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Thursday, August 09, 2012

Would you elope?

Cat and Ash eloped in Australia. Here, Cat tells their sweet story...
Why did you decide to elope?
We were both reluctant about being in the spotlight. There was also real excitement in eloping and creating that memory for just the two of us.
Were there any funny parts of the day that you hadn't expected?
We wanted to have lunch in the country town where we got married. But the day passed by like a dream and we weren't keeping track of time, so we were too late for lunch, and too early for dinner. We were both starving so we ate some fries in the car—our first meal as husband and wife! We laughed so much.
What was one of your favorite parts of your wedding?
My sister and nine-year-old niece picked my bouquet—and they didn’t even know! I had always wanted them to be part of my wedding but since we were eloping, I had to be tricky. I’m a jeweler, so I asked them to pick some beach grass (we call them "bunny tails" in my family—I don't actually know what the proper name is!) for a project I was doing. Then one of my best friends, who trained as a florist, put them together for me. So I felt the bouquet was full of love and friendship and I was carrying them with me.
How did you tell your family?
We phoned our immediate family after the ceremony, but no one was answering their phones! So I called my brother, who lives in the UK, where it was the middle of the night—at least I knew he’d be home asleep in bed! We did get to everyone eventually. Our whole family was super excited. When we rang my parents, I could hear my mom dancing around the kitchen in happiness, announcing it to the dog.
What about telling your friends?
We posted a cryptic photo of this Scrabble board on Facebook, and it was fun to read all the delighted and shocked messages from friends the next day.

Congratulations, Cat and Ash!

P.S. An American elopement, and a Swedish island wedding...

(Photos by Love Katie & Sarah. The venue was The Convent, Daylesford, Victoria, Australia. Cat's vintage dress was from etsy)

182 comments:

Robyn said...

i would definatly elope-i think.hmm. not too sure.

Meadow said...

Absolutely. I can think of much better things to do w. the cost of the average wedding ($25K I believe, at least here in Canada!). It's ONE day. My family isn't big, and my immediate family is a bit soured on marriage... it's a bit odd. I just feel like inviting people would ruin the day. At least if it's just me and my man we can do it the way we want. We plan on eloping. If my family doesn't care and would find it awkward, why not just do it on our own?

Robyn said...

that would be definitely.

gorgeous photos

HM Designs said...

My husband and I eloped. We were in the middle of planning a large wedding and the stress was really getting to us. We just went to our favorite little ski village in the mountains and got married in the courthouse!
We spent a romantic weekend skiing and I told my family the next Monday. They were so excited for us! My husbands family was shocked and they were actually hurt that we decided to elope.
It was an interesting situation because it was such a personal and intimate decision - I couldn't understand why people were offended.

It turned out perfectly in the end and everyone is happy now :)

We still agree it was the best decision that WE made for US.

Emily said...

For me, it's more a question of, "Would I have a wedding?" And that answer is a big no. Eloping has always been my ideal choice, one that my family knows and understands. While marriage is about family, I feel too many people get lost in trying to please everyone else instead of just themselves. There's no better way to focus on each other than to just eliminate everyone else.

That's how I feel, anyway!

Country Living in Heels said...

Of course! My husband and I wanted to so badly but our families held us back. I enjoyed sharing the day with all of my closest families and friends but escaping the stress would be wonderful.

ale norris said...

my husband and i eloped - we got married in maui. the day we left for the trip, we sent out invitations to our closest friends to join us for a celebration when we got back. it said - surprise! we got married in maui!
it was so fun to see everyone's surprise and it's so fun to have a place that will always be "our" place (& an excuse for a trip!)

-ale

Kelly said...

Congrats to Cat and Ash, what a sweet story.

My husband and I
eloped this spring. We invited our immediate family members and a very dear friend acted as our officiant. It was an intimate, simple day for our closest people to gather and celebrate, which is exactly what we wanted.

Here's our story.

Anonymous said...

I've been married for 6 years and I still find myself wishing we had eloped. We both had wanted to, but there wouldn't have been happy, dancing mothers; there would have been hurt feelings and heartache.

So we shared our big day with family, friends, and strangers. It wasn't intimate. I was uncomfortable the whole time. It was laughibly low-budget. But they got what they wanted for the day and I get what I want for the rest of my life.

Celeste said...

That is so tough! I think a part of me would love to do so, but I don't know that my family would be as receptive to it as this couple's.

My entire family would be hurt if I kept that a secret from them, and it would take away from the joy of the day.

karen said...

i would, in a heartbeat.
weddings seem to have become a sort of bridal oneupmanship, who can have the most DIY, or mustache and mason jar filled wedding complements of too much time spent on pinterest. it seems exhausting to spend so much time and so much money on one day when you could just head to city hall or elope to a fun locale.

i love that this couple was able to include their loved ones, but also keep their autonomy which sometimes seemed to be swept away in wedding planning (and replaced with dazed looks that seem to say, this wedding has snowballed out of control!)

this is really beautiful, thanks for posting this, Joanna!

Jessica Clem said...

My husband and I eloped in Jerusalem. We live in Nebraska and neither one of us wanted to have a huge, expensive wedding. So I proposed one day in bed when we first woke up, and two months later, we boarded the plane for Tel Aviv. For roughly $2,000, we flew there, explored all four corners of the country, got married in the oldest Lutheran church in the world, had beer and hooka on our wedding night, and had our honeymoon in the south of Israel (Eliat), on the Red Sea. I would recommend eloping no matter what your family says. It is you and your husbands memory. No one else.

Erika said...

I think it's a wonderful idea... Could be very romantic and so special. It would also be a lot cheaper!! I've heard a couple stories lately of engagement parties where the couple 'surprise' get married. That way your friends and family can be part of the fun, but without all of the added stress.

Ms. Morgan said...

This is such a fun and sweet story.

Growing up my mother always joked about me eloping to Vegas - as in "You better elope" because she "isn't paying for a big wedding". That and I can totally see myself wanting an Elvis impersonator.

But Cat and Ash's story shows that an elopement can be just as beautiful, meaningful and fun as a wedding with family and friends.

Thanks for the inspiration Cat & Ash.

Manda said...

Yeah!
To be honest, the whole wedding planning dealio wasn't how I had always dreamed it to be. I just wanted to marry my guy! :)
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Melissa T. said...

This story sounds a little sad to me. They deceived the people they loved, weren't able to enjoy a yummy meal, and weren't able to tell loved ones their news.

I want to be happy for them, but their story makes me feel a bit down.

Shelley said...

I for sure wanted to elope...I hate the spotlight! but we are in the midst of planning a wedding! I know I would have regretted it but man are weddings ever stressful.

Anonymous said...

I would... I identify with Meadow's story. It would be awkward for me to have my family there. We are not close at all. However, my bf is very very close to his family and would want them there. A friend recommended compromising by having just his family there. I can see possibly doing that, but it seems like it would be weird and mean to exclude my family even though it's just my parents and sister. But I haven't even seen them in a couple of years. I would love to elope!

izzyfalloni said...

I would love to elope. But my Mum would be so hurt if I didn't include my family. I spoke to her once about a friend who went to Reno and came home married, having told nobody - Mum was like "How could she do that? Her poor parents!" - so for the sake of family unity I'd better not try!

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Couture Boudoir | NYC Photographer said...

Such a sweet romantic post! I would elope in a heartbeat! If I could do it all over again I would. ; )

Martha said...

I really want to sort of elope. I'd like to have only our immediate families there. The tough part is picking a place??

Lady Grey said...

I completely understand why people do - but I couldn't. I loved sharing my wedding with my family.
xo

Debbie said...

I would if I could find a date! haha!

Aya said...

I don't think I'd elope because my family would be hurt to not be told. However, I don't plan to have a wedding. I want to go to city hall and have a good dance party with great food after. I want simple simple simple and low stress but with family and friends. I hope this is possible.

Kate Harvey said...

I think it makes sense for some people, but I could never have eloped. It meant the world to me to celebrate our marriage with our families, and it was way too much fun to plan our wedding to give that part up :)

Kate
Something Ivory

Miyan said...

great post! my hubby and i did something similar, we flew (from israel where we live) to cyprus to marry, just the two of us in a civil ceremony with only the professional photographer we hired present. it was so fun and romantic and intimate! i loved how we went about it and wouldnt change anything. i did my own hair and makeup and we were so calm throughout the whole thing, except when i choked up during our vows :) you can see our wedding photos here .

Miyan
fly far blog

Arielle Wren said...

I would definitely elope but first I need to find someone to elope with!

Luli said...

Yes, I am newly engaged and we are eloping in the spring. It won't be a secret from our families. They can know the date. It's just that a wedding, and all that goes with it, has never appealed to me before. I don't feel any guilt either and I feel really great about our decision. We are going to take a long two week honeymoon. Now that, I don't mind planning.

Ann On and On... said...

What a sweet story. Thank you for sharing something so special on your blog today. It brightened up my rainy day.

Suse said...

My father begged me to elope!

Melanie Molloy said...

we desperately wanted to elope, however there was one family member whp would never have forgiven us...just the one but it was enough for my husband to have to change his mind. it was beautiful and intimate all the same :)

jillian m. said...

I would love to elope. Although, I'm not sure I'd ever do it because my family (and his) would be too hurt not knowing or being there.

It is terribly romantic thought to entertain though!

Anonymous said...

I would!
My parents actually eloped as well. They got married in Las Vegas on their trip trough the US, 29 years ago. And they are still happily married! They even have no pictures, because the film was not correctly insert.
The family of my father was a bit hurt as they were really religious.
But my parents really loved it and recommend it to do so as well. Without photos it is even more a day only they remember. I think it is very sweet and personal.

Anonymous said...

This story feels sad to me, too. We had a sudden green card problem four months before our wedding so two days later my parents, brothers, and two best friends met us at the beach to be married. Which was my dream. And then, four months later, we had the proper wedding with everyone so I could wear the dress my mother made, which was her dream (she designs wedding dresses). And years later, I'm glad I got to wear That Dress and also glad that I got my dream wedding no uncomfortableness on the proper wedding day could mar.

Which is a long way of saying...have someone you love along beside a pro photographer. If you 'wish they could be there' then...have them. Love the engagement party wedding idea!

J+H @ Beyond The Stoop said...

i would love to elope for the wedding....

though, i would still have a reception or some sort of bbq or something to celebrate with family and friends. i LOVE going to weddings, big, small, fancy, low-key, i like them all. it's just so fun to see two people SO in love and happy to share their big day with everyone.

i could totally go for a courthouse/remote wedding though. plus the whole idea of having a "religious" wedding terrifies me. and the thought of telling my parents i DON'T want a religious wedding terrifies me even more. so avoiding that situation sounds nice :D

Ella Donnell said...

What a beautiful, simple, romantic wedding - and courageous. Not sure I could do it but I completely appreciate how personal they made it!

livefreeandfashionable said...

I totally would. The thought of the guest list alone gives me a panic attack. The cost can get out of control so easily and the focus on the marriage itself can get lost in the preparation of the ceremony. Eloping is super romantic and makes it truly about the couple's love for each other!

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Jamie said...

We almost eloped. Eloping turned into two people, turned into five people, turned into eleven people. it was still a teeny civil wedding and a gorgeous intimate dinner afterward. It was lovely.

p.s I grew up in Daylesford! Such a beautiful place to get married and a gorgeous couple too!

Amy said...

I LOVE the idea of it, but wouldn't be able tp bring myself to it. Im afraid I would miss out on all of the tradition of a typical wedding!

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Adriana F said...

Yes I would! There's something terribly romantic about eloping...

cremedecoco said...

I absolutely want to elope. I am half Indian and have a large extended family. Given all the expectations and traditions it would be very stressful and I would be forced to invite 70+ members of my family because in our culture that's considered immediate family. It's all too much. I'd rather have a quiet ceremony with the person I love.

Kirsten said...

This is such a fun, cute story!

I have thought about what it would be like to elope, but it is too important to me that I have the people I love with me.

Although, part of me likes the secrecy of it : )

christina said...

I WANT TO! He still needs to be convinced about the idea.

Christina said...

Absolutely! I am married and had a pretty traditional wedding by today's standards, but would elope in a heartbeat had I known how much it took to plan and how much it costed. Elopements are just so special and personal - they seem more about the love between the couple, rather than what everyone else wants, you know?

Suzanne said...

I would have LOVED to elope! My husband and I were THISCLOSE to it, but we opted for a small wedding instead, because of family pressure. (Although given all the drama/stress that ensued, I sometimes wish we would have just eloped.)

I always enjoy hearing elopement stories. This one was especially sweet :) Love the "bunny-tail" bouquet!

Lexie said...

my parents had a very painful divorce (and a rough parenting relationship following the divorce..), so for a long time, i told myself i would not want any conflict or hard feelings on MY wedding day, which meant eloping! however, over the past five years or so, relationships have improved GREATLY and i cannot imagine not having my family or my groom's family there to be apart of the wedding. i also think that a big part of marriage is blending two families, and excluding the families seems wrong to me.

Hilary said...

I love this! My husband and I really wanted to elope but knew it would really upset our families. There is something so intimate about eloping.

Annie said...

My husband and I didn't elope and were very happy to have the wedding experience. But one of my closest friends did, and I can totally understand why. She always said she wanted a very small wedding--maybe a dozen people--and knew that that would never be the case due to family pressure. She and her husband ended up eloping and have been very happy, and I think it was totally the right choice for them. I know my friend's family felt hurt for a while afterward, but they've come around since.

Carolyn said...

I am toying with the idea of eloping. My boyfriend and I have a 2 year old, and we'd love it to be just the 3 of us in a small intimate ceremony, and then having a reception for friends and family after. I love the idea of it being a really private moment and then having the "celebration" part with a larger group!

shotgunadventures said...

We eloped in 2010. We were moving to Korea to teach and we were told that we wouldn't be able to live together unless we were married--so we got married. We'd been living together for almost four years already, so it was kind of the kick in the pants we both needed, but it turns out that we actually didn't need to be married to live together. Oh well, two years in and one baby later and we're still having a great time.

katilda said...

that bouquet is so lovely! definitely pinning that for later reference.

HM Designs said...

I can't see why this story makes people sad.

The wedding day is for you and your spouse, right? It makes me more sad that parents put so much pressure on their children to have the traditional wedding... "for the family".

If your family loves you and truly wants your happiness, not just a party, they would understand. Do it if you want to!

Sara said...

I don't think I could, my giant Italian family would never let me live it down.

loved the bouquet tho, what a beautiful wedding!

laura said...

i'd always really wanted to elope but no one (including my fiance) believed me. so i planned a super awesome wedding that everyone loved and i still regret it because i didn't have any fun! i was actually counting down to the day AFTER my wedding day, i was really that not into the whole thing. i kinda want to pretend elope someday, it's way more romantic than throwing a huge expensive party. i love seeing elopement stories like this, they make me smile.

AJ said...

We did! Three months after we started dating, my husband and I asked a friend to be our officiant for a secret ceremony. We hiked a nearby mountain (we live in Vermont) to be on the peak at sunset, changed into white linen and bare feet at the top, and said our own vows with the setting sun behind us.

...Then we all ran down in our headlamps to have dinner at a wonderful restaurant, who held our table when we told them we were running down a mountain from our wedding to make our reservation!

We didn't tell our family or friends for a few months. My parents were shocked and eventually relieved I had finally found someone. His parents were a little hurt that we had kept the secret from them for so long. In the end, it was right for us. We got married exactly the way we had always wanted, privately, with attention on each other, and with love and intention.

Chelsea said...

I wouldn't take back our big wedding for anything. The ability to have all of the people that love you in one room celebrating a new and exciting adventure is too precious of a memory and feeling for me.

However, if I were getting married now (rather than a few years ago) and older (and dare I say more wiser) self would have made some different decisions (e.g. Smaller, more intimate). And there is something so romantic, spontaneous, and lovely about eloping. I suppose now I would consider it.

Chelsea
www.hautechildinthecity.com

Sally said...

Yes yes YES! 100 percent YES! And I always love the short white dresses that elopment brides favor - such a breath of fresh air.

taylor said...

I would elope! And then have a big party at home! That being said my sister (a events planner) would kill me if I didn't let her plan my wedding haha.

Laurie Jones said...

So here's my story, I'm 42 and have been married twice, the first time it was the big wedding 500 people, the second time around with my now husband we eloped, I loved the second time around so much better, we did it for us and our way, my daughter was the only one who knew beforehand because my husband not only asked for my hand but he asked for hers too but the marriage was just the two of us and then a very nice dinner after was the three of us. It was so special and I will never forget it. I can see why parents would be upset but ultimately its about but ultimately its about 2 people making a commitment to one another and you don't need to spend thousands upon thousands to do it. Everyone has a right to do things their way and ultimately its about being happy for two people who love one another.

April said...

We eloped! We loved it! Best thing we've ever done, besides making this growing little girl in my belly. : )

http://www.designsponge.com/2010/11/weekly-wrap-up-beautiful-elopement-video.html

Caroline, No. said...

Ahh! Gorgeous. I did elope!

http://www.carolineno.com/2011/09/wedding-day.html

I have a tiny complicated family, T has a huge complicated family, we thought it was easier all round to run away. :)

x

Anonymous said...

I DID elope 26 years ago and I've never regretted it. My mother and mother-in-law did not get along at all, there was enormous pressure for a religious ceremony that hubs and I didn't want, we were broke, and my younger brother was planning a fancy wedding. My sister met us at the courthouse, we went away for the weekend and announced the news when we got back. I think the parents were all relieved since they were not happy about us living in sin and all anyway.

Anonymous said...

My husband and I toyed with the idea of eloping, briefly, and my grandmother kept saying "just elope! just elope!", but we ended up having around 100 guests at our wedding. We kept the wedding party small- just my sister and my husband's brother-- so it felt just as intimate, and walking from the old church on the square of my hometown to my parent's backyard a block away for our evening garden cocktail reception, any thoughts of "we should have eloped!" we gone from my mind! Wedding planning was very stressful for me, so I wouldn't have minded skipping that part, but I am so thankful for the memories of being surrounded by our family and friends.

That said, if my little sister eloped, or a future child did, I don't think I would be hurt--- I think there is something lovely and intimate about it! Thanks for sharing Cat and Ash's story!

-Megan K

kati said...

i LOVE the idea of it. just to be together in a beautiful place, have a great photographer to document the day and then stay for a fantastic honeymoon.

but, my family would have been sad. and my husband's mother wouldn't have been able to invite her giant list of random people so it would have never worked for us, haha.

Jen said...

I would elope in a heartbeat (with the right fella)!! I've seen how much work a wedding is, and it is a party for OTHER people. The bride and groom hardly get to spend quality time together on "their day". My parents also were supper annoying during my sisters wedding! hehe!

Sage Crown Parker said...

Yes!!!
This is the best, and what I photograph the most of, it's truly the most romantic wedding way, just 2!

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Leanne said...

ALMOST! We got engaged and then one month later we got married in a ceremony that included just our immediate family. It was perfect (for us.)

Apparently in separate conversations before our engagement my mom and sister had told my husband that they would be disappointed if we eloped. The thought hadn't actually occured to me but I guess they know me too well.

anna said...

absolutely! eloping = my dream wedding. unfortunately we can't do it as my boyfriend's mom is super traditional...

Tracy Fontaine said...

Growing up, my mother always told me that when I got married, I should elope. I thought it was an awful idea, until the day came when I was actually facing getting married. I tried to talk my husband into eloping and he just wasn't willing to leave his parents out of the celebration. He had been a member of each of his seven cousin's wedding parties, so it was still a pretty big deal for him to exclude the rest of their family. But we comprimised by having only 20 guests - our parents and closest friends. A few feathers were ruffled, but, for the most part, everyone was just very happy for us. I love that it was intimate, and would do it the same way in a heartbeat...but there's will always be a part of me that secretly wishes we had eloped.

Congrats to Cat and Ash!

Catherine Masi said...

What a beautiful and tender story. There's something to be said about this sort of simplicity... says a lot about the core of their relationship. Lovely.

Rachel said...

I did!

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The Meaning of Me said...

Hmm...tough one. We had a wedding with church service, family, dinner, etc. It was important to us that our families be part of the day. But to avoid the stress and hassle of the wedding planning nonsense...maybe. Definitely maybe. Maybe for our ten year vow renewal we'll sneak off on our own!

Bobby said...

I just got engaged recently (yessssss!) and have been looking at prices for wedding venues and photographers and all the bells and whistles. These prices are scary, so I've definitely thought about eloping but I couldn't imagine my family (and my fiance's family) missing out on such a special moment so I'm leaning towards a very, very small wedding. I don't want to lose sight of what the day is about and would love to give up all the stress involved.

Liz said...

That last photo is amazing, so CLEVER!

Alex said...

What beautiful and intimate photos! Eloping was my original plan. My dream was for us to run away and get married in Italy on the coast. I can still picture the water, the the shore and my white dress in the wind. The idea of a big Italian Long Island wedding made me turn all shades of green. We planned a big wedding for our parents and we were both surprised how much we enjoyed our wedding day. (I still would have preferred eloping!) But what really matters is I married my best friend and we will make it to Italy someday.

Wendy said...

Yes, in a heart beat! Funny, I've been thinking about doing just that lately.

Bethany T said...

My husband and I eloped at the courthouse in the county where we first owned a home together. Our families knew beforehand and most of them weren't that surprised. We had been together over 8 years at that point. I have other friends who eloped on a small island in WA and then had a reception on their first year anniversary. Some other friends of mine eloped at a music festival and are having a wedding where most people don't know they were already married. It makes the moment so much more intimate when you can focus on each other and not the million details (even for a small wedding) and worrying about whether everyone else is having fun.

Amber, theAmberShow said...

I've built an entire photography business on people eloping in NYC (I got a great boost last summer when we passed marriage equality! Yeah!)

I love elopements; they can be simple or non fussy as you'd like.

Pier 39 Prep said...

This is so beautiful and lighthearted! I would definitely choose to elope over a grand wedding any day!

Emily said...

I do love the spotlight, but I would absolutely elope. Weddings get SO expensive, I would much rather enjoy my hubby over planning a menu, or cake!

Kelly Golightly said...

I wanted to elope for the same reasons: I didn't want to be in the spotlight or deal with the stress, plus eloping sounded so exciting! But in the end I'm really glad we didn't. And it's all because of my baby niece (well, she's 6 now and I still call her a baby!).

I'm sure it's a billion times stronger as a parent, but once kids enter your life (in some way), you finally can actually put yourself in your parents' shoes. Before my niece was born, that wasn't the case at all -- for me anyway. I was very much "it's our wedding, we should do whatever WE want to do." But I would be crushed not to be at my niece's wedding so I can only imagine how parents must feel. I think it would have broken both my mom and dad's hearts. And probably my sister's too.

BUT, that's not to say this adorable couple did anything wrong at all. It's so different for each family and circumstance and I love that she says her mom was dancing around with excitement! And I love the sweet intimacy of it just being the bride and groom.

But for us, I'm glad we didn't go that route in the end, because it would have caused a lot of strife in our family. Plus it was a blast having everyone together for our small ceremony and celebration (25 people total).

It's such a personal choice.

Erin said...

Yes! I wish we did! If I could do it all over again, I'd do it in a hearbeat. Weddings are WAY too expensive and I think it would have felt much more intimate. I loved what we did, but we both wish we could have eloped. My grandparent's eloped 52 years ago :)

Erin said...

ack grandparents, not grandparent's. Sorry, have to correct myself!

Anonymous said...

My husband and I eloped in Florence, Italy last summer. Instead of spending $25k on a wedding we travelled all over Europe for 35 days and got married in the middle of it. Our families were a somewhat disappointed but we had a nice dinner with them when we returned and gave them little mementos from the trip. I can't imagine doing it any other way. We saved some serious dough and made amazing memories.

ashleesanders said...

we eloped. Money was a factor- as we had none. I think it really shows commitment when couples can forget the glitz and glamour and focus on what marriage is really about.

beautiful post!

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Michelle {lovely little things} said...

I don't think I would, but I can totally picture my little sister eloping. I've always pictured her running off to be married in some remote island in the Pacific and then having a big party afterward!

diätplan said...

very good post

Amanda aka MamaRobot said...

We eloped 6 years ago and we've never looked back. We've since had a few friends, in the midst of wedding planning stress, tell us "You guys did the right thing."

Eliza Wells said...

From a potential wedding guest: PLEASE, oh please, ELOPE!

It's tidy, romantic, inexpensive, and we will still give you lovely presents!

Anonymous said...

We eloped and I'm so happy we did! We told our families ahead of time that we had decided to get married but that we weren't having a wedding (we both have complicated families and don't like being the center of attention). Thankfully, our families understood and gave us their blessing.
It was a wonderful, romantic weekend, and it's now a happy memory shared only by the two of us. :)

srpw said...

we eloped, too! besides the fact that our families live all over the place (in england and across america) and getting them all together seemed impossible, we mostly wanted the day to be just for us, and neither of us like the spotlightl... heres our story, if you want to know about it!

http://sweetbabychild.blogspot.co.uk/2012/04/we-eloped.html

Jessica Quadra Photography said...

As a photographer, elopements are my favorite type of wedding. They're so lovely and intimate. But I personally never could have done it. My sister and mom would've killed me! :)

Anonymous said...

We thought we were going to but instead we did the "next best thing." We got married in city hall with immediate family present, and then had a private luncheon at an upscale restaurant. This dramatically brought the price down and then we splurged on our honeymoon.

My reason for wanting to elope and/or have a very low-key wedding was twofold - as another poster pointed out, the wedding is ONE DAY. I could not justify paying, or asking someone else to pay, thousands and thousands of dollars for a wedding. Our small luncheon at an upscale restaurant still came in at $1300, which my husband and I paid, and even that was really too much for ONE day for 11 people (one lunch!) But, second, I have never had any desire to be the center of attention the way a woman is on her wedding day. No thanks! Even the level of attention I got in our civil ceremony was a bit too much. But in the end, we pleased relatives who wanted to be there.

That said, what relatives want shouldn't be the driving force behind your decision about how/where/when to wed (unless, of course, you expect them to pay.)

Sarah Jane said...

I would elope, i don't need a production. plus i think there's something so beautiful about an elopement!

Notes from Holly St. said...

We didn't elope and I if I had to do it over again, i still don't think I would but there's something so romantic about it. I love the sweet details from this wedding.

Abby said...

I think at some point you decide whether your wedding is about the two of you, or about your families/friends. When we were planning our wedding, people kept saying to us that "it's all about what you want," "you two are the ones getting married, not anyone else," etc. And I think that for a lot of couples, that is true, and they should go with everything that makes the two of them happy on their special day.

But for us, it just wasn't like that -- our wedding day was for our families and friends to celebrate in our union (and thus, their union). Maybe this was because we had already been committed to each other for years. Thinking back now, I basically think of us as "married" as of our date of engagement. Our wedding day was when we publicly shared that union with our closest loved ones -- a day for them as much as for us. Though I admit that's a mantra that we had to keep reciting sometimes when our parents would get a bit crazy about the planning!

Jordan Cole said...

My husband and I did. Last minute, our parents were the only ones who knew!

Mina said...

We sort of did elope. We were also both reluctant about being in the spotlight and didn't want the stress of a wedding. But we didn't want our immediate families to feel shafted. So we planned a Mexican wedding for just the two of us but then invited our parents and sisters to watch us get legally married the day before in a park. (Mexican wedding requirements were strict so this made it easier anyway.) We told close friends and family but most people didn't know until we came back.

marty said...

We did, too, on the last day of a sailing trip in the Grenadines. There were a lot of little snafus that led to a great story, which we happily told our entire family when they were miraculously all under one roof for Thanksgiving. We'd been together so long that they were more thrilled that we finally got married than hurt that we didn't have a big ceremony. My parents threw an intimate dinner for both families a few weeks later, and it was perfect.

Tamara Watson said...

I eloped with my husband and never regretted it. My family is...well...uh...pretty messed up, so an event like a wedding is merely an opportunity for drama. Eloping took care of that. But more importantly, eloping fit us as a couple. Like Cat mentioned, we aren't spotlight people. Eloping was also very romantic and yes, the secrecy was so fun!

Closet Cravings said...

Elopements are a great idea if you don't enjoy the spotlight, if you're looking for a more intimate ceremony, or if you simply need to pinch pennies. Weddings are fun and special, but they can also become so stressful and expensive.

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Gretchen said...

We had what I called a "planned elopement." We went to New Zealand (as far away as possible, so no one could surprise us), and had a beautiful wedding at a vineyard. White dress, flowers, and photographer. Just no guests! It was absolutely perfect. We both are very against big, silly, expensive weddings and felt very strongly that our wedding should be just for us and no one else. It was perfect and I don't regret a thing!

Mrs. White said...

While we live in a town that is a popular wedding venue (Asheville, NC), I have worked in event planning for many years and neither of us wanted a wedding. We were both brought up in Georgia so away to Savannah we went on a warm weekend this past February and got married under a palm in one of the historic city squares. I picked a camellia for my hair and his lapel and it was as perfect and memorable as could be-I would do it all over again. :)

Alexa said...

there is something terribly romantic about that moment being shared between just the two of you. i'm not sure how i'll be married one day, but i certainly won't rule this out :)

Kristen said...

I loved my wedding but I would have eloped in a second. It is so romantic. They are like the cutest couple too.

Eleanor said...

I'm not married yet, but I would definitely consider eloping with family. Does that count? haha I have a child so I would definitely want my little one present along with immediate family from both sides. :)
Their story of elopement is very sweet. I love that she involved her family without their knowing, so cute.

The Jilly said...

I would definitely elope! The married (or soon to be married) couples I know experienced extreme pressure and stress leading up to their weddings from their families. While they had fun and loved having family members there for their special day, the day became more about their families then each other and this fantastic new chapter in their lives (many of the comments about families being hurt by elopement only support this). By the time the day arrived, they just wanted it to be over (not to say the weddings themselves were not fun and enjoyable).

I had one cousin elope in Las Vegas(his and her mother were present) and the ceremony was broadcasted over the internet. The entire family got to watch if they wanted but the couple also got to do things their own way - and save money for their new home. I completely understand the desire to share the experience with family as well. No one is saying that those who elope can't throw a party to celebrate afterward. :-)

Tiffany said...

I can't wait to be married but I don't want to get married. The whole process is so exhausting, emotionally fraught and expensive. I'd rather save all the money for an amazing honeymoon. All that to say, yes, I would elope.

A.P. said...

We did a "planned elopement" in the Caribbean...best decision ever!!! Still had the pretty white dress and flowers and photographer, but it was just my husband and I. We did a casual reception for all our friends and family to celebrate about a month later, but I'm SO glad our wedding was just for us. It made the moment feel even bigger with no guests to focus on or wedding details to stress over. We were focused only on each other and the commitment we were making and it was so intimate and romantic. Elopement is not for everyone certainly but for us it was perfection.

Tiffany said...

I would NOT elope at a Denny's though: http://laist.com/2012/08/09/dennys_wedding_chapel_vegas.php

Kipin Alexander said...

My husband wanted to elope so badly. We're LDS so we would have had a temple ceremony with our closest of friend and gone straight on our honeymoon. Instead, he relented to a big reception afterwards. I loved my wedding, but I kind of regret the sweet little wedding that never was. I think if I could have gone back, I would have gone through with my Mormon elopement.

Cassidy Short said...

Although I don't think I would do it (my parents would probably be devastated!) I think there is something so romantic about eloping! If I did, I think I would choose New York City's city hall!

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cozyurbanhome.blogspot.com said...

If I had it all to do over again..I would, indeed, elope. I'm not a person who likes to be in the spotlight and feel like marriage is a very close thing between TWO people. I would probably elope and then have a picnic when we got home to celebrate!

Alaina said...

The closer we got to our wedding day back in 2007 the more we wished we had eloped and spent the $$ on a honeymoon or our first home! We were so ready to just be married that the day was starting to mean less to us. We did have a blast on our wedding day, but I remember that the preparation did get a little tiresome.

Jill said...

yes, my dream is to get engaged and married all at the same time - just come back from a vacation/long weekend as a mrs.

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Anna Melgreen said...

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Tracy Gilmore said...

My husband and I eloped 5 years ago, and it was the most romantic thing I have ever done. Perhaps it was a true "elopement" since we did tell people before, but it was just the two of us and our officiant. We went to Napa and stayed in a little cottage, and the officiant came and held the ceremony in the little garden. We wrote our own vows. The best part was just getting to be with each other after the ceremony and really take it all in and cherishing the moment.

Anonymous said...

Whoever my future husband is, he better be down with eloping! No need for the fancy, expensive wedding. Just me and my man and the future at our fingertips.

Gab said...

I eloped, but the hurt feelings from other family members never really went away - almost 10 years later and there were still negative comments about it.

we're getting divorced now and i know my ex's folks hurtful words and attitude about us eloping contributed to it.

if you do it, be very careful who'll you'll offend - you may not hear the end of it for a LONG time.

Eva Meszaros said...

i'm so surprised by how many people's reasons not to is that someone ELSE would be hurt. I'D be the hurt one! i couldn't imagine doing something so meaningful and NOT having my mom or best friend there. though i understand the stress of having a huge, expensive production. (i'm not a fan of being center of attention, either.) but how could you not want your dearest family and/or friends nearby? :)

Anonymous said...

Wow! It's so nice to see that people feel the same way we did. We chose an amazing 3 weeks in Italy vs. an expensive ring and wedding and I do not regret that at all. We mailed announcements the day we left for Italy so we could enjoy our trip without any guilt and then threw a big party when we got back.

I don't regret what I did but I do wish I had done two things differently: Not having a professional photographer and I wish I had invited just my parents because my dad passed away a few years ago and I do feel guilty that I didn't share that moment with him.

Tracy Evelyn said...

Yes! I wish we had spent our money and eloped rather than throwing a wedding neither of us cared too much about. Both of our sets of parents wanted us to have a wedding sooo bad, so we did. But eloping sounds so much more romantic!

dinamorrison said...

Probably not. But planning even a small affair is a lot of work. We are getting married in the woods in three weeks and I am running out of time. I even asked my followers to pick my wedding dress in my dinaDuluth post today! dinamorrison.wordpress.com

Bri said...

We did elope! In Thailand! We had a private ceremony on the beach, just the two of us, where we exchanged written vows and read them silently. The next day, we had a Buddhist monk perform a blessing over us.

It was unplanned and perfect for us. We did take photos ( http://www.wanderingstudy.com/ingredients-for-a-thai-beach-elopement/ ) and even filmed our own wedding video ( http://www.wanderingstudy.com/rise/ ) so we could share & relive the day.

I think next year we'll have a western hemisphere celebration (maybe a "making it legal in America" first year anniversary party), so it'll be nice to later celebrate with our loved ones without an immense amount of pressure.

Jody said...

Yes! We did a cookie cutter summer wedding. At the time (we were both 24), it felt like the right thing to do. If I ever get married again (hopefully not!) I'd consider eloping....

Katherine said...

I love this. To each their own but seeing how this couple did it was so sweet.

Pamela RG said...

I am not married yet. But yes, I will elope. I prefer a more simple and meaningful wedding with close family and friends around if possible. Cat's and Ash love story is so sweet and touching. All the best to them!

Rachel said...

I just eloped last week! We didn't want to deal with any family stress and wanted to do it in Maine (we live in NYC). So we had an "elaborate elopement" with flowers, a photographer, hair and make up, and a cake. It was such a special day. Our 2 year old daughter held our hands throughout the ceremony, we both teared up and it was a really special day. We talk about having a party to celebrate with friends this fall but nothing planned yet.

Stephanie said...

I love their story - especially the part about the bouquet! I absolutely would elope. I don't have any desire to spend money on a wedding, and I'm very practical when it comes to things like dresses and would never wear a traditional gown (I would buy a nice, classic blue dress that I could wear the rest of the year). Unfortunately, my partner is Italian and I suspect I won't get away without some kind of a wedding. I'm hoping the fact that he is ruled by his stomach will help me to convince him to make it a very small affair but with lots of outstanding food, e.g. just the family and closest friends at a great restaurant, after a city hall ceremony!

Sara said...

That's my plan! What could possibly be more romantic than making the entire day just about the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with? Weddings have become so over the top and full of stress and distractions. I think an intimate elopement is a way to start your life together focused on what and who matters most and hopefully that can be carried on into every day of the marriage.

Feathers Atlanta said...

After dealing with the stress and drama of planning and having a wedding...I'd be seriously tempted to elope. Lol.


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Kate said...

Can't wait to! Seems like such a good idea...

Kristine said...

that is such a cute story! I don't know if I would elope but I would consider it, I'm sure. Never say never.

It's my cake said...

Hi everyone :)
Cat here, thanks fo all the lovely comments, & I don't want anyone to feel sad about us eloping! We had the most beautiful day, and the main reason for eloping is my partner and I are not just a little bit shy - but verrrry shy!
We had the most fabulous picnic party with all our friends and family, in my mum and dad's backyard, when we got back from our honeymoon. Everyone knew right away it was the best decision for us and were so happy and excited.
Much hugs, Cat xxooxx
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SKC said...

LOVE the picture they used for the Facebook announcement - so sweet! Congrats and good luck to them both!

Rachel said...

Gorgeous! I would elope in a second. We are getting married in September and are having a big wedding for our family and friends. If it had been up to us we would have gotten married on top of a mountain all alone. Hurray for you! Great post, Jo : )

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Em Levy {orange + barrel} said...

I eloped and it was the best decision ever. We threw a party the following weekend for our family and friends. It was so great because by the time we got to our party I could just take in being surrounded by all the people we loved instead of worrying about the actual act of being married.

Natalie said...

Did it once and would happily do it all over again!

My husband and I had known each other for just two weeks before we were married. We were sitting in the woods next to a secluded stream in Payson, Arizona enjoying some lunch when a freak rain and hail storm came out of nowhere, drenching us and pelting us with icy cold pebbles. We packed up our lunch and ran up the hill, laughing and tripping, towards where my car was. At the top of the hill we were drenched and gasping for breath through our laughs. For whatever reason, I turned to him and said, "Lets go to Vegas" He asked me why and I jokingly said, "To get married!" He instantly agreed, and when I asked if he was serious, he told me he was as long as I was. We walked back to the car, jetted over to a shop to buy some cheap wedding bands and started our trip to Vegas. We laughed and talked the entire car ride, checking to make sure the other was just as committed to the idea occasionally. When we got there it was 5 am, so we parked on the side of the road and fell asleep in my car. We woke a few hours later, applied for our marriage license and were married that afternoon on September 2, 2006.

It's been almost 6 years now and we have two gorgeous children and some amazing memories to show for it. Looking back, it seems absolutely kismet from all of the wild coincidences that happened and the way that we understand each other as if we've been together for life. Besides, neither of us were ever the type to want a big, expensive party with all of the frills. The great thing about our random-chance wedding is that it's a memory that the two of us, and only the two of us, get to share. It's created a very special bond between us and always gives us something beautiful to reminisce about.

Zsuzsa said...

I would never, never-ever elope. Why? Because I love my parents, and they absolutely deserve to be right there on one of my greatest day. I do not want to hurt my dearest and nearest. That would be extremly rude. We are live in a selfish world, sadly:-(

Jennifer Beaudet said...

I think I would. I pretty much did.

Dennise said...

absolutely! I eloped and it was the best decision I ever made! love this post Joanna! xo

Elise said...

Heck, yes! I'm in the middle of planning a wedding right now... if it were up to me, I'd elope in a heartbeat. I hear about how I would have regrets about not getting "the wedding of your dreams," but I just want to get married, I could care less where and when! Ah well... back to addressing envelopes...

Melinda said...

I was really thinking about eloping at the last few planning stages of our wedding. there was a lot of drama and confusion from all - since we were getting married in Switzerland and I knew family and friends wouldn't be able to make it etc. And people (especially my parents) were in utter shock -how dare I move far away etc. I told (at the time my fiancé) lets just elope, and he thought i was crazy! - but we do go thru the wedding etc. - still wished we would have eloped (even after 8.5 years later)! haha! :)

Deniz said...

awesome :)

Gemma said...

Congratulations to Cat and Ash - such a beautiful day!

We eloped in June and it was the happiest day. We told our immediate families a few weeks before that we would be getting married when we were on holiday in NY so they knew but apart from that it was a secret. The whole day felt magical and I know I wouldn't have been able to relax so completely into it with anyone else there.

Joanna said...

I think eloping is the way to go. I never desired the stress and the circus-like production of a traditional wedding. I'm *sort of* eloping in October.... does it count if your parents will be there? Ha, probably not!

After marrying in a super small, intimate ceremony with just our parents in tow, we'll then have a big celebratory dinner with our families, and another dinner & cocktails a week later with just our friends. Much more our style. I'm not even sure I *need* to wear white.

Cho (HushSecret) said...

Aww, it's so sweet! But I don't think I wanna elope, even though it'll be thrilling and magic-like! I want my wedding to be celebrated with my families and friends all attended!

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Anonymous said...

My husband and I eloped 8 years ago. We did tell everyone our plans. So we did not just come back from the islands married. We did throw a casual party a few months later to celebrate. My mother-in-law still barely speaks to us. She claims it is the worst thing that has ever happened to her. She tells us we crushed the dreams SHE had for her son's wedding. The type of wedding he never wanted. It is tough. We do not regret it one bit. We loved our choice and still do. It is a shame that one person has essentially disowned us over it.

claire-elisa said...

I have an older brother who eloped, he told us in a one sentence email! My older sister also eloped and didnt tell us for 6 months, she lives in a different country. I understand and respect their choice completly, however, I did cry a lot when my sister eventually told me and still feel a little sad about her eloping, I would have flown over to be there in a heart beat. I had a traditional wedding and would never miss out of celebrating that day with my whole family together.

Anonymous said...

I'm really bothered by a few of the comments that suggest that people who elope are being selfish! Personally, I think the goal of parenting is to raise adults who are independent and capable of making their own decisions for their own best lives. I have a friend who was offered a job in the far north and whose parents said to her, "Go, don't worry about us. If you pursue your life as you want to live it we have done our job well. Fly and be free." In some cases, too, having a big wedding and taking tons of money from parents to do it is in itself selfish. I am really bothered by the way that people try to transfer their values and needs onto other people (especially people they don't even know). In my own case, my mother is pretty traditional and would want me to have a wedding. Her dream for my life was that I would marry and have children, which my brothers have fortunately done for me! My dream involved study, travel, etc. etc., so I have worked abroad on several continents, have four uni degrees, competed internationally as an athlete, etc. etc. My mother isn't particularly interested in my educational or career pursuits and graduation ceremonies are not things she considers important, so she didn't come to any of mine, and in all of my years of competing came to only two of my major competitions. Am I supposed to have a wedding just because my mother has a preference for weddings and hearts and flowers over caps and gowns and track stadiums? I love my mother and accept that she is who she is, as a result of her experiences (and have taken responsibility for my own decisions), but the answer is most resoundingly no!

Jennifer said...

We actually tried to elope and failed. We were planning a wedding, but family complications were making it so un-fun. We went to Belize for Christmas that year, and on a whim, we took our wedding clothes with us. You have to be there a week to qualify, which we were...but because of Christmas and New Year's, the offices were closed on the particular days we needed to register. It's so funny, remembering my beautiful wedding dress all folded up in our duffel bag (!), just in case we could make it happen.

NotesFromAbroad said...

1st marriage, eloped. Nothing to write home about, sort of a downer.. I realised that part of the joy that might have been was sharing it .
2nd .. a few people were there, it was not religious but was solemn and full of love and it has lasted many many years now ..

loveochses said...

really sweet story! looking back, eloping may have been a good idea for us :) my MIL became quite the stressful figure and we were on the verge of eloping. wedding planning yes takes a lot of time, but when someone takes some of the fun out.. another option may have been a good choice :) either way, i ended up with my soulmate! xo

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Lauren Grundhoefer said...

I'm torn. My boyfriend and I have been dating several years and toyed with the idea. Planning a big wedding almost gives me anxiety and a nice elopement would be so stress free for me. Yet I know how much it would hurt my family if I did. We already threw them for a loop when we decided to life together and now we both live halfway across the country so planning a big wedding back home would be difficult. When do you draw the line between choosing for yourself or respecting your roots?

Thanks for letting me share :) Joanna I love your blog!

Deanna said...

We eloped to San Francisco a few months ago and it was the perfect way to celebrate our marriage! Everyone is always so shocked when I reveal how we got married - because I'm a wedding planner! :-)
I LOVE big, beautiful, styled weddings, but for us, it just felt right to keep it low-key and intimate. It was just us, our parents, his brother and a photographer. I don't think I've ever smiled so much in one day! Photos are finally up on my blog!

Circa Style said...

My fiance and I were pretty set on eloping after our wedding plans (a non-denominational outdoor ceremony, a 100 person guest list) were met with massive drama and disapproval from one set of parents. Apparently, not getting married in a church and not inviting 300+ extended family members is a tragedy in an Italian family.

We ultimately decided against it, because eloping would mean that all those wonderful people who had supported us (and our wedding plans) and nurtured our 8 year relationship wouldn't be there to celebrate with us. The nay sayers will just have to deal with it.

Allyn said...

I really really wanted to elope. The thought of spending that much on ONE day just sickened me (and I only had a $6000 budget, which is most brides flower budget), plus I am not a fan of being the center of attention. At the same time, I do think that there is beauty to having your closest friends and family, the people who have and will continue to love and support you through the years, standing up and saying that they will help you on this journey. Plus, I don't think my mother-in-law would have forgiven me. So we had a relatively small wedding (which was still stressful, but whatever), and made up for it by having a long honeymoon in Scotland. Rough, huh. Haha.

Nikki said...

If my husband and I could do everything over we DEFINITELY would have eloped. We enjoyed our wedding but wish that we had made it more about us and less about the people we felt we *had* to invite, or doing things my parents way since they were paying.

Looking back, I would have rather hired a photographer to capture our day and had our own private ceremony, followed by a relaxed dinner with all of our friends and family later on.

Bows and Sparrows said...

If my mom wouldn't kill me, I would totally elope! :P

Nicole said...

My husband and I bravely eloped in Southern California in March of 2010. For the most part, I've never regretted it. My mother in law was a bit sore about it for a short while, but she came around to it in no time. We had two parties at home! Our friends through us a surprise reception as soon as we get home from our elopement. It was at a pub in Philadelphia and we had mac and cheese as wedding cake. It was a blast. We then had a huge reception a month or so later.

A big wedding was never really an option for us-- too many messy religious issues to reconcile. And no one wanted to spend a ton of money. I knew that even if we had a big wedding someone's feelings would get hurt at some point over something, so the whole parents or family not liking the elopement wasn't much of an issue for us.

Carolyn said...

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Grete said...

I joked that it would've been easier to elope when we were having to plan our wedding, but I'm glad we still had our wedding where our families and friends could be included in our special commitment to one another.
This is ESPECIALLY true for me after my brother eloped two years ago... I was devastated when he told my parents and me two days later - we had never even met the woman he married! We felt completely excluded from his life, and it definitely hurt. He really didn't get why we would feel that way, and he refused to let us have any kind of celebratory reception many months later when our extended family all got to meet her. It was an inconsiderate way to start a marriage for the family, considering she is now a PART of our family.
We have no qualms with her personally - just the way everything started...

Dawn, UK said...

Thats what we chose to do. We live in England and got married in Central Park. We got engaged in NYC and it felt very special for us to come back to NY for our big day. It was such a wonderful day, filled with beautiful memories. So many lovely New Yorkers congratulated us throughout the day, came and took our photo and made it such a special day. Our witnesses were on holiday from Australia and South Africa, unfortunately in all the excitement we didn't get their details to email and thank them, but we have some lovely photos.

Unfortunately not everyone was happy with our decision to do it this way- but we wouldn't change anything.

Olivia said...

We are seriously thinking about eloping!
We got "legally" married two years ago, have alteady two kids. So I d like tO do now , something a little
More spiritual. I do not need the fancy stuff now, and
I like the idea of sharing this moment , just the two of us.
I m not sure my husband is really ok with it, he is
Really more traditionnal and want the big
Party and family gathering. So we wait and im sure
That this will end the way I want it ;)

jojo encourages said...

I like the idea of eloping - very romantic!!! But what about your family and friends? Don't you wish for them to see you share in this happy moment?!

jojo encourages said...

I like the idea of eloping - very romantic!!! But what about your family and friends? Don't you wish for them to see you share in this happy moment?!

Meghann @ Fuzzy.Little.Wishballs said...

My husband, daughter and I eloped to Charleston, SC last Fall. And I wore red. I would do it again in a heart beat.

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mariniere said...

My husband and I eloped. We got married at the courthouse in NYC with just our immediate family present and had a celebratory lunch after. It was perfect for us.

Anonymous said...

We eloped, but took my dad and two best friends with us. I think that my dad really enjoyed giving me away. We had a wonderful time and it was perfect, but made the mistake of celebrating exhaustively with everyone when we got back. In hindsight, I think it is perfectly OK to just elope and share the photographs with loved ones over coffee later.

Sara said...

I'm not sure about Eloping but the idea of a wedding somewhere far away like Italy or some beautiful island sounds amazing!! But I think I would still want my family & friends to be there.

Kelsi said...

When I got married, it was a big elaborate event with lots of food and dancing and a 12-piece swing band. Five months later, he cheated on me (among other things) and I filed for divorce. I learned a hard lesson very quickly that I'd MUCH rather have a dream marriage than a dream wedding.

The idea of eloping appeals to me even more now. Even if I don't elope, it will be a far simpler gathering with only my closest family and friends. I want to enjoy the day, not run around trying to juggle a thousand things at once. But most importantly, I want the MARRIAGE to be more successful than the WEDDING!

Lilli boo said...

Eloping appeals to me plus taking our children, keep it simple. I watched how my sister stressed over her very large and elaborate wedding, 350+ guests, her husbands family have a very large family and his Mother invited everyone! It still was a beautiful day, however knowing how much it cost, lets just say the equivalent of a good deposit on a house, I feel it was too over the top to spend that sort of money. Eloping looks even more appealing to me... (end note: together with my partner for 18 years and not married that's why I can consider this option!)

Nicole C. said...

I would be really sad to elope. My family is really close, probably due to us experiencing a lot of death throughout the years, so I don't think I could ever get married to someone without them experiencing that monumental moment with me.

Sugatek said...

I eloped on August 9th, 2012. My husband and I said, what are we waiting for? We picked the 9th, researched marriage license rules locally, bought wedding bands the days leading up to that Thursday and called an officiant to meet us at the courthouse. We got married in the courtyard of the courthouse, flowers surrounding us, while holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes. It was everything I ever wanted. We're planning a renewal on our 2nd anniversary, with a church blessing and party. But this is what was best for us.

Shauna El said...

Me and my husband eloped in the Uk.
I only have one regret that we could not afford a photographer.
WE decided to elope for money issues and also the fact that my husband is British and I was Australian and I didn't feel it fair that my family should miss out and since my brother was getting married a few weeks later. I'd be gutted about it all.
But we had a great day in the end.

But I rang my mum the next day, and it turns out that while we were having drinks with our witnesses in Windsor my mum was dreaming about being in the same location. So that was spooky. I can't wait for Christmas to see my family again.

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Lauren said...

My fiance and I are considering eloping. We are becoming so stressed with wedding planning (its fun, but stressful), what with the costs (we are paying for it ourselves), as well as the family issue. Basically none of mine would come, but his is large. We want a wedding, but we want more to be happy and married to each other. And we know feelings would be hurt if we did. It's all so confusing.

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Shelly Slader said...

I have always kind of wanted to just go and get married in vegas. It would be so spontaneous and fun!

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