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Thursday, May 31, 2012

Do you ever get freaked out at night?

We've talked about living alone and seeing movies alone, but what about sleeping alone...

I'm a wuss when it comes to bumps in the night. I literally have a night light, and when Alex is on a trip, I always lie awake, listening for intruders. And we live on the second floor of an apartment building--I can't imagine living in a big house with lots of windows on the first floor. You guys with houses are my heroes!

If you ever get freaked out, too, here's a great tip: "Put your car keys beside your bed at night. If you hear a noise outside your home or someone trying to get in your house, just press the panic button of your car." Smart!

Do you ever get spooked in the night? Or do you not really think about it?
Remember this awesome lock?

P.S. I would DIE if this were my shower curtain, and the scariest movie ever.

(Top photo from istock, and the house photo by Scott Frances)

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Kate said...

Total wimp even in my own house. When husband's not home, my interest in saving electricity disappears and I leave far more lights than just my nightlight on.

kendra said...

i've only slept alone. I do sometimes get nervous is my roommates are out of town. That happened at Christmas. But i get over it pretty quickly.
I don't have to share my bed. That is kind of awesome. I just sprawl out in the middle

StephV said...

This post has perfect timing! My fiance travels all the time (he plays baseball professionally) and our bedroom is on the first floor...I have been known to sleep with his bats next to my side of the bed, and last night, I refused to open the blinds for a breeze bc I was convinced someone would walk up to the window and look in. Glad he's coming home from a roadtrip tonight! haha

anne. said...

I definitely get freaked out when my husband isn't home. I've been afraid of the dark and sleeping alone since I was a little kid, and even though a movie helps me get to sleep, it's not the same as knowing that there is someone else next to me to fight off the monsters if there are any!

Glad to know I'm not alone!

Joanna Goddard said...

anne, i agree, i'll watch Friends or something totally cheerful before going to sleep in the house alone:)

jessica quadra PHOTOGRAPHY said...

i don't like to admit that i'm the biggest wuss when it comes to sleeping alone. i am now if my husband's out of town, and i was when i lived at home with my parents. i went to a safety seminar a while back (weird?) and one tip was to put a "beware of dog" sign on your fence or front porch and/or an alarm sign on your window even if you don't have a dog or an alarm. the idea is that you're creating more of a risk for someone who'd consider breaking in.

Anonymous said...

if you're alone at night in a creaky old house (like mine) it's so awesome to have a great big german shepherd keeping watch! It always makes me sleep peacefully knowing he's right on the floor next to the bed with big radar ears constantly twitching at the smallest peep! He roams around at night, doing his nightwatch rounds in different rooms, and I feel totally secure!!

MandaJ said...

After watching Paranormal Activity- I thought I was constantly seeing Shadows. I definitely spook myself out!
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Jane {In the Pink and Green} said...

I always freak out and can't sleep when my husband is out of town, so I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one! I realize my fears are irrational, but still it's so hard for me not to be anxious. I will say that since we've gotten our dog, it's helped a ton because she really helps to calm my nerves and give me something else to focus my energy on. Even though I'm pretty sure she would be absolutely useless as a guard dog if an intruder actually came in, it's still nice to know she's there. The car keys tip is a great idea though!!

Jacqueline said...

I'm the same way when my fiance isn't around! I keep my dog close by my side!

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Amy said...

My boyfriend travels about 1/3 of the year and I HATE sleeping alone! I get so scared! Love the car keys tip!

Amy said...

My boyfriend travels about 1/3 of the year and I HATE sleeping alone! I get so scared! Love the car keys tip!

Lauren {Stylized Existence} said...

Joanna, this tip comes at the perfect time! I am spending this weekend alone and am already dreading sleeping alone. I generally stay up until I can really not keep my eyes open and exhaustion has totally overcome me. The car keys will be right next to me, along with my cell phone and a bat :)

Jeanine said...

When my boyfriend is out of town, I sleep with a maglite next to my bed and I turn the AC on (no matter the season) because I'm too scared not to be TOTALLY under the covers, so I have to be cold enough to do so.

dina said...

Always! I thought that as I got older it would get easier but nope...it is worse! Now I live in the woods (literally) and I don't think a soul would hear my car alarm. My remedy is just trying to relax and rationalize until I fall back to sleep. And drink a super big glass of vino right before bed! :)
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Sarah H. said...

My husband is a firefighter, so sleeping alone is a normal occurrence for me, as their shifts are for 24 hours at a time. Sometimes I get freaked out, mostly not though. Having a dog is comforting—if he's not reacting to a nose, I don't get concerned. Plus, I'm really careful what I watch on nights when I'm alone. No cop shows, scary movies, etc. No need to invite fear, I figure. Mostly, I've gotten used to being alone (with daughter and dog) in the house, so it's no big deal any more.

Hannah Brandt said...

I can get scared at times, and my husband loves to tease me by saying "what's that?" and sounding really spooked. Not funny. When he's gone I double lock all the exterior doors AND the interior doors, so I feel like I'm in a little fortress in the bedroom. :)

Jamie said...

I HATE sleeping alone now. I just toss and turn for hours.

Sarah @ Knit York City said...

I am so afraid of being home alone! Even during the day time or when my boyfriend is on his way home and I get in before him. I'm always afraid someone's hiding in my closet or under my bed. It got a lot worse after my apartment was robbed, now it seems like it's not so far-fetched.

I don't have a car since I live in New York too but that's a great idea. (And being at my parents house in the suburbs is way more scary! Can't write off the noises as someone in the apartment upstairs!) Maybe I could find an app that makes an alarm noise! I like to play the TV really loud so I don't hear any of the noises that usually freak me out.

Alison said...

So glad to know I'm not alone! All my friends seem to be fine when their husbands leave for a few nights - not me! I DREAD it.

Chantel said...

I am such a chicken! I'm find when my husband is with me but whenever he goes away on business (which is often enough) I feel like I'm five years old! Every bump in the night makes me jump, it takes me forever to go to bed because I'm afraid to sleep in the dark by myself...I even let my dog sleep with me when I'm alone!

And yes, it is harder to be brave when you live in a house than an apartment...at least in my apt. I felt like there was that extra layer of security :)

Robyn said...

living in nairobi this is a whole different conversation-but yes-totally can freak myself out. Ground floor...but, you know, as long as you (me/whoever) are safe- the buggers can take anything they want.

Ashley said...

You get used to it after a while! :) I have lived alone for 5 years and I actually enjoy it... a big bed to myself, my dogs have plenty of room to cuddle with me, and my kitty also loves it. However, I do make it a point not to watch super scarey movies before bed!

Jayme Peavler said...

i always scare myself. my imagination gets the best of me. i always get asked to housesit for people and i have to make a friend stay with me:)
that shower curtain is super creepy, and the only scary movies i watch are hitchcock:)

chereemoore said...

a couple of years ago, my husband worked in a different state for 6 months. I started sleeping with our dog in the bed. Poor dog got spoiled and then had to readjust to sleeping in her own space once my husband and I were back together full time.

LC Taylor said...

I lived alone for about 4 years, so I got over my scaredy-catness a long time ago, but now that I'm married and have been sharing a bed with someone for 5 years, I find I just don't sleep well with him not there. It's like I only go half to sleep, listening for him to come home or something - even if he's away on business and isn't coming home that night. I'm a weirdo, I guess. I just feel better when he's next to me. :)

Kate said...

@StephV When alone, I too sleep with my boyfriend's bat (from his days as a little leaguer)!

Also, I find a big glass of wine helps me drift off to dreamland.

Janie Kamenar said...

Yeahhhh...
I remember coming home from a holiday one night before the rest of my family when I was a teenager. I slept with a chair wedged under my door handle that night.

StephV said...

@Kate, haha too funny!!

LMT said...

funny that you should do this post. cause I do get scared and not that I no longer live in NYC and now in a big house with windows and doors everywhere, especially on the first floor, I am a wreck when I'm sleeping alone. My 2 year old breaths so loud and so I often mistake his sleeping sounds accross the hall for bad news. The truth is I've seen too many scary movies and watched the news too much. I jut miss NYC cause I never felt scared cause there was always noise.... Now its just too quiet. I like your idea of having the car alarm handy. Thanks!

Rachel said...

We just moved to a new apartment in an old house, and I woke up on our first night there convinced that the house was haunted! I don't usually believe in those sorts of things, but somehow in the middle of the night, all of the events of our day seemed to mirror the lead up to any horror movie...!

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MsAmanda said...

I used to get scared when sleeping alone at our house. Then we got a dog. Impossible to be scared with a pooch protector.

Angela said...

I hate being alone at night! I have a skittish cat, so if I hear something I look to see if he's alarmed. The worst is when he's staring intently at something I don't see....

poisonwood said...

I get so freaked out when I'm all alone in my house. I have to run quickly to the bathroom if I have to pee in the middle of the night, but isn't it weird how a lot of us feel safe in our beds? As soon as I'm safe under my covers I am wayyy less afraid.

regardless.. i prefer when my partner is home FOR SURE!

Elena said...

I thought I was the only one who was a wuss sleeping alone. Even in our tiny terraced house in the centre of Cambridge UK... where you can literally hear what's going on next door through the walls.

Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone!

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maite said...

This is amazing and SO funny. It almost gives me peace of mind that I'm not the only one like this!

I always think "Why can't I outgrow this and be a strong grownup woman?"

Whenever my boyfriend leaves for work I play something by David Attenborough on Netflix so I can bring it to bed on the laptop. His voice is so soothing and friendly and the visuals are relaxing. The Jungle one (with all the colorful, happy birds), or the Shallow Waters (dolphins!) from Planet Earth are the best (even the deep ocean one scares me a bit with all the darkness and strange animals! haha!)

Thanks for this great post Joanna!

Michelle Merrick said...

I don't know that I get freaked out, but when my husband is away I definitely piddle and try to find random things to do to avoid getting in bed alone. Those nights I do a lot of cleaning, and facial masks, and painting finger nails.

This is Nora from Germany. said...

After I have seen "the ring" I freaked out a while every night. I hate this movie. So scary! In the summertime I sometimes freak out because I#m afraid of having spiders in my bedroom...

C. said...

When my husband isn't home I leave a light on too! I always tell myself it's a light for him, so that when he gets home he will see where he's going. But I know it's only on because I'm a chicken. :)

Jenni said...

Oh man. We just bought a house after living in an apartment for years, and it's made me super neurotic. There's so much more space -- so many more doors and windows to have to worry about. When I'm getting ready to go to sleep, every little noise is basically a potential burglar. Luckily we have dogs, and I know they'd flip out if someone ever broke in. Still, I keep a few big clubs under the bed just in case. I am such a scaredy cat.

leigh said...

the car keys by the bed is a good idea, but usually the hub has the car with him when he's away... so... i'll just be glad i have the giant nutter to be on watch.

scariest thing though... sometimes he sleep howls... and that my dear is terrifying if you are in the house by yourself... it's such a mornful, spooky howl too...

*shivers*

C. said...

Oh also! When I was single and lived alone I would sometimes get a little freaked, so after I got home I'd check every room and wardrobe in my apartment, just so I knew there was DEFINITELY no one in house.

lol.

CK said...

I don't live in a big city, but in a town just outside one. I almost never think about it.

I did once think maybe I should keep my purse next to my bed instead of by the front door, but on the other hand if someone broke in thru the door maybe it would be better if they just took my purse and left instead of looking for it!

Ethaney said...

When my boyfriend is out of town or something, I cannot go to sleep. I lie awake in bed with Netflix on my laptop and all my closet lights on. Then I 'watch' pointless movies until my eyes glaze over and the clock hits a nice 6 am, then I pass out! It's so sad but true. Ps. That shower curtain is terrifying! Hell no!

Julie said...

This is my first comment because this totally hit home for me! My husband travels for work all the time, and I always freak out. Like you, we are on the 2nd floor, but there is a stairway outside our bedroom window. Since I love crime shows (hellllo L&O:SVU), I let my imagination get the best of me and lay there looking at the window, expecting someone to tap on it! I hate it! Glad I'm not alone.. err.. the only one that thinks this way. Absolutely love your blog, Jo. xxx

hayley said...

As everyone has been saying - I'm glad I'm not alone! I have two roommates and a boyfriend so I'm rarely alone but when I am, I cannot sleep AT ALL. I like the car key idea but I am on the third floor of an apartment building? Any other tips? Wine helps sometimes and a little benedrayl. I also like yall's ideas about watching something soothing or funny right before bed. I swear, 48 Hour Mystery ruined me!! No more of that!

zandi said...

Ahh this is making me feel better that its not just me! Even though I am on the second story, and one would have to scale a tree and jump to my awning to get in, i'm still always paralyzed with fear at night!

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Catherine Masi said...

I'm right there with you! When I was little, our house was broken into three times and so my father gave each of the kids (there are six of us) a different weapon to keep by our bed (this was Massachusetts in the 80's- parenting could get away with stuff like that then.). No guns, but I had nunchucks( at age eight!!) and one of my brother's had a machete (!!!). We find this incredibly hilarious now, but I can't imagine what that scene would have looked like if an intruder made the mistake of breaking into our house at night: Six crazy Italian kids + our dad wielding weapons. These days, I have our 90 pound dog with a loud bark and his stinky gas to ward off an intruder if my husband ever goes away for the night.
p.s. I like the idea for the car key panic alarm!

Anonymous said...

I am an extreme worrier. One (among many) of the reasons we still co-sleep with our 2 year old is because I'm paranoid someone will break in her 1st floor bedroom window and steal her.

Olivia said...

Oh yes, I'm quite good at terrify myself thanks to my vivid imagination & horror movies.
When being home alone, I avoid looking on the ceiling as I could picture someone hanging there; then I won't take a bath in the evening, as closing eyes makes me even more insecured, if I have to, I take a shower without closing shower curtain & keep checking on door & window. I don't look at mirror neither, as the reflection might stare back, like in Black Swan you know. Hahaha I'm so lame, I know.
Well, I eat something sweet & watch comedy, the sillier the better, to get my nerve out of it. It usually works. :D

Marnie said...

So glad to know that I'm not alone in my irrational fears of things that go bump in the night! While we live in a neighborhood, we have a large field/wooded area behind the house. So, whenever my husband travels, my kids and I have 'slumber parties.' Luckily we have an attached bath to our master bedroom because not only do I lock the door, I wedge a chair underneath it as well! My kids think its cool getting to sleep in our room and I sleep better knowing that they are close in case of an emergency. Oh, I also have my cell phone and car keys next to me on the nightstand!!

daisyblue19 said...

I used to live by myself and was usually fine since my floor was really quiet and I was in one of the corner units on the second floor, so I felt safer. But now that I'm married and so used to having someone else there that when I don't my imagination becomes my worst nightmare and I have to leave the light on by my bed when I go to sleep and close the bedroom door (in case someone gets in I have an extra few seconds to hide). Silly, I know but oh well. :)

Jodi said...

I live alone half time, with my kids half time, in an apartment. I used to be more freaked out but I think you get used to it after a while! Sometimes my mind will wander to ghosts or supernatural things (for some reason, never actual physical people!) but I just talk myself out of it or flip on E!. ;)

Ana | Our Hause said...

I hate sleeping alone when my boyfriend is away. I usually go upstairs really early on and settle in as I hate closing the house down and turning off the lights downstairs when I'm by myself. It's always when the crazy person turns up in the movies! Thankfully we live in a terraced house (a house attached on either side) and the old lady next door listens to her radio really loud as she's a bit deaf and lives alone, so I feel a bit more reassured that there is someone there. Even if she is 80!

Erika said...

Last year I had a weird period of freaking out, for no reason though...At least I couldn't name one. I'm fine now, no problem sleeping alone, being alone or doing anything alone really :) My partner in crime often has to work late night shifts but that is ok with me...I work all day and night on my jewelry so I keep myself busy, no time to freak out :)) LOL

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Christina Gambino said...

I live by myself, and it was probably the worst decision. Forget about going to the bathroom or getting a glass of water after 10:30 pm. Not going to happen.

We can be wusses together.

Pam said...

I just forwarded a link to this post to my husband and told him to read the comments- just so he knows I am NOT crazy! I hate when he is gone, especially in the summer because we cool the house (which is a ranch) using a house fan, which is loud; this makes me think there is a man in the house because the fan drowns out any "bumps in the night." Last summer I was pregnant and my husband was away and it took me an hour to work up the nerve to go to the kitchen for a snack in the middle of the night even though I was STARVING.

Desiree Fawn said...

That's brilliant. We had a home invasion last year and it shook me up for a really long time.

Took me a great deal of work to feel safe in my home. Now my daughter and I live alone and I feel better with my room on the bottom floor, and she's upstairs.

I'm TOTALLY doing this car thing... that's for sure! <3 Thanks!

Georgine Jeffries said...

What timing!! I woke up in complete terror last night!! While my husband and dogs slept peacefully, I woke up from an awful dream where I killed an intruder in my home- eeekk what the heck!?

The slow pace said...

I'm afraid of almost anything, so of course I'm afraid of sleeping alone or being alone at my own home! But what about sleeping alone in a hotel of a new city! That is scary! I used to travel a lot on my own(thank God I found a new job!) and most of the time I was scared to death and nights were awful! :-S

Katie Muncie said...

Whenever I travel without my husband or kids I get all freaked in my hotel rooms. I double check the door is locked a half dozen times, check the windows and yes I'm always convinced someone has snuck into the room while I'm out and is hiding in the closet or under the bed so I check those too.

Who checks behind the shower curtains? That would be me!

Not a fan of sleeping alone.

brittney elizabeth said...

i freak myself out easily - overactive imagination. so i do the same thing, nothing scary before i go to sleep, all doors locked, and sometimes if i'm home totally alone i'll leave the bathroom light on for a little bit or the tv on mute until i get tired enough to pass out. :)

Anonymous said...

I go to bed really late when hubby isnt here, I leave lights on and have to make sure Ive bolted the garden gate/house door about 8pm, just so I know its done. It freaks me out him not being here. I also have a golf club under my bed, not that I think I would ever use it. My only comfort is we stay in a safe neighbourhood and a good friend of ours is a local police officer and I know keeps an eye on the house when hubby is away.

Anonymous said...

I go to bed really late when hubby isnt here, I leave lights on and have to make sure Ive bolted the garden gate/house door about 8pm, just so I know its done. It freaks me out him not being here. I also have a golf club under my bed, not that I think I would ever use it. My only comfort is we stay in a safe neighbourhood and a good friend of ours is a local police officer and I know keeps an eye on the house when hubby is away.

Lisamarie said...

I am a complete wimp in the dark on my own!! It has something to do with watching all the Freddy Kruger "Nightmare on Elm Street" movies as a kid.

Liz said...

Oh yes, wholeheartedly freaked out sleeping alone in my house.

My fiance has been working nightshift for the past few weeks and I'm getting the worst sleep of my life. I've added nightlights upstairs and heard about the car key thing too, but it's so hard and scary!

I also have the keep the shower curtain slightly open while I'm in there so that I can see out the whole time, just in case...

Emily Iyer said...

Sleeping alone is the absolute worst. My husband is a resident and spends many hours at the hospital, so this happens too often. Having been broken into the morning after a night I've spent solo, I'm a wreck.

I especially hate when I'm alone and our dog growls at every. little. noise. I'm certain she must sense my fear!

Red Panda said...

I'm 100% wimp, I even hate coming and going to and from my house in the dark alone. When my significant other is away, I will use it as an excuse to go visit my mom or something. I'm trying to face this head-on right now, as my significant other is a musician and about to go on tour for 6 whole weeks with no breaks. AHHH!

Jenni Austria Germany said...

that shower curtain is the scariest thing i've ever seen in my life.

Tonia said...

I don't get very scared sleeping on my own but then I do have a very large (and loud) dog sleeping downstairs!

Posh Pearl said...

Oh gosh! You are not alone with sleeping with a night light on. When my hubby travels for work, even though I have 2 puppies who will bark if anyone is near our place, I sleep with a light on. I'm scared of bumps in the night, just in case! Plus, I don't have perfect vision so if I wake to any sounds, I freak out if I can't see clearly especially in the dark. I'm always worried that by the time I reach over for my glasses, it will be too late! The panic button on the car keys is great tip!!

xx

Teen Gym said...

I am such a wimp too! I usually never sleep when my husband is away and am always determined someone is in the apartment. One time I called him at two in the morning saying how scared I was. ha! -Ashley (28)

Patty said...

Most break-ins are crimes of opportunity. If you take away the opportunity your risk is lowered dramatically. In a house, keep the exterior light on at every door ALL NIGHT LONG. Locking doors is a no-brainer, but use a deadbolt... most standard door locks can be jimmied with a credit card. Keep first floor windows closed & locked at night. Keep landscape trimmed back, don't leave ladders and such outside (duh). Force that thief to find a different target. Personally, I also keep a small can of pepper spray attached to the headboard of my bed (out of sight) with a little bit of velcro, just for added peace of mind!

Kate said...

30 years ago my mom lived in the same apartment I live in now, and one time a guy did break in and she woke up to him standing over her bed. He hit her, she screamed and started shouting, and he ran. She'd been working on the apt. all day and a lot of lights were on and a door was left open. Conveniently, she didn't tell me that story until the week I moved in. Thanks, mom! I definitely check all the doors every night, and I have a very alert dog and I even keep an eye on my cat when I think I hear something, because his ears are way better than mine and I can tell when he picks up on something.

After watching a scary movie or TV show I definitely peek out of the shower every few moments and make sure the dog is still sleeping or playing and hasn't heard anything. I know animals are not foolproof, but there's no better security blanket!

jociegal said...

I don't think that I am scared of the dark, but sometimes if I use the bathroom in the middle of the night, I get the urge to check behind the shower curtain. Then, once I do it, I feel freaked out and basically run back into bed. It is totally ridiculous, but I will admit it happens :)

Em said...

Hmm. Maybe this is why I am single - I don't love getting up in the dark in the middle of the night, but I'm certainly not a dithering wreck because I have to sleep alone like the 70+ women who have commented about when their boyfriends/fiances/husbands are away. Come on!

Shannon said...

We have an alarm system which makes me feel more secure (our house was broken in to twice between the time we bought it and fully moved in). I also keep a baseball bay handy when my husband is out of town.

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McKenzie said...

This is so me! Every noise or movement in the house when I'm home alone, I'm like what was that! It's worse at night because you can't tell if someone is waiting under your bed or something! hahaha turning on all the lights is always a good idea haha x

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Anja said...

I feel the same! But! A friend of mine once explained to me whyit is best to live on the first floor instead of further up. These are her very good points. 1. In case of a fire you can get out very fast. But if you live on the top floor you almost never get out fast enough. 2. If someone tries to break into your front door you can just jump out of the window.

Meredith said...

I sleep with a noise machine, so if there are weird noises in the night I can't hear them. Most of the time those noises are not someone breaking in, so protect yourself within reason and get some sleep!

jenny said...

I love to watch Law & Order SVU, and if I've gotten too into it, it will take a while for me to get to sleep. So...I sleep with a wooden baseball bat next to my bed. (;

eileen ragan said...

oh goodness i can relate to this! i live with my boyfriend who keeps late work hours and often crashes on the couch in order to avoid waking me in the middle of the night, light sleeper that i am. but, i am also in the midst of this awful phase of night terrors, meaning i'll wake up alone in bed convinced i'm being hunted by some serial killer and often start believing that the vase on our dresser is actually a killer waiting in our bedroom. it's a hot mess! restful sleep, free from worry and fear is at the forefront of my priorities right now. to rid myself of these crazy dreams i'm trying out meditation before bedtime to help put my mind in a relaxing state. that and no more crime dramas (that's you Dexter and Criminal Minds) before bedtime.

Nikki said...

I'm so thankful for this post and to see so many people who feel like me!

I live at home with my mum right now and I get so frightened! Even with her in the house! It feels so silly but as soon as my light goes out I start to feel anxious. I still check under the bed and in my wardrobe before sleeping!

Manhattanette said...

I live alone in a 4th-floor walk up and totally freak myself out all the time.. I will watch late night True Crime stories on A&E about Son of Sam or something and then can't sleep for weeks... My 2 cats aren't much solace.

Jay said...

I've been living in Africa for the last 2 years and we've been robbed several times (luckily, we haven't been home when it happened.) My husband often spends a week at a time away and I HATE it. I take my laptop to bed and put on a movie or a shoe just to drown out any 'noises' as I'm a bit paranoid. I also lock my bedroom door, keep my phone beside the bed and have 2 night guards in my yard (although they are usually sleeping before I am so I'm not sure how much help they are!)

Kirsty - Belle Fantaisie said...

I am exactly the same as you! I panic so much when I have to sleep alone. My fiance was away last week and I found it so hard to sleep. Every little noise makes me jump! x

Melissa Blake said...

I get freaked out if I'm in a strange place, like on vacation or something, but at home, my cat usually sleeps at my feet. It's hard to be scared when you've got a cuddly kitty nearby!

AVY said...

I love the silence and the darkness, can't get enough of it.

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Martha said...

This post is perfect timing for me! I'm moving to Toronto for grad school in the fall and I'm considering living alone for the first time. I know I will love all the privacy during the day but I'm nervous that I'll be too scared at night and I'll never sleep!! (I sleep with a night light too, I'm with ya!)

Kate said...

I ALWAYS get scared when I'm in bed home alone! Every little bump or creak gets me sweating - each time, I am absolutely positive that there is someone in the house and I'm going to die!! Haha, love this post! x

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Marita said...

Thank you for posting this- my husband is about to leave on his first deployment, and I'm terrified to be all alone in our house. I'm used to apartment living, so this will be a long 4 months. Thanks for the tip!

Allie said...

I hate sleeping in my house alone, but I have a gun in my nightstand, just in case (I don't have kids so there's no concern there). I know how to use it and actually practice at a range pretty regularly. It does help to calm me down when I know I'll be able to defend myself in a worst-case scenario.

Deanna (Silly Goose Farm) said...

Doesn't anyone just keep a gun beside the bed anymore? I'm kidding... I'm sure I'll get a lot of flack anyway.

I'm fairly certain my car alarm won't work from my bedroom, but it is a good tip! Or just keep a loud air horn by your bed.

I live out in the sticks, so usually when there is a bump in the night, it's just some little furry critter causing ruckus. You get used to it!

Meadow said...

Oh yes... I am a total wimp as well. I used to live alone and EVERY night I'd get freaked out. I'd check the locks a million times and worry that someone would still get in to kill me. I'd also check all the closets and any potential hiding places... I had a whole system. Yeah it sounds loony, I know. And this is all while living in a high rise with pretty good security! I also kept a knife and hammer by my bed :)

I am much better now that I spend every night with my bf. He hasn't had to spend a night away in over a year now so I am totally not used to sleeping alone... I am a bit scared for when he does go on a trip.

I know it's a bit crazy but I guess that's just one of my quirks...

Lara said...

I have a hard time going to sleep when my husband isn't home but not necessarily because I'm anxious. There's just no closure to my day when he isn't here. No one to say goodnight to or go to sleep beside. There is a normal rhythm that is lost without him. I always end up staying up very late and finally going to sleep when I can barely keep my eyes open.

Jasmine said...

me too :( in hotel rooms, i leave the room light & toilet light (cos dunno whos hiding in there) plus TV on!!!!! I mute the sound.. it's horrible i waste so much electricity!
I have friends who can only sleep when its completely dark.
At home, i have a morbid fear while facing the door sleeping... the door has to be closed n i imagine things until i fall asleep!

Hilary Nicole said...

Ever since I moved to Manhattan, I am terrified to go into the bathroom when no one else is there at night. I literally will not look in the mirror in case I will see a ghost haha. To sum it all up, I do not like being home alone at night.

XX Hilary

jasmine said...

Actually one thing that REALLY reassures me when I sleep is when someone else is watching the tv outside & there's some ambient family noise going on!!! Ahhh i love that!!!

Shirsha said...

I have been living along for quite some time now - don't really have an issue sleeping alone...however, have moved houses a couple of times and I never sleep well on the first day! :) Also, I can't watch a horror movie...I used to be able to do that but since I started living alone, I can't get myself to watch any of the horror movies. My friends dragged me to watch Paranormal Activity 3 and I sat through the whole movie with my eyes closed! :)

Salt Lake Lovely said...

I don't have a car/car alarm but I do have pepper spray in my nightstand lol I have a big window in my bedroom that is level with the ground at the back of the apt building, so if it's really hot and I must sleep with it open I always have a tough time falling asleep.

RTah said...

Perfect timing for this post- I was awake all night last night because my dog started growling in the middle of the night. AND my husband was home! But he's such a heavy sleeper I worry he would sleep through an intrusion, so its up to me to save us! I have always been like this, I never stay alone. If I know he has to go somewhere, I invite a girlfriend over for a sleepover. They understand my fears and happily comply. The only place I actually felt safe was when I lived in a massive building in NYC oddly enough. I always felt like, what are the odds someone would choose my apartment, on the 10th floor, out of all of these? Plus that deadbolt was no joke.

Kristen said...

A couple months ago, I was house-sitting for a neighbor. I made the mistake of watching the film The Woman in Black at the movies the first night I had to sleep at their house. I was freaked all night long - not only is their house huge, but they also had a rocking chair in their bedroom just like in the film!

leah said...

i am a total baby when it comes to sleeping alone. my husband and i both alternate working nights, and when he is at work at night i pretty much stay awake as long as i can and sleep with the lights on.

when i lived by myself, after a divorce, i found myself unable to sleep by myself (or eat by myself!). however i could nap, during the day, on the sofa - not the bed.

weird how social something like sleeping is.

Brooklyn said...

Yes! We live in a house and when the husband travels I keep the following on my bedside table:
1) car keys
2) mase
3) wasp spray (it shoots a lot further than mase)
4) cell phone and land line
I'm a total wuss but all those things make me feel better!

Polly Rowan said...

I don't think I've ever slept alone all night haha! But I defo get freaked out when I go to bed by myself and I know my flatmates are getting in at 4am. I just lie awake listening for noises and watching shadows!

sumslay said...

I was when I first moved into my place - I had always lived in tiny apartments where I could see the whole place, so when i bought a place....well, I just get shaken every once and awhile. I slept with a hammer nearby and have recently upgraded to a gun. :) If I get the "feeling" of being scared, I lock my bedroom door before i go to sleep; for some reason, i feel like it would give me a warning if someone was about to attack rather than just waking up with someone right there. Ugh,that gives me shivers. One night my dog just started barking at the shut door and i almost. lost. my shit.

Rachel @ My Happily Ever After said...

ugh i'm the same way! i think i watched too many scary movies as a kid.

whitney @ thecurtiscasa said...

Yes and yes. I will leave all the lights on and the tv on to drown out an spooky sounds when I'm home alone at night. I never sleep well, but it makes me feel better. The car key thing is a good tip!!

Lara said...

Yes! I absolutely hate it. My husband started a new job this year and he is regularly away for a few weeks. I live abroad so have no family I can stay with. I still sleep poorly when he's away, I sleep for only a few hours. As soon as I go home I can fall straight asleep because I feel safe :)

Downstairs in our living room we have two massive glass windows and door instead of a wall. It creeps me out and we still don't have curtains!

Lara said...

As soon as he comes home, I mean!

Anonymous said...

Dogs help me so much! My bf left me at his apartment alone once (he felt like going out, I didn't), and while he was gone, his dog's company and protection made me feel much, much better. The dog didn't bark when he came home, too, so I knew when I heard the lock turn and the door open around 2 am that it wasn't an intruder.

Anonymous said...

When I was younger, my younger brothers "taught" me to always sleep with a cricket bat under my bed (just in case!), and it's a weird habit that I've carried into adulthood.

~ Dellah ~ said...

I'm glad to see I'm not alone. My hubby started working nights recently and because of it I've turned into this creature of the night. I wake up frantic in the middle of the night when I see his empty side of the bed {it's only been 2 months} and I'm always peeking under our apt. door {our bedroom door opens up to it} and if I can't see the hall light on, I swear someone is lurking outside. It's horrible, I can't wait till he can switch back to a 9-5.

Elisa said...

I get scared sleeping alone, too! It helps that I have the meanest sounding crankiest JRT mix ever. Also, I feel like I need to be brave for my son, even though I'm really a wimp.

Tammy said...

I am always so scared, BIG imagination I guess. And now that I have 3 kids, I spent nights awake trying to decide who to save first if there is an intruder in the house. Good thing my hubby doesn't go away too often! Only advice I can think of: have your neighbors on speed dial and keep the phone by the bed. Gives me peace of mind.

Monica L. Shulman said...

I'm scared of the dark no matter where I am and regardless of whether or not I'm alone. I freak out even going to the bathroom in our apt and have a nightlight in there "just in case". I don't want to pass this ridiculousness on to my daughter so I will never mention to her unless it's in a funny way and she's old enough to actually NOT be scared of monsters in her closet or under her bed. It's so silly actually.

Dee said...

That lock is soooo cool. I don't understand how it comes undone though?

Sleeping home along is awful! Well...I'm exaggerating. I've gotten used to it but not by choice. I too listen for intruders - or did - until I got used to the house I moved into this year with my friends.

I used to be in an apartment and the top apartment at that. SO I wasn't fearful at all...knowing that other people were around regardless of if my roommates weren't home. BUT this house - that's a diff story.
It's creepy, but I've managed to pull through :) You will tooo!

Suzie said...

im desperately afraid of sleeping alone, my husband goes away in the summer to visit his parents for a month or longer, i pretty much prepare myself mentally for this all year and still cannot slip til its light out. just awful, he tells me it's time to grow up! im 28, hehe

ps. joanna i totally either watch friends, or seinfeld i have dvd's ready in case it's not on TV and also think the shining is the scariest movie of all, i cant even see the dvd cover. hah

diane @ a spot of whimsy said...

i identify SO much with this topic! i am a DISASTER when my boy isn't home. i wake up constantly from any little noise, convinced it's the big bad coming to get me. i even put a chair in front of our apartment door so i (in theory) would wake up from the noise of it moving if someone tried to get in. hello, neuroses! and everything makes me jump; i drive my boyfriend crazy with it.

but i think a lot of the fear may be habit. before we were dating or moved in together, i lived totally alone and i was fine most nights (but not all, i'm still human!). now his presence is like a security blanket for me. strength in numbers ;)

Sarah Carlson said...

I'm the biggest wuss! We live in an old, old house. Everything creaks and moans. I'm so freaked when I wake up at night!

Anonymous said...

Boy....I am so exhausted at the end of the day and craving sleep, never occurs to me to be scared or uneasy in my home, even when I am alone.

Anonymous said...

The secret is to give up watching horror and scaring movie! Sleeping alone in NY in a doorman building is not a prob, but when I am at my parent's and they're on vacation, I cannot sleep alone. We have a super huge house on 5 floors near the countryside, So they prefer me to call my boyfriend to sleep with me and so do I :) I am 23 and i am happy that there's someone else older than me with the same fears!
Francesca

Tamara said...

Oh, this made me feel much better about it actually! But yes, I could totally identify myself with this...

Wendy said...

I usually only get jumpy and can't sleep after watching a scary movie! ^^;;

Lisa said...

LOL I loved reading people's stories. Looks like we're pretty much wimps. I recently just finished all of twin peaks... and if you have seen it you will know why I never want at the edge of my bed. (creepy, very creepy)

Pepper and Kathryn said...

I always peek from my bedroom door both ways in the hallway before I go to the bathroom in the middle of the night! 29 years old and still spooked by the dark.

Anonymous said...

Oh god... I can sleep "alone", but I've always had roommates!!! I hated it when my husband worked the night shift.

The WORST was when I ended up at my grandparents' house alone in the woods outside Yosemite for several days in winter. My grandparents were in town, husband had an out-of-town job interview. A cheery blogger I read a lot posted a link to a movie she liked. It didn't say which movie, but I clicked on it... and it turned out to be a slasher about a young couple taking a vacation in a cabin in the woods (Doll Face? Or something?)... AWFUL.

My brother watched the shining in college, and my Dad says he didn't sleep for 2 or 3 nights.
My ex has the Jack Nicholson smile.

Diane said...

Yes, inside the mind is scarier than any movie, and it doesn't take much for me -- just the idea of a shadow can make my imagination go into overdrive... Better now that we have a dog, but when alone, I still sleep with the bathroom light on and blockade the bedroom door just so if someone does come in I will have good advance warning. I like your idea of the car remote and panic button. Funny too, the times I am alone are the the times something will happen -- like kids in the neighborhood playing ding-dong-ditch or some unexplainable noise in the basement! I used to love scary movies too, and stay up late to watch, but not so much any more!

Diane said...

p.s. And if my husband is home, somehow I am the brave one (maybe because he doesn't care and will sleep through it) and I will go check out the noises in the basement myself...I have to know what it is before I can go back to sleep!

Liz said...

this is perfect timing for me, too! I always freak myself out a little bit if all of my roommates are out of town and I'm home alone. Turning on a chick flick and leaving our twinkle lights plugged in always does the trick, though! ;)

Courtney said...

My husband works nights, and it has really made me more brave! However, I still have to leave a light on in another room (so I can see just a bit), and I surround myself with pillows so I don't feel so alone.

Anonymous said...

Yes! I get scared at night if I am alone. Particularly right now while living in Ottawa and the news headlines are so scary! I try not to let my imagination get carried away but I'm particularly jumpy while trying to fall asleep.

Lisa said...

I love that you happen to pose this question today! I just spent a night alone in our house, and I didn't like it! Although I used to live alone, it was so very different, when it was in an apartment complex (I didn't even mind the 1st floor all that much, as long as I knew there were people above and next to me). However, now I share a house with my partner, and it's rare that he's gone at night, but yesterday was one of those nights. I must have triple-checked the doors to make sure they were locked, and also left the living room lamp on all night. At 3 a.m. I awoke from a nightmare (in my dream someone had been shot), and it was storming outside, so I kept hearing noises around our house, that sounded as if they were inside. To make a longwinded story short: I never fell asleep again and I'm SO VERY GLAD Dave is back :)

Luli said...

No, I don't get scared. I don't even think about it. I mean I take the proper precaution, like locked doors and windows, etc. But, nope, I don't get scared. I guess I'm the odd duck on the boards today.

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Toujours Zweee said...

I've been lucky enough to not have to endure this problem yet, although I am pretty terrified for when it happens! Zoe xx
http://toujourszweee.blogspot.com.au/

Carrie said...

Oh man. I had gotten so good at this because Scott is in the military, but lately I have been so bad about this type of thing!! This whole disgusting face-eating man in Florida is the thing I keep waking up thinking about right now...ugh. With a military weekend ahead, I might be staying at my parents house.

Kaycie said...

I definitely get freaked out at night. If I'm home alone, I prefer to sleep with my bedroom door open and a hall light on....or with a happy movie playing on low volume.

I was living in Paris this past year for my graduate studies, and I had a tiny studio apartment on the ground floor in the 18th arr. One night some men attempted to break in not once, but twice. It was terrifying. They were literally trying to kick my door in. I heard them muttering something about me being a "tourist" before they went on. I slept with my couch in front of my door for a week before moving to another neighborhood.

Nikki said...

Our bathtub creaks when you step on it, so later, hours after we've been in the shower it will pop back into place. Usually when I am home alone at night. The first few times I almost peed my pants!

meet emily said...

um... can i tell you... i sleep with my car keys next to my bed, and a carbon monoxide detector (you can hit the test button and it's crazy loud) and mace... and there's a knife hidden (not that i would use it anyway, but you know. and i always, ALWAYS have an escape route.

Bronwyn said...

Gosh, I've lived on my own for so long that I don't even think about it. I had roommates in college and right after college, but that was 11 years ago. I've been on my own ever since. There have been a few nights, if I watch a scary movie too close to bed, that I leave the living room light on. But besides that, I'm pretty fearless!
Watch me get spooked this evening, though, now that you've got me thinking about it!! :)

Jessica Ochs said...

Love this post! I am a total wimp when my husband travels! Glad I'm not the only one! My husband once came back from a trip in the middle of the night, unexpectedly. I freaked out when he entered the room, thinking he was an intruder. I threw my alarm clock at him! Needless to say, he doesn't come home early without calling first.

andrea said...

I went through this last night. My dog was sleeping over at my parents and it was just my cat and I. There are lots of news reports here in Canada about this freaky dude who killed a guy and mailed his body parts. For some reason the look of him and what he did freaked me right out. I had to check every room in my small condo and make sure all my doors and windows were locked. I was super spooked!

Emily Lauren said...

it's funny that you wrote this post on the one evening i was supposed to stay by myself in my parents' apartment in downtown houston. haha, luckily my friend just decided to stay with me. :)

Jess said...

I don't freak about about bumps in the night or anything, but after the light's out and I'm alone with my thoughts, that is when I have panic attacks about my parents dying.

Taylor Morgan said...

I definitely freak out at night if I'm by myself. I won't go to bed without my husband unless I absolutely have to. And I'm five months pregnant right now, so I frequently get up in the night to go to the bathroom. I turn on every light on my way to the bathroom and still have to run the entire way.

I'm a total wimp.

Notes from Holly St. said...

I can SO relate to this! I'm a total wimp when it comes to staying home alone and I live on the second floor of an apartment building with a metro train that runs beneath it so there is no possible way an intruder could climb through. But my imagination always gets the better of me!

Carol said...

Oh boy, I'm so glad to read that I'm not the only one who gets freaked out at home alone!

I live with housemates but often they are away for work or travel.
When I come home I turn on all the lights and pop my head into every room, just to assure myself that there's no one there and that helps me relax. Then I have to have the radio or TV on for background noise as we live in an old house with lots of creaks.

I often tell myself "for god's sake you're a grown woman! Don't be so silly" but I guess I've just seen too many episodes of crime shows haha

hello. said...

omg, YES! my hubby works away from home a lot + one morning i awoke to find that someone didn't shut + lock the front door (we must have been totally zonked to not notice because i usually check every lock + bolt in the house). i think i made three rounds on every floor (basement, first floor + second floor), using my bruce lee ninja moves until i was sure there was no one hiding in a nook or cranny...

Zoë said...

Oh it's the worst. I live in a big creaky house and I hate sleeping alone, EVEN though we have an alarm system. I make myself think I hear things or see things out of the corners of my eyes. My trick is to do crossword puzzle after crossword puzzle until I pass out. That's the only way I stay sane!

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for the keys-by-the-bed tip! I get real panicky at night, even with 2 dogs that bark at everything.

Tournesol said...

I used to get scared as my mr. works late a lot of the time but I got a dog, a chow mix and it's better now, chows are very good watch dogs. I must have it completely dark and quiet though so i can hear any unusual noises that might be covered up by the tv and completely dark so an intruder would not have the advantage of being able to see me first. Weird I know. When I was a single mom for awhile with babies I was worried more about them than myself if something happened, sometimes I would put them in my bed if I was scared and push a big bureau in front of my bedroom door to get some good sleep.

Lily said...

Two words. Sleeping pills.

Sarah said...

I live with three other people (my family), but I still can't do nights. When I'm the last one to sleep I hide in my bed! I put up some faerie lights last year to hide my need for a night light.

Anonymous said...

My dogs would let me know if someone was trying to get in though if I watch something creepy like forensic files I am more likely to stay up and worry. I find that even though I love my husband, it can be a treat to have the whole bed to myself!

Mama in the City said...

Back when I DID live alone I had a scary incident. It was about 5 AM and I was fast asleep and heard some 'sexy' noises. I thought it must be the neighbour and glanced at the clock, thinking how early it was!

Then I heard 'jingle jingle' of keys and some other bumping around. I sat up in bed and looked out my bedroom door and saw a man and a woman standing inside my apartment.

I called out to them, 'what are you doing?!'..and I was half confused/half asleep. They responded, 'oh sorry, wrong apartment!' and then fled.

They stole my purse and some random CD's and left a pair of dark blue pants in my entry way.


AHHHH! I had post traumatic stress until I moved in with my future husband.

Reyna Walker said...

ooo I'm super wimpy! I have Christmas lights wrapped around my headboard or else I get really spooked! It's a good thing I have roommates and a next door neighbor who is a cage fighter. I feel real safe with him around!

Michelle {lovely little things} said...

Um YES, all the time! I'm a huge wuss... I really need to stop watching scary crime shows too...

Inner-Outer Beauty said...

This has always been a huge problem for me! Now we live in a house, and my husbands sometimes travels...hmm not good but we have installed an alarm on the first floor that is always on when were sleeping on the second floor, feels a little better. Also, signs on the house informing about the alarm always works to frighten away many intruders, according to police. But I long for the day we live in an apartment again, feels safer, although I am not sure it is:)

RosieB said...

I feel like the odd one out now, but generally i'm not too worried about being by myself in the house at night! I wouldn't say i'm brave though, and if I heard a scary noise whilst in bed I'm definitely be a hide 'under the duvet' kinda girl!

www.ciderwithrosiebee.blogspot.com

Isabelle said...

Not freaked at all, ever...
I've lived alone for 2 years so if I had been afraid to be on my own at night I guess I would have gotten over it quickly.

But i do live in the city in a cheery neighborhood with good neighbours.But as a kid we lived in a secluded house and even though i did lock the doors at night (I don't during the day) I was never afraid.

And I kinda like being on my own now and then when my bf is out of town. Reunion is only better plus I can do my girl stuff (aka watch Rosemary's Baby which i did the last time the bf was out of town, I know... I know...)

Trina said...

I had to chuckle (cautiously) about the link to The Shining. I'm in Alaska for vacation now, and already two guides I've chatted with have talked about how the hotels around Denali get boarded up in the winter and need to have caretakers come and look in on things...not unlike Jack Nicholson, haha. The unnerving thing is that one guide knew of someone who signed up to do it on a bit of a lark, thinking he'd have the time to write his book (also like Jack, yikes!) and just keep company watching loads of DVDs he'd toted along...but after his radio comm was cut off and he was in the dark (this area getting only a few hours of sunlight a day, if any, in winter) with no human contact whatsoever...well, I'm not sure if they had to airlift him outta there and he didn't actually go crazy like JN...but he definitely had a longing for human contact, similar to Tom Hanks in Castaway.

The other creepy thing was the other guide totally copping Danny's friend's voice repeating "Redrum" over and over. Luckily he did it in broad daylight with a van full of us on our way back from fly-fishing!

Molly said...

sleeping alone I have no problem with but if my roommates are gone for the night I usually make sure the kitchen door is double locked, the front door is double locked, lock the door to the sunroom and lock my own bedroom door as well as my window. That's probably a mega fire hazard or something but they locks are there for a reason aren't they?

Gaby [The Vault Files] said...

I'm such a coward! Yes, that's the scariest movie ever! And it's so well made that one time I watched it while I covered my face with a pillow and the music is so good that I couldn't bare it. I have watched once and that's it! And oh my God that shower curtain! I could die!
I have 3 brothers and when I was a kid and my parents would go out at night, if I'd get thirsty I would make up something so that one of my brothers would go downstairs with me so that I could go to the kitchen ;)
The worst when staying alone is thunderstorms, they scare me a lot!

Fiona said...

Ugh. So many grown women saying they can't sleep till their husband/boyfriend is home. Grow up. Why do people nurture these helpless female characteristics? It isn't cute.

Cristina said...

In this period here in Italy at night we are freaking out for earthquakes!! It's a couple of weeks I cannot sleep well and I'm always afraid that it hits again :(

Isabelle said...

Fiona, I must say that I concur... not cute

Not a good women stereotype to keep

I personally do not, absolutely not see how this can be an issue. I can picture my mom rolling her eyes and saying "oh grow up" if I were to say something like that to her and my bf would be like "oh great, now I have to wonder if you are ok because I leave you alone, an adult, at home at night, want a babysitter or a nightlight ?"...

Caroline said...

I keep my cell phone and bat next to the bed. I'm not sure what the car alarm would do; I honestly don't know anyone who pays any attention to those things.

Usually when I hear something, I put on headphones and blast music. (So far I've still been alive every time I woke up!)

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gabsbrown said...

Whoah! I'm so surprised to see how many of us live in fear...is it justified? Have I missed something about how dangerous it is out there? Should we not instead focus on the fact that for most of us most nights go by completely peacefully - is that not the reality? I'm not denying that bad things happen...and I have every sympathy for anyone who has to go through something like that...but they are the exception; not the rule. This neurosis seems far more dangerous than the very thing that is being feared.

Ana Magdalena said...

I have experience no fear when sleeping alone in my house, but the panic button tip is very useful, I will remember that.

thanks for sharing!

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Anonymous said...

This is an awesome post!
My husband and i work nights, so there are many nights i am alone. When we lived in high rises it was no big deal, only one point of entry. But now we live in a 2/2 house 1200 sqft and i hear all the noises, doesnt help that the windows are single pain either!
I have a lab, who eases my mind, but i dont know what id do w/o my dog.
I blame it on the scary movie addiction!

Michelle Kendrick Hartney said...

I can't imagine living in a house either! I live in a hi rise and I'm not sure I could ever live in a house because I'm so scared of intruders!

EFMReed said...

I used to watch Criminal Minds all the time and had to stop because I started freaking out at night. My husband just got home from a 3-month business trip and at night I had every light in the house on and I borrowed a friend's Navy-issue pump-action shotgun. I propped it up next to my bed. I also have a dog that barks like mad any time anything moves outside the window or door. Even with all of that, I only got about 4-5 hours of sleep a night. It was horrible.

CIA said...

I am so the same! And it makes me relieved to know I am not the only one, even if we are all a little bit crazy! ;)

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Anonymous said...

Sorry if this comment is harsh, but I can't help it:

Oh my god ! Sleeping with a Navy-issue pump-action shotgun next to bed. Either some of you people live in a very unhealthy place or need to relax a bit. You are probably more likely to shoot your husband coming early as a surprise or a neighbor coming for help than someone really dangerous.

This is the kind of thing that makes the world say the US is crazy. I'd never ever sleep with a loaded gun by my bedside.

Try having a glass of wine, a warm shower, cuddling up to a good book in bed, sending a good night sms to your boyfriend and easing into sleep rather than propping a gun, turning on the lights and looking in the distant bushes to check for some mean guy hiding.

Horrified overseas

PS the case i am referring to sound more like psychological disorder than a normally freaked in the night person...

Horrified said...

People keep shotguns loaded beside their beds????? Because things go bump in the night!

Jesus Christ.

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

I am amazed by all of the women that confess to being alone at night and scared, and yet they post a photo of themselves beside said posts.

Brianna Soloski said...

I don't like sleeping alone, but not because things go bump in the night. There are two things that freak me out, but neither of them are rational, so I don't share my fear with anyone. Not even my best friend knows and I tell her practically everything.

Chantel said...

I have to add one more thing...

I always thought I was only afraid being alone at night but not any more! We found out our neighbourhood was being cased recently (which scared me in itself) and upon arriving home yesterday with my husband I heard a huge crash upstairs which really got my heart going. Of course, it turned out to be something that fell in our bathroom but man, I'm SO paranoid now!

The other day a guy was sitting in his car outside our house and looked over at me a couple times. Immediately I thought, "OMG! He's checking to see when I leave so he can rob us!" Terrible the society we live in today...

e-orbin said...

Two days ago I would have said, 'not me' I've lived alone and I'm okay with sleeping alone.

then I saw the tiniest mouse in our apartment.

Now I'm so jumpy and I just know it will crawl on me in my sleep. (thats crazy) I should be afraid of actual intruders but instead I'm unhinged by a mouse!

Anonymous said...

I've never been afraid of intruders, but - and this is silly - for a long time I was afraid of the boogeyman or whatever but only in the house I grew up in. I guess those childhood fears stay in our memories!

But no real fear of being alone. If I had an apartment by myself perhaps I would get a dog or some security alarm.

I don't think it's *crazy* to have a gun in the house if you live alone. But it's tricky and I agree unless you are incredibly cautious there could be an accident. My boyfriend has a gun, and there have been times he's reached for it in the night only to discover it's a stray cat scratching at the window or something. I guess it always seems like overkill until the one time (hopefully NEVER) you atually need a gun.

Stefania said...

We are one half of a duplex and the other half has been vacant for years. One New Years eve, we were staying in, just lounging around. I heard furniture moving- even though it is vacant! We called the police, and the burglar was caught, but it freaked me out. We have two dogs who bark at any noise and yet, they didn't bark that night! Thankfully I am almost never the only person in the house- we have two kids, two dogs and two cats- and my husband rarely travels overnight.

photogems said...

All the time. I have to make sure all closets, doors and any other weird dark spots are closed/covered :-/

Anonymous said...

Wow. I'm amazed at all the comments, I can definitely relate to a lot of these feelings and tricks we've all developed to ease the anxiety. So so comforting to know it's not just me. Thanks Joanna for the post.

Sammi said...

i have a dog, if i hear something in the night and he doesn't bark, i assume its safe.

did you watch the woman in black recently? after watching that i got freaked out about being in the darkness in my house just in case she appeared! even although i know its just a story.

i tend to pull a draw out that goes across my door if i'm extra worried and i leave the tv on at night time

Anonymous said...

I have an extinguisher for fires and a gun for home invaders. There are rules for using each safely and responsibly. So, no, I'm not afraid because I am a rational adult and I have a plan for emergencies.

erinkathleen said...

My fiance works 2 weeks on, 2 weeks off (in the maritime industry), so I've gotten pretty used to sleeping alone. In our old house, I used to really get scared, but that was mostly because we lived in a sketchy neighborhood; a place that used to be nice, but was rapidly going down hill when we left. And, or course, all the really scary stuff (gunshots, drunk neighbors driving into our lawn, etc) happened when my fiance was at work. Now we've moved into a neighborhood where I feel completely at ease, and that has made all the difference. I'm from a small town, so the city noises have taken some time to get used to, but knowing that I can run to my neighbors if anything serious ever happened gave me a sense of peace that I never knew I was missing. And a sense that I certainly didn't have in our first neighborhood.

That being said, when my fiance's at work my "guard" dog sleeps on the bed with me. There's a strict no pets on the furniture policy when he's home, but when he's at work, all bets are off! :)

Amanda P. said...

I'm a single woman which means I have to brave the creepy-crawlies and the scary-waries all by myself. One day I hope to be just like you so that I don't have to fend for myself all the time.

Whit said...

I am the same way, totally freaked out at night if I am alone. We just got a puppy which completely has helped with my fears when sleeping home alone, but walking by the glass door at night completely freaks me out.

*** KITSCH *** said...

I sleep very good when my husband is travelling for work, but i prefer when he is with us

the idea of the car key, ha ha...
but my car is usually parked a bit far away ; )

http://mykitschworld.blogspot.com.es

Mihaeko said...

Yep, lights on and probably movie streaming on netflix on my phone till I fall asleep. Hate sleeping alone.

Ana Simões said...

All the time I was single and living by myself, I never got scared because I always lived in small apartments. But when I'm staying at my parents and for some reason they need to go away; or in my current house without boyfriend, I always sleep with bathroom and kitchen lights on. (not counting the times I sleep on the couch, because I feel I can run away easier from the living room than from the bedroom) And I totally stopped watching Criminal Minds AND Supernatural, which I loved - both scare the hell out of me. Have a lovely weekend, all brave scared ladies out there ;))

Michelle Glauser said...

I've had a couple of times where I thought, "If I think about this too long, I'll get creeped out," so I just stopped thinking about it and I was fine. I love being alone in a completely quiet, dark house/apartment.

Cristy H said...

Actually, I love being home alone! I still live at home and sometimes my mom and little brother will go out of town without me (so mean right?!) and I'll spend a couple of nights at my boyfriend's, but I always reserve one night to stay home. I get to enjoy a glass of wine, do my nails, watch whatever I want on TV (we only one), walk around naked (TMI?), and then I go to sleep early and cuddle up with a book. Bliss.

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