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Thursday, November 03, 2011

Do you worry too much?

When I was twenty seven, I felt inexplicably sad and couldn't shrug off my "funk," so I went to a therapist for a few months. After I'd settle into one of the many armchairs in her cozy office, she would stare at me and just wait for me to start talking. It was kind of awkward...but talk I did! I told her how I worried about my job, my family, my friends, my dating life, random passersby on the street...I was plagued by my worries!

And she told me the BEST thing ever...

Picture that the Grand Canyon is your life--your past, present and future. Start envisioning the various parts of your life within the canyon: Over there is the day you were born, your third-grade choir performance, your job as a babysitter. Picture your present: There's your apartment, your friends, your mom, the book you're reading right now. Picture your future: There's your next vacation, the love of your life, your future children, the Top Chef finale. :)

Now, my therapist told me, picture the enormous Grand Canyon and drop your worry into it. Whatever you're worrying about--your cranky boss, your dating life, a salty comment from a friend--will be barely visible. "See how tiny it looks?" she says. Suddenly your problem will seem much, much smaller in comparison to the grand course of your huge, rich, long life.

Brilliant, right? Since then, I've done the Grand Canyon visualization trick (many times), and it really works.

Are you a worrier, too? What's on your mind right now? How are you feeling these days--good, bad, ok? When it comes to worrying, we can really nail it sometimes:) xoxo
P.S. Remember Anxiety Girl? Also, my elevator phobia.

(Grand Canyon photos by Adam Schallau and via Famous Tourisms. Illustration by Natalie Dee)

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H said...

This post almost brought me to tears. Earlier this year I was having anxiety attacks so bad that some days I couldn't even go to school. Starting university, deciding on a major, just actually being at university had really freaked me out and I felt like I needed to make all these big life decisions ASAP. The only thing that seemed to calm me down was re-reading all my favorite books, some that I hadn't read for years. It gave me so much perspective on life and what I want out of my life. This entire year has been like a rebirth for me. Thank you so much for your reassurance and for sharing your story. I read your blog every day and it is always inspirational to me.

O B S E S S I V I S I O N said...

Great post! 1/4 people will experience a mental ailment at some point in life. I'm a mental health advocate and artist. I try to explain to people that there is a sliding scale of mental illness. Ranging from VERY minor or nagging thoughts to crippling, chronic illness. No matter the severity, YOU are in in control of your mental health. I'm happy to hear that you came out a healthy person. I commend you for going to get help. So many will suffer in silence due to the intense stigma that surrounds mental illness. http://www.gaining-insight.com/ http://obsessivision.com/

shanna said...

This was very helpful; I turn 25 next week and have just been thinking a lot about a lot! :) I am in school to become a PA and while it's very demanding, I need to be thankful for being accepted and be thankful for all the lives I will influence in the future. It's just scary right now because failure scares me.

Thanks for sharing, this was great!

Anonymous said...

What she told you was essentially the crux of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (also known as ACT). It's received empirical support in the treatment of anxiety and depression, though hasn't been around as long as traditional CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Treatment). People should know.

Happy it helped you!

Carrie said...

Thank you so much for posting this, Joanna. I love your blog and read it every day. I have been going through a sad past couple of months due to being in a limbo land, I think, between being married and all of my friends having babies. Thanks for sharing again.

kir said...

Dear Joanna,

If you haven't seen the grand canyon in person, I hope you go and take a look.

The first time I saw it, I stood on the edge and started sobbing. I mean crying with every cell of my body.

It was truly one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen in my entire life.

The thing I loved most was how small myself and any worry I had became.

Standing at the edge I realized that everything is exactly how "it is" and I just let everything go.

Also, listening to The Beatles, "let it be" washes all worry away.

xo

Kate said...

Thank you for this. I am a worrier and this advice is fantastic.

Just another reason that I look forward to reading you blog everyday!

Blythe said...

I really like this post. Thank you so much for writing this!

Heather said...

THANK YOU for posting this. I do worry to much! Anxiety girl right here :D

I like the grand canyon idea!

Anonymous said...

Thank you! Terrific post. I've found that my level of worry is dependent on my hormone levels LOL. And here i thought pms was bad! Ha! Hoping the new bio HRT pellet therapy will help a lot, plus visualizing the grand canyon of course. I'll pass this on to my fellow worriers. Warm regards for your thoughtful entry! :)

lakoczera said...

Just saw your post, after soothing my 6 year old daughter of her fears at bedtime. I've always been a worrier, and it is very hard to help your baby with theirs when you understand all too well what they're thinking! Phillippians chapter 4, in the Bible, is what helps me. Not only by channeling my thoughts, but knowing the peace and power of God.

Ellen said...

I never thought about it that way before... but I LOVE IT! I'm a big worrier, and I'm def going to use this trick next time, thank you! :)

www.seizethestyle.blogspot.com

My name is Anna said...

Wow, this is exactly what I needed to read. I just started a new job today and had myself sick with anxiety trying to anticipate how it would be, wondering if I made the right decision to change companies as well as the underlying fear of failure and inadequacy. This visualization immediately helped me let go of some of the anxiety I am feeling even at this very moment. Thank you.

Rachel said...

This is perfect! The past few weeks have been a bit stressful and today I was just in a weird funk. Reading this post definitely perked me up, I'll make sure to remember this visualization :)

chelsea said...

Yes! But I am getting better. I love this.

Tea Beyond said...

Thought I was the only who worries quite bit sometimes;))

All negative thoughts would be gone when looking at those pictues!!

Thanks for sharing

teabeyond.blogspot.com

Alex said...

wow, Joanna, thanks for this. I am a ball of anxiety right now: I'm in law school, and it's my dream to do public interest work, but the economy is bad, non-profits have no money to hire new lawyers, etc etc. I applied for a fellowship that would allow me to do my dream job for 2 years--the kind of work I've waited my whole life to do. I find out in the next few days if I made it to the next round of finalists. I'm kind of a wreck. Time for deep cleansing breaths and visualizations of the Grand Canyon.

Kelsi said...

I am suuuuuuch a worrier. Big time. But I try to let my faith in God help me through the days when I worry about every.single.detail of my life (and everyone else's). There are so many inspiring Bible verses that basically say to "give it all to Him," so that's what I try to do. :) Kind of like the Grand Canyon visualization!

Anonymous said...

i feel like a failure. im a freshman in college and i cant seem to focus and get things together. i dont even party. i feel like life is not what people led me to believe it is.

Nina Leung said...

Love this! I will begin doing this immediately! Thank you!

Alix said...

Thanks for opening up about this, Joanna. I agree that going to therapy can make a world of difference.

Funny thing: when I was reading this post on Google Reader, it put "when I was twenty" and "seven" on separate lines, and I read it as "when I was seven". You can imagine why I was surprised that you were worrying about your dating life at that age!

Melinda said...

great photo of you! and yes i worry .. i am a mom afterall! ;)

trimai said...

Thank you for sharing this. It totally makes sense and puts things into perspective. I always worry that I'm not good enough or what I do isn't enough. It seems as if I'm having more bad moments this last year, so I need to change how I perceive things and/or make changes.

Thank you, again!

Mamekko said...

Thank you for this post, Joanna! This is such a great advice, and these beautiful pictures makes the words stronger. This is why I love your blog, beautiful things, little tips to make everyday life better. You are awesome!

laurenjeanallece said...

Oh my gosh! I am SUCH a worrier and what makes it worse? KNOWING you're a worrier. You know you're being silly but you just. can't. stop.

I'm going to try the Grand Canyon trick and see if I can't get all the worry in my life to seem a little smaller.

Thank you!

Unique Wedding Gifts said...

I have inspired by your story. Nice job !!!

kristina@beancakes ★ said...

thank you for this ~ such great advice!!
xx

Bri said...

I like this one...thanks for sharing.
These little reality checks are needed :)

Jocy said...

OMG, thank you. I feel like ever since I moved to Cambodia it's been worry, worry, worry. I understand the context I work in (human rights law/land issues) is intense and quite frankly, the realities for communities I work with here are depressing. I had a tendency to worry before I moved here to do this work, so now, well, you can add the normal worries women face, both those that are grounded and those that aren't as grounded in my reality now.

I will try this technique out.

Sophie Isobel said...

Wow this is just perfect! Thank you!
Sophie x

Julie said...

"Be here now" works for me... simple & sweet

Amy Seager said...

wow thank you for sharing that! I am a complete worrier and am attending anxiety classes at the moment to help! I like what your therapist said about the Grand Canyon and I'll try to remember that one!

It's so great to know we're all not alone in our worrying - it must be because we are all so creative!

Take care and check out my bonfire blog post if you can!

Thanks for sharing!
love
amy
x

Mirna said...

Thanks for the advise! Today I really needed to hear something like that! :)

V said...

Thanks for the post and sharing what the therapist said!! Beautiful way of putting things into perspective :)

silbliss said...

Thank you for sharing this great idea!I'll try to visualise my life like this. Especially, when those moments when I worry too much arrive. Because even if I try to live and enjoy living the present, sometimes it's inevitable to think too much. Thanks

La chica said...

MUCHAS GRACIAS JOANNA!!

Sketch of Senses said...

thks, I really need it today... having bad day today :(

Lola Cupcake said...

Haha so great, i'm really are going to try it :) xx Suus

www.suzanneslee.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

Great insight from your therapist. Can I be shallow and say you look amazing in that pic - I love your hair.
C

Garnish with the Bizarre said...

What if there is something to worry about though?!

Anonymous said...

I often worry that I worry too much! Go figure! :)

lturton said...

Dear Joanna, thank you so much for this post. I'm currently 27 and it has been one loooong year of worries as my husband and I moved to London so I could get a post-graduate degree. Definitely feeling that "27-year-old funk" and asking myself everyday "what am I doing with my life?!" Thanks again!

Lottie said...

I am a massive worrier and recently keep waking up in the middle of the night in a mild panic although I am not sure why...weird!

Maybe I will try your visualisation technique, although I am not sure it will work as I have been to worry about why there is nothing to worry about.

I like to think it was a one off but it probably means there is no hope for me!

Lorene said...

I'm a big worrier. And this was exactly what I needed to read right now! Thanks!!!

Rachel Walters said...

this post just made my day! perfect timing as I was up all night thinking and worrying. Love your blog joanna! btw I think I saw you once at mermaid inn - was too shy to say hi! :)

Sonja_W said...

Oh yes it's all about my attitude. Maybe i would have dealt better with the mental, physical and sexual abuse I suffered through my childhood when I had just viewed them as totally unimportant. Some people have actual problems which won't change unless they change the conditions they live in. This ideology of positive thinking can be very oppressive, just wanted to point that out. Sorry for my not that appreciative comment but I feel that the "yes you're life is actually crap, do what you can to change it or if you can't,try to mobilize people who are able to change something".

Clair said...

Thanks for this...I absolutely needed it.

Michelle Kendrick Hartney said...

Thank you for sharing this.

Jessica Frost said...

I love that Anxiety Girl picture! I totally feel like that sometimes! I usually worry about not living up to expectations that I have set for myself. So I can totally relate! Thanks for sharing, I will be using this technique in the future, I'm sure!

Dylan Drake said...

I am more of a quite worrier. I generally hold whatever I am worried about in. Lately, I am starting a business and I worry about everything from money, to designs, to is this product going to sell.

I live by "everything will work out like it's supposed to" and it some how always does.

www.dylandrake.blogpsot.com

Lynette said...
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lynette said...

Thanks for sharing this visualization! I might even share it with my yoga class. When do we become such worry warts? Tools like yours definitely help us to remember that worrying accomplishes nothing!

Anonymous said...

I used this while talking to my daughter this morning. She is very upset and ashamed that she didn't make the best basketball team in her school.

Sarah Katie said...

this is honestly just what i needed today. didn't look at my blogroll yesterday, but it would have been nice to have read yesterday too. i'm going to try this...sometimes my worries seem bigger than ever. but, maybe this will help.

Anonymous said...

Nice! There is a great book called "Meditations for Women Who Worry Too Much" or something like that full of inspiring quotes, one for every day of the year.

infinitiff said...

haha what a great post, joanna! i happen to be 27 myself right now, a tad unemployed and lots of worries and anxieties! and what a great post to deal with all of that! super thanx!

Chessa! said...

yes...I worry all the time about everything...these days I mostly worry about Lucia and how I don't want to fail her and about raising her to be a good person with strong values and that she will be ok and what school she will go to here in NY and why are people so nuts about pre-school in manhattan and about where we will live and and and...it never ends. But I usually take a deep breath and remind myself that last week, month, year I had worries about things that today seem like nothing bc all of things worked out or they didn't and at least now I know. I love this idea of the Grand Canyon and I will definitely be visualizing. have you ever been there? It's so magical.

On a side note, we went ten years ago for my mom's 50th birthday. I had just met Doug and I couldn't wait to show him my photos of the place. I felt like it was going to swallow me up...so spiritual and peaceful and magical you can hardly believe it exists. We still have a photo of it that I took when I went on our fridge and it was funny to see your post today bc when ever I'm feel particularly nuts I just walk over to the kitchen and stare that that photo and for some reason, I feel lighter...

Morgan & Imanol said...

Good advice! I am currently worried about going back to work after my (heavenly) maternity leave. I hate the thought of leaving my babe.

nichole (eat & be pretty) said...

recently I've become much more of a worrier than I ever was... probably because in a short amount of time I will be graduating college and I feel pressured to figure out my life within the next few months, and it's exhausting. My parent's tell me that everything will fall into place and to stop trying to figure everything out. I like the Grand Canyon analogy :)

MCC said...

Totally relate. I also started seeing a therapist who has helped me in ways I never, ever thought possible.

I've been able to really manage my anxiety with his help. I've realized that obsessive worrying and visualizing worst case scenarios is not only useless but so detrimental. For me, it's just so silly that I can be sincerely happy in my present life yet allow *fears* of my future life rob me of that present happiness.

Thanks for your wonderful blog, Joanna. It's a real gift.

Corrie O'Neil said...

I have literally never needed a blog post more. Just this week I've been thinking about going to a therapist. I've been worried about being sick and then that turned into worry about having anxiety. And now my anxiety comes from the fact that I can't stop thinking about it. It's a vicious cycle, but this post put a lot of things into perspective!

mina said...

Thanks for posting this. I'm 27 and a huge worrier. I needed this today.

Matilda said...

This post could not have come at a better time for me! Thank you x

Anonymous said...

Now, when I reading your post I feel so much better : )

Natasha said...

Great post, Joanna - thank you. I spent some time on the couch for a few months myself, and I carry a lot of what I learned about myself and how to re-frame my mind-set with me to this day. I hope your post inspires women who are struggling to get some help. I told myself for a long time that I couldn't afford it, but I managed to find a way to make it happen and it was one of the best investments in myself I ever made...come to think of it, it stopped me from messing up my marriage and made me a better mother as well. Like I said, a great investment.

Nancy said...

I can relate to this. I feel terrible the past months. It's because of many things and though I know I have to see everything into perspective, but it's really hard to see right now.

My father has passed away, exactly 3 months ago - I am struggling with the fact my brother is unemployed and my mother has no job too (but she's been a stay at home mom since I was little), because my father died 10 days before his pension, we don't get all the money which was meant to be for their pension.

Besides that it's extremely busy in the office so I really don't get a chance to grieve as much as I would want to.

I am quite looking forward to my holiday which is coming up so I can relax. At least: that's what I thought! My boyfriend and I would start backpacking but there are terrible floods in Bangkok and diseases are coming it's way... I can't cancel the tickets (I don't get a refund) and a re-book is also quite expensive.

So I keep on worrying... Hopefully things will get better soon.


Love,
Nancy

Jessica said...

I've been pushing myself (as usual) to apply for MFA programs in Creative Writing. This week, everything seems to have fallen apart with applications. But I wasn't ready. I have this idea of where I should be based on my age and experience, etc., but it doesn't work that way. I am trying to be ok with letting myself be. There's always next year. Or this isn't the thing for me.
I am a worrier, yes.

Thank you for your honesty. I just realized I wake up to you, making the name of your blog so apropos!

-Jessica

Anonymous said...

Thanks Jo. Us ladies eh? I have 2 main worries since having my baby - Post natal Anxiety? - I fear depression and I fear having a breakdown or going crazy and loosing everything - my lovely kids, husband etc. I'd love to shake these fears...!

Lauren said...

Thank you so much for this! What a great post.

The last year has been really tough for me - I went to grad school but didn't do as well as I thought I could/should because of perfectionism-related problems. I am WAY too hard on myself and my anxiety about doing well actually negatively affected my writing. I also worried that I went into grad school too soon, that I should have thought more about my choice to go at all. Now I'm worried that I have no idea what I want to do with my life, and that since I messed up in grad school I won't be able to get back on track or find a new track. I also am waiting to get the results of my degree and it is driving me crazy. Even though there is nothing I can do at this point, I can't stop thinking about it and the what-ifs.

The canyon visualization reminds me that I am only 23 and have a lot of time to figure things out.

Steph said...

Thank you so much for this post!! It was just what I needed today. :)

Rachel said...

This was the most perfect post for me today!

Dropped the rude comment I received from a work colleague right into the grand canyon ;-)

Emily said...

It's nice to hear that people like you, Joanna, who I consider extremely successful, have moments of doubt and worry too. It makes me feel calmer about myself. I saw recently a bit of advice, that: "if everyone in the world put their troubles in a pile, you'd be so happy to take yours back".

Thanks for sharing!

benrho98 said...

I worry so much, I worry about worrying! :) Sometimes before bed I repeat to myself, "Everything I need right now, I have." It's so simple, but it works.

two needles said...

27 years old and i feel with everything you wrote! i'm the biggest worrier and sometimes it takes over (i think i take after my mom) haha. i love this grand canyon method. i'm going to use it starting...NOW :)

since i recently wed, i don't have to worry about my "dating life" but guess what...i worry about if i'm a good wife to my husband or if i will be a good mom someday. i guess it never stops, does it? do you worry about that kind of stuff too?

thanks for the great post. it's really helpful to see what others worry about and what techniques that have to get over it.

cheers, mais
twoneedlesinahaystack.blogspot.com

two needles said...

Oh and i'm also terrified of elevators, since i was a little girl and now going on the subway...goodness haha.

xo, mais

Amanda said...

Wow, this is such a perfecty coincidental post! I turned twenty seven in July and have actually taken two trips to the Grand Canyon this year - a rafting trip in March and a road trip that I just returned from yesterday. I've been so drawn to the vast, open space of the deserts and canyons in the past year, I think because it really and truly puts things in perspective like no place else on earth. As always, thank you for your honesty and perfect timing!

melissab said...

i like the grand canyon visualization. thanks for sharing it.
i took a brief course in chinese medicine a few years back and learned that worry may be a sign of spleen deficiency (though the spleen in chinese med. functions differently than the spleen in western med.)... things like being very mental, always studying, etc. can imbalance the spleen and lead to worry also...very interesting to me. each organ is associated with certain emotions: ie. anger=liver issues, fear=kidney. of course, i'm simplifying, but i like this paradigm of the body/spirit/emotions being very intertwined and related. that's some old and effective medicine.

BCassFam said...

I have had a week full of worry and this is the best idea I have heard all week.

michelle said...

Wow. what fantastic, wise advice. Thank you thank you.

p.s. and thanks for being so candid about being in therapy!

Sailing with bare feet said...

Amazing pictures !!
Come and visit my blog !

erinkathleen said...

I really needed to read this today - thank you. I am an obsessive worrier, and always have been. I internalize things and it eats away at my happiness. Recently this has all been brought to a head; I'm getting married next year, and my changing relationship with my mother is making the whole process incredibly difficult, and I worry about it daily. I've even considered therapy, even though this is supposed to be a happy time! Reading this reminds me that the worries are small in the grand scheme of things. So thank you.

Anonymous said...

I love these pictures of the grand canyon. Your blog is my favorite - so uplifting.

Crystal said...

OMG, this post is perfect timing for me! I'm 25 (26 next month) and have been in a similar funk for the last couple months. I can't stop worrying about EVERYTHING. From my relationship with my boyfriend, to my job/career, family and friends...oy, I've felt like a nut lately, but now after reading this, i feel SO much better. glad to feel i'm not alone in feeling this way!

Anonymous said...

thanks for this, I struggle with worry and would like to find something to help me not worry so much about my fears. I'll be giving this a go!

leslie.conner said...

I just had a meltdown last night along with my husband, about life in general. We aren't financially stable, he's not in his ideal job, I'm trying to get through grad school and work part time, we just moved to a new state and don't really like it a lot... its just tough. But there are so many good things we brush off to focus on the bad things. UGH! I really needed to read this post... so thank you!

Jacqlyn said...

I absolutely love this post. I've recently fell into a "funk" myself. I talk to a therapist, and while that helps, I truly love hearing how other people cope when worry comes a' knockin'. Thanks for sharing!

~Jacqlyn

ashleyn said...

Wonderful post and thank you for sharing this wonderful piece of advice, I'm finding myself in the same boat you started out in (27, living in NYC and worrying about everything) It's always good to know you're not the only one in this boat!

Anonymous said...

Dear Joanna,
I've just watched Midnight in Paris and I thought about your post re "worrying session". Gertrude Stein and Gil Pender talk about the book he wrote resambled me what your therapist said. Thanks for sharing this, it was so clear and wise yet simple explanation of worries disposal...
Izabela from Poland

Hatton said...

This is awesome, especially since I have Monday anxiety already!!!

Gemma said...

What a lovely idea! Thanks...am determined to put an end to my worrying ways (but worrying about worrying just gets you into this vicious downward cycle!! haha)..so next time am freaking out cos of my mother's illness, my dads unemployment, my lack of clarity about what to do when I finish uni and my complete current lack of dating life...grand canyon out you come!! haha thanks!

LeahM said...

Joanna, this post struck me to my core. Thank you so so much, I really needed this advice.

Thank you for sharing your secrets and keeping it real.

Leah

(thisblogisagirl.blogspot.com)

bex said...

love love your blog jo - and this post was really outstanding.

i'm so glad to see that feeling overwhelmed from all the worrying and anxiety about getting things right and what the future holds is something that lots of people in their twenties experience. phew. i thought i was the only one. trying hard to cut that never-ending cycle in my head...maybe picturing the grand canyon is the key.

I'm Ali said...

Jo! Once again you hit the spot for me. This perspective on life has given me strength beyond belief. I've been sharing this post with everyone I know. Thank you, seriously Jo, thank you. Your advice gives me faith.

Looks and Books said...

Just wanted to say thanks for posting this lovely piece of advice. It seems my worries grow worse by the day, so it's sometimes nice to know that I'm not alone. I find that putting my worries into perspective is a great way to settle down, but I like the idea of visualizing it with something as epic as the Grand Canyon!

Mariel from How Lovely said...

I was pretty much born to worry and sometimes I forget what it's like NOT to have butterflies in my stomach. Thanks for the tip, definitely gonna give this a whirl

Funmilayo I. said...

the anxiety girl made me smile :) lol

Kel said...

Oh gosh, YES. I was a very worrisome child, I've always been really sensitive. It's something I'm very concious of and I am trying to be better but sometimes I still get a bit overwhelmed, even about things I can't control at ALL, like whether or not dairy cows have a happy existence. I feel so silly! thanks for sharing everyone!

Kelsey said...

Oh gosh, YES. I was a very worrisome child, I've always been really sensitive. It's something I'm very conscious of and I am trying to be better but sometimes I still get a bit overwhelmed, even about things I can't control at ALL, like whether or not dairy cows have a happy existence. I feel so silly! thanks for sharing everyone!

jen shannon said...

I read this last week and I've been thinking about it ever since. I worry constantly and always have, even as a child. My son was diagnosed with autism last year, which has taken my worrying to new heights. This little exercise has helped me at least a few times in the last few days. Thanks for being honest!

Gillian daSilva said...

Since reading this, I've used this visual at least three times in one week. I had no idea that I was that anxiety-ridden! It really does help, thank you Jo.

a displaced floridian said...

I just saw this post...
It's so perfect for where I am in life right now. I am so thankful to have a family who loves me and a fiance who is amazing. But because of distance from my family and terrible, terrible work troubles and worries, I am seriously in a "funk" I can't shake. I hope this tip can help me, too.

P.S. Thanks for Anxiety Girl! Too funny.

Maria said...

This comes at just the right time. I worry about whether moving into our new tiny flat is the right move. About whether I will have a job in 4 months. Which country we should be living in seeing as the one we're in now is self-destructing before our eyes. And amongst all of this, when should we start trying for a family. It seems that time is our biggest enemy. But it's ok, cos we've got the Grand Canyon!

Maria xx
www.cheekypinktulip.blogspot.com

Cindy said...

Hi Joanna, I love following your blog and found this post especially helpful. My schoolwork sometimes really stresses me out and the analogy of the Grand Canyon just puts things into perspective for me right away and makes me realize my grander goals and joys in life. Thanks so much!!

Lil Miss Red T-Shirt said...

Wow, great post. So true about keeping worries in perspective. It seems like a lot of people in my generation worry that they'll never have what they're looking for... such as my friend assuming she'll never be able to afford the ranch she wants, or another friend worrying she won't have a husband/kids. How do you find inner assurance that everything in your life will end up ok for those major life landmarks?

Stapha Charleme said...

What a great post Joanna! I'm a constant worrier so I most definitely will be giving the Grand Canyon visualization trick a try. Thanks for sharing!

Nisha said...

Will you believe me if I tell you I worry so much and I feel so stressed that I haven't slept peacefully since one year?
Dark circles are starting to look creepy and hair fall is showing up badly. I don't know if I'm exaggerating or if I'm really turning into a zombie. But man I really want to be happy and relaxed.

grand canyon tours said...

Great shots! Truly an astounding place.

Megan said...

Thanks for this post! I really needed to hear this. <3

Anonymous said...

Yes, Yes, Yes...worry about so many, many things...in some respects, I have great reason to worry...2nd time in 5 years battling cancer, so now I am a worrier given so much more to worry about...I live down the Jersey Shore, can make it to the ocean in about 10 minutes (off season, that is) but I take a large cup of coffee with me, watch the waves come and go, its relaxing...but as the wave crashes and the water slowly retreats, I toss my worry to the ocean...I do feel better once I leave. Our problems are always going to be with us, we are stuck facing them head on, but the "act" of tossing them away is refreshing...it gives your mind that needed break...truth will always be worry does nothing, its the action that does it but the mind needs that break sometimes to deal/face it head on!

Emily said...

This is so great!!! This is exactly why I recently started making these bangles that say "It Doesn't Matter"...because it truly doesn't!!! http://emryannyc.tumblr.com/

I try to look down and remind myself that "it doesn't matter" as much as possible (although of course some thing DO matter!)

emily

Eliza Jane said...

I'm definitely a worrier. In fact, I stayed up half the night last night with anxiety over job hunting.

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I'm Ali said...

Hi Jo. I always reference back to this post. I've shared it with tons of friends and my parents. Brings me to tears just reading it again. Thank you!

Unknown said...

I came by my worries honestly."I inherited them from my Mother!" The Queen Mum of Mortifiers,and Martyr!LOL

Dina Abdallah said...

That's a very interesting way of looking at things.. Although am not really a worrier but sometimes you need this trick! Thanks for sharing!

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That was wondeful, just what I needed.

Amanda said...

Wow! What a great post! I just happened across your blog tonight and boy, I am so happy I did.

Being 26, I've definitely done my fair share of worrying. Some even affectionately refer to me as a "worry wart."

I really enjoyed your therapist's solution. The Grand Canyon itself is a great visual and its enormity really does put things into perspective.

Thank you for sharing! :)

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Lauren said...

Be a warrior not a worrier :)

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Lol, so I googled "cup o' joe" because I'm editing my manuscript and wanted to make sure I spelled the expression correctly, and found your blog. Great to meet you fellow blogger and writer!

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Emily Woodford said...

Thanks for sharing! I am normally a very relaxed care-free girl. But.. I totally get my anxious moments. My boyfriend is a superstar and always notices. He'll ask if I'm feeling a little anxious and snuggle me and force me to chat and everything goes away. Other times I'll admit to him, "Ben, I'm anxious" and he knows it's real because I refer to him by name when I need something... (oops) But this is perfect for the (many) moments I can't rely on another person to monitor my emotions. Thanks Jo!

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Sally Dupaix said...

this is EXACTLY what I needed to read! Thanks for linking to it on your most recent post. My husband and I are in the middle of that really scary period of finishing grad school and finding a job and I don't know how anyone comes out of it without losing their mind! It helps to remember that this period of our lives is only temporary! Thanks Jo!

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