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Thursday, September 22, 2011

On relationships

My sweets, I LOVE doing Motherhood Mondays and talking openly about all things parenthood. Thank you so much for the fascinating discussions and eye-opening comments.

So, I had an idea! I'd like to start a new series: Relationship Thursdays. (Is there a catchier name?:) I keep thinking of relationship-y things that I'd love to discuss, but so far, there hasn't really been a place on the blog for that. So, now, we can talk in honest and fun ways about everything from first dates and break-ups to weddings and spouses, as well as other relationships, like those with friends, parents and siblings.

What do you think? I'm excited. Let me know if you have anything in particular that you'd want to talk about! xoxoxo
(Top photo by Corey Arnold; bottom photo of the sweet Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward)

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kitten roar said...

i love this idea!! i've been with my man for 2 years (almost!) and i think the internet needs a place for us to gush (or vent) about the men or women who we love :)

Anonymous said...

yes! i love this idea

Jovana M. said...

This should be interesting. I'm looking forward to this. :)

As for what I would like to discuss, would be off-beat conversation topics so that I can dig into my boyfriend a little more. :)

Morgane said...

Great idea. :)

Franziska said...

Love love love the idea :)

meesch said...

Looking forward to this! PS, love that photo with the trombone haha

-meesch
http://www.aperfectkindofday.com

Anonymous said...

this is great as i am childless and basically prefer not to read on monday, so thank you for thinking of us too.

Jaime Lee said...

That will be so fun... I think that it is so sad, some of my friends that have been married 20 or so years stop going on dates with their husbands. I make it a point to go on a date and make time for us, without our kids.

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Joss said...

I love motherhood Monday and i'm not even a mommy yet. i'm really looking forward to this.

LeeLee said...

I'm looking forward to this, quite fascinating subject.

Elaine said...

Sounds like a wonderful idea to me! People and relationships have always fascinated me! I would love a post about friendships between women. I just finished reading "The Happiness Project" and it talks so much about the importance of friendship (particularly between women) when it comes to the quality of one's life and also how difficult it is for women these days to take the time to cultivate and maintain these relationships... What do you think?

Nicole ATL GA said...

I love it1! Can you include relationships on where the woman approaches the man? I'm somewhat modern and aggressive and would love to hear succesful stories of couples that were so traditional starting off. Thanks in Advance! Nicole

KristiMcMurry said...

Great idea! Maybe I'll pick up some good advice along the way :)

Michelle (michabella) said...

OH YES!!!! I am excited for this!!! :)

JenLynn said...

Can't wait. I don't have rugrats or plan to so I have little to contribute to the Monday posts. Happy to have a relateable series.

Amy Jane said...

Getting over breakups? Yes please

Melissa Blake said...

This is a great idea, Joanna! Can't wait for it!

Kiana said...

I think this is a great idea! My husband and I are trying to get pregnant with our first child and we've been talking a lot about our relationship and how it will change once there's a little one added to the picture. We're so accustomed to it being just the two of us as we've been married for three years now and we were dating for five years before we got married so I've been obsessed with the idea of how our relationship has evolved. Sorry--I know I rambled. Upshot: great idea!

JamieJames said...

What a wonderful idea!

@Nicole ATL GA, great suggestion, I'd love to hear about this too.

I'm interested in the relationships people develop with their in-laws and partners friends. It can be quite a delicate thing to negotiate at times. On some level I expected to become best buddies with everyone in my partners family. too optimistic, I know!

Kelsey said...

Oh, yes, great idea! I'd love to hear your thoughts (and your readers) on keeping in touch with exes.

Anonymous said...

I love motherhood mondays (along with everything else on this blog, really). I think relationship thursdays would be fabulous, too!

Tee said...

I think that idea. How about 'Connections'?

Anonymous said...

Yessssss! I'd even go as far as touching the more 'taboo' subjects that we only talk about very discreetly with our closest girlfriends. (ie: faithfulness, couples who do not desire children... etc)

Erin LaDue said...

I think it is a great idea. I would love to hear your take on marriage as I am still navigating my way in mine and would love to have a place to compare notes. : )

Siri said...

I am such a nerd, I seriously just looked in the thesaurus for another word for "relationship" - one that preferably started with a 'TH' sound. There is not one. So I think you're good to go with 'Relationship Thursday' - and I think it's a great idea : )

Catie said...

LOVE this idea.

Sarah said...

This would be wonderful! I would particularly like to hear your thoughts on balancing a relationship/marriage with friendships. My best friend is not in a relationship and I am getting close to being engaged. How do we relate/nuture or grown our friendship when we are at such different points in our lives with hardly anything in common anymore? The blog is a joy to read now, can't wait for "relationship thursdays"!

Holly said...

I first came to know your blog from those posts a looong time ago that were on relationships! I would love to read more of those!

nicole said...

I have really enjoyed Motherhood Mondays.

Catchier names:
Kiss & Tell Thursdays
Girl Talk Thursdays

I can't wait to see what you come up with! xo.

Anonymous said...

Sounds wonderful! Looking forward to Thursdays.

Lizzy said...

Great idea..can't wait to read on.
I enjoy your Monday posts even if I don't have kiddos.....yet.

Mandee said...

I love this idea! I'd love for it to be a good mix between sweet stories and also how to deal with relationship issues that may arise, how to keep the spark going, how to make it better on a daily basis!

Sally! said...

Love it! You could go with "Twosome Thursdays," or if you wanted to move it up in the week you could try "Twosome Tuesdays." Just a thought! :)

Anonymous said...

I love this idea. Could you please cover crushes? I have so many that never EVER EVER work out or get anywhere close, and I get really sad about it!

Or: why do I have so many amazing female friends (smart, super educated, active, hilarious, gorgeous, on and on I SWEAR--women these days, ammirite?) but we are all so so so single? why is this. Disucss.
xxoo

The Nanny said...

yes yes yes!
love the idea! opening up about the amazingness and the not-so amazingness of relationships - dating, marriage, separations, common law - is fantastic!

Steph said...

Yes! I love this idea, it's hard to find any meaty conversations about marriage in the blog world. Something I'm struggling with is supporting my husband through his stresses. I tend to take on his burdens related to work or what have you. I know it's not what he wants and it's not healthy for me - how do you listen and encourage without wanting to "fix"?

ohnomyboots said...

Un coeur deux coeurs Thursdays

Carrie Baker said...

This is a great idea and I'm really excited to read the weekly posts! I'd love to talk about healthy conflict resolution in couples -- my boyfriend and I strive to have good communication when we disagree but sometimes it can be hard not to just shut down!

Leslie said...

this is a fantastic idea!

Sara Szatmary said...

I love the idea. I'm always fascinated by the evolution of relationships.

I'm currently in the longest romantic relationship of my life. the way it grows and changes blows my mind almost daily, it's hard to imagine what's on the horizon.

tashatexasranger said...

yay! yay! yay!

hellosarah said...

I love this idea. It would be great if you wrote about dating/marrying someone who was married before. I've found myself in that position and it's very different from any other relationship I've had. I'd be interested in hearing other women's experiences.

ally lewis said...

you should feature special couples that mean a lot to you as well! or the relationships of fellow bloggers! love this idea your blog is so well rounded XXX

Lara Kasabian said...

I have an idea for a topic, Joanna! Why don't we talk about how our relationship with single (or taken!) girl friends changes because of we are engaged...
I'm proposing this just because I've "Lost" many friends just because they got married etc... So they always act like they are too busy to spend time with friends.
I've got a boufriend from 2yrs and he makes me go Crazy.. But I think I did my best to' find the right balance between him and my life, friends ... Is it really too hard?!

I hope I gave you an idea!

xxx

Anonymous said...

I love this idea too! And your blog in general:) I especially loved your post about being scared you won't meet your soulmate- I think it struck a chord with a lot of us! I just went through a devastating breakup with the man I thought I'd marry. I know it was the right thing, but some days the future looks so bleak. Hearing your story about meeting Alex gave me so much hope! Anything else that helps us single girls keep the faith would be wonderful. Thank you Joanna!

d&d said...

love this idea. lets talk about the pressure to marry - i'm starting to feel it as i broach 30 - even though i am perfectly content!
xx

wildchild said...

i like it. let's do it :)

sara said...

YES! FANTASTIC! And I've got a question that I am currently grappling with...

How the heck do you plan 'your' wedding when your parents are using it as an opportunity to plan the wedding they think you should have???

SJS said...

I'm sure you'll cover the topic with as much style and grace as you do everything else! I've been interested lately about the weird little things that we do in relationships that we don't confess to our friends and family. There is just something about the romance-factor that brings out the spontaneous in all of us.

Channeling Contessa said...

Yes, please! So many topics I'd love to cover but I'd definitely love to hear from others in long term relationships and how they keeps things new and fresh (and passionate!), as well as feedback from new moms and how a baby influences the relationship. Oooo also, sharing a bed! I'd love to hear how others deal with that. Thanks, Joanna!

Bethany said...

Love the idea. I think a great subject is learning how to fight productively. Learning how to get your point across without belittling your partner and while being a respectful listener is something I've tried to work on a lot with my guy.

Liv said...

Hi Jo, great idea. I'd like to hear the thoughts on being the main breadwinner in the relationship and how people survive :). Looking forward to it all!

dreamday said...

yes! great idea. i loved your "smitten" column (i think that is what it was called???) anyway, it was "real" and fun to read.

megan said...

great idea! looking forward to it.

alloallo said...

yes, please! I like the idea about relating to your in-laws a lot as well...

relate-days?
relish days?
thursday talk day?

oh, all a bit rubbish... but sure it will be fab even if name is clunky

erin said...

dishes. i always want to talk about dishes.

Ilaria said...

wonderful! I can't wait!

Anonymous said...

I love this idea! I'm single, 24 and don't have a kid and still love reading Motherhood Monday posts but I would LOVe this. I would be interested in hearing about dating in your 20s and having faith!

Stephanie said...

I'm down with this as long as it doesn't make me feel bad about being single. :)

Aditha said...

That's such a good idea ! Love to talk about :
How to stay in love with a man that don't knwo where the clothes hamper is !
Is motherhood change the way you look at him
The different ways to plan your wedding (it reminds me some beautiful and sweety... arguments that make us laugh now !)
The first date
Are the relations with your closest friends change if you have a man and how is your lover with your friends
To be a spouse, a lover, a mummy

and... LOVE LOVE LOVE !

Aditha

PS : Love actually, another name idea ? :-)

kaela d. said...

yes please!... love this idea! motherhood mondays are nice to skim over, but I think for your single readers, a relationship day would be much appreciated :D

joe said...

hi Joanna, I love your blog. I have a general idea for this series: can you please write one post addressed to young men? (I have a hunch that more of them read A Cup of Jo than you might suspect.)

Anonymous said...

How about a post on relationships with mother-in-laws? There are good and bad ones out there, and I think we should discuss both! You're awesome!!

whatnomints said...

Sounds fun! How about a post discussing unconventional things people do to make a relationship work (ie. my boyfriend of nearly 6 years and I don't celebrate anniversaries or give gifts on holidays or special occasions, but it totally works for us and makes holidays/special occasions SO much more relaxed)

Sera said...

yes! i would love this.

Linda Marie said...

i love this, joanna! i really miss reading your posts on smitten, and i know the other readers do, too. i'm excited!

Joanna. said...

I like this idea :)

I'm 21 and I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years come January and we've discussed marriage recently as his sister is planning hers. I honestly don't feel that marriage would enhance or cement what I already feel for him so I'm quite reluctant to actually get married (although I definately see us being married in the future - like when we're 40).

But then, when I look at other people, like you, where in the same kind of time frame have got married and possibly bapped out a child I kind of feel like I must be missing something.

Like that love at first sight thing. I'd like to hear how couples grow together and how they 'know' it's right to stay together and get married etc.

Anything else on the subject would be an absolute bonus!

xx

xx

chelsea said...

would love it. always like to hear things about other women who are single though too. loved your smitten blog and when they had the singleish blog on glamour.

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the lil bee said...

I'm always interested in how a person's position amongst their siblings affects their personality (ex. oldest is often a leader; middle gets the bum 'problem child' label), and how that role translates to jobs/future relationships/how many (if any) children they might want one day, etc.

I'm also fascinated by people who grow up WITHOUT siblings at home, like me. Every only child I've ever met has very strong opinions on being an only. Emily is an only and loved it, and James from Bleubird has said that being an only explains her wanting tons of kids.

I don't know... maybe there's something there?

OK then. I've taken up enough space for one day. ;) xo

Jess G said...

hi joanna,

i just got engaged two weeks ago so weddings are on my mind.

i would love to hear what others did that made their wedding unique and memorable. if you could do a post on that, i think a lot of brides-to-be would find that helpful.

maybe even a sequential sequence: first date, dating, engagement, marriages

Meg - [Life of Meg] said...

Absolutely hands down LOVE this idea! There is so much to learn from each other and through our own experiences.

What an awesome idea to create a forum on something that effects our lives everyday! :)

Katie said...

Twosome Tuesdays!

Sarah said...

How about "It's Thursday, I'm in Love" (kinda like the song "It's Friday I'm in Love) Hehe

I'd love to read this.

- Sarah
http://agirlintransit.blogspot.com

Nome Alone said...

Yes please!

Allie said...

One topic that would be great to discuss is "the L word" (love). When is the right time to say it? How do you say it? What if the feeling isn't reciprocated?

Jo Luehmann said...

I am really excited!! My husband and I are creating a pre-marital counseling manual for our church and we will definitely be reading the posts and comments for some ideas or life examples.

Anne said...

I'd love to read what you have to say about all aspects of relationships! I recently have found myself struggling with fear and uncertainty of my relationship. When I first started dating my boyfriend, I was so afriad and unsure that he wasn't the right choice and now, a year later, I fear being too attached and not being able to recover if it doesn't work out! We females really know how to worry about everything, don't we? Please tell me it gets better with marriage!

Stella ~*~ said...

This sounds great!! I would love to hear something on long distance... "absence makes the heart grow fonder" type thing :) x

Christina said...

i like it! how about the challenges in compromising!!!

Kim said...

A big resounding YES! I love this idea :)

nikaela marie said...

what about "theatrical thursdays" cause all of theater is about realtionship and visa versa? hee! or "Thrusday Theories"... i could keep going....

have you heard of the ennegram? http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ennegram.asp

i like it lots as far as personality tests go...

xx

Anonymous said...

yes, but could they not just be illustrated by photos of happy couples? if you're going to talk about breakups and singlehood, which i really hope you do since over 1/2 of americans are unmarried, i would love to see representations of that too, and discussions of how it is to be a single mom, an unmarried woman in her 30s, and other manifestations of "relationships".

nickandnoragettingmarried said...

Great idea! I love Motherhood Mondays and am excited about this continuation. I think you can bring do a lot with relationship discussions--how to know when you're with "the one," hard decisions, favorite date activities, etc. Can't wait to see this develop!

Trina said...

If this is anything like what you used to do on Smitten, I will love it. Miss your voice on that blog! I used to comment regularly but lately it just hasn't been doing it for me, so I've pretty much fallen off of reading it. Glad to hear you'll be resuming relationships talk here. :)

Alix said...

this sounds great, I'll definitely be reading. I second the idea of discussing relationships with in-laws and your partner's siblings. I remember a high school boyfriend of mine who had the weirdest family! glad I didn't marry into that...although it wasn't his fault.

Kay said...

Excellent idea! Can you write a post about finding the 'one' and another about date ideas? I can't wait to see the first post!

Tamar said...

great idea, universal and touches anyone...all of us. looking forward to you putting things out in the open.

Elizabeth said...

When I first started to read Cup of Jo, I was so happy to hear that you and Alex have a 13 year age difference.

My boyfriend and I also have a 13 year age difference, except I am 21 and he is 34! At first, people thought it was really strange until they realized that we fit together so perfectly.

I'd love to hear if you have encountered any problems with the age difference. I imagine once you're in your 30's people don't think it's such a big deal, however, when you're 21 and your boyfriend is 34, it could be a little different! I'd love to hear your thoughts :)

x ELizabeth / In Between Seams

christinamm said...

I love it, Joanna! You never cease to impress me with your ideas to turn your blog into the ultimate destination for creative, smart, and thoughtful women!

Elizabeth Burke said...

I really like this idea. Although it would be interesting enough to focus solely on romantic relationships - I feel like opening it up to the many kinds of relationships we have in our lives would be even more amazing.

Romantic love, friendship, parent/ child relationships, finally seeing your parents as actual people,your relationship with yourself, how things change at different points in your life. This could also be a great series to have guest posts, one more diverse opinion to get us thinking. It would be great to hear from women of all ages on what they feel they have learned in life/ lessons they want to pass on about their own relationships.

Whatever you choose to write about, I am sure it will be great!

Best if luck with the new series!

Elizabeth

ahlin said...

yes please!

karigee said...

I'll step outside the circle and raise my hand for singles day. :)

Anonymous said...

That's a good idea. Most people will be able to relate in some way.

subtopics: cross-cultural relationships/marriage.

:)

Alexandra Graves said...

Maintaining a sex life with a little baby around!

Things you miss most about being single (so I don't feel so crazy for liking to sleep alone).

Fun, cheap, and new date ideas.

sexual orientation and relationships (how it can/could affect marriage and kids, and long term relationships- sort of ala Zooey Deschanel's character in "My Idiot Brother".

Mary ♥ said...

great idea! :)

Breen said...

I don't know if you watch How I Met Your Mother, I don't religiously but caught the premier this week, and Robin had a great quote regarding relationships that I have struggled with many times.
" If you have chemistry you only need one other thing. Timing, but timing is a b*tch."
It's unfortunate but true there have been some guys that I have had great chemistry with but the timing has just not been right, mine or his. Definitely something I would like to hear about.

B. in the Know said...

I love the idea of this topic - especially since it has been a part of my life that has been lacking...well for long enough. Honestly, I feel so independent sometimes I do not know how I will ever be ready for a relationship. I would love to hear advice for the driven-single ladies - I mean you are still driven and have figured out how to do the whole marriage and mom thing, so please do share!

Much love,
B

Meredith C said...

Yes, please! I feel a little left out on Mondays. I want you to tell us how you met Alex :)

Leah Tacha (Lele) said...

LOVE THIS IDEA!

What about:

Almost Weekend Amore'
True Love Torsdag (Thursday in Swedish)
Woo me to the Weekend
Touche' Thursdays
Pre Weekend Partners

haha!

www.lelelikey.blogspot.com

Amber Shmamber said...

Love this idea! You could call it "Togetherness Thursdays"!

Anonymous said...

Great idea! What about a post on friendship break-ups, as opposed to partner break-ups. These relationships can be just as important, and while these break-ups can be really painful, they don't get talked/blogged about too much!

Anonymous said...

Great idea - I'd love to read something on "amicable breakups". I'm in the midst of one right now and finding it tricky to negotiate how best to be friends again, the old "sex with an ex" dilemma, and how to keep myself from falling back into a comfortable relationship I didn't really see going anywhere. Thanks!

Danielle said...

I love this idea! To be honest, since I am engaged and happily childless, I have been feeling a little left out and feeling like I can't relate as much to your blog as I used to [not to suggest I'm not thrilled for you, though!].
What a great way to bring us back together, Joanna! ;) haha

Anna said...

I am pumped! I miss your smitten posts for glamour! Last year I seriously considered emailing your for relationship advice. i chickened out. ha!

excited!
Anna

Joanna Goddard said...

i LOVE LOVE LOVE these comments and ideas, thank you!!!!!!!!! yay, so glad that you're game. i was nervous to post this, i'm not sure why; maybe because it's so intimate to talk about relationships, but then again, they're the most fascinating conversations a lot of the time! xoxo yay, excited.

kyracross said...

yessss so happy you are doing this! i have missed your posts on smitten. excited you are doing this joanna :)

Mary said...

I like that you said you are excited & a little nervous to start this--- that's how all good relationships begin :)

jenney said...

This is such a fabulous idea with so much topic potential that would be of interest to a wide range of people! How about "Thursday's Heart-to-Heart"

Renee said...

Something that has been irking me is my relationship with a cousin who doesn't seem to have the time of day for me - despite being very close through our early twenties (we're now 26). She moved back to our hometown, where I live, I contacted her pretty immediately to set a date to get together (to leave room for her family to settle in), she cancelled, twice on the day we were supposed to get together, and I've since discovered (via facebook, which is an absurd source of TMI) that she has been hanging out with friends on multiple occasions since she's been in town. /rant. I'd love to read other comments on dealing with those types of tricky situations gracefully - my feelings are hurt, but I'm trying to have some detachment and patience since she's been in town for only one month... I definitely don't want to do push her in the direction of avoiding me.

Caitlin said...

Great idea! I'm excited for these to start :)

amynicole said...

Love love. Fabulous idea, as always!
Definitely a nice break from baby talk, which seems to be the topic of discussion in our home even though our little human doesn't serve until December!

emilymhjohnson said...

Hi Joanna, I adore your blog! I am always interested to hear about the everyday drama of a long term relationship. You know, the "happily ever after" portion of life - marriage maintenance and all that. Shared interests, fights, sex, deep conversations, kids, housework, relatives, personal (individual) development... what's the recipe? I'm sure it's different for everyone, but I am always curious about what keeps the heart of a relationship beating year after year. What does it mean to be "happily married"?

I am certain that whatever you write about, it will be lovely and interesting as always. Go you!

Anonymous said...

Great!! I just moved in with my BF (and moved out of state for him!) and would like to discuss that fine line between being a "nag" and/or "complainer" and voicing things that bother you. I am very easy going and tend to choose my battles wisely, but there are somethings that have to be voiced!

Leslie said...

Joanna, everything you do has such inner grace, that I'm sure this will be a worthwhile series. I know I'm very excited to read and get insights!

A few topics I'm interested in hearing more about are: how friendships change once you're in a serious relationship, especially when one of you is in a very different life stage than the other; managing in-laws, especially once you have children; and one topic that is often taboo, but I find fascinating, is how couples handle money and finance--and how to not let them ruin an otherwise great relationship!

Looking forward to reading what you come up with! xoxo

April in Autumn said...

Even though I'm not a mother, I like reading your motherhood Mondays, but I am in a relationship (as well as having all those other wonderful relationships in life) so I'd be really excited to read your weekly take.

Jennamk said...

What about "Together Thursdays" or "Thursdays Together."

I love this idea. I am not even a mom yet and I love your Motherhood Monday posts, and your blog in general. I can't wait to someday register for everything on that baby list.

You have such an ability to see the beauty in everything, find pretty and interesting things, and keep life simple at the same time.

Thanks for being inspiring.

Veronica said...

yesssss

Anonymous said...

I too am not yet a mama, but your Motherhood Monday posts are my favourite!

I love hearing about how couples got together & what keeps their spark alive.

I agree with Anon a few comments above me... how do you find that balance b/w nagging & gently reminding? I was jokingly called a nag last night & even though I knew it was mostly a joke, I still felt awful!

And related to that - I would love to hear how couples share the workload - of a house, finances, a family etc. My husband and I have talked a lot about this recently. He works a lot more than me/is much busier (I'm still in university & just have a part-time job), so it makes sense for me to do most of the house-work etc. But I can't handle it all being on my shoulders. But how can I ask him to step up and do more around the house when he is so crazy busy?

Also sex - the first time, what it means to couples, advice etc.

So excited for this :)

Amanda Greer said...

Fantastic idea! Looking forward to it!

Brigette Olmos-Arreola said...

great idea! i didn't start dating seriously until i was in my mid twenties, gave me so much time to think about who i was and really bring that to a relationship!

Carrie said...

I think it sounds great... And personally I would like to see what you and the community at large thinks about not just romantic relationships, but platonic, and child-hood ones, etc. Particularly I would like to discuss "breaking up" with a friend. The lovely Gwyneth talked about this "friendship divorce" over on GOOP about 2 years ago. She provided a few thought provoking articles on how to handle such a situation. I bet your readers would have a lot to say about it as well. How to set healthy boundaries with a friendship that has moved past it's prime -- or worse -- has become toxic.

Just a thought! :)

Kerri Lynne said...

this is great! :)

Annalise said...

What a great idea! I would love to hear what other people have experienced with relationships where one person wants a baby and the other one does not.

Originally we were both definitely against it, but my age (re: hormones!) has started to make me rethink my decision. Eeek! Could definitely use some help here!

Anonymous said...

Excellent idea. I think the main reason I'm an avid reader of your blog is because of your honesty.

Topics
- Dating for the single gal
- and everything else :)

Maggie said...

I love this idea!

Other names:
Thursdates
Thursday: The Truth About Troth
Thursday Troth Talk
Fidelity Fridays

mosey said...

wonderful idea!
And I love Keana's thoughts on topics.

Caroline T. said...

Yes yes yes. I'm so pumped for this! Joanna, you're the best. I cannot wait!

FanFamFun said...

Hi Joanna, relationship-y things are great to talk about. Check out our 'Together Time' post. http://fanfamfun.blogspot.com/2011/09/together-time.html

Anonymous said...

I would love to have a discussion about what happens when exes are interested in getting back together...I have a friend whose ex is trying to get her back and let's just say he was bad news the first time around. How can we help her see what we see?

Anonymous said...

Would love to hear about building and maintaining a long distance (international) relationship.

Also, what does love mean and how do you know when you are in love?

Heather said...

this is a GREAT idea!! i'd love any kind of talk about long distance relationships. i'm currently going on 1.5 years of LD with my man.

Mighty Burns said...

great idea! I love it.
im in a sketchy something at the moment.. and place to read up on some clever advise or stories would be nice :)

Gaia said...

ooh love this idea! I'd love to know how couples negotiate the holidays. We used to just split up and go to our own families for Christmas. We got married over the summer, and he doesn't want to split up this year. Super sweet, but I'm reluctant to give up that special time with my family.. we're thinking of alternating years as running from one to the other seems miserable. We don't have kids yet...What do other people do?

Aya said...

Oh Joanna! I can't wait! I am hearing so many good ideas from your readers. This is going to be great.

I just finished a fascinating book--"Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage" by Stephanie Coontz, about love and marriage through the ages. It puts things in a historical and sociological context and pretty much debunks anything we thought was traditional or "normal."

Also, I am not a mother yet, but enjoy Mondays all the same.
Can't wait! yay!

Anonymous said...

I think you should talk about first dates! As a non-American, it's a foreign concept to me and I'd love to have some insight! As in, when do you decide you're together, what are some do's and don'ts, etc...!

Katelyn said...

This is a fabulous idea! As one of your younger readers who isn't (and god forbid will be anytime soon) a mother, this is great news. Don't get me wrong, I still read every single Motherhood Monday post, I just can't say I relate. ;)

Can you do a post at some point about long distance relationships? My boyfriend and I just crossed the one year line with him living in NYC and me living in Milwaukee while I finish up school. I would love to hear from other readers and you on the subject!

Thanks for being the awesomest as always.

Anonymous said...

An interesting topic would be cross-cultural and cross-religious dating...and family dis/approval.

DENISE. said...

Yay! I'd love to talk about how to break up with a friend. I've had to do it, and don't think I did it well. AND, what to do when a friend breaks up with you! Oh, and soooo many men topics I don't know where to start ...

Bladh photography said...

Oh this is a great idea. Im excited to read and be a part of relationships. Cant wait.

Malia said...

Someone else mentioned it but I like “True Love Thursdays”. For some reason True Love Tuesday rolls off the tongue better for me, but hey, it’s your blog and your schedule and I appreciate any insight you have on relationships whatever the day may be.

Again not to seem like I don’t have any original thoughts of my own, but someone else mentioned talking about money which is a particular relationship problem I’m having. We are married but have separate bank accounts still, it definitely has pros and cons, but I cringe every time the “I paid for this” card gets played. I think it’s alright for now since we don’t have children but when we do it will really bug me if it becomes “Mommy paid for this or Daddy paid for that”. Ugh, not happening!

Anonymous said...

Loveee this idea! I'd love to hear stories of old married couples and couples who have endured and overcome challenges like addiction or adultery.

Angela {Phit Chicks} said...

How about "Adore Thursdays" - ?
I know, puns are old.

"Thursday Love" - ?

Geez. I've been doing alot of promo writing and I apparently feel the need to put a new bow on everything. :)

Regardless, this will be wonderful. Your love and family posts are best!

Sara said...

Great idea! My boyfriend of 3 years and I are moving in together soon (less than 2 weeks!) and while I'm excited, I'm a little nervous too. I hope we don't drive each other crazy!

Bethany Suckrow said...

So funny you bring this up today. I wrote my (first ever!) guest post for a friend's blog about my first two years of marriage. The topic of relationships is such a great way to build community online. Being able to share experiences and advise is so needed.

(I don't usually post my links in the comments, but here is the link to my guest post if you want to take a look: http://www.allyspotts.com/our-first-2-years)

Kat Elliott said...

I agree! This is a great idea! Especially knowing that you'll approach it in that captivating way that you always do.
A potential topic - working with your significant other. I currently work at the same company as mine but sometimes wonder how our relationship might be different if we worked apart. (For example, I love being able to lunch with him everyday especially since we're in the time-consuming VFX industry but we do tend to talk about work alot.) I'd love to hear how this situation works with others.
Thanks for the constant inspiration! I'll be looking forward to Thursday now!

Jess said...

Love this idea. I'd love to see something about navigating life changes together. Since my boyfriend of 4 years and I both went back to school to pursue careers in healthcare, it's become hard to find a balance between work and um, play. I'd love to know how med students' partners manage...

pgv said...

I think this is a great idea and I really look forward to it!

An idea for a topic:
I just recently went through a breakup after a fairly short but intense relationship. I love him a lot but knew it wasn't going to work out in the long run (i.e. marriage) because we just had too many differences, so I ended it. I'd be interested to hear people's perspectives on dating someone they know isn't ultimately "the one". At what age does that become more serious? I'm only 26, but still can't allow myself to stay with someone once I realize there's no long-term potential. In addition, I'd also be interested to hear people's perspectives on dealing with the aftermath of a breakup, particularly the intense shift from talking to and being with someone every day, to cutting off completely.

Thanks and looking forward to topics to come!

Shal said...

Great idea Joanna! What about 'Relationship Humpdays' (and hold it on Wednesdays?) LOL! maybe gives off the wrong mental picture haha... or Heart-to-Heart Thursdays?

Sam said...

I love this idea! I'm fresh out of a long term relationship, in my late twenties and I feel like everything about dating has changed, including me! I'm reevaluating my expectations and it's a really exciting time. I would love to see posts about starting a relationship and dating in particular.

I'm loving Motherhood Mondays even though I'm an aunt and not a mom. It gives me insight into what my sister and bro-in-law are dealing with and I've even passed on some posts to them!

jodi said...

Great idea - especially like the thought of it touching on all different relationships in our lives - lovers, friends, parents, siblings... all those people who are with us through thick and thin.

How about that for a name? Thick & Thin Thursdays!

Anonymous said...

I love this idea and I'm so looking forward to Thursdays now!

I'm in an amazing relationship with a man who I literally moved across the country for a few months ago. We spent the first year of our relationship apart; he was on the west coast and I was on the east coast. So I transferred to a different grad school and we've never been happier.

Now he's applying to school and wants to move south. I still have a couple years left here, meaning we will more than likely be apart again. I'm really interested in hearing about other couples who make it work despite whatever they have going on in their own lives. Advice, stories, anything.

Anonymous said...

I would like to talk about attraction specifically being attracted to someone other than your husband/partner. It is very normal to be attracted to others and I don't think there is enough of a discussion about how this impacts all of us.

Chessa! said...

this is a great idea! next month is my 7-year anniversary and there's no itch whatsoever. it's crazy how so many people we meet ask us how we keep the love alive and our marriage so fun and fresh....and I don't know if it's any one thing, conscious or not. but it would be great to have a dialogue about this and the infinite other relationship issues. we laugh bc we've been together so long (ten years since our first date!) that no one was really even texting when we met! nevermind facebook, twitter, and apps for everything...no text messages! wowsa. looking forward to it!

jessd6 said...

love it! (i, too, loved your "smitten" columns for glamour magazine, but heck, i'll read whatever you write!)

i would love it if the topics weren't only about relationships and those in them, but ventured out to dating, etc, once in awhile. i'm 25, almost 26, single but trying to date, and it's hard sometimes in a big city like LA. i'd love to be able to read and share and gossip :)

Rosarina said...

I'm excited! I love your motherhood monday posts even though I'm nowhere near becoming a mom. ps. Cute photo of Paul and Joanne.

Anonymous said...

I'd like to explore the reasons why good people (men mostly) turn into evil jerks during and after the end of a marriage, (divorce or dissolution) when their ex treats them with dignity, respect, and very good terms.

Anonymous said...

Hi,

I love the idea (and the blog in general ).

I wonder about the issue of children and what happens when one of you wants them (me) and one is not sure (him)...how long is too long to wait around for him to decide (to change his mind?). Both of us are in our late (him) to early-mid (me) thirties so it's not like time is on our side :-)

Cheers,
Nicole

Suze said...

I absolutely love this idea.
And your motherhood mondays are awesome and all I have is a husband and a dog. I take every piece of advice. Thank you!
love,
Suze @ susanborland.blogspot.com

Lexi said...

GREAT idea!

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Alexa @ A Life in Drive said...

Love it!!!! Can't wait to follow this. I love Motherhood Mondays and I'm not even a mom yet. I'm bound to love Relationship Thursdays!

ellabella said...

YES YES YES YES YES YES YES!

i've been dating the same (wonderful amazing) boy for two years, but as our relationship has progressed we have gone from long distance, to living together, to kind of sort of planning our futures with the other person in mind? and while i have many lovely friends, none of their relationships are in quite this spot, and i would love a place to see women from all over weigh in on different topics!

Melissa said...

I write about relationships and work in the wedding industry... so I am pretty much obsessed with all things love. I would be very excited to see the topic covered on one of my very favorite blogs. I love learning about other couple's secrets to success and it's also great to hear honest perspectives on some of the tough sides of relationships: like the things you squabble about or that one annoying thing that drives you mad! Looking forward to Thursdays!

Claire said...

Yes, please! I'd like to talk about how to take a friendship to the next level and when to do so (if at all).

iman said...

Thursdate? sorta cheesey i know :o)

Hannah_McKee said...

YES! this is a great idea!

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meredith lockhart said...

Fab idea!! Motherhood Monday's are my favorite days!

Name ideas:

Sociable Thursday
Two or More
You and Me
Me Plus You
Thursdays Together

Trina said...

Joanna, I'd love to see a post on sibling relationships and how they change (if at all) as you grow into adulthood. If there were any roles (the Quiet One; the Adventurous One) or an older/bossy vs. younger/adoring dynamic, for example, how does that change as each sibling comes into her or his own as an adult? Were there any growing pains when sibling didn't do what was "expected" of them?

Han said...

I love the idea! Not everyone has been a mother but you definitely have a wide group of ladies who have been in relationships. Thanks for including us not-yet-moms!

MARCIA said...

This is a great idea! I would love to know the secret behind finding "the one". Honestly, how do you know?

Smile, Emily said...

great idea! I feel like whenever you do have those posts, they're are always wise and insightful. As a 22 yr old I find your advice super helpful. So yes please! Continue on with your fantastic blog.

love,
Emily

Anonymous said...

girl talk! huzzah huzzah! (happy:)

mimi said...

Yes! A brilliant idea- I love the Monday posts because they're so enlightening even though I don't have kids! So this would be gold.

One thing I'd like to see views on- involvement and opinions from your family and friends on choosing a partner? Something I'm trying to get my head around at the moment and have no clue what to feel or think. It all brings to mind a reality show here in the uk a while ago where a family panel vetted and set up their hitherto-unlucky-in-love daughters with the guy they thought was right, to...interesting results.

Anyway looking forward!

chole said...

That would be lovely wouldn't it? Like having a cup of coffee with your bestie and chatting up the beau.

I just watched Crazy Stupid Love and thought it made some really good points about relationships, so this train of thought is right where I'm at today

SConnerFoto said...

Very nice idea! I just started following your blog and I'm sure it's going to be as cool as everything I've ready so far. You have me hooked already, now you're just reeling me in!

Ana Magdalena said...

such a great idea. I am looking forward to this series.

Anonymous said...

I think this is an amazing idea. I'm always trying to think of ways to understand what it means to be married... can we ever know? And then, the endless idea of romance.... I LOVE it!! And I love your blog, after reading your 'birth story' a few months back, I decided that I too could get pregnant!! And here I am! 6 weeks in! Anyway, what an amazing community of people there are surrounding your blog, i feel like you're my friend! (my only motherhood friend so far!) So, thank you! and YES to relationship thursdays! XO

Thea said...

I would love this, as I do for most of the topics on your blog! I would love to hear how others have dealt with a divorce...not the happiest subject, I know, but I am recently divorced (I filed it), but now I am pining for my ex...it's so sad and depressing, because he has already moved on. I'm at a loss and wondering if I made the right decision? I need help!haha

akolb14 said...

LOVE :]

Kirby said...

It would be great to see some chatting about healthy untraditional relationships. My husband and I are married plan to stay married have a family but aren't romantically involved. People always look at us and think "poor people" but in all honesty we're as happy as can be this way, our relationship just works. I would love to see if there's others out there with untraditional relationships that are not caused by "situations" like divorce but by choice. That are happy and have lives full of love.

Marisa M said...

Love it!!

spark said...

Not sure if this title works but I always used to joke with my co-workers that Thursday was "Tell it like it is Thursday"....we loved it. Lots of fun on that day:)

Leo said...

I sometimes go through tough times in my relationship, and wonder if other couples have them too. Some people seem so effortlessly happy, and we on the other hand have to continually work and put effort into being happy together. It feels like a very private topic, and it is not easy to bring it up with friends.

Lindsey Fyfe said...

good idea. I love your writing but I do tend to skim the really baby/motherhood focused posts because they are just not where I am at in life. It'd be great to see more about relationships in general.

I love dissecting all things relationship. and also, singledom.

Anonymous said...

Could you do a post on extremely shy guys?? I would love to hear your opinion of how to tell if their interested, and what kind of life partner they would be? Thanks

Mai said...

Yes! Thank you so much for this idea. I recently moved to a new city, and I'm having a hard time meeting people, especially of the male persuasion. I would love insight into how to break into the singles scene in a new city or online dating.

Anonymous said...

I'm dying for a good "Where to Meet Men If You Don't Like Wearing Push-Up Bras In Bars" guide.

My mother told me I need to find a guy who does fly fishing. Not helpful.

Should I sign up for cooking classes? Co-ed book clubs? I need help!

Anonymous said...

Tête-à-tête Thursdays?

stellasstyle said...

ooh sounds like a great idea! I've been with my american man for 4 years now, and last night we came to Sweden (where i'm from) for the 4th time!

stargirl supernova said...

looking forward to read it! how about 'room for romance'? so you can post it any day. after all, relationship and romance do not only happen on Thursdays. well, just a thought:)

erica b, said...

i like!!

miscellany said...

I didn't read all 191 comments (!) but my first thought was Thursdays Together and then you're not limiting the content to just relationships within a couple- it can include friendships and communities too.

Anne said...

Maybe I'm saying something that's already been said, but there are too many comments for me to read them all right now. I just wanted to say it's a great idea (now I know this has been said already)! I kinda like having some 'regular days'(I'm sorry, I can't think of the proper word right now): I've always loved the weekly round ups and I love motherhood Monday, so bring it on, relationship Thursday! :)

sophie isabelle said...

Love this idea! There are a few things that would interest me personally, I don't know about everyone else but...

I'm a year into my first serious relationship and it's amazing - but i'm really scared of things getting boring; not from him of course, but i'm worried that for some reason i'll turn into a boring 80 year old in the next five years, haha. Sounds crazy, right?

and also, dealing your other halves exes.... tricky, no?

Meredith said...

I love your incite on everything else so I'd love to hear about relationships! yeees

kate said...

Great idea! I love your Motherhood Monday posts, although I'm years away from that point in my life, I file them away for that time.

Carrying on with the alliteration, you could do "totally together Thursday's" "together Thursday's" cheezy. ;)

Jacqueline Avia said...

I love this idea! I'm a young woman in my early 20's, currently experiencing my first significant relationship. It would be wonderful to read the insights of women of all ages and all experiences!

Anonymous said...

I love this idea, especially because it gives time to plan for the weekend! How about..

Think Romance Thursday...?

FashioNatalie said...

I am excited for this!!! Just a few days ago my boyfriend (for the first time in our over a year) said that I kept him on "short leash" and he couldn't stand it! Wow, did that hurt my feelings! I feel like that's on the list of "really rude things to say to your partner" don't you?! Looking forward to the new topic!

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