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Thursday, March 01, 2012

Relationship tip: Keeping the sparks flying

Alex and I recently started doing something new...

When we're going out to dinner, instead of meeting at home first, we now meet at the restaurant. Here's why...

Scenario #1: We meet at our apartment first. Toby's running around, we're getting dressed in front of each other, I pull on tights (or Spanx!), we share the bathroom and brush our teeth side-by-side, we ask each other Married People Questions: Can you pass me the deodorant? Is my shirt wrinkled? Will you buzz up the sitter? Wait, I need to pee...

As Toby would say, Wah waah.

Scenario #2: We meet at the restaurant. Pushing open the door, I always feel a secret thrill as I span the bustling room. Butterflies in my stomach, I hope I look nice with mascara-ed eyelashes and strategically flushed cheeks. I spot Alex, looking attractive (and even a little intimidating) perched at the bar with a beer, wearing his suit from work, smelling like cologne, waiting for me to come kiss his neck and say hello.

Meeting at a restaurant whisks us back to our early dating days and kicks off a romantic vibe for the rest of the evening. It's a little thing, but sometimes life is about the little things, right?
(Btw, have you ever seen this funny scene from When A Man Loves a Woman? They had the right idea.)

What funny little things (or big things!) do you do to keep the sparks flying in your relationships? I'd love to hear...

P.S. Another funny sex tip, and why NOT to give your partner a massage...

(Photo by Anders Petersen)

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Jes said...

this is such a great idea. i think we're going to have to try this.

other small things that we do? we put our phones away when we're out at restaurant. i know it seems to trivial, but because we live together, dinner's out kind of get taken for granted if it's just "any other" dinner.

love this post.

jes
www.twosmuppies.com

Britt @ The Magnolia Pair said...

Love these tips! That video was great! Thanks for posting!

Kate said...

This is such a cute idea! I love it! Great post :)

Joanna Goddard said...

putting your phones away is such a great one. it's those little things!!

Erika said...

Definitely agree on this one! Whenever my husband and I have a 'date', I try to get ready separately. I like to take time to do my hair and look nice, and while I'm getting ready I am envisioning the look on his face when he sees me for the 'first' time. That excitement is not there if he sees me struggling into pantyhose:)

Jourdan said...

Great Idea! The only question is, does that leave getting read AND getting the kid(s) ready by your self for the babysitter?...That seems to be the biggest stress for me and by the time it's done, I don't even feel like getting ready to go out!

sarah nadine said...

this IS a great idea!

as we were dating, we would have lots of conversations in the car. when we moved in together and got married, we would go straight into the house...not letting "the mood" linger that while longer. now, we stay in the car a bit longer (yup, outside our house!) to keep talking, anticipating what more the evening will hold ;)

thanks for sharing!

xo

Ry said...

Wow. So simple. So smart. Doing this! Thanks for the great post.

Alexa said...

aw great post!! i'm still in my early dating days, but i will keep this in my back pocket for later on :)

HiLLjO said...

YES! This!!! Great tip Joanna!

Hubs and I have "alter egos" of ourselves that will meet at a restaurant when we want to start a fire with the sparks. It's... adventuresome. ;o)

Erin said...

Oh my gosh, my hubby and I try to do the same thing! You are totally right Joanna -- it makes it feel like the 'beginning' and gives you a reason, as a woman, to get excited to get dressed up, which is one of the perks of Friday and Saturday nights :)

Adventures in Dressmaking said...

Great idea! Especially when we go to somewhere in our neighborhood and can walk or take the train.

Elizabeth Benfield said...

this is such a great idea! since our recent move, i have a closet room. i try to stay in there until im done getting ready for date night, to up the wow factor :)

thanks for sharing!

RZY said...

Nothing like seeing your partner enter a room (not in your home!) to stir up the butterflies :) This is great advice.

Also, I agree with putting the phones away.

Finally, sneaking in a kiss each day that lasts longer than 5 seconds takes me back to the early dating days.

Jane {In the Pink and Green} said...

This is an awesome idea, it makes the whole evening much more special :)

Anne said...

Along these lines, have one of you pick the meeting place and keep it secret until just before...then send the location via text. Ups the ante with another layer of intrigue.

Jamie said...

What a brilliant idea! I will definitely suggest this to Tim :) We have a dog at home though, so meeting after work means that many more hours that he's alone and unable to go out, but maybe we can work around that somehow.

Annie said...

Love love love this idea. And it's so simple! A great example of how do you don't need to do anything crazy/expensive/outlandish to keep sparks flying.

Nikki said...

thanks for this! just a great idea. we need it since we've been co-sleeping with our sweet son for 5 months, now! ;)

Dancing Branflake said...

We have to do this because of our crazy schedules, but I never thought of it as romantic before now. You just made lemonade out of lemons for me!

Keep sparks flying? He's admittedly the more romantic one. His newest thing is laying on my side of the bed before I get in so it will be warm for me. Little things like that remind me how lucky I am.

stephanie said...

This is great and made me smile. I was just in NY and I kept hoping I would run into you :)

Sarah said...

SO TRUE!! We do this and it feels so fresh all over again!!

Another great tip is just doing things by yourselves, new things, things you don't want to do with your partner but things that will challenge yourself and keep it fresh on an individual basis so you keep revealing yourself as the years go on! Remember how exciting it was to find out about your partner and what they liked when you first began dating? It doesn't have to stop!!

Sarah xo

Sage Crown Parker said...

you are so the cutest!!!

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Lemanie said...

Currently my boyfriend still don't live together so this is totally possible for us!! Ooo I love it!! Our date night is this weekend so I'm going to tell him to meet me at the restaurant. It will totally be like one of our first dates! =) Love the idea! Thanks!

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Happenstance said...

I love this so much and it makes COMPLETE sense. Just yesterday my parents told me that starting this weekend they are not watching television for four weeks! Just books, hanging out, having conversation and playing games. Good way to hit the reset button I think.

Christine said...

what an absolutely fantastic idea! I had never even though about that, but you are so right. Love it. Thanks for sharing!

Justine {Stop Me if You've Heard This One} said...

I love this. There's nothing like letting him WATCH you get all beautiful to kill the mystery. Just might steal this one :)

All Happy Things Around said...

Excellent insight! So true :)

melissa said...

Oh, Joanna--I just LOVE this idea and would totally love to implament it when:

(1) I start getting more than two hours of sleep at a stretch (I have a 4 1/2 month old, need I say more) and

(2) When I can tear myself away from said 4 1/2 month old long enough to actually go out to dinner with my husband (I work full-time out of the house, you see and so every second with Kalen is precious) and

(3) If I ever EVER feel like a sexy woman again. It's not looking good....

Rachel said...

My boyfriend and I have started doing this! We have been together for six years, so naturally things get a little methodical- but this really does help.

Hillary said...

We are going to start doing this!

Sometimes I'll wear lingerie and thigh highs under my clothes when I know we'll be out with people/in public for hours because when he discovers my secret outfit and we're in public we can't stand the anticipation. It makes for some heavy eye-flirting and sometimes a sexy rendezvous somewhere you'd never expect.

Char said...

Great idea! I could see how this could be so much more exciting!
Char xo
www.itsacharmlife.blogspot.com

Votre Amie said...

Ah! It's totally true - Sparks will fly in that old familiar, wonderful way, the way they did when we first started dating. How often do you guys do date nights? I feel like they are super important, but sometimes really tough to fit into...well...life! Oi!
I do absolutely love the intimacy we share with zero shyness and reservations but it definitely does diminish the sexy-time, and let's be honest - who doesn't want sexy-time?! These tips are so helpful! Thanks!

http://iloveublank.blogspot.com/

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Rachel @ The Peach & The Pit said...

this is really a fantastic idea. I've been married for almost 4 years (and with my husband for almost 12!) so I'm always trying to keep things spicy :)

Simone said...

I love that movie and that scene!!!

Great ideas :)

Charlotte said...

I love this post, what a lovely idea. I'll be trying this...


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Jennifer said...

Loved this scene and your restaurant idea. I gave him 101 Nights thanks to you too. You are def. spicing up my 14 yr. marriage Joanna. Thank-you!

Dawn (KitchenTravels) said...

We have our sitter come over 30 minutes before we need to leave. She keeps our THREE kids occupied while I/we get ready, plus it makes the transition easier.

Love the idea of meeting up for a date - it really does work. Hubby once had a work thing in San Francisco, and I took the train down alone to meet him for the night. So cool to greet him in the middle of downtown SF. xo

Baltina Hong said...

Love this idea and can't wait to do this. My boyfriend and I are long distance for a year and we started WINEsdate, every wednesday we google hangout and we each make a fancy cheese/fruit plate and have a "date".

Meggie said...

My husband and I do the same - but we meet for lunch during the work day downtown! We have a two-year-old and have been married 5 years, so it's fun to have a little date in the middle of work, usually at a nicer restaurant, and looking a little nicer too (read: not sweats). So fun!

gaia• Illustration said...

I love this idea! Unfortunately, we both work at home right now, so it doesn't quite work for us. (we usually need to drive to wherever we're going.) we have started taking each other on surprise dates--ie one of us plans the whole thing and it's a surprise for the other. Really fun.

Benjamin + Trang said...

Wow! such an easy simple way to spice things up a bit! Thanks for posting the tip...will have to do it this weekend!

-Trang
http://www.benjaminandtrang.com/

Patty [PRETTYGROUNDED] said...

Love this!

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Patty
BOULDER, Colorado

Jill from Killeny Glen said...

RIGHT ON SISTER! Keep the electricity PUMPED up!

I adore this clip! LOVE!

Molly said...

What a fun idea! This never would have occurred to me.

Erika@placebolife said...

can't agree more, i also do that with my boy, meeting at the restaurant kinda feels like dating again. my bf and i been seeing each other for 4 yrs, fortunately (or unfortunately?) we are maintaining a long distance relationship so things are still kinda fresh :)

vintage honeybee said...

This is such a simple yet inspiring post. I was just thinking of something new to do this morning and I was at a loss. After 18 years I need any idea I can get. U might even blog about our experience. Thanks for sharing.

Vintagehoneybee.blogspot.com

cecilia said...

you are so right about this. some days i meet my husband during the day when we're working in the same neighborhood, and even though we're not meeting up for a date or to do anything interesting, just the fact of meeting him someplace outside the home makes me jittery and giggly. it's so fun.

Anonymous said...

I like to imagine I'm way more hideous than I am, then when I'm hooking up with someone, they seem relatively hotter.

It's takes less mental effort and is more effective than imagining that they're actually hotter.

Laura. said...

i got chills just reading this! i am in a strange place in my life where everyone around me is either unhappy/giving up on their marriages, or are single and vocally anti-marriage/commitment (i'm perennially single), so it is SO refreshing to read about everyone's efforts to keep commitment exciting after being together for a long time. keep it up, ladies! :)

Giulia said...

It works every time. Yes, I hope everyone tries this...

Eva B. said...

WOW! So simple and so... obvious. I LOVE it! I adore how you set the scene... Super sweet! Also, I didnt take Alex for a cologne wearer... I dont know why! :)

http://www.evabstyle.blogspot.com

alissa b said...

great tip! definitely going to try it out for our next date night :)

great post!

alissa b
http://alissab.us

Christine said...

I love this post! My man and I live about 3 blocks apart, by choice. So when we do things, he properly picks me up, opens the car door, and takes me out. Even if we're just going to his place. Or sometimes we walk or ride bikes to each other's place. Love keeping that bit of mystery alive!

Sera said...

ooh, what a good idea!

meet emily said...

this is fantastic! keep the tips coming... i need all the help i can get these days wah waah.

"hi, i'm ginnybranch stelling and i love love." said...

When a Man Loves a Woman... swoo-hoon!! that scene gets me.

Notes from Holly St. said...

what a genius idea! my husband and I are waaay overdue for a date night. I'll have to think of a way to make this happen.

Just watched the video clip and it made me so giddy! What a great scene. I'll have to watch that movie.

A Day That is Dessert said...

Brilliant, Joanna.

Shannon said...

Love this!

We also ASK each other on dates - not just plan. I'll text/call him and ask if he'll go on a date with me and then plan accordingly. Again... it adds just enough of those same butterflies.

ALEX SMOOKLER said...

This is such a great idea! I know I always get excited when I meet up with my boyfriend at a restaurant or bar. I love that moment of excitement and anticipation as I scan the room to find him!

Emily said...

we had these glorious visions (before we were married) of sitting on the couch and reading poetry or novels to each other at the end of the day, and then, for the first few months, we just felt like we wanted to zone out (that is, recuperate from the last year!!) at the end of our days. now, though, we've gotten into it! the bookcase in our living room holds our "fun" books--poetry, novels, fiction--and we pour glasses of wine or scotch and take turns reading sonnets or short stories.

JBergum said...

Great idea! We need to do this more often, its always so much fun! I love that scene from the movie...I think I need to watch that movie again now!! :)

Kaitlyn said...

i love this so much. while there is totally something to be said for being 100% comfortable and intimate with one another, i think it is important to be reminded of the butterflies :)

becca ann said...

Awesome Idea!

Michelle Parks McCourt said...

Love this idea. Will have to try it.
We have date night on Wed, pretty much every week. What we do is trade off on who books the date ie) movie, a play, comedy etc...that person is the date planner and has everything sort of ready to roll. its actually a great thing, because we both put effort into doing something new and it shows thought, i love it when conor plans something, its so cute.

Lauren C.T. said...

I LOVE this idea! We don't even have the added stress/anti-aphrodesiac of children yet, but we still need to work on keeping the romance in our marriage. We have recently started making sure we have at least one date night a month - dinner, a movie, whatever, as long as it is us spending time together our of the apartment and far, far away from the sofa and tv - but this would make it even more fun and interesting, especially if we do it on a Friday after a rough week. Thanks!

stacy said...

this is one of the best tips you've ever given!

Zoë said...

That is such a great tip, how romantic!

vanessa (the gal) said...

I think this is a FABULOUS idea!!! Seriously, the fireman and I need to try this! We try and get ready in different rooms before a date and have a glass of wine before we leave! We're trying this one for sure!

xo's, Vanessa (the gal)

http://fashiongalfireman.blogspot.com/

Anabel said...

I love this... my husband and I pull the Meg Ryan-Andy Garcia thing all the time. I love the roll play.

Aya said...

This is such a great idea! I haven't done this since my dating days and it would be so fun to pick this up again with my guy. It makes so much sense, but I never thought of it! Thank you Joanna!

Shelly {Quiet Luxury} said...

It's small things like that that keep things fresh. It's a suggestion I'd heard before but forgotten. Thanks for the reminder!

-Shelly

Amelia Meena said...

I absolutely agree that meeting at the restaurant is the way to go...I still get excited to see my boyfriend when we meet up for a date rather than get ready together.

amy said...

We do something similar...(we're married with two little kids) instead of wah-wahing together about what we should do on a date night, we alternate planning the date. So one of us in charge of everything and the other is along for the surprises. It feels like a first date nearly every time.

Artsy Forager said...

Fantastic idea! This would prevent my hubby from rushing me out the door. :-)

My hubby and I find that we connect best when we're unplugged, away from distractions.. many times it is when we take very long walks together, or just going to a local pub for the night, sitting at the bar and chatting, or enjoying leisurely breakfast & coffee over books at a coffee shop will often turn to long and meaningful conversation.

jeni said...

loving this idea! how special and lovely!

Aja Lake [the gold hat.] said...

genius!

xx,
Aja Lake
the gold hat.

Ryan Adair said...

I love this! Definetly has me thinking of other ways to keep things "sparked" :)

Mary said...

I love this idea! It's so true, too! Whenever Andrew and I meet out it's so much more exciting! Thanks for the tip!

I also want to try something new to keep things fresh. We're new to Chicago so we're going to try to go to a new neighborhood at least once a month to check out the scene, restaurants, anything, just to get out of going to the same places on our street. I am really excited!

Allegra Beba said...

Such a lovely idea! I should try this with my B. :)

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Amy said...

I love this! It's always hard to spice things up. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and it's always fun to do date nights and get out of the apartment and be "romantic."

One thing to keep it fresh are special little gifts and surprises.

http://amyturman.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

That is very sweet. My boyfriend and I are doing the long-distance thing and it's pretty exciting dressing up to take the train and having him waiting for me at the platform. Even if a few hours later we're just in bed watching Law & Order and eating old pizza ;-)

Sarah Carlson said...

What a great idea, thank you! My boyfriend and I do long distance, so when we're together, we do everything together. Brushing teeth, ironing shirts, etc. Maybe we'll try this next time!

~ Faith said...

Okay, that movie scene was ADORABLE! Just a question though... who takes care of the sitter and the kids then?

~F

HRH Susan said...

I feel the exact same way when I meet my husband for a date.

One of our little sparks applies to the very same scenario. My husband and I are ALWAYS late because one of his favorite things to do is to watch me get ready. He just lays on the bed and watches as I dress, do my hair and make up. He says its like watching the final touches to a masterpiece or like seeing a beautiful flower open up. But, of course by that the time I'm all done, he hasn't even started getting ready! So its a mad dash for him to throw himself together!

Diana @ frontyardfoodie said...

Aww how adorable! I love that idea. I've been trying to think of something like this to spark up our date nights. It's hard!

A few things we have done throughout our marriage (about 5 years) are things like, have sex at 4am spontaneously (or with the lights on!), surprise eachother with gifts, do small thoughtful things like sometimes I put quarters in his wallet for coffee or a coke at work since he never carries cash.

We definitely need help on our dates. Recently we went to a jazz club for the first time and it was definitely a new spin on date night so maybe we'll do things like that more often.

Meghann said...

I love this idea. I just forwarded the post to my husband!

sophie isabelle said...

i'm not married, but i'm in a two year ish nearly relationship.

the problem i have is that he's a student, and i am unemployed looking for a job...

so we're not exactly flush with cash...

trying to find ideas to keep it exciting without damaging the pocket.

and yes, obviously we cook each other meals all the time...

intrigued for thoughts.

this is a great idea though!

Monique said...

That is an excellent idea! You guys are definitely on the right track!

Sarah said...

Super cute! I love this! I'll have to suggest it to my hubs. Especially when we get established enough here to get a sitter (we just moved)


- Sarah
http://agirlintransit.blogspot.com

Catherine said...

Sounds so exciting.

I was just thinking that I'd like to start giving my husband hand massages and (maybe) foot massages randomly, when we're both at home in the evenings. You can make a simple scrub with sea salt/olive oil/lemon juice. A simple and loving gesture.

Anonymous said...

Hilarious clip!!!! Great tip.

Clara said...

Joanna- this is brilliant! I need to start doing this with my boyfriend, would be so fun. It's so true though, even if we're out with separate groups of friends and then meet up, I'm so excited to see him and give him a kiss!

Desiree Jacobs said...

that is so sweet and such a great idea! living in LA, it's silly to take 2 cars places, but it might be worth a try once in a while. after all, a good spark is worth a little inconvenience!

www.bundtsofsteel.blogspot.com

Elle Amerie said...

You DO NOT wear spandx, do you?!

Jen | Our Happy Family said...

I love this post!! We're going to have to start doing this (when we can find time for dates that is)... there is something different about spotting your man out in public and knowing he's all yours!

We sometimes meet up on lunch if the kids are with the sitter, I just love a little mid-day rendezvous!

Simply Marilla said...

What a perfect, simple idea.

H* said...

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh that's lovely !

kisses from spain!

Molliee said...

AMAZING idea! I will start doing this now;)

Alissa said...

I love this idea!

Christen said...

I love this idea! I'm going to try it out. We don't talk about our baby on our dates, or really during adult time at all. We maintain common interests, so we always have a lot to talk about like music, books, even fashion and food. We talk about future travels and places we want to see together, like when we were dating. It really keeps the spark going. He's my best friend and we're always surprising one another. I think our daughter would prefer this over being the topic of conversation, even though she's only twenty-two months.

brittany said...

this is so simple yet makes a HUGE difference. i love this idea!

Abby said...

I have got to start trying this! It's brilliant, I would never have thought about it, but you're right. There's the thrill, excitement, and "first" look! Thanks for the tip!

michelle said...

Love this idea! Yes! Yes! Yes!

abigail jane schrag said...

I love this! I have a friend coming to visit soon and she has offered to give us a romantic night just the two of us (we have a 3 month old). I am going to suggest this idea to DreamBoat (my husband).

VintageDanielle said...

Damn, that's a brillant idea! I love to feel butterflies and once you've been with a man for almost 7 years, it's harder to feel them. I'm going to suggest this to my guy!

Lauren E. said...

This is such a lovely idea! My boyfriend and I have been living together for 6 months and I realized the other day he sees me from pre-shower to date-ready and everything in between. Totally lackluster. We're trying this this weekend!

Wiola said...

I love it JO:) During the week me and my fiance are so buys with our jobs that we often don't see each other in the evening: he is working sometimes long hours and I'm already in bed when he's back; or the other way when I'm somewhere in the City busy with my event...Anyway, welcome to the City/London life!
That'w why we are trying to celebrate our weekends and Friday nights-Fridays are only for US! Me and my other half, glass of red in bed with some great music and trying to talk what happened during the week...Saturday it's our breakfast date-I love new places, a bit organic nothing modern look restaurant! So breakfast and walk along the river. Every weekend we are trying to do something different, new and surprising:) i love it and it helps to keep the sparks that started 6 years ago:)xoxo

christine said...

oh, how i love this idea! so doing this!

Kerri Lynne said...

you always have the cutest and best ideas! and i definitely am in agreement with some of the other readers suggesting to put away phones/other distracting technology! :]

Petites Merveilles said...

Nice! It would be definitely be better if he doesn't see the getting ready process!
By the way that is a great clip!

Miss Margarita said...

love this idea!

t.turney said...

I'm in a Marriage and Family Therapy program and we watched this very clip the other day in class! You're definitely on to somehting--such a great idea!

Jackie Geschwind said...

thank you for this...an old married lady (21 years next month!) can still learn a thing or two:)

Lisamarie said...

I think this is genuis. It is totally true that getting ready together takes away any element of surprise.

DENISE. said...

I LOVE THIS! Super romantic :) Thanks for sharing

Joy said...

this is a brilliant idea, especially for those who live in a city like NYC. My husband and I live in the country, so a long drive home separately after a nice time out together would be a bummer... but I will still embrace the spirit of the suggestion (i.e., getting ready separately)!

Erica @ Acire Adventures said...

Fantastic idea! I wish we still dated... haha

tali said...

So funny, I was just thinking about this (or kinda this!). We had a wedding to go to last Friday night...I had to work a little late so I ended up getting all dressed up in the office and meeting my husband there. I totally had that "butterflies" feeling walking in and looking around for him, and then when he saw me he said "wow, you look so pretty" and i was thinking about how nice that felt! I'm going to try this out for date night. Thanks for sharing :)

Williamsburg Baby said...

We are still waiting to see how life will change with baby, but one thing we love to do now is breakfast dates. My husband doesn't have to be at work til around 10:30, so we often go somewhere cute in the neighborhood for lattes and bagels or croissants and have some of our best conversations there.

JMNavin said...

LOVE IT!

Great idea.
Thanks for the tip.

Rachel @ My Happily Ever After said...

what a fun idea! totally going to try this!

Katie Lee said...

That scene is so funny! The beginning of the movie "Four Christmases" is also like that. You should check it out. Great post!

Judy said...

My husband and dated long-distance so we had a lot of fun times on SKYPE. Now, even when he's just in the other room on his computer, I'll call him on SKYPE. It usually leads to some giggles and gratitude for each other. The little things . . . .

Chelsea said...

Love this! I don't have a husband, but I do understand the lovely feeling of walking up to a dapperly dressed man in a restaurant or bar and smelling his cologne and just generally being happy to be the one he's waiting for. Such a great idea to do that, even after you've locked the man down! :)

Eliza Jane said...

Ha. Love this scene.

My Love Wedding Ring said...

A great idea!!
thank you...!

{Liana} said...

Just got goose bumps-- that scene was something, huh? Andy Garcia was so great in that role:)

Amy said...

Forget Meg and Andy. Modern Family got it right with 'Clive' and 'Juliana', Yes! High-end electroacoustic transducers are awesome.

Victory Paper Designs said...

this is such great advice! sometimes we get a little too comfortable and forget to try to impress one another a little. my fiance and i will have to do this for our anniversary!

Kelly said...

My husband and I have 5 minute make-out sessions. One of us just asks "Wanna make out for 5 minutes?" and it is nearly impossible to turn down or be turned down. Everyone has five minutes for a little old school making out, right?

I LOVE your blog!

mindykay said...

This is a great idea! My husband and I are newly married and appreciate advice like this on how to keep things exciting! It's so easy to be lazy about spending time together or even just staying in. You're right there's something about getting dressed up- feeling pretty and seeing your man looking pretty too.

My husband works A TON and so the little time we get together is precious. We took a "staycation"- stayed a hotel away from home, didn't turn on the TV- got shnazzed up and went out on the town a little bit. So fun to feel flirty and cute together.

Rosemary said...

I really love this idea and can't wait to try it. I know what you mean about the Spanx. Since moving in together, I make my boyfriend leave the room when I put on Spanx. I just can't do that to him. Or our relationship.

Zsuzsa said...

Good idea, but I don't have the money and the time for that. Sorry.

Material Girl said...

Awesome idea and i think we got to start doing this. There will be one small problem though.. i am terrible with reaching on time and my husband is even worse...

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That's such a great idea Joanna! Last night I did the same with my husband. We live on the main street of our neighborhood. I caught the bus that takes me about 10 blocks from our apartment instead of the one that lets me off across the street from it. I was a little bummed and called my husband and to meet me for dinner (so we wouldn't spend all evening inside the apartment...). We decided to both walk towards each other and go to the restaurant nearest to wherever we meet. It was a fun way to add a little element of surprise to our evening & we ended up having some delicious sushi! It's going to be our new tradition because feels more like a real date, keeps us from getting caught up with home things, and is fun!

Elizabeth :: Bébé Suisse said...

You're right. Even without children, there is something so nice about meeting one's partner somewhere else, to walk in and see not just the person you're used to sharing home life with, but the person as he exists beyond that. I love it.

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This is so true!

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that's a very romantic scenario you follow!

i love this movie! & you made want to watch it again! one of my favorites!

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Hi! Longtime reader, first time comment-er... haha I just wanted to say I love these relationship posts. As a new mother it is nice to have that reminder to spice things up. Thanks!

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Love this idea! I'm recently engaged and always on the lookout to come up for air from the wedding planning stuff and get back to why we are deciding to make this leap in the first place. Keep the ideas coming, thanks!

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I met with my husband for dinner after work one evening and it totally did feel like meeting up on a date. I was seated waiting on the phone with him explaining where to find me. Moments later, a hot guy on his phone shows up and I realize it's him. :)

Katie @ Noodle and Boof said...

How smart! Love that movie.

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This is such a fab idea. So simple but sets a special mood.

Enjoy the weekend!

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Melissa said...

What a great idea! And that video was hilarious and perfect and so sweet.

Megan @ Lovely Happenings said...

What a great idea. It's so simple but so smart. Happy Friday.

JenBabyMama said...

One night I had my husband pick me up for a date at the hairdressers....... I had a great blow out, pampered and fresh...... ready for the perfect date night. Much better than waiting at home in my sweats rushing to get ready with the kids all around.

Chessa! said...

we do this too and I think it's just the best thing ever. you're right...it's the little things that together become huge things. love it.

Ashley said...

I wish we could do this, but with the work we do- that's tough.
I will try it though, I love that feeling when you spot him from across the room.
My hear tis melting!

Bexando said...

I love this idea! And the putting the phones away one. That's a real biggie - there's nothing worse than going on a two people plus two phones date :)

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What a splendid idea!!!

Stefanie Grace said...

i LOVE this! My boyfriend and I often meet in a bar and it makes it so much more special! x

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I do this quite often with my live-in boyfriend. I love it because I get to play my music and dance around while I get ready. Have a glass of wine in the bathroom while I'm putting on my make-up. It reminds me of when I lived in my apt before moving in with him. I love ME time. Also.....this is a sweet TIP...I did this a few weeks ago. My man was having a tough week at work and I sent him a stunning bouquet of flowers. It was awesome. He said the delivery man walked in and saw him first and asked him to sign for them. My man said he thought "wow, somebody in the office got beautiful flowers", and asked the delivery guy who they were for and the guy looked down at his signature and said "They are for you". He called me right after. It was out of the blue and he loved it. Who says you can't send men flowers?! xo

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I have been in a relationship for 5 years now and have recently been thinking of more ways to keep the spark alive. This is a great simple idea. Thanks!

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First of all, love the pic at the start of this post.
I get this! I recently noticed (after 20 years of marriage) that when we meet at the Y after his work day, I look for him and my heart sings when he walks into the room, his eyes seeking me...his smile just for me...

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This is a great idea. How cute are you guys?

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I think meeting out is a brilliant idea! I'm all for anything that helps keep the spark alive.

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a good life is mainly about the little things and realizing how special they really are......

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One of my all time favorite movies!

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I love that scene from that movie

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I seriously love this. I remember reading this post when you originally wrote it. This is such a great idea, and I'm getting butterflies thinking of meeting up with my boyfriend for brunch rather than another casual dinner at Chilis after watching episodes of the Walking Dead for hours. ;)

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What a great idea - thanks for sharing. Will definitely have to try this for our next grownup date.

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Love this idea! Keeps things more exciting and date night is much more anticipated!! Yay!

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This is so true~

My boyfriend and are both in a new city, so we've made a deal to sight-see every saturday. Also, we've taken on a new project where he draws my portrait every saturday, and our plan is to see the progress after a while. We also go on various trips together, and one of them is to go to a new country and learn a new language for couple weeks while sight-seeing.

I'm now logging the different saturday activities we've been working on on my blog~

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I love this idea. When we have a 'date' sadly not often enough, I get ready in another room. But I will definitely try your idea of meeting up separately. Thanks for all your shares.

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Now why had I never thought of that!? :) Just have to find a sitter now!!

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