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Thursday, December 01, 2011

How did your parents first tell you about sex?

My twin sister and I first heard the gory truth about sex when...

...we were on the bus in kindergarten. We came home that afternoon and promptly told our mom that it must not be true, right? Taking it in stride, she told us that it was true, and that it might sound strange because we were kids, but that grown-ups didn't mind it.
Then she bought us the genius book Where Did I Come From--first published in 1973!--which we both still vividly remember. (Has anyone else read it? It's awesome.)

A few years later, I told my mom that some kids at school had been talking about balls. "What do you think that means?" she asked me. I rolled my eyes at such an obvious question. "Boobs!" I said and walked out of the room.

Ha, kids are so clueless!

How did your parents tell you about sex? Was it awkward? Awesome? Or did they decide not to mention anything and hope you'd just figure it out from movies, sex ed, etc.? Where did you think babies came from before you found out?

P.S. My friend even threw up when she was little and her parents told her about sex. She told them it was because of her chocolate milk, but it wasn't.

180 comments:

Lynne said...

My parents sat me down with this book too - I remember being so confused when they said it felt like being tickled by a feather! What's most embarrassing, is that my Mom sent this book to school with my in a brown envelope so that I could give it to my teacher to help teach sex ed to the whole class. I was mortified.

Vix Sta said...

Oh my god, my mum gave me that book to read too! I'm 27 now so must've read it in the 90s.

Krystle said...

Apparently I pulled the encyclopedia from the shelf when I was in 5 and read all about it. oy vey, I doubt I really understood but I went up to our neighbor and asked her if Thomas came out of her vagina...

Shannon said...

Ahhh!!! Where Did I Come From? I remember reading it in my friend's bedroom when I was 13 and thinking it was porn. My favorite part is when they describe an orgasm as a "tickle near you belly" (or something like that). I will never forget that part.

My mom used the Bible (yes, the Good Book), to explain sex to me. The passage? "And then Mary and Joseph had union..." and my mom asked me what she thought it meant. My little brother, meanwhile, kept trying to burst into the room to show us his dinosaurs. Le sigh over le sex talk.

Alexa said...

I was six or so (and apparently very precocious) when I asked my parents over dinner at an Italian restaurant. Their answer was that "Parents plan to have a baby and then they do." (??) When we got home, I promptly cornered my mom and demanded the real story :)

Naurnie said...

OH. MY. GOD. Joanna. My mom gave me the SAME BOOK! I was completely horrified by finding out and I think she thought it would ease the news for me. She used it again 5 years later with my little sister. She kept it in a special place in case we ever had questions so we could refer to the book. Instead, we would just show our friends when they came over.

Gaia said...

My parents were a weird mix of granola (home births!) and converted Catholics. So I knew what a placenta (etc) was from a very young age, but nothing about actual sex. I remember overhearing a conversation about a couple "trying to have kids." For years, I pictured them praying really hard every night. ha! needless to say I will be handling this differently when we have kids.

Meg said...

Oh how I wish I had that book! Great illustrations! Instead my "sexual education" was early & ongoing. As I reflect back, I cannot help but be appreciative of the way I was raised, what I was taught, and the manner in which such information was presented to me. One’s sexuality is in constant motion; ever changing, ever being molded by experience, by education, by society, and it takes a strong base to support this growth. My parents, and grandmother, were always encouraging about exploring sexuality, being in tune with our bodies, and respecting and acknowledging the beauty of nature. If we had questions, they would answer them with honest, age-appropriate responses and if for some reason they did not have the answer, we seek out another source, be it a person or the library, who could explain it better. In addition, my mother was very adamant about my brother and I being comfortable with who we were and never being ashamed of our bodies. We spent afternoons pouring over nudes in art books or out at a friends farm watching cows giving birth. We were taught to respect one another’s privacy but at the same time we knew not to make a scene if someone was caught naked because lets face it, no mystery here, they are just body parts. We were also taught the proper terms for parts and didn't really mess around with "who-ha" or "pee-pee" lol

Fran said...

I totally forgot about that book! My favorite part is that it's described on the cover as written 'without and nonsense and with illustrations,' - but those cartoons made it even more awkward to learn about.

Like weird naked care bears with tiny reproductive appendages.

One of my friends went on a road trip to Chicago with her mom. What she thought was going to be a fun girls weekend was actually a ploy to have her listen to tapes and do workbooks. She's still scarred!

Dawn said...

That book was my five-year-old introduction as well! Not sure if I'll use it with my son, but I love its matter-of-fact tone. (Love your blog, have been reading forever and this is my first comment, I think.) -Dawn

Amanda from 'Makeshift Magpie' said...

I found out by watching some silly day-time talk show at my grandma's house when I was home sick from kindergarten. When my mom took me home, I stood up on the toilet while she was washing her face in the sink (so I could look her in the eye) and said "Mama - I know what sex is now!". The next day I gave "the talk" to my best friend in kindergarten.

aislin said...

i remember this book! too funny! i do believe my mom called my gr.1 or gr.2 teacher to mention that, if her daughter was coming home demanding answers to questions she had after school yard conversations, then the teachers best get on the sex ed teachings a bit early.

Amy said...

Wow, my experience was pretty much the same as yours. Anyone I've ever told this to thinks I was too young to be told "the truth" - what? My husband's parents never told him! He was 16 and his dad sat him down and said "so, about sex - any questions?" I prefer the 5 years old with a picture book (and an update around age 13 for the safety/respect yourself talk).

Punk Rock Mom said...

I was also introduced to the topic with a book. A very mind searing pop-up book

Kiana said...

They still haven't! And I'm 28!

Flight Attendant Extraordinaire said...

I don't actually remember the exact moment I learned about sex. I can tell you exactly how I learned about periods, because I declared I would never have mine, but sex is a little fuzzier. But I always felt comfortable asking my parents about sex-related things, like the time I came home from 5th grade and asked what a boner was. At the dinner table. My dad tried to put it in nice terms like, "It's something that happens to a boy when he sees a girl he likes" and my mom impatiently said, "Oh for Pete's sake, it's when a boy's penis gets hard." My sister & I about died laughing, rolling on the floor under the dinner table.

A.C. Ford said...

My mother was very straight-forward with my brother and I about the mechanics of sex. She was worried that if we didn't know what sex was, someone could take advantage of us by telling us we were "playing" or "exercising" or something.

Anna Walker said...

Hahaha my friend Janine [who has the dirtiest mind I SWEAR] told me about sex in 4th grade. My mom explained some stuff at a later point...but really I learned about sex on the playground!

http://annawalker1992.blogspot.com/

Elle said...

my paremts were always open with that stuff. i mean they werent walking around the house naked or anything. but if we had a question they answered it. im so thankful because it left the door open for more important questions when we got older.

ethanollie said...

well this is timely! my parents (yes, both of them) sat me down at the age of about 9 and told the very matter-of-factly truth about the whole thing. it was embarrassing back then, but when i think about it now it was fairly to the point and handled really well.

now I have an 8 year old, and I'm thinking 'the talk' it is well overdue. i'm going to track down this book pronto.

dyan of nita scot said...

I was given that book too!!! The best book to explain the topic for children. I want to get it for my kids someday.

Giulia said...

I loved this book and i could not remember the name, thanks for this! I vividly remember the cartoons - funny how things can have such a big impact.

Alyssa said...

I learned about sex from an older girl at a sleep over when I was about 7. I thought she was full of it. By the time I was about 12 they confirmed her description in school. I was too embarrassed to ever talk with my mom about it (and so was she, apparently).

p.s. The thought of your friend throwing up made me laugh out loud!

Megan said...

I had that book! It was one of the first books I read on my own and I used to color in it. I don't know that my mom explained anything so much as she was just like, "You like books, one day you'll understand this one."

My favorite part is when they're standing side-by-side and it says something like, "You may notice some differences."

Janelle said...

I love this topic. I distinctly remember at the age 6 or so, I kissed a boy and started thinking that he would somehow automatically be the "father" of my children when I became old enough to have babies!

K├Ąthe said...

My parents used that book on us, too! I'm still mad to this day that it describes an orgasm as a sneeze. A SNEEZE. WTH.

Kate said...

That book looks hysterical! My mom used to make me go on dog walks with her in second grade, I think, and she would give me the talk. I was not a fan.

Katherine Summers said...

My parents gave me that exact same book! They explained sex just before I went to sleep-away camp for the first time (I think I was in 3rd grade). I don't really remember many details, but apparently I took it very matter-of-factly. Mum says I just shrugged and said, "Oh, so you guys did that three times." (I have two younger sisters--the second was horrified that you had to be naked!)

I think I figured out most of the sex-can-be-fun parts from the Internet. My parents weren't particularly withholding on that front, but I did enjoy me some joke sites. Also fanfiction.

Erin said...

The idea of having to explain to sex to a small child is almost enough of a deterrent for me to never actually have kids, haha. I don't remember the conversation my parents had with me about it, but that's likely because I've suppressed all recollections based on how awkward the whole thing was.

Girlie Blogger said...

This is a fun topic to blog about. My parents were very strict. We did not talk about sex. I believed that I came from mommy's belly button until I was 18.

http://www.thegirlieblog.com

Yael said...

hahahaha, oh my god! my mom gave me that book as well. in fact, my mom started teaching me and my brothers about the human body and sex when i was about 5 years old. she would read to us, and answer any questions we had.

amazing flashback :).

jenn said...

oh of course I thought they were pooped out! There was no way babies came out the front!

No sex talk until I was a junior in high school having dated the same guy for a year. A little late mom...

Snow White said...

I never had "the talk" with my parents. To this day we don't talk about that sort of stuff haha. I was about 12 (yes, possibly the last "innocent" generation, before internet was mainstream... I am 26 now), and watching National Geographic. I then announced to my parents "I FIGURED OUT WHAT SEX IS!!" and that was that.

Joanna Goddard said...

shannon, that is so funny. i remember they said an orgasm is kind of like when you really want to sneeze and then you do!

Joanna Goddard said...

AC, that's really smart of your mom!

Joanna Goddard said...

dawn, that's so nice;)

Samantha said...

I found out about it in class, when I was on 4th grade, about 9 years old. I took this book and ended up in the reproductive system part of the book. It said "during the sexual act, the man introduces his penis into the woman's vagina". I freaked out and asked the teacher if it was true, and she said yes. I didn't tell anyone I knew, I felt like I had done something wrong by finding out! haha. I had heard about love making, but I thought it was only laying in a bed naked and kissing, cause (what you see on tv); I also thought babies probably came from taking a pill or something, which turned out to be the complete opposite! I later told my aunt and she cleared up everything and even told me about contraceptives.

debbiecutieface said...

my parents never told me anything! I found out pretty late, when I was in 5th grade, and my friend told me. I was disgusted/appalled/shocked/intrigued all in one.

Alli said...

I don't remember anything specific. I remember there was a book but it wasn't that one. I remember one conversation but not sure at what age - definitely older than five or six - and it was awkward. I know that when I'm a parent I want to make these things comfortable and to not make a child feel guilty or embarrassed about questions.

Meredith said...

Oh, Joanna--so funny! I was young--like 6?--and apparently my mom's friend intimidated her into thinking that EVERYONE'S kids knew about sex by then. My poor single mama marched out and rented the movie version of that very book (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0368436/). Ahh, children of the 80s!

Bethany said...

I asked my mom about it when she was pregnant for both of my younger brothers (they're 4 and 6 years younger than me, so I was pretty little) and she just explained the "when a mommy and daddy love each other very much, they lay in bed together and kiss" kind of thing to spare me the graphic details at that age.
When I was 8 or 9 years old, my baby sitter's daughter came home from school crying because she had gotten her period that day, and so I asked my mom what is was. That's when she explained the mechanics of it, complete with a medical book. I still think it took a couple more years for it to really make sense for me, though.
I'm thankful for the approach my mom took with it, allowing me to come to her and ask questions, and to gauge what I could comprehend at different ages.

Anonymous said...

Yep, my parents introduced me to that book at a very early age. Look back, probably too early. In fact, I can never remember a time where I didn't understand the biological premise of sex.

Unfortunately, my knowledge pretty much ends there.

Sara said...

My mother gave me the same book! It was the day my older sister got braces and I was angry that my mom took her to the mall after her appointment on a school day. I was probably in third grade and had an inkling of what sex was... but this book confirmed it!

For anyone else with older kids, I would HIGHLY recommend the book "It's Perfectly Normal." It is a bit more mature but still youthful, and is very very informative on other aspects involved with sex. It goes into (age-appropriate) depth about topics like STD's, what to expect during puberty, myths about pregnancy and even masturbation. My mom surprised me again with that book when I was a bit older (twelve) but it was probably the most important book of my teenage years.

courtney - larking. said...

My parents were pretty forthright (though gentle with their wording) when we started asking in early elementary school. My brother went through a phase where he wouldn't hug anyone, and it turned out it was because he thought that was how babies were made. (!) So my dad sat him down for a talk one night. I remember brushing my teeth before bed and then hearing my brother yell from his room, "EWWWWW!"

Christina Marie said...

They didn't, I found out from a friend in 2nd grade!

http://becauseofmadalene.blogspot.com/

ritu said...

my mom gave us the same book! it was awesome. i've been wondering what happened to it, because i wanted to use it for our kids, too. she also gave me another book by the same authors, called "What's Happening to Me?".

Marilisa said...

I really can't remember the first time my mom talked to me about it, but I definitely remember still being confusing about how it all worked in my 8th grade health class! I was way too afraid to ask my parents though.

I do remember a hilarious thing my little sister said after our mom told her how babies are made...since there are three of us daughters my sister asked, "So you've done that three times?" And my mom said, "Something like that..." !! haha

Robyn said...

i didn't have that 'talk'-my parents just gave me books for my 14th birthday! hehe-'where do babies come from' and the such

Anne said...

My mom gave me a book too, but it looked awful (very serious, not like the book you got), and I have never even peeked in it. I was so grossed out by the thought alone. :)

Meredith said...

Marilisa, that's too funny. I remember hearing that my cousin asked his mom "So, I get the part where the penis goes in the vagina. But then what? Does it go to the bathroom?"

Katelyn Marie said...

My mother and I recently had a discussion about the first time she told me about sex. She was a physiology major in university so she had a lot of Anatomy books lying around - in fact, the one she used to teach me with was a 3D pop-up book from the 80s. Literally, the uterus, ovaries and penis jumped off the page. So funny (and slightly terrifying)! I don't remember how old I was but apparently she taught me about sex by showing me how the anatomy works from this 3D book.

The reason I say 'apparently' is because I don't even remember the talk! I'm pretty sure I blacked it out of my memory; I was that horrified (I mean, popping out 3D penises)! When I told her this during our recent discussion, she got so mad that I didn't remember it because she was obviously extremely stressed about how to explain it to me when I was little. The first time I really remember learning about sex was in Grade 4 when we learned about it in class. So funny how things work out.

Ps. Love your blog Joanna and all the topics you discuss :)

Sarah said...

My SISTER let me read that book when she told me about sex. My mom probably STILL can't discuss it and I'm over-40! AND I just let my 11 year old read it to start the sex discussion. She finished the book and had BIG eyes and a funny smile. LOL!

Nomadic D. said...

Hilarious. My mom was always trying to have heart-to-heart talks with me about sex and my body changing and all that stuff and I was just repulsed at the idea of talking through it with her. Weird because we've always been so close and I think of her as one of my best friends, but from a young age, that was off limits for me. I think she was disappointed.

http://nomadic-d.blogspot.com/

Unseasoned Cook said...

Hilarious- my Mom gave me this book too when I was 5 and first started asking about where babies come from. We never actually talked about it though. Ever. I guess the book was sufficient in her eyes and definitely covered enough ground to stop me asking further questions. Amazing.

Sara Szatmary said...

The horrible truth is that they never did. I had to learn about it from friends and scant catholic school coverage. My experience makes me VERY passionate about parents taking the time to tell their children about safe and healthy sex.

Emily Cureton Booth said...

Joanna! oh my goodness, I always remembered my parents telling us with a book, but could never remember what book it was. THIS is it! So strange as soon as I saw it I remembered! I think I was about 7years old and what I remember most was that my parents were impressed I could read the word umbilical...so proud! Haha!

Bree said...

I was raised on a farm and animals have no shame. I learned very early in a very graphic manner what sex was. I think most farm kids have the same story.

Bel said...

oh this is funny, my mom read the same book - in Portuguese, as I live in Brazil =P
But before that a friend in kindergarten told me a little boy wanted to put his pipi inside her to have a baby, I was horrified!!
But when my mom came to read the book she asked if we knew about it, then I said "Yes!" then she asked: "how is it?" and sure I was so ashamed to tell that I just pretended I didn't know :)

Wh. said...

I think every single person in the world has read that book or watched the movie (90s kid talking;)..

Fancy Pants said...

HAH! I had a book from my mom called, "So that's how I was born!" I recently found it at my parents house and brought it home and left it out on the coffee table for my husband to find. It took him about 4 days and then, wait..."What the What???" hahaha

Lee Ferguson said...

I absolutely adore this post, & all the comments!!! So many of them made me laugh loud & hard! I learned about sex on the playground in 2nd grade. My mother's (a very rigid old-school Catholic) version of sex education was telling me, when I was 13, that sex was a "holy mystery"!

I told my daughter what sex was when she asked me, at 6 years old. I am going to go get that book for her & her brother, tho!

NellElizabeth said...

I think strangely I figured most of it out pretty early via rated R Tom Cruise Movies my Mom would let me watch. So for years my idea of sex was really just heavy petting. My parents waited too late (like 12 or 13??)by then I was already in the know.

Anonymous said...

My older brother told me. He learned from perverted boys at school. I was mortified!

My husband literally had no idea that the penis went inside of the vagina until he was a SENIOR IN COLLEGE! Thankfully, it came naturally for him when we got married! :)

Ahn said...

it's interesting now with IVF how kids really don't have to be a product of sex. i wonder how that will change some conversations on "where did i come from" questions.

kati said...

some other kid told me about it at school in third grade so i ambushed my dad with the question as he was getting out of his car that night! i think he was less than prepared to talk about it :) :)

Joanna Goddard said...

marilisa, that is SO CUTE! yeah, i totally figured my parents had done exactly twice, since they had twin girls + a boy. :)

{jaclyn} said...

I so read this book too! It is quite good and I'll always remember the part about what a sneeze is like. :)

been seeing you pop up in more places lately -country living mag and articles on yahoo. Super cool!

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Lisa Golightly said...

joanna, yes, that book! i remember my mom reading it to my older brother and giggling the whole time (while they shot me dirty looks:)

Julia said...

Haha... I don't remember when my parents first told me about sex, but I do remember that when in first grade my neighbor told me I needed to kiss a boy in order to have babies. I vowed to never have babies because that was such a gross concept! Yuck boy germs! :)

JL said...

My parents went the book route as well, including a biology textbook on sexual reproduction (there's a COLOUR PHOTO of frogs gettin it on that I still find horrifying). More helpful was that my best friend's mom had a "hidden" copy of The Joy of Sex we would study at every opportunity--somewhat reassuring, frankly!

P.S. While I don't have kids at this point, I really love your frank approach to love/babies/relationships etc. Saving them for a day down the road. Thank you!

sophie & lili said...

OMG! I used to trace the people & color them in (cover up their private bits!!!) So funny!

Anabel said...

They waited too long, and I already understood it... but they tried anyway... My mom literally drew me a picture. I was mortified. It's a funny memory though.

Angry Asian said...

it was something i figured out via books (thanks to FOREVER by Judy Blume) and movies etc. but in 8th grade my stepmother did say to me to never go into the backseat of a car with a boy because he was trying to "make love to me"... i blurted out, "you mean, have sex?" she was adamant about the "making love" term but i got more obnoxious and kept escalating to "boning...screwing...sexy time...f*cking..."

she was not pleased but i sure was.

Erin said...

A vivid memory I have was when I was about 9 or 10. I was reading a Judy Blume book and it talked about masturbation. Having absolutely no clue what it meant, I went outside on the porch and asked my grandma and mom who were outside with a few neighbors. They hysterically laughed for about 5 minutes, my face turned bright red and I walked back inside. A few minutes later, they came in and gave me the 'watered down' version of what it was, HA!

Morgan said...

I was read the same book too! In about 1989 I think... I remember feeling quite sick about it too, and couldn't eat/drink certain things for a while afterward. Once I knew about it, I used to sneak peeks at the book out of curiosity every now and then.

I don't look forward to telling my son about it someday (he's only 9 months now) - seems so awkward!!!

dianamican said...

Kiana - Same here!

A few years ago my sister and I (now 24 and 28)were kidding around with my mom and asked her when we were finally going to get the big talk. Her very serious answer? "When you get married."

She wasn't as prudish when it came to her reading materials. I was a voracious reader growing up, and I was fascinated by the romance novels I found hidden around the house.

elizabeth marley said...

Because my mother is ridiculous...I was 18, home during a college break. I had been dating an older guy (who she loved) for a couple years, had been on the Pill for maybe 3 years, and finally I just said, "Mom, you don't REALLY think I was sleeping on the couch when I went to visit him, do you?" She launched into this speech about STDs and pregnancy, most of which was wrong. (I love my mom, but somehow she missed the second half of the 20th century.)

This is the same woman who told me I couldn't wear tampons because I wouldn't be a virgin anymore.

So yeah, I got "the talk" when I was in college and had already been having sex for a few years, and most of it was made up of urban sex myths from the 50s.

Liz {Sequins And Stripes} said...

Haha I love this post, so many awkward memories! My mom told me the truth in 3rd grade when we went on a long walk, I couldn't believe that this was how babies were made. I went straight home, opened my diary, and wrote about how disgusting it was and that I couldn't believe my parents had "done it" THREE times {I am one of three children}. Oh to be young again, also that is the only page I ever wrote in my little diary. My parents have it saved :)

Kate said...

It was the main subject of playground discussion around third or fourth gradein the mid 60's. I had the basic idea of the astonishing physical ordeal, but imagined the woman would be unconscious, like for surgery.
The rumors all gelled into the truth when I read an article in Reader's Digest, called "What do I Tell My Son?" which was about the problem a mom faced with the hussy girlfriends out to seduce her son and "sleep with" him. I comprehended the euphemism and that it did indeed make babies and people liked doing it.
My kids grew up around horse breeding and nature and had no questions. They ran away when I wanted to give a little puppet show on the topic.

Karen Travels said...

Love that illustration! I remember one thing: I accidentally saw a portion of a c-section on TV and I was convinced for YEARS my belly would someday open up and the doctor would scoop the baby out!!


Karen
www.savorthelittlethings.blogspot.com

Lindsay said...

They made an animated movie from that book! I remember my mom taking me to the video store and renting a VCR and that VHS tape. I watched it a bunch of times because I was so fascinated and appalled.

DENISE. said...

After "the talk" in my family, I couldn't say or hear "make love" without going into a total giggle fit. It was so embarrassing to me to hear that! I had to say "ML" instead and made my family to do the same throughout my entire childhood. To this day I still think it's a rather overly dramatic and silly term :)

jenny said...

My parents are on the "if we don't mention anything, they'll never know about it" tactic. So I learned about it in 4th grade in sex ed. We didn't really understand anything that was going on and I just remember the class giggling at a tampon. 4th grade is too young to learn about that, I think.

Leah said...

I've never had "the talk" from my parents and I'm 24 and engaged to be married. I remember watching Oprah a few years ago with my mom and she had the 'sex doctor' on and she made me change it. lol She didn't think I was ready to hear it or something.

xo L.

mba said...

I love this book. We had it on the shelf at my house. I often imagined my Dad finding me in his glass of beer. I still have my childhood copy and when my girl is old enough she will inherit it. Classic.

Mary said...

Oh my gosh! I had completely forgotten about that book! Awesome. I asked my mom about sex when I was about 9. She answered all my questions in a pretty matter-of-fact way, even pulling out her medical texts for pictures and definitions. I wasn't ever freaked out by it.

MamaDre said...

Too funny! I vividly remember the movie version of Where Did I Come From! My friends and I would watch and laugh! I think I would still find it funny today :)

Christina said...

YES!!! My mother read that book to me! I'm 24 now, and looking through it (because I still have it)I can't believe some of the ilustrations!

I may just have to read this to my future kids. :)

Margot said...

I'm pretty sure I just saw some woman with a big belly and my mom told me something like "there's a baby growing inside, her husband made it grow there". And later I also had a cool book that taught me everything about puberty-related stuff, so I was fully prepared when it hit me.

But the weird thing is that I remember knowing about sex at a very early age, I was about no more than 5 when I knew that people have sex because it feels good, not just to make babies. And I knew it would be awesome if I could do it as a grown-up. But I have no idea where I found all that out, it wasn't a topic of conversation at my house at that time or anything... I guess I was born with this knowledge. :D
Anyway I'm happy I was never really in the dark about these things, and I was never grossed out or scared or surprised when I learned something new about sex.

riorita said...

When I was 8 years of,the kids in the neighbourhood were laughing about it.When I asked what it was, they told me. I did not believe them!!

Jennifer said...

I still haven't had the talk! I'm 24 this weekend... I think that this means that my parents will never give me the talk!

I found when I was 6/7ish in the playground; I remember being horrified that you had to have sex to have children - even though I wasn't quite sure what sex was. I had sex ed a couple of years later though, which only traumatised me further! We had to watch a video of a woman giving birth :c

Anonymous said...

Ha. My mom got her period in 4th grade, so every time, from 2nd grade on, I had a stomach ache she explained sex, fertility, and the menstrual cycle to me WITH drawn diagrams! When it came time for sex ed in 5th grade, I aced every test and my teacher thought I was brilliant (or weird?!)... little did she know!

ps. I didn't get my period until 1oth grade. Boy, was I prepared :)

Sara said...

Totally remember that book!!!

Eliza Jane said...

I was given the same book you were! I remember thinking it was a completely disgusting idea. That's hilarious about your friend!!

moseyblog said...

I was the youngest of 3 girls so everything I learned, I learned from my sisters. My parents never told me a thing and I in turn never shared anything with them, until I was in my 20's (when I finally had a real long-term boyfriend to tell my mum about)!

Molly @ The Nesting Game said...

Not sex, per se, but relatedly...

I first read "Are you there God, it's me, Margaret" when I was about 8 and no one had explained my period to me yet. I totally thought that the "blood on your underpants" they referenced was from your NIPPLES DRIPPING BLOOD, running down your belly and soaking into your underwear waistband. I even wrote "boobs" inside my book to clear it up. (Don't ask me why I didn't think the vampire-boobs would leak on a shirt first.)

natalie said...

I remember sitting on the toilet hanging out while my mom gave my little brother a bath and it came up somehow. I was around 6. She told me the basics and then I closed my eyes and said "hold on, let me picture this." She didn't like that idea.

Juliane said...

That's funny, I learned the truth from that very book, too. Well, from the German copy of it. :) My best friend's mom had bought it for her and her sister. My own parents probably had hoped that those facts would reveal themselves quite naturally to me. We never talked about those things. In Germany most kids learn about sexuality from "Dr. Sommer", a section devoted to sexuality in a magazine called Bravo which otherwise mostly contains all things stars and music. I don't know, however, if this is still the case.

Trina said...

I did not realize 'til today that the author of "Where Did I Come From?" is the same Peter Mayle who wrote "A Year in Provence." Wowza!

Trina said...

P.S. I remember learning from cartoons in fifth grade at my Catholic elementary school. And from sneaking my mother's romance novels not long after.

anne said...

My Mum gave me this book to read in 5th grade, I sat in the living room paralyzed with awkwardness reading it. She asked if I had any questions afterward, I quickly replied 'NO!' and pretended nothing had changed.

The following year in 6th grade we had sex ed, and the most memorable part of that was when my teacher (explaining periods) placed a tampon in a glass of water...I have never been so terrifed to use something in my life.

filmjolk said...

oh souvenir! my brother and i used to watch the anime in french when we were little. it was so funny and i don't remember asking much more question after it! :) good to see it again!

Alissa said...

Yep, my parents gave me this book, too. Either kindergarten or first grade. My girlfriend can't believe my parents told me about sex so early, but it's just never felt like a big deal. Much better than waiting until your kids are old enough to grasp the reality of how awful it is that your parents are telling you about it. Or not saying anything at all, right?

petitor said...

Sadly, my parents and us (my bro and i) never had the big talk. This will not be the case for my hubby and I when we're ready for kids.
In my 4th grade, a girl told me that her baby brother came out of the poop hole (apparently that's what her mom told her). I knew I wasn't from the poop hole, because my mom had the caesarean section, but I wondered my brother maybe was from the behind. When I asked my mom if that was true, she said my brother and other babies normally come out from the pee holes. Wut??? Poop hole and now pee hole? How many holes do we have? I felt so lied to about the whole babies come out of the belly button thing... In my 7th grade, I finally found out where babies come from, and I said v.. what? I was still confused. Seriously how many holes are enough?
ANyways, it's so weird to talk about sex with my folks now, and I still wonder how come they didn't start an early sex education with me. Just a small mistake they made I believe, but I think it's absolutely important to start the talk in early age.

hetty said...

Ha! my parents never told me about it - but i was convinced that the baby came out of your bellybutton until i was about 8!

Laurel said...

OMG!!!!! I had that book too! My sister and I still laugh about it but it was soooo informative!

A Sunday Kind Of Love said...

I was on a play-date in the third grade and my little friend told me about it! Then I went home and demanded to know the truth from my mom! Because that could obviously not be real! She confirmed that it was and I thought it was disgusting and sounded very unpleasant to go through.
I also thought that when babies were born your belly button would open up and they would just come out! Clearly I hadn't really thought it through that much.... (but adults were always talking about babies in tummies, so logically...)

Liz said...

A friend of mine linked to this on Facebook. http://dulcefamily.blogspot.com/2010/03/why-i-will-never-have-talk-with-my-kids.html

I'm not planning on having kids myself, but if I did, I think I'd go with that plan!

djackria said...

i love this

Nikki said...

Hahah! We had that book too, I think that's how my Sister and I learned about it. Then we read it everyone who came to our house. And that is probably how my friends would tell you they learned about it ;)

Nina Leung said...

Funny and great topic! Never heard of this book, but I'll definitely use it for my son when the time comes.

My Mom first told my sister and I about sex when I came home from 5th grade asking her why a boy called me gay. I didn't know what gay meant and it was said to me in a negative context, so I needed to know. That's what started the whole thing.

Amazingly, my Mom was really cool about it and actually explained heterosexual and homosexual sex. So I grew up knowing both were totally normal. Thanks, Mom!

kelli richard said...

My mom sat down with me and explained it very logically and it didn't faze me. Then I was doing the dishes a few nights later when it all "clicked" and I realized my parents did that to have me and my sister... I was only further horrified when my mom reminded me of her two miscarriages preceding me, so my parents had "done it" FOUR TIMES! Oh, dear God!

Alexandrea Jane said...

Mine is a bit strange, but i was an odd cild so here goes:

I was just barely 5 when my parents told me I was getting another sibling ( already had 1 )and some how I acquired a medical book ( read: NOT meant for children ) about the process of birth. It detailed how a sperm enters an egg to cell division to zygote ( yes, i said zygote at age 5 - wierd, I know ) documenting the changes each week of actual pictures from inside the womb. I was obsessed with this book. Even went as an OBGYN to career day in kindergarten. So naturally i was curious how conception happens ( this was left out of the book ). So at age 5 in the grocery I asked my mother how the " sperm from the dad gets to the egg in the mom when everyone has panties and clothes and body parts in the way". My mom tried to dodge the question 1. we were in a grocery store 2. we were with my 3yr old sister.
So I got louder with my questioning until exasberated and embarrassed she told me quickley in a huff. Apparently i just starred at her and was very quiet. She told me much later on that she was worried she had shcked and scared me but I guess later in the car on the way home I piped up and matter-of-factly said:"Ive never seen you and dad do that"
My mom loves this story especially since now at 25 I am studying to be an OB and still question just about everything.
Hope this put a smile on your face- Enjoy

-Alexandrea

Sabrina said...

I can't really remember my parents trying to have a huge talk with me. Once my mom tried to explain menstruation, but I was confused and didn't really want to listen. They basically let me learn from sex-ed at school. I think the only time we really talked about sex was when my mom told me I should wait to have sex until I'm mature enough to handle it, but that I shouldn't wait until I get married. I remember thinking that was pretty funny.

Sammi said...

I did not have that book, and it worries hugely that it says on the cover "illustrated" by. WTAF? i have ridiculous images going through my mind, in fact, i think that may have scarred me for the rest of my life.

my cousin was left to tell me about sex and periods and all those things. my parents did not tell either myself or my brother about it. she used to babysit us on a friday night and she would tell me about things then. also, that was a time friends was on at 9pm on a friday on C4 so I picked up a lot of things then.

Molliee said...

too funny! My parents let me learn from school, which we did in the 5th grade, before that it was just childhood rumors!

Brigid said...

Ha! I was given the same book. I remember feeling so embarrassed that my parents knew I was reading it and then knew that I knew what sex was!

JacPfef said...

My parents didn't have a chance to tell me about it with my two older sisters around. They made sure I was overly informed, lol.

ana said...

My mum used the same book!!!(but the Spanish version) Hi from Spain!!

Caitlin said...

This post is so funny!! I remember all of my friends and I made the executive decision for me to be the one to go home and ask my parents what "sex" was? Looking back on it, def one of the funnier moments in my life!!

xo
Caitlin
http://hauteeyes.com

Elizabeth said...

Oh my gosh -- same book for me and my sister too. On the bus to kindergarten. . .my gosh. My son is 4; I guess I have to be ready for this sooner than I thought!

Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

So funny...my mom gave me this book in 5th grade. I used to laugh so hard. I'm 49 and still think about this book!
I've tried that jump rope analogy on my husband! Haha
She gave one to my aunt to read with her daughter with a not so pleasant outcome. My aunt told everyone in the family that my mom gave her porn to show her daughter.
I'm still laughing at that! Thanks for the blast from the past. I sure wish I still had my copy!
Tina

Jules said...

amazing! haha My mom read the same book to me and my sisters ..we covered our ears and laughed at the pictures the whole way through.. I could describe half of the pictures in the book from memory..haha thanks for the laugh!! :)

Abby said...

I asked my mom some inane, fairly innocent question about sex when I was 5. She gave me, no kidding, a copy of Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex, But Were Afraid to Ask. Yeeeeah. I was an early reader, so at 5, I could understand most of it, but I'm not sure I really UNDERSTOOD.

Besides not really being age-appropriate, the book's fairly dismissive and judgmental about non-normative sex. But as a non-native English speaker, my mom thought that the book's title appropriately answered the questions I was asking! Afterwards, the only question I asked my mom was (and I remember being so confused about this!): "What's a hymen?" Ha! I don't recall what she said....

iamchasingthirty said...

Oh we SO had this book. My Mom said, "Okay now you have to keep this to yourself because other people's parents might not want them to know about this yet..." 2 days later she finds the book splayed open laying in the front yard. What can I say? I've always liked to share:)

Jenny said...

Oh my gosh, this post is so timely! I'm working on my elementary teaching credential. I have a health class this term, and I was assigned a group project where we had to pretend our class was a 5th grade class, and teach a mock lesson as if we were the teachers. We were assigned the sex ed lesson. We presented today and part of our presentation was that we had a box up front for "kids" to ask anonymous questions. Now keep in mind, we are supposed to be showing our knowledge of the curriculum for our grade level and our state (Oregon). In Oregon public schools it is illegal to teach ONLY abstinence education. Any abstinence education must be coupled with the full sex story, plus how to prevent diseases/infections/pregnancy, etc. So we start reading the questions from the box and one of them says "where do babies come from?" A woman in my group grabbed the piece of paper from me and said "from when a man and a woman get married". An AWESOME class member (pretending to be a fifth grader) said "well I have 2 dads, so where did I come from? I wanted to high five her. Instead I just stepped in and answered her question, and also told her where babies really do come from. Hopefully I saved our grade and my professor knows that the other lady's answer was just HER answer. Ugh.

lillie said...

hahahaha, my parents...no way!! i grew up catholic and if you wanted to know anything that your parents had not told you yet then you went to bobby mosier. he knew it all...lol. well at least we thought he did. he also told me there was NO santa claus...butthead!!! teeheheee.

anyhoo, i used the book "where did i come from" with both of my daughters and they loved it.

Rosalie Malham said...

My dad read my sister and I Where Did I Come From and I remember that we both burst out laughing and saying that it couldn't be true! Apparently it is. Who knew?

Emikos Werid Unexplained thoughts said...

awe i was like 13 i wasnt told I think the internet and also friends and things. I used some common sense and the kids in my high-school who were having kids. I thought if u made out with someone you could have a baby. lol It was funny , im glad now looking back at it.

Rebecca said...

i think my mum tried to explain something to me, but i can't remember at all. i only remember one time when i was sick she asked me if i remembered our talk about periods. i didn't.

Growing up with computers i learned a little from the internet in about grade 5 (definitely not the way to learn)what i learned about was not traditional sex.

Then i had sex ed in years 6-12. i loved it. i've never been sqeemish and all o a sudden everything made sense. I also realised sex wan't such a hush hush taboo.

I actually elected to study health and there fore sex ed from years 11-12 with my major assignments about cancers of the reproductive organs.

In saying that, i would never talk to my mum about sex, i think she's to conservative ;)

kevans79 said...

I don't know how it was brought up, but it was after dinner, and we were still at the dinner table. It was a very technical "how-to" discussion. I was really little, and I remember being embarrassed. I was raised Catholic, so my mom never discussed it because it embarrassed her.

My daughter is 4 and at the preschool parent meeting someone mentioned this lady:
http://birdsandbeesandkids.com/
Great resource for parents to take charge of the sex talk!

K said...

6 yrs old - biology textbook
8 yrs old - the joy of sex
12 yrs old - that orgasm book Kim Cattrall wrote

it's been a mildly amusing, self-taught fiasco

my parents were way too shy to talk about it with me and i was wayyy too curious to wait

Catherine said...

I haven't read many of the comments but I hazard a guess that no-one else was told the facts of life by their father while he was fixing the carburetor of his Harley Davidson. Mortifying! I am 38 and it's ingrained in my memory for all eternity.

the Hawks said...

Ah, great question! I'm the only apparent Catholic in these comments who got the full "sex is awesome and holy and here's exactly how it works" talk from my parents, which they said was entirely Catholic. Really shaped the way I viewed myself growing up---all positive!

Sadly, my mom also got a book and left it on the dining room table. When I got home from 2nd grade, I found it and being an avid reader, I immediately read it. I was horrified by these pictures of giraffes and chickens and then naked people in bed. I guess there's just no good way to explain what goes where to an age where everything is associated with peeing. But I came around (no pun intended).

rafael said...

Yes! My aunt sat me and my cousin down when we were ten or so and had us take turns reading this book aloud. I will never forget when we read the part about the actual sex where it says "then, the man gets on top of the woman", and my aunt jumped in and said "OR, the woman gets on top of the man". I had no idea of the significance of that distinction at the time, but it still makes me smile now. Thanks Aunt T :)

casey_julia said...

Born 1986. Asked about sex in 1989. Said book was made into a cartoon animation. I watched it over and over again. I think I may have to go and find it again... I remember the cats loving each other.

Colleen said...

Believe it or not, I never got "the talk". I learned about sex from movies (Legends of the Fall was one I remember quite fondly), or my mom's Ladies Home Journal magazines. Sex was basically something I learned either from hearing people at school, curious reading in magazines, or through TV/movies. And I very much prefer this method. I don't know how I will broach this subject with my future children.

Kathy said...

so, i came home in 3rd grade, had a release to see a movie entitled
"menstruation" My mom was freaked out and didn't want me to see even that! haha. So today, I am a urology nurse, discuss things like impotence, viagra, levitra...and other necessities for men! she would never have seen this coming, lol! My brother and I found a girlscout manual and we learned how to deliver babies! oh law!

Gramychou said...

My best friend gave me the Book in 1982 when I was pregnant with daughter #2 so I could read it to my oldest daughter in preparation for the birth of her sister. I told my husband to skip the intercourse description when he read it to her and only read the part about the baby growing inside the mommy's belly. I didn't think a three year old needed to know about sex yet! Of course daddy didn't listen to me. A few days later at the grocery store I drove my shopping cart in front of a cut out of the "milk looks good on you" lady wearing a tight white bathing suit and a white mustache! my daughter's eyes zoomed in to her lower part...I could just see the wheels turning..and then came the question:"the penis goes into the vagina right mom?" A couple of shoppers around me gasped and I made a quick exit out of that isle!

H said...

I wish my parents had given me a book like that! My dad is probably the most awkward person ever, he made my mom give me "the talk" and she barely even said anything! I was in fourth grade at the time and afterward I would lay in bed at night worried that someone would come in the middle of the night and get me pregnant! Apparently the only thing I got out of that talk was that being pregnant was about the worst thing that could possibly happen so naturally, that became my worst nightmare. If I have kids I'm going to sit them down and explain EVERYTHING to them, otherwise they might end up as confused/awkward/uncomfortable as I was!

Nicki said...

My parents never truly had "the talk" with me. By the time my mom tried to talk about it I was a freshman in high school and already knew enough about the topic. We were in the car driving home from some sporting event, where she saw a girl there about my age that was pregnant. She went one a teenage pregnancy spill for quite some time (I was toning out a majority of it) when she then turned to me and said, "You know you can talk to me about anything right, but I wish you will wait until you are in love and find the right man. Me and your fath-" I cut her off and told her I did not need the sex talk, especially if it involved her and dad. She then snapped back, "At least I didn't say something about your grandparents!" I died that day. I was never quite the same.

Jillian said...

My twin brother was my informant. We were gearing up to take a trip to McMillen Health Center (my elementary school literally bussed us to this place to learn about sex) so my parents were preparing to talk to us before this event and my brother very offhandedly mentioned "its all about finding the right key and lock." I immediately understood his metaphor and freaked out exclaiming "now way! that's not true...is it?" But my parents were trying hard not to laugh at the entire situation that had just unfolded in our kitchen.

Victoria said...

I actually told my mum knew about sex and how it was 'done'! I don't remember her ever telling me anything! Now need to approach the subject with my son (aged 9 this weekend) who has never asked about sex at all (far more interested in Lego and Star Wars), but who did once when he was 3 asked if he his balls had potatoes in them! Its gonna be fun!

Nora said...

When I was a child, I always knew that babies grow up in a womans stomach and come out after a while and that the woman must go to the hospital and so on. It was so natural to me that it just begins to grow in the stomach, it had to be just for the same reason why flowers are growing. I didn't mind! My mom always said, it happens when a woman really loves a man. Later, when I was 5 years old my cousin told me that there have to happen a little bit more than just love.

Katie said...

I was VERY young when I figured it all out about penises being introduced into vaginas...my parents had the old hippie version Joy of Sex book in their second drawer of their dresser, and my older sister and I would sneak into their room and peek through a few pages at a time. I was only 5 -- I can't imagine my little 5 year-old, (or 8 year-old!) seeing those pictures and figuring it all out that way. I would be mortified for them! At that same age, I also had a friend who took her parents magazines (one was Club -- I remember that one with great detail!) and showed them to us when we came over. I was VERY confused about the lesbian pictures. Again, I would be mortified if my children ever saw anything like I did at that young of an age, but I know the internet will be in their future, and they will be seeing a lot more than what I saw. I hope to be able to protect them as long as possible.

Funny thing is, I never knew about the actual mechanics of sex, what it actually looked like in real life (ok, the pumping part! lol) until I was MUCH older. Like 22. I found my younger brother's porno tape he accidentally left in the family VCR, and THEN the light bulb finally came on. Om...OH.

Katie said...

I also remember an old blue covered book about the birth process with graphic black and white photos that my mom kept in a shelf on our bookshelf that was eye level to me as a toddler/small child. She was very much an "earth mother" type, and was not squeamish about those facts being known to us. I remember the crowning picture clearly...yikes!!

Anonymous said...

I was all ready stunned by what my friends told me. My sister told my mother. Mother asks me if there's anything I want to know. No. Conversation over. I figured at nine years, I had time to deal with it when I got older.

Wendy Frances said...

I've always been very frank with my 10 year old daughter where babies come from. Very technical, cut and dry. The other day she said "Momma, aren't babies adorable, but it's gross how they are made." That cracked me up!

shoegirl said...

I think my mom bought a similar book for me, but she addressed it first when I came home from kindergarten one day and asked about it. She was always very open and honest with me, so I always felt I could ask her about anything and never felt terribly shocked because of her frankness. At the end of her explanation, she asked if I had any questions. I apparently wasn't terribly impressed with the whole thing because my question was "are we having corn with dinner?"- the priorities of a five-year-old! Having corn with dinner remains a joke in my family to this day.

poppybird said...

My mom vividly remembers the day she found out: She had walked home with her brother from school and had asked him where babies came from because kids had been talking about it at school. He told her that a boy pees in a coke bottle and then the girls drinks it. She took off running for home, burst through the door, and exclaimed to their mother "I AM NEVER HAVING A BABY! I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU DID THAT FOUR TIMES!!!"

My grandmother then had to explain that she did not drink pee out of a coke bottle four times :)

Alex said...

haha I, too, was 5, and was also given that SAME book! And maybe I got in trouble for reading it to my classmates...

Katie said...

my parents sat all five of us down with a book (maybe that one?) and explained how it worked. I was six, I think. my younger sister's reaction, "but my hole isn't big enough!" :)

Lena Eats Hearts said...

I sort of always knew. Is that weird? The only think I asked my mom (according to her) at age 5 was "whats a Fallopian tube?" She explained EVERYTHING haha

Anonymous said...

I don't know if anyone will read this, since it is so far down the list, but there is an important issue that is missing. I was told very early, around two or three, because my dad and aunts had all been molested by family members. I think most parents even these days only sugar coat sex, and only talk about the good stuff. But what about the bad? Many children who are molested feel that something is wrong, but they are convinced that it is ok by the molester saying things like, "I love you." Weren't they told that "people who love each other do this"? It's confusing to them. I am sooooo thankful that my parents kept re-explaining not only good sex, but also bad sex. Because as we have learned molestors can be anyone, not just the creepy guy down the street. They can be women, men, teens, grandparents, neighbors, brothers, sisters, even other older children; like the boy who was just eleven when he molested and raped his sister. Not fun things to think about, but kids need to know the difference.

Oblio and Arrow said...

What a great topic!!! I think its very important that children understand their own bodies, and then can take ownership of their private parts as "theirs". If they are comfortable with them, it is easier to talk about OTHER very important things like molestation and other issues that unfortunately our children might be confronted with! What a great topic to get out in the open! I also like this book, "I said No!" about what happens if you're confronted with molestation.

Lauren said...

Um, my mother took the approach of TEARING OUT EVERY PAGE EVEN VAGUELY RELATED TO SEX from the various my-changing-body pamphlets given to me at school.

I figured it out through friends and my own ceaseless covert research.

When I have children I will tell them the plain facts of it, from a young age. And make it less scary/shameful.

Eve/Ev/F said...

All these stories are hilarious! I actually can't remember asking my parents questions like that, must be so funny as parent!

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The Cyclist's Wife said...

I had "Where Did I Come From?" too! I was proud to be the only kid in school who knew the actual facts!

Nicci P said...

My dad sat me down along with my older sister to give us "the talk". I guess he didn't want to explain it twice. I remember how he told us, but what I remember more was that he interupted an episode of The Bionic Woman that I very much wanted to watch. I was a bit put out about that!

katie said...

joanna- this is SO funny! my mom read this same book to me, too! I vividly remember that cartoon couple, all hairy & naked, lying on top of each other in the bed. I was so embarrassed. my mom read it to me because she caught me & my friend watching "Look Who's Talking" (my friend's young, single-parent mother let us check it out from Blockbuster) and saw us laughing at the beginning part with the sperm swimming to the egg. too funny!

Zoe said...

I learnt it quite by accident from a dictionary. Prior to that, I'd thought sex just involved kissing and nakedness. The dictionary definition of 'sexual intercourse' told me it was more than that.

I now know the many ways sex can be sex, but the first horror at finding out that when I have sex with a man, his penis will be inside me will never be forgotten. Not a happy thought for 10 year old me.

Hanna said...

They never said anything!

Anna Pope said...

So my mom is a doctor - and ob-gyn too - and that made for interesting sex conversations.

I was the only 8 year old kid who knew about spermatogenesis and ovulating and etc. because I used to read her medical books (okay, more like stare at the photos) but I had no idea how the ovules and sperm got together. My mom then told me how a fetus is made and develops after two people really love each other.

When I was a teenager my mom was so scared after seeing a lot of 13yo with pregnancies and STDs that she went into crazy mode, aka "You have sex, you get an STD, you DIE!". Luckily, I did not pay her any attention and brushed up on my reading of Cosmo.

So yeah, sex lessons from a doctor - just as interesting and funny as one might think :))

Sundari said...

That book was fantastic. Having older brothers and lots of my Mum's birthing books around, I learned pretty quickly. It's amazing how much your brain lets you take in as you grow.

Michelle said...

Yes, that book is the answer for parents around the world, because my mom gave me the same book, portuguese version, here in Brazil when the questions started.
Funny thing, my little sister didn't have questions, while my mom was avid, waiting the questions to give THE BOOK to my sister, but my sister took some time...

fleur_delicious said...

ha! Oh, so hilarious! My parents had the book "Where do Babies Come From?" with VERY anatomically correct illustrations! I don't actually remember either of them reading it aloud to us - maybe by that time, we could both read and they just gave us the book? I cannot even IMAGINE.

(that part about the chocolate milk is the BEST! poor girl!)

Jill said...

I remember knowing about sex before my mom came to talk to me about it, and when she did, I was so freaked out that I covered my ears, shouted gibberish and ran away! haha.

Another funny thing is I went to a small, Christian private school, and our band teacher was a hunter who made "Christian inspiring videos" about nature, which they would show in chapels sometimes. Needless to say I saw enough animals having sex to know just how things work. :)

I think the American Girls book "YOU" helped mostly, and then I learned more in health classes later.
such a funny thing to remember!

Sil said...

I was 10 when I watched the "Where did I come from?" video.

Mikaela said...

This conversation is too good not to add to!

The only part of the "talk" I remember was feeling shocked and asking in disbelief "You and dad did this?" And then I felt the need to make sure all my friends at school knew the facts, too.
One aspect of my education that was severely lacking though, was female anatomy. I assumed that the clitoris was in the vagina somewhere, and it wasn't until honors biology in high school that I revealed my ignorance on the topic by asking a very naive question. All the boys in the class teased me endlessly, and my brother (3 years younger than me) heard about the event and said to me in disgust "I heard you asked where the clit is in biology." Good grief.

Anna said...

My mother in law had this book for my husband and his brother. "Mysteriously" the binding is worn so it opens directly to the page with the breasts on it.

Amanda said...

My dad actually forced my sister and I to watch "The Miracle of Life" videotape. Yep. I'm serious. And yep. It was as traumatic as it sounds.

Christine said...

My parents and I never hasdthe 'talk'. I think I learned it from school. After reading your blog post, (even though I already do understand sex) I'm curious and tempted to get myself a copy of the 'Where Did I Come From' book!

Megan Stroup said...

We had a pair of cats - a boy and a girl - and I really wanted them to have kittens, but my mom told me they couldn't because they were brother and sister. Then she explained why that would be so gross, and I promptly agreed. I do remember one of my silliest questions: "If they do it for twice as long, does that mean they'll have twins?" Ha!

Emily said...

OH MY GOD I'm 20 and just found this post and that's totally the book my mom used over 10 years ago! I would recognize those cartoons anywhere...they're burned into my memory haha

Jaymii said...

I rememeber when I was six or seven my mum was a midwife and had all these books about sex and so on and so forth. I remember picking a book of the shelf that had the title 'An Introduction to Sex' so I started reading. When I got to a part about sperm a cracked up laughing because the pictures of sperm looked like tadpoles! I went and showed my mum and asked if I was a tadpole and my mum looked at me weirdly. I went and got the book to show her and she had to lie down for the rest of the night. LOL!¡!¡!¡

Brad Porter said...

I was never told by my Mother about sex. I learned about it & related topics from an high school handbook, TV & the Internet.

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