sure , in the end your child will be potty trained. There are only a very few teenagers which are running around in diapers!

Cayla

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNqJnvqJNRw

Cayla Fortin said...

Potty training a child is a process of trial and error. It is both exciting and frustrating. Be sure , in the end your child will be potty trained. There are only a very few teenagers which are running around in diapers!

Cayla

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNqJnvqJNRw

j.c. delgaudio said...

Try the towel potty training method.

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Margie James said...

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