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Thursday, July 12, 2012

What sex feels like to guys

Recently I heard the weirdest thing...

The other night, I was hanging out with some friends, when the conversation turned to sex.

My guy friends all agreed that sex to a man is a similar sensation to someone sucking on your big toe (x1000).

"It's warm, wet and incredibly soft, so it's kind of similar to if someone sucks on your toe...but obviously much more intense," said my friend M.

Then the girls tried to describe what sex feels like, and the best description was...using a Q-tip (x1000). Right? Kind of?

What do you think? Do those descriptions ring true? How would you describe it? How weird is this conversation? :) Weigh in below...
P.S. How long do you wait to sleep with someone? And a surprising tip for a sexy night...

(Top photo of James Dean; fireworks photo by Epic Fireworks)

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poisonwood said...

Haha those are some funny comparisons! I've heard an orgasm compared to a sneeze x 10, but somehow that doesn't seem quite right!

Hope said...

maybe if you qualify the toothpick as "fleshy"

Anonymous said...

Like putting a tic-tac into the mouth of a whale!

Joanna Goddard said...

sneeze x 10 -- that's so funny! i get that. :)

Tesiah said...

Using a q-tip is a good comparison. It's like using a q-tip if you have an itch in your ear.

Tess
www.theframedlady.com

Priscilla said...

so interesting! now that I think about it, using a q-tip does feel oddly good...

Michelle said...

Not at all like a q-tip! Holy hell Joanna, that made me crack up.

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little lady said...

Wow, Q-tip is spot on! So funny.

Shelley said...

I laughed out loud at this. I am pretty sure these are the most accurate descriptions EVER! :)

elizabeth said...

hahahha so weird but the more I think about it, the more I think these may be great descriptions

Kate said...

I think I must not be using q-tips correctly...

Shanda Snyder said...

The Q-tip thing sounds maybe a little accurate...I would think of it like sneezing, getting a massage and having your hair played with at the same time plus chocolate and earthquakes.

www.abirdieoncetoldme.blogspot.com

Nisha said...

I agree with Q-tip, heard in jokes. But I don't understand why men like toe being sucked.

Not weird but awkward conversation for me, hehe. At least my husband can NEVER talk about such stuff in public or with friends! :D

Lindsay @ Darling Clementine said...

Hmmm, not so sure about the Q tip thing, do you know it doesn't say anywhere on a Q Tip box to use it in your ear yet we ALL use it in our ears. so weird.

I totally agree about the sneeze comparison, man a great sneeze totally rocks my world. And a sneeze x10, well...

Ryan Adair said...

Hahaha! This is the best post I've read in a while in blog land! So funny! I don't know how I would describe sex for a woman, but I am a little weirded out/turned on by the toe comparison. hahahaha!

Bethany said...

Shanda Snyder's comment is seriously the BEST. "Plus chocolate and earthquakes." LOL.

Allie said...

Yes. Definitely a sneeze X10. X20! Once after a sex sesh with my boyfriend, I said I felt like french toast and fireflies. :) A satisfied, warm, ooey gooey, magical feeling.

Allyn said...

Haha! This is amazing! And i really do think (at least from a woman's perspective) it's totally right! I know that when my husband and I have had a crazy week and gone too many days without some lovin, I get that whole "itch that you just can't scratch" feeling. As soon as we have remedy that, it's immediate relief.

Emily said...

Oh how funny! I can't say I would have come up with the q-tip correlation, but I would sort of agree. And the sneeze x10 I would agree.... the relief of sneezing is sometimes overwhelming. Maybe I have lots of allergies? hehe

Mrs. Bodien said...

I love Shanda Snyder's description above: "...like sneezing, getting a massage and having your hair played with at the same time plus chocolate and earthquakes." Right on! {Hilarious discussion too!}

Amanda said...

My husband and I both refer to the glorious q-tip feeling as an eargasm.

Ling Wang said...

I've likened it to a roller coaster ride before; that rush when you race down from the top and into a loopy loop ;)

Angie said...

A powerful sneeze sounds about right...even the build-up is the same. Ahhh...Ahhh...Ahhh...choo : )

Angry Asian said...

i have discussed this with both my bff and bf. he says that i do use qtips quite often. i never noticed...

bff said this: what? if it were like sucking on a big toe then i don't think it would be such a huge deal to them. for one, from what i've read, is that they have a ton of nerves on the tipster. i'm going to research this. i'll flick matt's big toe and if he drops a warm pearl then we'll know.

i am hiding in my office dying of laughter over this right now.

Alyssa said...

The Q-Tip example is a great one, especially when you haven't used one in a long time and your ears just feel so in need. Oh gosh, yeah that's a great one.

Allie said...

hahaha wait! the q tip thing is SO TRUE!!

Jenny said...

Given that having my big toe sucked really REALLY freaks me out, maybe I should be glad I'm not male.

Angry Asian said...

i've thought about it some more, i do like cleaning out my ears with qtips, each ear gets its own qtip, not just one end one qtip... and i certainly do look fwd to doing this chore after every shower, whether i washed my hair or not.

huh.

Meredith said...

Haha, those are the least sexy descriptions of sex ever!

And Joanna, don't you know you're never supposed to put anything smaller than your elbow in your ear?! (my uncle is a pediatrician, it was drilled into me!)

Anonymous said...

I must not be using Q-tips correctly, because that analogy makes no sense to me!

ashley faye said...

sex to a woman feels like looking at a black and white picture of james dean on an otherwise painful thursday afternoon.

Laura J said...

I can't think of anything for a man to understand the feeling for a woman, but I guess the pressure is similar to slight pressure you feel if you press againt your eyelid? Is that weird? The release feeling is exactly the same as a sneeze times 10. Totallly agree!

Joanna Goddard said...

my guy friend just wrote me an email saying:

"it's like a very good massage. everyone has had the experience, getting a massage, where you cant believe how much pleasure your body is deriving from such a simple action. you feel the body sending those good signals to your brain."

Jay said...

Hahaha - this is so funny. I've also heard the sneeze x10 comparison and I think it rings true. Toe sucking?!?! Really?!

Ashley M. said...

I don't really get the q-tip thing but the sneeze example is totally accurate for me. I LOVE sneezing!!! It feels so good I just want to shout out YAY!!! Hmmm... yes, very similar lol.

Shannon said...

I think the massage is the best example - maybe for guys, AND for girls. The feeling of pleasure is immensely physical, and yet you almost leave your body (or at least your mind)... when it's good, at least ;)

Michelle said...

EWWW TOES! hahaha ...
have you ever tried those head massagers? the ones that look like a giant spider... that feeling when someone does it to you (and sort of when you do it to yourself) but that first feeling of the legs grazing over your whole head. Thats what it feels like... that+ the first taste of the most delicious dessert.

Jennifer said...

I've always said, a sneeze is like an orgasm for your nose!

AVY said...

I would NEVER want a guy sucking on my toe so, what can I say, poor them.


/Avy

http://mymotherfuckedmickjagger.blogspot.com

Gina said...

I've read the sneeze thing too but waaaay different, don't you think? It's gotta feel more than a toe suck for guys but I do kinda get the comparison. Q-tip....that's too dry and I'm not getting that one at all. Love the convo here! Very fun!

auste said...

Hahahaha - Joanna, your ramen noodles and plastic wrap comment just made me laugh SO loud. That is hilarious... but I can kinda imagine the sensation... so weird. This might be my favorite Cup of Jo post, btw :)

Stefania said...

The comment with the hair being played with, chocolate etc cracked me up. It is so true. So many sensations at once. And the ramen noodles one....???

I love using q-tips, though.

Stephanie said...

haha, this is so funny! I never thought about a comparison before! :) I like the sneeze x10 though!

Genloftrichin said...

Hummmm... feels a lot like the best full body stretch but the Q-tip is a comparison I have never thought of but could easily see working ... will have to work on refining this idea over the weekend .... wink wink nudge nudge.

kater said...

I have ALWAYS wondered what this kind of thing feels like to guys! Sort of like how I wonder, especially when you see dudes who are like super hunky (in the Chris Hemsworth giant arms kind of thing), what does it feel like to be a person shaped like that?

I always thought, think, whatever, that sex feels very uh, full? Not like, fulfilled in a spiritual way, I mean like, literally I feel full to the brim. Is that weird? Whatever.

natalie said...

These are hilarious. There is the feeling and then the feeling. I've never thought about how to describe the actual physical feeling of it, not the sensation of pleasure. I think it's easier for the guys to describe than girls.

Anonymous said...

Guy friend just said it's like putting a Cantaloupe in the microwave then sticking your finger in it. Boys think of the strangest things.

Aja Lake [the gold hat.] said...

oh. my. gosh. the q-tip analogy is hilarious! and, i love your strategic post titles:)

xx,
Aja Lake
the gold hat.

Anonymous said...

Totally agree with the q-tip thing, but wonder how many women are actually at all familiar with the feeling of having their big toe sucked on? I may have to try that. I almost want to put a condom on my toe, though, it just sounds so unclean.

Jill said...

About 12 years ago in college I took a class on "human sexuality". we had a guest speaker at some point that was a woman who had been born a man but had a sex change to become a female. She described male and female orgasms (having had BOTH) as being very different and to this day I still sometimes think about her descriptions when having sex! She said having an orgasm as a man was like a big wave pounding on the beach and the female organism was like a lot of smaller waves lapping on the shore.

RosieB said...

Oh this is so funny! The big toe thing is so enlightening, it makes something so totally unrelatable, relatable! But I don't the q tip thing (we call them cotton buds in England!)?! I think it's more like putting your little finger in your ear!

On the subject, do guys in the US do a thing called a 'wet willy' (urgh, even the name is vile) where as a prank they lick their finger and shove it in your ear as a surprise?! So, so vile.

www.ciderwithrosiebee.blogspot.com

WendyB said...

ROTFL! Great descriptions.

Anonymous said...

The other night, in 2009. :)

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2009/04/guys-reveal-what-sex-really-fe.html

Anonymous said...

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2009/04/guys-reveal-what-sex-really-fe.html ??????

Erica E said...

Great post Joanna! So funny. Great comparisons. I do love what Allie had said above "felt like french toast and fireflies. :) A satisfied, warm, ooey gooey, magical feeling" times the 10 sneezes ;-).

Molly said...

This is hilarious. Q-tip?? Sticking a q-tip in my ear makes me all queasy like nails on a chalk board, so for me the comparison makes no sense whatsoever. But I'm still laughing.

kate said...

Such a good comparison. What is about q-tips? It's like an involuntary craziness comes over you.

EmmaB said...

Haha, i thought i'd read the toe-sucking analogy before

Alycia said...

Why didn't you mention that you wrote this same story in 2009? I don't think anyone would have cared but now this just seems lazy.

natalie said...

HA! RosieB hit something, it's totally a wet willy!

Rosy (of Raindrops on Rosy) said...

haha talk about funny!

1st - what a sexy picture! He's super hot.

2nd - My boyfriend is always making fun of my q-tip obsession. I have to have them in the house and I like to do it at least once a day sometimes twice or three times. Its just feels so great...talk about an eargasm.

Amber, theAmberShow said...

Getting out of the shower and cleaning my ears will never be the same.

Anonymous said...

This post is very heteronormative. I read it thinking, "Wow, sex feels nothing like either of those things..." and realized that everyone's only talking about straight sex. Maybe this post could be more inclusive by mentioning that the toe and Q-tip analogies are referring to penetrative sex? Just a thought.

Alexandra said...

What Ashley Faye said...

"sex to a woman feels like looking at a black and white picture of james dean on an otherwise painful thursday afternoon."

Anonymous said...

I think you mean penetration, not sex.

Anonymous said...

I think she means sex, as she and the friends she talked to experience it. Not every single article or blog post (especially on a personal blog) has to accomodate all of everyone's experiences.

Anonymous said...

What @5:07 PM said.

Pamela Terry and Edward said...

Now I understand why mothers are always telling kids not to put Q tips in their ears. It all makes sense now.

Lexie, Little Boat said...

my first love used to describe it as a hug to his insides!!! which i thought was sweet.

Shan said...

Hahahahaha I'm cracking up right now over the q-tip comment because I was just on the train and my ears started itching so badly! I basically ran into my apartment to use a q-tip then sat down to use blogger and read this post. So funny!

Bridget said...

ohhmygoodness. the qtip is spot on! its obviously a little more intense and exaggerated. LOVE this post. Hilarious and thought-provoking.

Anonymous said...

Really, Joanna? "Recently"???

I'm really disappointed that this is the same article you wrote in April 2009. Even the quote is the same :(

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2009/04/guys-reveal-what-sex-really-fe.html

Katie said...

I don't think y'all are doing it right. ;)

I told my husband about the sneeze several years ago, and he was really mortified and denied the whole idea. I guess he was grossed out about the end product of a sneeze being compared to the end product of a male orgasm...haha

Anonymous said...

I am kind of surprised that you didn't just say, "Here's a column I wrote in 2009 - what do you guys think?!" But I know life gets crazy hectic sometimes. You still rock! :)

Anonymous said...

Why don't you even address things when you're called out on them? It's very strange behaviour to just ignore certain comments, and respond to the ones that you like.

Anonymous said...

and really? you just got an email. I'm laughing out loud at how weird this whole thing is. That ramen noodle thing is the first comment on your old article. do you think your readers are that stupid?

Allison said...

One time after having sex with a guy, I asked him what it was like for him. And he took my forefinger and sucked on it for a little while. Gave me the biggest shiver down my spine. Obviously, it would be even better, so I am definitely a little envious of guys!

Rebecca Contreras said...

Hey Person Above my Comment that is "Anonymous!"

It's very strange behavior to attack a STRANGER.

And on the internet, to boot.

A Sunday Kind Of Love said...

I agree with the people who said "I must be using a q-tip wrong". Because my first reaction to sex being like using a q-tip is that everyone who says that is having terrible sex! haha ;D

Anonymous said...

I think a slow lead up orgasm (for a woman) is amazing, but how many guys know the technique? In general, I think guys are inept and self focused and we women have been brought up to just please the guy and take our pleasure in his, rather than our own. I was married for 18 years and never had an orgasm having sex with my husband. Am I alone? ps Your blog is really wonderful!

Anonymous said...

Oh hey! Anonymous posters! If you have a problem with a busy working mom with a life not creating new material every five minutes, please feel free to not read her blog. I'm not sure why you feel that you're entitled to perfectly fresh material on a blog that someone you've never met writes.

Joanna - you are hilarious today and in 2009.

Anonymous said...

I agree that life gets busy sometimes, it just feels a bit dishonest.

Annie said...

Wow, I must be using the wrong q-tips, because that is totally not what it feels like to me. I think the massage metaphor is probably the closest--you feel warm and aware of your overall body.

I also tend to think of sex in terms of color. I usually equate orgasm with a deep, rich blue color. No idea why!

Freya Lily said...

I have totally heard of the big toe analogy and I think it sounds weird...but possibly true!

A Q Tip??? I could see that actually, but just a bigger Q Tip?? Hmm....I have no idea right now how I would describe sex!

Freya Lily said...

I have totally heard of the big toe analogy and I think it sounds weird...but possibly true!

A Q Tip??? I could see that actually, but just a bigger Q Tip?? Hmm....I have no idea right now how I would describe sex!

Anonymous said...

Joanna, I do think it would be interesting to see your side of the story on this one. Any interest in writing a post about how this came about, how you feel about this thread, and your feelings on authenticity and honesty as they are juxtaposed with entertainment and creative license on your blog?

An as a side note, I'm mostly interested because I think you have a lot going for your defense. I have no problem at all with this post.

Anonymous said...

who cares if this was posted before in 2009? people who didn't catch it the first time around can contribute to the discussion, and those who read it already can just keep their pieholes shut!

Anonymous said...

Also, I just want to note that I am the original person who posted the link to the original column. I wasn't really trying to create a problem, I just thought it was kind of funny. However, I am only able to post anonymously. Every time I try to sign in with my wordpress ID the form breaks!

DENISE. said...

Yes, a Q-tip in your ear (I first read it like "sucking on a Q-tip? What?" LOL!) or a sneeze for sure. Someone else once described it like winding up something really tight and then letting it go. So all three put together, for sure, right? :)

Anonymous said...

Kind of makes me wonder if this conversation among friends actually ever happened... either recently, or in 2009.

But I'm not very bothered by it. Even the part where she takes the ramen comment from the Smitten post and pretends her guy friend just told her about it. This isn't supposed to be REAL REAL life, people! This is a fact/fiction blog, non?

Nanananataleee said...

omg you guys, SO WHAT if she wrote it in 2009?! apparently plenty of people had never read it, and now they are getting a good laugh about it. how many of you can write something different everyday that people actually want to read?

hilarious article, joanna! I totally agree about the qtips.

Anonymous said...

Your blog is amazing and so fresh, Joanna. Ignore the nay sayers - why are people so uptight?

Anonymous said...

hahaha, Joanna- That ramen noodle analogy!!! What in the world?!
Okay this may be TMI, but once a friend compared it to a satisfying and successful time on the toilet (yes, a number 2)... but obviously x100. Now when I'm on the toilet, that pops in my mind and I can't help but giggle!

Anonymous said...

You haven't seen my husband's toes. Maybe someone else's toes X 1000, but not his. And, is the Q-tip supposed to be inserted in your ear, or somewhere else?

JCross01 said...

Joanna - I love your blog! :) Ignore the negative energy from many comments... you are the best!!

megan white said...

Haha! This is absolutely your best blog post :)

Anonymous said...

I'm the anon who noticed that the ramen noodle thing was actually a comment on her old post, not from an email she *just* got from a male friend. I don't have a problem with someone being too busy to write original content. If that's the case, don't write anything! I do have a problem with people who are deceptive and dishonest. Terrible ethics, and I won't be reading any more.

Anonymous said...

WHAT THE FUCK.

it is not like a q-tip. it is not like sneezing.

this post is so very scary.

are these women w/ small men?

Nicolette said...
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Nicolette said...

Why are people so mean?!

As far as I know, Joanna doesn't charge anyone to read her blog. She doesn't have to post for us, it's a gift to hear her insight and experiences.

Take it graciously or leave it.

Anonymous said...

Dear Anonymous,

I really like the way you reuse and reformulate your own previous comments... Maybe now would be a good time to shut up ;)

With all my love xx

Anonymous said...

I always think it feels like running the freezing cold hose on you after being out in the hot sun! The Q-tip is pretty accurate too.

i'm stephanie. said...

after birthing two children, sneezes make me pee, so um, no. ;)

i had an boyfriend that called that q-tip experience, and "ear"gasim. ha! so maybe yes!

love this hilarious post.

ramona said...

I agree with tess, at first the qtip comparison seemed wierd but when you have an tickle in your ear...

KismeTKate said...

I can't say I've ever had someone suck on my big toe, but I'm almost curious enough to try it now! HAHA

Anonymous said...

I don't think that it's meanness or bullying to point out that she posted the same content several years ago. It was unethical to say that it was recent. People should be called on that kind of dishonesty. Really disappointing.

Anonymous said...

i don't think joanna should have been dishonest, but some people are taking this way too seriously! it was wrong, but it's so hypocritical to slam joanna the way she has been when everyone's said an untruth before (whether it was because it was easier to say, or whatever!) so shut the fuck up

Anonymous said...

i think telling everyone to shutup worked, anon...

Maker said...

I really love this blog and I actually really like this post. That being said, I do find the deceit disappointing.

The fact of the matter is that this is a profitable endeavor for the author; a profit that flows from the audience’s consumption of the blog’s content. The value we receive in that exchange is the honesty and insight of JoAnna’s reflection (something we all obviously adore, appreciate, and return daily to read). However, that value is compromised if we can no longer trust the legitimacy of the perspective presented.

What is most disappointing is that the integrity of the exchange between author and reader was compromised so needlessly. I would have found this new-to-me content just as enjoyable had its history been revealed – e.g., “I once wrote a post for Glamour. It discussed blah blah blah. One commenter even likened it to blah blah blah. Three years later the quest for a perfect description still eludes me. I would love to hear your best comparisons.” Voila! Content produced. Honesty and integrity remain in tact. And the world spins madly on.

But now, despite not being as aggrieved or aggressive as Anonymous, I will always question (at least a little) the genuineness of subsequent posts. I will wonder if it is truly the author’s current thoughts or – and especially in case of reviews of products, places, and brands – whether it is rushed regurgitation.

Annie said...

I usually put Q tips in my ear..

Anonymous said...

I couldn't have worded it any better, Maker. Well said!

Caro Peguero said...

this post made me lol!!! i actually went and got a q-tip from my cosmeticstuff drawer and tested out the description (ear, of course), hahaha. although, i can't say i agree with it... like, at all. tickles a little, but mostly just feels uncomfortable. nothing compared to sex for me!!! ;)

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Hannah said...

Ha! Funny conversation! This freaks me out though as I HATE toes!

Polly Rowan said...

haha that is hilarious! I need to start using Q tips!

Anonymous said...

Thank you, Maker (1:59 AM) for so eloquently summarizing the concern and echoing my own thoughts (and those of my wife) at this blog post.

Make no mistake, we love A Cup of Jo (have done for years) and enjoy Joanna's comments and the glimpse at her lifestyle.

Yet, the deceit (hate to use that horrible word but that's what it is) of this post being passed off as new and a comment being woven in a way that was also misleading has, unfortunately, now planted a seed of doubt.

Will we now, ever again, be able to tell what is real, new and genuine? This is particularly the case where lifestyle and personality are ever more intertwined with brand and commodity.

The ethical issues at play here are at the heart of the matter. Joanna is a blogger, yes, But she’s also a journalist, as is Alex of course. Plagiarism is the ultimate sin, even when passing off one of your old stories as something entirely new, without so much as a reference or a nod.

Joanna, we love you! Please, I hope we can hear from your own internal ombudsman to clarify this situation. Thank you!

Virág said...

But these comparisons are all about orgasm, which is only part of a sexual experience, and couldn't tell a word about the excitement felt for the partner's smell, the texture of the skin or the hair. It's more like an exploison, u know, a handful of popping candy in the mouth ;)

Nikki Berard said...

This reminds me of a funny analogy my friend once used, we where arguing who enjoys sex more men or women, and she said "When you have an itch in your ear, and you put your finger in and wiggle it around, what feels better, your finger or your ear?" Haha

Rebecca Contreras said...

Uhh. I wish I didn't feel the need to defend Joanna, but I do. HER blog isn't the New York Times. It's a blog. And it is informative and relevant. Whether she discussed a topic in 2009 or in 2012. Obviously people have a lot to say, years later. How does that make Joanna and what she does unethical?

Because she didn't create a disclaimer that said *btw, I've written about this before, doesn't make introducing the article to us/readers today dishonest. Bloggers/Journalists/Writers/people are continuously regurgitating/reusing content and information. The reason being? Life is full of patterns. People in 2009 and people in 2012 still want to know what sex feels like to men. In fact, people like me, who didn't see the article in 2009 should be thanking her for this information! I wanted to know. Am I pissed that she discussed this before? Good grief, no!
The bottom line: Chill! If you don't like it, don't read. Or just chill, that could work, too. Or go write to people that you actually pay, ie: magazines and newspapers. If someone is giving you free entertainment, and you aren't entertained, look somewhere else.

Em said...

Gosh. This. Guy.
Em

angharad said...

Anonymous & friends, I think you might be taking this a little too seriously. This is not the BBC. But feel free to head off & write your own scrupulously accurate blogs, you guys sound like a hoot, I'm sure you'll attract thousands of readers.

Now for the article. In the first place, you shouldn't put a Q-tip in your ear. Should you? Can't it perforate your eardrum? Or was my mother just trying to scare me?

In the second place - a Q-tip? Really?! Don't you mean an index finger? Or a good-size carrot? And only if your ear canal was soft and, you know, kind of more, uh, lubricated?

Think I may need to lie down now...

Heidi said...

Hmm, yes I've had my big toe sucked and it is supremely relaxing. Times that by 1000 and it would probably feel pretty close to good sex! Great post!

Zee said...

I love this blog and I still do think that Joanna is an authentic and genuine woman...I do think though that this was a misstep in terms of honesty and being ethical, and although, for me, it only makes a dent in her authentic-ness, I believe it needs to be addressed by Joanna, if only to apologize or explain why she presented it as recent when in fact it's about 4 years old...I'm still a loyal reader.

Maggie O'Connor said...

Oh, Joanna,I love your blog and follow it regularly, but I actually feel a bit dissapointed that you recycled your article from Glamour 2009 like that.

Sarah said...

The difference between this being "just a blog" and something worth upset is that this is Joanna's job........if the rest of us regurgitated our work and then posted fake "My friend just said..." comments, it would technically be considered cheating. I know, in the scope of the world, who cares, but considering that she makes good money off of this, it feels icky.

That having been said.....sex feels like the best part of a good hug, over and over, only with Pop Rocks added.

Helgi said...

Brilliant post, loved the pictures you put with it. :)

Kathryn said...

i LOVE joanna's blog - maybe i've been reading it for too long because i literally remember reading this post. is it a huge deal? no. does it feel inauthentic? yes. it breaks my heart just a little bit not because it isn't new information but because she makes it sounds like it is new. and re-posting the smitten comment like someone pointed out above, as an email she received from a friend. i don't know, just disappointing and it makes me wonder what else on her blog is inauthentic. no, joanna isn't obligated to share her life or be 100% honest with us, but she makes really good money from this blog, because of us, her readers, that come back day after day. sad :(

Nina said...

OK, I think recycling an old article and even incorporating the comments from that article (that's where the Q-tip thing came from) is perfectly fine, IF it's done openly. Unfortunately in this instance, it wasn't just a simple case of failing to mention that it was old material - comments from the earlier article were then presented as new emails from friends! So much of the content on this blog purports to be about real lives and women being honest about their experiences. I've often wondered how genuine it all is... So, this misstep (good way to put it, Zee) serves as a great reminder that blogs which make money for the writer through advertising aren't necessarily any different to print magazines. The 'personal' angle may be just a selling point - there's some stuff that seems very personal and honest, and probably is genuine, and that lends a sense of integrity to posts that are more about product endorsement and promotion of a certain lifestyle/spending pattern.

Anonymous said...

I agree that this was dishonest of JO. She has done this before on a blog post about wedding kisses. It has DEFINATELY tainted my blog reading experience and I read cup of Jo every now and again when I think of it instead of everyday like I used to.

Anonymous said...

This blog was great fun, but over the last several months it's turned strange. The deliberately controversial posts seem to be solely to drive up page views. As a blog that doesn't teach me anything or produce any original content--using other peoples' recipes to try to tap into the food blogging success is tacky--you are a professed noncook--I felt that the authentic tone was what it had to offer. Now I just feel insulted. I think this blog is becoming irrelevant and a space for crazies to hang out.

Anonymous said...

What about pee shivers times 10- after having to pee like CRAZY. Everyone has pee shivers, right?

Joanna Goddard said...

Thank you so much for your comments! Valuable to hear your feedback, as always. I actually DID have this conversation with friends at dinner in the East Village two weeks ago, and we were trying to think of descriptions of what it's like to have sex from both the male and female points of view. The best examples were the toe (which I had remembered from Glamour and my guy friends agreed with) and Q-tip. My friends couldn't come up with any better descriptions (despite trying valiantly!). I hear your points and perhaps I should have mentioned that I wrote about this on Glamour three years ago--I thought it was irrelevant to mention, but I see what you mean about wanting to know exactly when/how things happen and know you can always trust what I write and how that all seemed confusing here. Thank you SO much for your feedback!! I love you guys. xoxo

Anonymous said...

Hugs to you, Joanna! Love your blog.

Anonymous said...

Joanna that fake apology makes this even worse. Remember your post about being authentic? Perhaps you should recycle it.

Anonymous said...

And the Ramen 'comment'??

Anonymous said...

Geez, just cop to it. Honesty goes a long way.

Laura said...

Guys, guys. We are losing focus of the main issue here.

This is not sex. This is penetration. Very few women come from penetration, so this whole discussion seems just about as honest as the kind of one wives would have had in the 50s, when the female orgasm was still considered a myth.

It's also totally leaving out the people who have different kinds of sex (LGBTQ and also fetishes, INCLUDING toe-play).

Shame Jo rehashed this post, but that's not the important part. The important dishonesty here is the lack of adressing the female desire and real sexual experience, and reducing it to male-centered penetration.

Is this what liberation was worth for?

Anonymous said...

I'm actually quite embarrassed for you Joanna. I can't believe you've just responded as if nothing happened here. Please remove yourself from that bubble you're living in, and join us in the real world where everything isn't puppies and rainbows. We all make mistakes. It takes grace to own up to them, which you have not.

Anonymous said...

Oh, yuck! Your falsely cheerful attempt to gloss over the issue only serves to underscore it. Perhaps it was naive of me to have trusted your seemingly genuine voice in the first place. I will not be reading this performance any longer.

Deborah said...

Wow. Such venom. Why is it SO hard to believe that a topic that was brought up or discussed by a group of friends a couple of years ago might actually and authentically come up again in a more recent conversation, perhaps with a few new contributions (and reminders of what was said before)? Haven't you people ever revisited an old conversation to laugh at it again and maybe expand on it? I know with my friends this happens all the time. Joanna, I'm assuming you'll be able to let the crazier of these comments roll off your back. And just so you know, this post led to some fun pillow talk with my hubby last night...so thanks. Maybe if all these critics had more "authentic" lives of their own, this kind of thing wouldn't get their panties in such a twist. I'm still in your corner, as I'm sure most of your readers are.

Hollie said...

Joanna,

Your blog was one of the first ones I started reading, and I've always enjoyed reading it.

I normally practice the "if you don't have something nice, say nothing" rule, but since you value the feedback from your readers, I'm going to say that I'm disappointed in this entire situation, but more so by your response.

I feel like the anons are trying to bully you into addressing this, which is not their choice, but to be honest, I don't think I feel comfortable reading from here on out without an explanation, because I too question the authenticity of what is being posted here now.

Wishing you the best.

Anonymous said...

Deborah - I think it's in part because Joanna copied and pasted a comment from the 2009 column (nearly verbatim) and posted it here as something "another guy friend just told me". So it's hard to tell what is real and what is being regurgitated for blog content (and, at the risk of being crass, profit). I guess it just feels disingenuous, which is unfortunate, since I (along with many here) have been long-time readers of this blog and find this whole thing (including her "apology") disappointing.

Anonymous said...

Why is anyone questioning Joanna's apology? She explained it and I for one take her at her word. Her blog has been amazing for years and she is a sweetheart. I don't get the way this is dragging on. Anyway, Joanna, love your blog!

Anonymous said...

I've been watching this conversation unfold and been saddened for Joanna. I usually wouldn't comment either, but I think there is an underlying issue that no one has addressed.

There are so many blogs out there, (and so many good ones) that the ones that are really rising in popularity are ones that feature only original content. I think blog readers are looking for that more and more. Unfortunately the "aggregate" style of media is losing its appeal.

Anyone can create a blog that says, "Hey, these are my favorite new pants" but very few can take quality photographs while simultaneously writing well, and inspiring readers in some NEW way with their talents/perspective.

So...while I don't really care that this post in particular was a recycled article, I do feel like this is all coming to a head because readers are looking for "more" out of their blog reading experiences.

Joanna, I think your original stuff is always AMAZING... I love the Motherhood Mondays series and would love to see some more serious topics come back on that front, and I also really enjoyed the balance work/life/family articles. Keep it up with those sorts of posts and your readers will be happy. :)

Anonymous said...

You all need to find something better to be concerned with.

Deborah said...

Well, Anon from above, I did go read the comment from the 2009 article, and guess what? I'm STILL NOT BOTHERED. Sure, it was a similar comparison, but definitely not copied and pasted. Whether or not her friend "just" emailed her this idea (how do you know he didn't?), I'm still fine with it. The original article was hers anyway. If she did simply want to throw that old comment into this conversation, I'd call it "artistic license" and nothing more. It added value. I'm thinking you sleuths need to get to work on politicians' public comments, or some other venue where your undying quest to uncover deception would actually be valuable. This is just a fun, silly discussion...a welcome giggle to perk up your day. Let it be just that.

Marie said...

Love you too Jo!! Hope you can ignore the silly person making drama.

Clearly the anonymous poster is just one person who keeps posting more and more comments just to be rude and get a reaction. No one cares anonymous. I find YOUR behavior unethical. You are the one being deceptive by making false assumptions.

Anonymous said...

It's like having an insatiable itch, that when you scratch it you think, "OMG, it doesn't get better than this!"

Anonymous said...

It's like having an insatiable itch, that when you scratch it you think, "OMG, it doesn't get better than this!"

Anonymous said...

Deborah - I wasn't trying to make you upset, rather, just explain the thinking of a number of Jo's readers who were bothered by this. We're all entitled to our opinions.

Anonymous said...

Marie, I can confirm that it's not just "one anonymous person" bothered by this. It's not right, for someone who has worked for a magazine, to go on passing off an old story as new. It's journalistically unethical, whether it be blog, Glamour, or the New York Times. It makes me question how many of these conversations Joanna really has had...

Deborah said...

Oh, Anon...I'm not upset. I usually don't comment on blog posts, let alone "spar." This just seemed like such a silly attack on Jo's "authenticity." If she says it came up recently, I believe her. It just seems perfectly plausible to me that topics come up again among friends. It's not "Sucking-On-Your-Toe-Gate."

Anonymous said...

Ever since people got pissed about the gay marriage post this blog has gotten tabloid-ish. Oh well. That's capitalism....

Valerie said...

I'm about 99.9 percent sure that the bulk of anonymous comments are not coming from just ONE person - they're too different in tone. Clearly a number of Joanna's regular readers are genuinely disappointed in her and they have every right to express that, especially when it's a for-profit blog and they are, essentially, her customers.

Steph said...

I'd say it's like someone scratching the itch on your back in a place you can't reach

Zee said...

"but I see what you mean about wanting to know exactly when/how things happen and know you can always trust what I write and how that all seemed confusing here"
Uhm...Joanna, I don't think anyone actually said that they wanted to know exactly when/how things happen...? I'm really disappointed at the glaring lack of responsibility for being dishonest in your "apology" (which really isn't an apology at all and reads as dismissive and flippant). The article was shamelessly copied and pasted and I'm now unfortunately starting to think you actually have a lot less respect for your readers as you claim to!

Anonymous said...

'dismissive and flippant' exactly!

Anonymous said...

I think this thread provides a valuable lesson on how we interact with today’s media. It’s easy to accept what we’re presented without questioning motives, point-of-view and repercussions. Instead, it’s important to critically think about what we’re reading and viewing—that is engaging with the content. It IS important that we think about authenticity and truth in all aspects of what we consume, otherwise we’ll fall into a pattern of complacency that flows through to all aspects of life, be it a political contest or fluffy story. I think those of us that are offended by this reposting won’t be so likely to treat what we see here at face-value in the future, and I think this has hit her credibility as smart and experienced ‘journalist’ even if it hasn’t ruined her reputation as a blogger and internet ‘friend’ of sorts. Fact: we were mislead with this post and, in my opinion, her apology, and instead of ignoring that fact, we should consider it moving forward.

Anonymous said...

This is sad. I think Jo values the connections she has gained through the blog more than the readers that built it up and allowed those connections. I highly doubt Pilar would agree to an interview if the blog weren't so widely read, for example. What's sad is that this is often hollow, trying to cross between the mommy/dating/foodie/design/craft arenas. I think Jo is struggling to come up with an identity for the blog--possibly to sell?? The smarter things, like the articles club (which Oprah wrote up as if it happened) are dropped. These seem more true to joanna's style, and that is why I find this sad.

Anonymous said...

If I were on the editorial staff for the Martha Stewart Living blog I would be very concerned. Joanna's honesty and integrity is her brand. It's the essence of why she's so popular and why we all visit (visited) this site every day.

And it's not that she recycled a post from 2009. Big deal. No, it's that she lied and then failed to own up and provide an explanation.

Did the real Joanna get left behind in Chicago? (If she even really went there).

Disappointed and clearly not the only one. said...

Sorry, Joanna. I've dropped a link to your blog from my link love list on my blog. As the above poster wrote, my problem with this post is less about that you recycled a post and more about the fact that you lied about it afterwords in a completely insincere way which shows how little you respect your readers, who've given you the career that you have. I'm sad and sorry to see that lack of integrity.

We are an understanding bunch - crap happens, people get busy, life moves on and the blog needs tending to. We get it. Just don't lie to us.

Anonymous said...

The original issue, what sex feels like, was significantly less interesting to me than this subsequent debate on the role of a blogger. I don't need a commonly accepted household description of sex to make it more real.

What I do need is for bloggers to thoughtfully contribute to the discussions taking place at their own instigation. To repost an article is fine. To engage with your readers in their comments is essential. But to repost previous comments as new information, and to give a "sunshine and roses" apology instead of a thoughtful explanation/response is just off-putting.

saltlakelovelydotcom said...

hmm the toe thing is odd but I did just read in a magazine that men are somewhat 'programmed' to think of sex when they see women's feet.

I like the q-tip comparison because honestly you know when you need to 'clean your ears' and it feels so good, but use a q-tip when they're fine is kind of just an annoyance lol

Becca said...

I don't think Jo is saying that sex to a man feels as good as having his toe sucked and sex to a woman feels as good as using a Q-tip. It's more like "hey I am a girl so the only part of sex I know is the, ahem, 'receiving' side of things, how does it feel to be the giver? and vice versa. I think they're both great descriptions, not of the pleasure sex brings but of the actual physical sensations on your specific sexy parts

Deborah said...

Last comment, I promise. Let me say that I choose to believe that Jo's explanation is truthful, and that there has been no intentional deception here. None of you has any "proof" (if that's even necessary) that she was being deliberately misleading or trying to pass off this post as completely original. It was an interesting topic in 2009, and it came up again recently because obviously people still find it worth discussing. Readers enjoyed it and contributed both times. People read it that were never exposed to the first post. Yes, we should always think critically about what we read on the internet. But geesh, if you are indeed a critical thinker, you would quickly have dismissed this as something you don't have to worry about. Who among us hasn't retold a story that was a hit the first time we told it? Does that make us all deceptive and untrustworthy? Personally, I think it's that kind of behavior that makes us all "authentically" human. This certainly wasn't plagiarism, and it wasn't untrue. One of the aspects of critical thinking is separating the important from the non-important. So let's review...not an earth-shattering topic (hehe...no pun intended), and no deliberate deception (unless you CHOOSE to ascribe it, and then it's your choice, not real proof). In the end, it's up to you. Choose to think poorly of someone who you have chosen to follow (remember, again that was your choice), or give her the benefit of the doubt, because being human IS being authentic. Jo...I sincerely hope you've stopped reading this thread and don't waste a moment of your precious Toby time on it, because it's really not worth it--full stop.

Taylor said...

a boy told me it felt like a warm cloud. I suppose that's intangible but it sounds about right. I don't even know how to begin to describe how it feels for us!

Emily said...

Joanna, let's get real. Maybe you did have a similar conversation a couple of weeks ago -- that's fine! But it is totally unrealistic that your dinner companion said, this two weeks ago,

"It's warm, wet and incredibly soft, so it's kind of similar to if someone sucks on your toe...but obviously much more intense," said my friend M.

When you quoted another person as saying this in 2009 in the Glamour article,

"It's warm, wet and incredibly soft," explained one guy, when he saw I looked puzzled. "When someone sucks on your toe, it kind of similar, although obviously much less intense."

Not to mention passing off the Ramen comment as something you just heard, when it was, as someone already mentioned, the first comment under the Glamour article.

You thought it was "irrelevant to mention" all of this?

I have loved your blog, and recommended it to friends and family, and it's really disappointing to see that you would not only plagiarize yourself but then try to explain it away. Yes, this is just a fun article about a silly topic. But when your readers--your customers, essentially--call you out on messing up, and you not only fail to apologize, but basically lie, it's unclear why you think we would keep reading. This is the sort of shady behavior you expect to see from politicians and huge corporations, not cool bloggers.

Melanie said...

love it!

Lucy Jane said...

Nicely said Emily! Sums up exactly what I've been thinking, as have a lot of these comments. The post is regardless to everything else happening here and I kind of can't believe that one of my favourite bloggers has done this. Sad times.

Anonymous said...

If these numbers are accurate, she doesn't give a shit about her readers.

http://www.worthofweb.com/website-value/Joannagoddard.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

Well said Emily. In sum- you effed your brand with this one.

Anonymous said...

I don't actually understand what you were thinking, Joanna! Of course it's fine & possible that the topic came up in two separate conversations, but if that really was the case, why did you have to quote verbatim from the original post in describing it this second time around?? I want to believe you, but that just makes it seem so sketchy.

Anonymous said...

Oh brother! You guys act like she's a Russian Spy~
Internet bullies are so tired. Go get a life and stop creating DRAMA for your lack of PASSION!

Anonymous said...

I just love the folks who are still commenting on how 'it' feels for a guy as if there's nothing else going on here. *Chuckle*

Truth is, many of are realizing that this is how it feels.

hello. said...

Jo:

Let me first say that I love your blog for the design inspiration and laid back, 'girlfriend'- talk atmosphere you cultivate on your blog. You've always been professional and a pioneer in the blogging world. When I wrote to you via email, you sweetly wrote back and I appreciated that. Your blog has been a daily stop for me for years.

(Sigh. Okay, now for the constructive criticism part...). I do want to voice my opinion that I am dissapointed in this recent snafu (which isn't terribly scandalous on a scale of 1 to 10, if we are to be honest). However, I do expect honesty (no matter how big or small) from someone who takes writing seriously and who is recently championing 'authenticity'. Do I think every blog has 100% original content? Nope. But I think what I, and other readers expect when you mention you recently had a 'novel' conversation, that it is indeed novel (not nearly 3 years old and revisited).

With your evergaining popularity, there is always a critic (sometimes just a plain-out meanie). Looking backwards, maybe some folks would have been less in arms if you had put a wee caption + link back to the original article. I wish you would have, and I hope by respectfully expressing this opinion, I won't be degraded for it.

Will I be back? Probably, with less frequency and more so for the design inspiration. I still think you have a solid, enjoyable blog.

Best, Dawn

Joanna Goddard said...

thank you again for your feedback! you guys know how important all my readers are to me, so i'm glad you're letting me know how you feel.

i always have thought it's fine to repurpose some material you've written before if it's from a while back and you put a new spin on it. you're right, here i should have put more of a new take on it and clearly referenced my glamour post -- it would have been very easy to do both and the post would have been just as good. at the time i wrote this yesterday, i didn't think it was relevant, but i COMPLETELY understand what you're saying, and i apologize. i should have done so; it was a misstep on my part.

in the future, i'll be very clear and reference any past posts that i talk about again. of course, the vast majority my content is original and new, but anytime i reference past posts, i'll make it very clear and put a new spin on it; i totally hear what you're saying.

you guys are so important to me and i would never want to upset you--i want you to be really happy with Cup of Jo and our relationship. thank you again, love, joanna

Joanna Goddard said...

anonymous, i've never heard of that worth-of-web site and it's not true:) sort of fascinating, though!

Anonymous said...

I personally didn't think it's that big of a deal to stir up such mean comments that I've read on here.

Don't tell me you have never withheld some kind of information (whether intended or not) from somebody you know. What makes you so above others to judge and come down so harshly on someone else (much less on a stranger on the internet) for something that you all have done at one point or another.

Gina said...

Oh my God! People, get the f*** over it. It's a blog. It's free! It's light-hearted! It's pretty! It's funny! You expect less from your so-called NEWS sources than you do from poor Joanna! You act as if this is the inquisition and you're the inquisitors. If you don't want to follow Joanna anymore, then go away. We won't miss you. Geez...

Anonymous said...

gina, i think everyone has a right to express their opinions. yes, that mean you too. i'm sure some people will drop the blog (their loss) and then there's some people who will become even more loyal because of it.

sh*t happens, right? and when someone knows better, they do better and then it's time to move on. so shame on the people who are beating joanna down to a pulp, and shame on you too for lumping everyone together, the 'mean (anonymous) girls' AND the rest of the people who have expressed a different view from you).

geepers, people. be respectful in your words. we can agree to disagree without all the negativity.

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Hazle said...

Ha, such a fascinating discussion has come from this silly post! I don't think it's relevant for people to liken what's happened here to being a bit creative in the re-telling of a funny story to your friends. Although this blog is written by one person (we assume!) and includes personal (or personal-seeming...) stories, Joanna Goddard is a professional writer and this is a profit-generating blog. To my mind, that means journalistic standards should apply here, rather than any standards we as individuals might choose to apply to our personal relationships. So this is a professionalism issue, not one of personal betrayal (although some seem to be taking it that way!). The debate also brings up the really interesting issues around individuals acting in a promotional capacity for brands, stores, etc. The very personal, intimate tone of this blog is I suspect what makes it so attractive not only to readers but to advertisers/sponsors as well. So we have to ask: can a writer be true to both parties? Or perhaps more importantly, regardless of the audience, can a writer be true to themself AND to advertisers? It's amazing how personally some readers have taken this incident - it shows that the 'personal touch' has really worked and many people feel personally invested in this blog, and like they have a relationship with the writer. Surely that has made them more open to the product recommendations and adverts on the blog. So, was the feeling generated deliberately by the writer to make her blog a more attractive platform to advertisers, or was it the other way round? How do we, as readers, feel about those two different possibilities? Fascinating stuff! Let the debate rage on!

Jenny said...

It's the re-posting of the old comments (ramen noodles!) as if they've just been emailed to her that I find a bit sad and inexplicable . It's a little like finding out father Christmas isn't real! (Santa, to you Americans). I'll keep reading, but perhaps with a little less joy.

Anonymous said...

yep, exactly...i'll say what hazle just said, very eloquently, i might add. i think this topic needs to be addressed and explored more-professionalism in the blogworld and what the ramifications of advertising with the intent of getting paid by corporations are for bloggers and their readers. a lot of people seem very polarized on the subject and there are no clear guide lines, even though this has been touched on here and there by a few bloggers.

joanna has great taste to her credit (the jeffrey campbell wedges on nordstroms that she posted recently are going fast)and she possesses the talent to effectively influence people. to some lesser extent, it reminds me a bit of oprah endorsing something and having it become a sensationalized success.

sometimes i think it's much easier to not have to wonder if someone is being authentic by reading blogs like *door sixteen* that choose not to allow advertising on their blogs.

Hazle said...

Yes, and another funny thing is that quite a lot of the less friendly arguing going on in this thread is between two subgroups of those who have been completely won over by the personal tone of this blog - one group who now feel personally offended and betrayed by this incident, and the other group who are mounting the kind of loyal defence of Joanna Goddard's character that we would usually reserve for our closest friends!

Anonymous said...

Still no explanation of the Ramen comment....

Aja Lake [the gold hat.] said...

i am so fascinated that people have the time to worry about this. joanna, to me, it seems so obvious that your content is intended to tell a story. and, everyone knows that the best stories are colored with scintillating half-truths. i say, many kudos to you!

xx,
Aja Lake
the gold hat.

Lizzy said...

All you haters need to get a life.
I don't see a problem with reusing topics....I never read the 2009 one, so I found it interesting.
At the end of the day, who cares?
If you already read it once, don't read it again. Joanna, ignore all the haters. Personally, I think they are just jealous of your successful blog.

Anonymous said...

the problem with blogging, is it is that it still is in a lot of ways in its infancy and draws a lot of similiarites with the internet when it first exploded. who is policing it (and does it need to be?)? someone's word and their conduct is their calling card for their business- in this case, a blog.

if anyone has any serious qualms about authenticity to the point of being seriously upset, you have choices. following or not following someone's blog is a legit, easy way to get your voice heard. we live in a capitalistic nation in which unfortunately money = power. a lot of companies are drawn to people who can sell.

i'm not saying that this is the case with this blog, but i think that when readers question and challenge the writer, it shouldn't be a sin. because of the personal nature of her blog and effective writing, many people are probably taking it as if she is a close friend.

Anonymous said...

* i want to also add that intention of the writer is an important factor. only joanna knows what's in her heart and i don't mean any disrespect.

i'm just interested in the aspects of professional journalism on blogs because it is not very defined and it has the capacity to really stir people up.

Anonymous said...

Aja-that's very helpful. If we look at it as just a story (in essence, fiction), no harm done, right?

Anonymous said...

anonymous, but it's not fiction :(

angharad said...

Emily, in what way are we Joanna's 'customers'? This blog is free. I have never paid money for anything recommended by Joanna (not because she doesn't have nice taste - more because I never have the money!) and to be honest I never look at the adverts. I couldn't tell you who her sponsors are. It's my choice to visit A Cup of Jo and if I don't like the content for any reason, or if I'm not very interested in an article, I go away. Jo produces at least a couple of great blog entries every week, and if she's canny enough to attract enough readers to make a living from the sponsorship stuff in the sidebars, good for her. It doesn't affect the way I read her content. I ignore all that stuff. So I just don't recognise the 'customer' relationship you're talking about. If you choose to buy stuff Joanna recommends, that's up to you. But it's still a choice. The content is free. To imply Jo has breached some kind of contract is a real misrepresentation.

Now you may find her 'brand' authentic and appealing, and feel that the brand is compromised by the (arguably) lazy re-hashing of this old article. But I don't see how you can say she is like a sleazy politician. So you bought into the chummy 'girlfriend' tone of the blog and are now disappointed by this recycled piece? Fine. Don't read anymore. Only visit blogs with no advertising. But please don't start throwing around these heavy accusations of shadiness or deceit. This was not a commercial piece, Jo's 'recycling' is not some breach of contract, and it certainly isn't a personal betrayal!

Anonymous said...

I think it's interesting that Joanna has no removed her "ramen noodle" comment and never addressed that in her apology to her readers...

Anonymous said...

We love you Joanna, don't let 'em get you down! :)

StacyShine said...

Well....I'll probably not be returning to this blog much, if ever.

Joanna I can even tell when you have an intern writing your stuff....

I have noticed that it has gotten less genuine and this "article" was the straw that broke the camels back.

Anonymous said...

angharad - actually, part of the way in which Joanna generates revenue (true for many blogs) is by the sheer number of viewers (or "page clicks") that her site gets (regardless of whether you look at the ads or purchase anything through them). so yes, in that way we are joanna's customers (she has a product that she is "selling" to us and that we are "purchasing") and yes, she profits from having readers come to her site.

i agree if you don't like her content, don't visit the site. but there's nothing wrong with her readers calling her out on the way she handled this post.

Anonymous said...

Heavy handed with moderation Joanna. You've deleted my posts and thoughts on this issue. What happened to freedom of speech?!

Sarah said...

HAHA this is so hilarious!

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