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Thursday, August 25, 2011

Would you date older?

Have you ever dated an older man or woman? I had never dated an older man before, but Alex is a whopping 13 years older than I am. At first I thought his age might be a deal breaker, but it's worked out (old movies, cooking skills, doesn't mind my under-eye wrinkles:).

Have you ever heard this funny trick? "Divide the older person's age in half, then add seven, and that's the biggest age difference you can have. So if you're 30, the youngest you can date is 22." It's actually a pretty good rule of thumb!

So, I'm curious: Have you ever dated an older man or woman? Much older? Would you rather date older or younger? How old would you go? Is your current partner older than you? I'd love to hear your thoughts...
(P.S. Btw, George Clooney is 50, so he's fair game for any of you older than 32 1/2!)

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Jeneric Generation said...

I dated a guy that is 8 years older than I am. We had so much fun on our first date, and as we kept getting to know each other, I realized how beneficial it is to be with someone older and wiser! Then we got engaged, and I couldn't be happier. :)

Anna said...

"Age ain't nothing but a number." ; ) (unless there is a ginormous difference, like 50 years.)

Kelsey said...

When I met my hsband he was 29 and I was 24 and he later confided that at first he thought I was too young! That makes me laugh now because we're so similar, age doesn't even matter (although I like to tease him about being *so old*). So for me a 6 year age difference has been perfect.

Claudia said...

I think that "dating trick" is really doctrinaire, and rooted in control of women by men. Yikes. I say there are no tricks to relationships besides being healthy, respected, and nurtured as equals.

Melissa Blake said...

My parents were 4 years apart, and I think that's the perfect age difference.

Jamie said...

My hubby is 8 years older than I am. He is the first guy I had ever dated that was that much older, however we are the perfect fit. I think it really just depends on the couple. If it works for you, who cares the age difference.

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Jamie
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Nicole said...

I dated a younger guy before and it really turned into an awful mess, so I now I stick exclusively to older dudes. My current bf (of 4 years) is five years older and I find the age difference to be quite perfect. Or maybe it's him that's perfect, but either way...

Jamie @ charmingly ordinary said...

My hubs is five years older than I am. We met when I was 19, so 24 seemed SO OLD to me. Ha! I've always felt guys closer to my own age were very immature.

And I think 13 is a nice number! My sister's fiance is actually 13 years older. :)

Mari Huertas said...

I dated a fellow who was 19 years older than me – which put him just a few years younger than my parents! It was a little awkward the first time I brought him home and my mom called him "son" out of force of habit for the guys I'd date.

We were together for three years ... then I left and later dated the man who's now my husband. He's three years younger than I am and always has been much steadier in some aspects, despite the fact that he was just 24 when we began dating. We will celebrate a year of marriage on September 5th. :)

B. in the Know said...

I have been more and more attracted to older men recently, but then there are things that stop me like - I still want to have children and he is past that stage in his life...so that makes me hold off on moving forward. I think I want to be with someone who is a little bit older than me at least - normally I tend to respect them more because normally (not always) they are more mature and have a world view I respect and like the idea of partnering with.
Much love,
B

Annika said...

My husband is 9 years older than I, my brothers girlfriend 10 years younger than him, and a friend of mine is married to a guy 2 years her junior. Also, Demi Moore & Vivienne Westwood? I have always been drawn to older guys, my "oldest" boyfriend was also 13 years older than I. I say: date whoever you fall in love with, age really does not matter!

Sara said...

My husband and I are the same age, but I have a girlfriend whose husband is 22 years older. They are happily married with a 1 year old son.

plch said...

I am one year older than my husband, my mom is one year older than my dad, my granny was one year older than my grandad and even my mother il law was one year older than her late husband.. so it was destiny ;)
>>I have never dated guys much older than me but not because I was against it, it just never happend although I have to admit that I usually feel attracted to youger guys.

>>>unrelated: thank you Joanna for your wonderful blog, my baby boy was born just one month after your Toby and your blog has been much useful and entertaining for us both before and after his birth.

Vanessa said...

I've actually always gone for the younger guys, but I'm still in my twenties so I keep it legal haha. I am not opposed to dating older....I probably wouldn't go much older, though. Maybe 33?? I just don't want to date anyone ready for kids and marriage, because I'm certainly not.

Jody said...

My husband and I are 6 months apart. We met in college, married at 24, and are now 34. We've seen each other through a lot, and it's been great. However I do see the benefits to being with an older guy who doesn't have to worry about building his career ( so much) and finding out who he is as a person. I always jokingly say that if I die and he remarries, he better tell her that I broke him in. :)

nicole said...

My husband is 8 years older than me. It's funny to think he was already dating while I was still watching Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, but...

I love his maturity. There were never any "games" between us while dating. He was always upfront and honest with me. And he's incredibly loyal, which is perhaps what I love most about him. His loyalty and his humor and his record collection...

I believe it was Aaliyah who sang, "Age Ain't Nothin' But A Number." xo.

Giulia Doyle said...

I'm 37, so George, please call me ;)...My hubby is 6 months older than me. I've dated guys up to 5 years older and 3 years younger.

Rachael said...

You just blew my mind...I never suspected that Alex was significantly older than you! He certainly does not look like he's in his mid-forties (it must be the dimples).

Phoebe and Cara, the Quarter-Life Cooks said...

My boyfriend is 4 years older than I am. I find he just doesn't engage in fights with me, no matter how cranky is. It's the best! The only other part of the age difference I notice has to do with pop music. Whatever I was listening to in eighth grade, he heard senior year...which seems weird now.

Elissa said...

My last boyfriend was 8 years older than me, I think the age difference was the best part for me.

Annalise said...

My husband is almost 6 years older than I am and I love that he's older. His maturity helped me to grow up a little when we first started dating, but both of us still feel young when we're together and we have a great time.

When I was in my mid-to-late 20's I discovered "old sexy" which is the grey-haired (or bald!) sexy older man. My hubby is bald and I wouldn't have him any other way.

Sarah said...

My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years is 14 years older. Before I met him I would never have considered dating someone that much older. In fact I counseled other women that a big age difference was a red flag. I thought that a man who wanted to date younger was looking for someone without baggage, and that a woman was looking for a father figure. Now I think that after you are both adults that is, no longer "figuring out who you want to be," other characteristics are much more important. Still, I wish we shared a few more cultural touchstones.

kaelee said...

My husband is honestly 24 years my elder....but we are soul mates, and it is obviously meant to be. one benefit for us is that He is financially stable right now, making it easy for me to stay home and be a mom, and finish up my degree. When he retires. the kids will be out of the baby stage, and I can start my career, and he can be a stay at home dad. One parent will always be home with the kids, and one will always be making a living. I have thoguht about how hard our age difference will be when I am in my sixties, and he in his eighties, and nearing the end of his life.

Erin said...

My beau is 33 to my 24, so I barely make the cut with that rule of thumb, which, funnily enough, we both swear by!

Also, my parents were 12 years apart, and my brother and his wife are 10. True love works at virtually any age.

abby said...

i always thought i would be with someone about my age, but my fiance is actually 5 years YOUNGER than me. i never thought i'd date a younger guy, but i've since realized that once you're in your 20's, little differences like that matter so little. that is, until someone calls me a cougar. then it just gets annoying.

Emily said...

I was 17 and my husband was 26 when we started dating. It was a bit of scandal back then since I was still in high school, but both of our parents approved of the relationship which was our biggest concern. I am so glad I didn't let the 9 year age difference scare me away. These past 8 years although hard at times have been so wonderful. Who knew you could meet the love of your life pumping gas at the gas station?

I.C said...

Hey from Ireland! My partner of 15 years is 62 and I am 38 (which by your theory means I just make it!). I was 23 and he was 47 when we got together. I have always been older than my age and he is super young at heart, you can't chose who you love and all the raised eyebrows and concerned friends/relatives have relaxed now! 3 magnificent kids later and 15 fabulous years together, Honey it really is just a number!

Dancing Branflake said...

The oldest was 6 years, but that's when I was 16. EEk! So to me it might of well have been ten.

ps... I have always wondered Alex's age since you mentioned he was older when you were engaged.

Anonymous said...

i have to say that George Clooney is v. attractive! I have always thought he was one of the most handsome actors out there.

French Lover said...

My husband is 10 years older than me and we don't really see a difference. I am very much aware that he has lived ten years longer than me, has much more experience than I do (for instance, he has 2 kids), but I feel comfortable with that.

Brigette Olmos-Arreola said...

I love how many people have commented with a 7-9 year age difference! My boyfriend is 7 years older than I am and there are still the typical boy moments where I think "where you grow up already." And my brother and his wife are 8 years apart. I agree it all depends on the couple.

P.S. I have a total Baldwin crush!

Jessica said...

My boyfriend is 6 years old than me. I make jokes about it, because at 26, he is in his 30's and I am not yet ;)
I like to tease him about me taking his "player card" away, and I tell him that, hey, you are old enough that you had your time for fun before me...

In all seriousness though, I do really think the age difference is nice. He already knew what he wanted and what he was looking for BEFORE he met me. It's nice to be pursued, and to know that I am with someone who wants to build the same kind of like I am seeking.
I really look forward to our [ age-different ]
adventures to come!

thinkpriddy said...

I am 23 and George Clooney has always been at the top of my list. I don't care how old he is :) As for reality... I've dated 5 years older and 2 years younger. Acording to your rule I can go as low as 18.5 yrs. umm no thank you.

Drew said...

My husband and I are 4 years apart and it works well for us because we don't notice it unless he starts quoting bad 80's movies!

One of my friends has been dating a guy 11 years older than her and it's so interesting to see how well they fit together. I guess love works with any ages!

the lil bee said...

I would date an older guy, sure. Paulie's a few months younger. In fact, all of the men in my family are slightly younger than the women! Funny, right?

Wendy said...

I've never dated anyone considerably older however (if I was single) I wouldn't be opposed to it. I'm 42 so I don't think I'd want to go past 10 years my senior (senior being the key word). George Clooney - yes, please. :)

rosepetalsandlace said...

I dont think that age matters the slightest. So long as you're together for the right reasons it means very little.

Angry Asian said...

my darling love is 4 years older than me...

i have dated someone 7 years older, i was 20. i've dated younger and it was fine. i was an equal opportunity dater, as long as they were legal, i was down...

zo::manik said...

I just barely have Mari beat--I'm married to a man two months shy of being 21 years older than myself(we started dating when I was 26)! The age thing really hasn't been an issue for us. The only time I notice it is when I get anxious about that the fact that my career has yet to start (not much of a career as a Poetry grad student/substitute teacher/weekend boutique retailer) and he's considering wrapping up his to start something new--he's a tenured high school English teacher with two part-time jobs because of all these education cutback! :*{ .

I always knew that I wasn't meant for a cookie-cutter life ;-D

vanessa said...

i must agree with an earlier comment - my jaw just dropped when i read that alex is 13 yrs older than you. you'd really never know it! wow.

i am 32 and actually prefer to date older men, however when my friend recently tried to set me up with a 48 year old fella, i had to politely decline. although i do believe that age is just a number, the more pragmatic side of me thinks about having children, and the fact that he could be in his early 70s when they head off to college. i also think about being a widow at a relatively young age (though who's to say i wouldn't go first!) morbid, yes, but that's the honest truth.

Tari Toppe said...

I think older is probably great if the older partner is young at heart and the younger person is mature.

My husband is 4 months older than me, so he is much more experienced and wise ;)

It feels great to me to be with someone the same age as me - we get to see each other grow and experience life together at the same(or similar) rate.

Marissa said...

I don't think the rule applies when it's George Clooney. I'm only 24 and I'd date him in a second.

Jenny in Ohio said...

I always thought I would be with an older guy, but my fiance is 4 years younger than me! Definitely took some getting used to for me...but we're both in our 20's and working so it turned out fine of course because we're getting married in January!. Plus, on the inside he's seriously like a 70 year old. haha.

Laura said...

My husband (who is 6 years younger than me) will be happy to know that I missed out on Clooney by ONE year. :)

Erica C. said...

I've dated a few younger guys (the youngest was 19 when I was 22), and the only "older" guys I've dated have really only been at most a year and a half older which is barely a difference at all. My high school boyfriend was a year older and it's so funny how much older he seemed than me since he had his driver's license when we started dating and I didn't even have my permit yet! My fiance and I were in the same graduating class in high school, but he's 11 months older (his parents made him repeat preschool since he was too rambunctious and I'm young for my class). It seems like we're basically the same age, really.

I'm definitely not opposed to dating people with a big age gap, I think it just depends on the person, how you treat each other and your level of compatibility. :)

Mademoiselle Deva said...

I am dating a guy who's 9 years older than me. He's smart, intelligent, knows how to treat a woman, he was with "difficult" women so now he can appreciate a nice woman. I think it's a good deal for a girl. I dated a younger man too - it was a disaster! He was so immature!

It all depends on ppl and their attitude towards relationships. It just works for me at least now :)

Anonymous said...

When I was 28 I dated a man who was 9 years older. Perhaps it was just the circumstances, but he tried to be a bit more "fatherly" at times than necessary. But I am still open to dating older men. Especially at my age now-mid thirties.

Diana Mieczan said...

My Balazs is almost 8 years older than me but everyone thinks that he is much much younger than his age. For instance a few months ago we went for a movie date and the cinema clerk asked us both for a student id. Balazs is 37 and I'm 29..It's always pretty funny when we say how old we really are. So, age really doesn't matter for me:) Kisses

je18carr said...

I had never dated anyone older than me until recently, I started dating my boyfriend, who is 7 years older than me in April. I am 23 and he is about to turn 30 in a month. We also work together in the same school as teachers (just two classrooms away eeeek!)

I look forward to reading your blog every morning Joanna..thanks for all the great posts!

Anonymous said...

The oldest guy I dated was 8 years older than me. My husband is 2 years younger.

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Bridget said...

Joanna-

My boyfriend is 19 years and 364 days older than me! He is the most wonderful man I have ever met in my life. On our first date I CRIED (yes, cried. full on) because he treated me so nicely. Alcohol might have been involved... Now two years later we're moving in together, with two little doggies as well! Age really is just a number.

Laura @ Hollywood Housewife said...

My husband is also 13 years older than me. It's rarely an issue. We have one child and one on the way and will celebrate 4 years of marriage in September.

cianne said...

my boyfriend is five years older than me (he is 29) and i find it the perfect age difference for us. however, i truly feel that your heart knows no age. i think he could be 19 or 39 and i would still adore him all the same! :)

Jessica Wray said...

oldest I've gone is two years my senior, so hardly at all. I would date an older guy, but no older than 20. According to your rule of thumb the oldest I can go is 29! :)

Gina said...

I never thought I would...but I ended up with my husband who is 15 years older than me. Some things just happen - you have no control :).
I look young for my age {esp when I don't wear makeup or dress up} and we do get some weird looks.

Oh well, it works for us!

Jennifer King said...

My fiance is 9 years older than me. I've mostly dated older guys, usually 5-7 years older. If I were still dating, I don't think I would have an age limit, but I think 20-25 years would be a little hard for me, just because that's getting really close to the age difference between me and my pops.

Beth Ann said...

I love this! My husband is right over 10 years older than me. Though he doesn't look his age, in fact he even told a little white lie when we first met, saying he was 6 years younger than he actually was! He confessed shorty after and his "real" age didn't stop me! :) Makes for a great "how-we-met" story and absoulutely fits our personalities and relationship.

Great post by the way, I really enjoyed reading all the comments before mine!

Cathy said...

My husband and I are the same age, just a few months apart, and I've always liked that. If I entertained the idea I would date someone older, still in their 50's perhaps. I think it would depend greatly on how active they are and how young at heart!

Meggie said...

My husband is about 4 years older than me and it's never been a problem, I love that he's a bit older!

My dad is nearly 17 years older than my mom, it never seemed odd to me growing up (other than the fact that my dad was older than all the other dads). But during the summer of my sophomore year of college I asked my mom what she did her sophomore year of college and she said it was the summer she met my father. I couldn't imagine dating a 37 year old when I was 20, but it worked for her!

Carlen said...

My boyfriend is almost 10 years older than me (I'm 25 and he will be 35 next month) and I couldn't be happier.

The guy I dated seriously before him was only a year older than me, and after four short months together, he took a job in California (I live in Georgia), moved out West, and got back together with his ex from college. That experience quickly cured me of dating guys my own age.

The 10 year age difference seemed huge at first, but once we got to know each other, I realized I had more in common with him than just about every guy I know who is closer to my age.

hayley.jay said...

I'm definitely attracted to older guys. I'm still young [22 on Saturday] but older guys are hot. I love Mark Wahlberg, James Franco, Viggo Mortenson, and Joaquin Phoenix as my "silver foxes" :) But the guys I date seem to be around onlly 2 years older. I wouldn't be opposed to someone into their 30's though.

LoLo said...

i seem to have a different outlook on this than every one else - so maybe that means it has something to do with me? (i guess i'll never know!) i've dated several older men - anywhere from 6 to 9 years older than myself (in my early 20s) and they have almost ALWAYS disappointed me. time after time (or relationship after relationship) i continued to find that they are [almost] 30 and single for a reason (baggage, too picky, crazy, weird). So i've always been doubtful of dating older men (especially around 30s); however, i do have faith that a relationship with an older man is possible, just maybe not for me (unfortunately!).

Sidereal Day said...

So, George Clooney is an option? That's AWESOME! I imagine my husband won't approve though.
The biggest age difference for me was only 4 years older, my husband is only 2 year older.
My uncle who is 80 has a wife that's in her 50's and a 16 year old daughter, how's that for an age difference.

nadia said...

I always preferred to date older men, until I met my husband who is four years younger than I! I thought that would be my deal breaker, but here I am, years later, happily married to him :)

Love is love I guess!

xo Nadia

paige said...

I'm 24 and dating a 30 year old. It was strange at first, but now it just feels so natural. My Dad was a little freaked out at first...but now they love him! Jo, did your parents have anything to say about the 13 year age difference? If so, how did you handle it? xoxox

stephanie said...

I'm definitely looking for an older guy. I've had two relationships -- one was 2 years older than me, the other 2 weeks younger, haha. A few years older than me would be perfect.

jeanette from everton terrace said...

No not really. Have dated a couple younger - no thanks. My husband is only a year older than me and he's quite perfect for me.
I've been chased by older though, luckily I could run faster than they could :)

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Sharlene said...

My honey is 10 years older than me and I love it. I would date an older man over a younger guy any day.

Deanna (Silly Goose Farm) said...

My husband is 13 years older than me, too. It works for us. The only time I worry is when I think about when we are old and how long I could possibly be without him when he dies (weird, I know). He likes to pick on me and say, "baby, the best thing about you is that when I'm 90, you'll only be 77!"

Caroline, No. said...

My dude is four years older than me. I prefer them the same age really but what can you do. Plus, he seems more manly. Hehe. :)

Smith And Ratliff said...

Ryan is 5 1/2 years older than I am, which I think is a nice difference. (Although I certainly don't think a bigger gap is weird either.)

Jess said...

I'm fascinated by how many comments say that a bad experience with someone in a certain age range put them off that age difference! I dated guys around my own age until I met my fiance, who's 4 years younger than me (I'm 30 and he's 26). Other than being able to tease him about being a baby, I don't think it's made a difference at all. My dad is 4 years older than my mom, so that always seemed like a "normal" age difference growing up.

savannah. said...

My parents are 13 years apart as well and they are snug as a bug.

I LOVE older men. You can't tell me Colin Firth and Mark Harmon aren't getting more attractive with every year!

hip hip gin gin said...

You might say I've always had a thing for older guys, as evidenced by my life long crush on Bruce Willis, starting in the first grade when he was on Moonlighting. In our house he is known as "THE Bruce" and woe be to him who turns the channel when The Bruce is on tv. And if I wasn't married I'd date him right this second, you know, if I knew him and all.

My other life long crush? Sean Connery. I'd date him right this second too if we weren't both married. The equation rules out The Bruce and Sean for me, (and George, humph) but I would still totally do it.

My husband is only one year older than me (we met in college) but is starting to get the tinniest bits of gray around the temples and I cannot WAIT until he turns into a silver fox!

wonderousclusterf#@k said...

My boyfriend is almost 5 years older than me...and it's perfect. I think, like the old cliche goes, it's more about how old you feel/are on the inside. My bf and I feel the same age, even though we're not.

Scott said...

Coming at it from the male perspective, I must agree with the status quo. I prefer to date women a few (maybe up to 4) years younger than me. I can't say why, exactly, but perhaps it's biological. At 30, I feel like if I dated another 30-year-old we'd be in a bit of a rush and see if the timeline of marriage, children, etc. is on track. I don't think that's the best way to go about things.

But as a very clumsy dater, it's good to hear that I'll still be able to talk to younger girls for a while longer. I'm not George Clooney but I do share a birthday with him!

cozette said...

My husband is 9 years older then me and I don't mind the age gap at all. We don't have kids yet and I think that's the only area that worries me - he is already 41 so he'll be an older Dad when we do have kids. It's funny every once and a while he'll refer to something of his generation that I don't remember - like one night he was like "remember the Iran hostage crisis" and I was like, "no, I was only 2."

Elysa said...

my ex was 50, i was 25. worked out great for two years, then he suddenly wanted a kid. had never been married, no desire for kids and all the sudden - boom! he wanted one and he wanted one right then. we ended up breaking up, which was devastating as we were great togehter, bc i refused to stop my career at then 27 and have a kid. who knows if it was the right decision and who knows if he is the last older man i will date!

jillian :: cornflake dreams. said...

well i am sad that george is outta my dating league! i've only dated someone one or two years older than me.. but i think that age differences are okay as long as the two people can relate to each other. xoxo jillian:: cornflake dreams

Bethany said...

My husband is only 3 years older than me, but before we were together I liked and dated men that were older than him. I think it's true when they say that women mature faster than men, so for women to find someone that is their "equal" in maturity, it is often necessary to find someone older. I think that as long as he's 10 years or more younger than the woman's parents, it's okay. Anything closer than that and it can just be weird.

Mrs. C said...

My husband and I are 10.5 years a part and I don't think I would want anything else. I always dated guys a couple years older but the decade difference is great. We've never had problems with it (well, except when I wasn't 21 for a bit!) We have fun playing the 90's channel music game of "where were you..." Gets a little weird sometimes! The only people that had an issue with hit were his friend's wives who were beyond horrible to me at first...5 years later they're a little better.


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Anonymous said...

I have a "not born before my siblings" rule (1975) which would be 10 years older. The oldest I have dated is 7 years. Guy 31 and me 24 was lovely. If it mattered, I'd prefer to marry older but it's not on my list. The guy I am currently with and hope to marry is only 3 months older. Each time I have dated younger (2,3,5 years) has been a DISASTER. Absolutely depends on the people because a good friend married younger and they are PERFECT for eachother.

Laura said...

I'm turning 21 next month (is it weird that I'm younger and have no interest in kids, etc. but I still LOVE your blog?!) and my boyfriend is 27. When I look at the numbers it seems like such a big difference but when I'm with him it doesn't matter. He is a perfect gentleman, opens the car door for me, pays for dinner, and despite the difference we still have a lot in common, like a love of comic books, 30 rock, and the ability to have fun just looking at a computer, haha. Before him I dated the appropriate college guys but they were all such childish *ahem* ASSHOLES. That couple of years is what it takes for a man to go from being nice, to being a gentleman.

My mother was a bit worried about my dating him at first, but when she warmed up to him she told me "I'd rather you date a nice older guy than a 21-year old jerk!" So it just goes to show that anyone (even my mom!) can get over that stigma.

Off the Cuff said...

I am notorious for dating younger men. I had considered older men to have lost their free spirits, too work-oriented or have too much baggage. Of course, this isn't the case and an unfair assumption. Who have I missed with this way of thinking - I shutter to think...and perhaps, because of that I didn't deserve the qualities of an older man.
Thankfully, nine months ago I moved back to my hometown and reconnected with a guy I went to high school with. Although he is only a year older than I am, I feel like I have made a step in the right direction. I would encourage people, now, to keep an open mind when dating...you never know who you will connect with.

Anonymous said...

In college I was swept away by someone who was almost 20 years older than me. He was sophisticated, charming, talented, handsome and quirky. He worked as a photographer and lived in Malibu. Of course my parents were horrified and my friends thought I was crazy but once they got to know him everyone loved him. I cared about him a lot and he was a really good person.

However, I think when someone that old is interested in someone as young as I was there are probably some underlying issues. Whether those issues be that they are looking for someone much younger to make them feel less old, etc, it's not going to be the healthiest relationship.

In my instance, he suffered with depression and a lot of feelings of inadequacy. I think he found comfort in my carefree and naive life. I was religious, young and sheltered.

Very shortly after we broke up he ended up committing suicide which affected me deeply.

So, needless to say, I am very weary of extreme age differences in dating.

OF COURSE, plenty of people are happy with much older men. I liked dating older men before I settled down with my incredible husband who is my same age. So, I think it just depends on the couple.

-A

Sunshine said...

I have never dated anyone older but I am open to try it!

Sarah said...

I have never dated anyone older so I don't have much to go on. However, I had a friend who started dating a guy near the age of 50 when she was just 21/22. His daughter was 16 at the time. I just can't wrap my head around that. She had a very rocky relationship with her father, so it's very hard not to make assumptions. I also have a good friend whose Dad (age 65 and also super wealthy) just had a child with his 25 year old girlfriend. Love is ageless so it seems, but what about the child who won't have her father in her life past her teens or twenties (most likely)? These are kind of extreme cases (we're talking 30 and 40 years here), but it seems that it's happening more frequently? Hard for me to understand.

Sarah K. said...

Absolutely! I love older guys. When I was 21 I dated a 32-year-old who was by far the most suave, handsome man I have dated so far. Best kisser too!

Sara L. said...

I have date older and one younger guys, and I def prefer for them to be older. My bf now is only 2 years older then me :)

I'm only 22, but I would still date George Clooney! hahaha.

dc said...

when I was 26 I dated a guy who was 10 years older then me but much more hip then I was. My husband is 5years older then me and we were married when I was 28 so it didn't seem like a big difference.

My mom's husband is 10 years younger then her and so far it hasn't been a problem!

Anonymous said...

Please stay out of our pool, you younger ppl. Fume.

Alice said...

We met when I was 22 and he was 30... so we're golden by that rule! I personally always dated up... just by a few years. Although, it actually shocked me when I learned my husband's age... 30 seems ancient when your in your early 20s. But now I think it's great... when one part of the couple is older and wiser and more mature, more responsible, more financially stable, etc. It just sort of makes things easier.

Nomadic D. said...

When I was 19 I dated a guy who was 33. It was fine for me, I think lots of young women are very mature, but looking back I think there was probably something seriously wrong with him to want to be with someone so young, regardless of how mature I was.

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Anna Morrison said...

If he looked like George Clooney, I would

Not a martyr said...

I'm actually stretching your rule a little. I'm 30 and dating a 49-year-old.

That being said, it's the most wonderful, normal relationship I've ever been in. I have more in common with him than with anyone my own age I had dated.

Corrie Anne said...

All of my serious boyfriends have been at least a few years older than me. My husband is four years older, and it's perfect. I had no idea you were so much younger than your husband!!!

Katie B said...

George Clooney is rumored to be dating Stacy Keibler! She is almost 32! :)

Audra's Ally said...

I always dated guys older than me, not my age, and definitely not younger. I've dated as much as 8 years older.
My boyfriend is 24 and I am 28. We are the best suited two people for one another, and age hasn't been an issue at all.
To think that I almost thought the age difference was a deal breaker.
Think of what I could've missed.
-Audra
http://audrasally.blogspot.com

Ellie said...

My husband is 15 years older than I am. We met when I was in my 30's, which I think makes a difference. I hardly notice the difference in our ages, except he has a lot more...I guess I'd call it, "living knowledge" than I do. He just seems to know more about random world thing, which I attribute to being in the world a little longer. Sometimes it's helpful and sometimes it's annoying. It's funny that you posted George Clooney's picture because my husband is the same age as George and I tease that I'll know my husband is truly old when George starts to look old!

Evelyn said...

My boyfriend is 6 years older than me and my parents are 16 years apart! I guess it was just in my blood ;)

Anonymous said...

I think once you're over 30 it really makes no difference. A 20 yo dating at 30 yo--that a big difference, but a 30 yo dating a 40 yo, or a 50 yo... Who cares?

Sara Szatmary said...

My man is a few years older, but it's close enough where we don't really notice it. I figure as long as two people have the same life direction and attitude, age is only a number.

Elizabeth {e tells tales} said...

My husband is 39 years older than me, 40 actually for a few months before I have my birthday.

I agree with another commenter who said it works if the older person is young at heart and the younger person is mature. Young soul-old soul is what I like to say.

We have a three-month-old son, so my initial worries about my husband being reluctant to "start over" with me were put to rest when Everett arrived.

Right now with us, age is just a number. It's a shocking one, but it works.

Liz said...

Um, if George is the older guy, absolutely! Alec too (...um, yeah). But really, I totally would. I think a younger guy is much more of a deal breaker for me.

kendra said...

about 2-3 years ago i would have said no. all of my girlfriends have married younger guys (one is 5 years older than her husband) so we assumed i would do the same. But lately, the guys i have found attractive are older. Some just 3-4 years, some much older! Something randomly clicked this passed year. George Clooney is probably too old, but Anderson Cooper is a dream, so is John Slattery (too old...but so hot). So yea, i might date an older guy. random gray hairs are starting to be a must!

Nick Goddard said...

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Anonymous said...

My boyfriend of two years is 33 years older than me. The age difference bothers him more than it does me, but I like the fact that he doesn't spend his time playing video games and text messaging. We have a lot of fun together and now I can't even imagine being with someone my own age. I'm sure I would feel differently about our situation if he had children, and sometimes I worry about what might happen in a few years if my biological clock kicks in. He worries that I won't find him sexually attractive as he enters his 60's even though he is in great shape and looks much younger than he is. Overall, our time together has been wonderful and I would encourage women to look beyond age when it comes to dating. It is better to have something honest and real with an older man than have a shallow relationship with someone your own age.

kimberly said...

To each their own, I think. When I was 25 I admitted to my friends that I would date a guy who was 50 or under and they were appalled. But I've always been pretty mature, and at the time, I knew a really attractive, fun & nice 50 year old guy who I could imagine myself having fun with...

I ended up marrying someone 4 years older than me, pretty standard :)

Jenny P said...

I have... and I loved it. He was twelve years older than me, and my previous BF had been 7 years younger. Made for quite a contrast. I appreciated the older man's maturity. I definitely felt more like I was taken care of vs my previous relationship where I do most of the taking care of. So my vote is YES!

And thanks for permission to date George!

xoxo, dania said...

i think older men are more compatible with women simply because women mature faster than men do. so by the time a man is 'mature enough' the younger woman will be equivalent to that maturity..

HOWEVER; my boyfriend is 3 months younger than me.. love him to death and he is perfect! but we are still 22 so i know that he will mature more as a man when he gets a little older

Brittany at Home Ground said...

My fiance is 8 years older than I am and we'll be married in a month. For me (I'm a very old soul), older is the way to go!

T said...

I am currently dating an older man. (As in, old-enough-to-be-my-dad older.) He is one of the kindest, most fascinating and cultured men I've ever met, generous and tender, a terrific cook and way better about cleaning up around the house than I am:}...polyglot, loves to read, works out regularly (so he gets my desire to do so), and has the kind of warm, radiant personality that nets him a lot of friends. In fact, in some ways I think we're so different since I consider myself so introverted and reserved, but one of the things I enjoy about being with him is he gives me the space to be myself (I think he actually likes my independence and sense of adventure and love of travel and museums and the arts). Plus, he doesn't play games, isn't emotionally unavailable, and all that BS. I certainly never set out to date an older man but I didn't want to close the door on love and what I have to learn and enjoy from this relationship because of age (or race, or religion, or whatever). And so far it's been a beautiful thing.

Darina said...

I've always dated guys my own age, but my boyfriend is 10 year older and things are going GREAT (ps he's the one...). I never thought I'd date someone this much older, but there is zero drama, he knows what he wants and goes for it, which is always good. And he's "been there, done that", so I know he's ready for the real thing. I honestly don't even feel the age difference otherwise, as he's just a big kid in the best kind of ways, and I feel like we are on the same level, our personalities and where we are in life are just very compatible, which I've never felt with anyone else before. We have the perfect balance.

Tonia said...

I always dated older guys, until I met my husband! He is almost two years younger than me!

laco said...

when i was single, i'd say i was the dating equivelant of the gallup survey. rich, poor, young, old, democrat, republican, every race, stoner and straight-laced. i ended up marrying a man four years younger than i, and age never presented an issue with us (maybe for a skinny minute when a lithe, perky 22 year old struts by but usually not even then). we were too weirdly linked. i had dated older men (and much older men) who didn't know who barbara stanwick or mat munroe were, but to find a then 24 year old who did?! even better. i reckon, it's just the spirit of the individual.

Elz said...

My husband is 5 years older and we've worked well for more than 10 years! But, if George were to come around...;)

Jessica Clem said...

I dated a man who was 20 years older than myself a few years ago. He was 44 and I was 24. I am sure it looked odd when we were out together but we had a great connection that made the age difference not as noticeable. We lasted for about a year when I fell back in love with my ex, now my husband of nearly 3 years. He is three years older than me, a perfect age! :)

hello, Friday said...

I dated guys who are 1-3years older than I. My husband and I are 4 years apart and I can't image myself with younger or at the same age man. xoxo

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Sarah said...

i've always dated older guys. i tend to have my shit together and be more responsible that guys my age (though it's evening out as I near 30). my bf is 7 years older than me (almost 28 and 35)and always makes comments about how he's an old man. but the age difference is perfect for me and he still has a silly side. plus, you're right, older guys can cook :)

rachael said...

I'm 25 and my boyfriends 30. Living in Portland, Oregon, the city where young people go to retire, it was nice to find someone who had his head on his shoulders, has what he wants and acts like an adult.

So bravo for older men!

Anonymous said...

I started dating my boyfriend when I was 17...and he was 24. Granted, my parents weren't pleased at all, but he and I just never noticed the age difference. We're always on the same level.

He's the best boyfriend I've ever had and he has always respected my wishes. He has never tried to pressure me to do anything physical either, unlike all the boys my age that I had dated before him!

We've been together for nearly 3 years now and I have to say it's been the greatest thing to happen to me. Who cares if they're older. If they're right for you; they respect you; they want what's best for you; and they make you happier than you've ever been, then I say go for it.

nickandnoragettingmarried said...

I've never dated an older guy, but I tend to think relationships work best when both partners are in the same life phase. If you're 20 years apart but are both fairly settled and like to do the same things, that can definitely work. If you're the same age but one of you owns a home and has a kid, and the other likes the idea of being able to move to Australia tomorrow and not deal with kindergarten teachers, that can be a huge problem. Life phases change a lot more quickly when you're young, so I can see fewer 20 year-olds dating 40 year-olds. But overall, if you're both in the same place in your lives, I don't think age on its own is the dealbreaker.

Tragic Sandwich said...

When I was dating, I had a theoretical max age difference of 10 years. But I always said, "It depends on the guy." One of my friends is married to someone who is about 15 years older than we are. But she's always seemed more poised and mature (while still being a lot of fun), and he seems younger than he is (while still being very much an adult). I often forget how much older he is--and she says that she does, too.

Meanwhile, Mr. Sandwich is 2-1/2 years younger than I am, and that works just perfectly for us.

Caroline said...

My husband is 3 years older than me and it's actually the perfect age difference for us. I've dated both younger men and older men (the oldest one was 7 years older). But 3 is a good number :)

Bad Joan said...

If he looked like George Clooney than definitely yes!!

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hello. said...

this article reminds me of the sex + the city episode where carrie dates a college-aged student + she stays overnight after partying with him. the next morning she wakes up to use the bathroom + there's no tp because he's used it as a coffee filter for the coffee machine...

so if i was thrown in the dating pool again (eek), i'd keep an open mind + date older or younger...but yeah, no college aged dudes!

Melisande said...

I'd always dated guys a couple years older than me, or exactly my age, until I met my current boyfriend (THE ONE) a couple years ago. He is almost 9 years older than me, and it works perfectly for us. I'm more mature than most my age, and we balance each other out.

laurenjeanallece said...

I had no idea Alex was older than you! Toby is lucky, my dad was 40 when I was born and I've loved having an older, cooler dad! I was with a guy who was a few months younger than me for a couple years, but that was nothing. I'm hanging out with a guy now though who is 5 years older (I'm almost 25, he's almost 30). It's not a problem (and certainly not a dealbreaker) and we still find that we have a lot in common!

Zoë said...

I always used to say that younger guys, more than 3 or so years, was a deal breaker. However, I wound up meeting my current boyfriend and we hit it off and all those "rules" went out the window. He's almost 5 years younger than me but that doesn't matter because of everything else he is. I think when you meet the right person, numbers aren't as important. We're expecting our first child together now!

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Anonymous said...

My husband and I just did meet the guideline you mentioned! He is 7 years older. We met and were quickly married when he was 29 and I was 21.5! :-) I think it is a great rule of thumb...

Jenny said...

The father of my son is 22 years older than me. Hello! Daddy Issues! He is a wonderful father and a celebrity musician - I guess that is what drew me. Didn't last though. Surprise.

Aya said...

If he's anything like George, then YES!
I've dated 12 years older and 2 years younger. My love is 2 years older than I, which seemed like a lifetime when I met him ten years ago, at 17.
My best friend's husband is 18 years her senior, and they met when she was 19. Usually I would think that's kind of creepy, but hey, sometimes it works! Like in their case.
Finding someone is hard enough as it is without putting rules on who you'll date. I say, better to just give it a go and then decide.

Cat said...

I'm actually the "oldie" in my relationship! Only three years, though. :-) But I wouldn't mind dating someone older than me, especially if that someone was George Clooney!

amynicole said...

I never really dated too much, but I think the biggest age gap was maybe 5 years. My husband is 3 years older than me and it's perfect! And just between you, me, and the rest of the blog world, if I wasn't married I would be all over grabbing George Clooney for myself! haaaaaa!

Tabitha Lynn said...

The oldest I went was 9 years and there was just something super sexy about it. This amazingly established guy wanted me at 21 over all the other mid-late-twenties with their lives together. It obviously didnt work out, but it was fun while it lasted. Now my boyfriend is 18 days younger and at first I had the hardest time getting over it. Probably because he used to say things like "When you were born" lol.

Tab
my-cliffnotes.blogspot.com

Kelly said...

my boyfriend of 6 years is actually 7 years older than me. we started dating when i was 23 and he was 30! i think that theory that "girls mature faster than guys" is REALLY true. at 23, i couldn't connect with any guys my age. in fact, i had just ended a horrible relationship with a younger guy right before i met my current guy. he and i were on the same page from the beginning and it's been happily ever after since!

jen said...

My husband is 3 years older than me, but we don't really notice that age difference. I did date a guy that was 27 when I was 19. After about 6 weeks of dating, we realized the age gap was too much (at least at that point in our lives) and we settled into becoming friends. My sister is 28 and her boyfriend is 36. It doesn't seem strange to me to have that age gap.

slowdownapproaching30 said...

I'm 31 and just finished a 5 year relationship with someone who was 2 years younger than me. He dumped me as he wasn't in the same place as me... I wanted to buy a home, get married etc, the stuff you think would happen after 5 years together!! He broke my heart but now 3 months later, I just had my first new fella kiss... He is 34... I like the fact he's older... But not too much!

I'm secretly gutted I just miss the cut off for George... Damn!

Courtney said...

I've always believed that age is just a silly number and it didn't really make a difference. I'm 30 and my husband is 41, so there are 11 years between us (which is legit according to your equation!).
But... my mom (aged 52) recently started dating a 75yo man.. and that is kind of gross! Maybe because she's my mom, but still!

Amanda said...

I am dating a guy 14 years older than me and I wouldn't trade it for the world. When we first started dating I was worried, but he is young at heart and wise, I love that. As Shelby from Steel Magnolias said : I would rather have thirty minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special.

Alex said...

Not only did I date an older man. But I married an older man. If I always been an "old soul" if you will & my husband (who is 13 yrs older) always says if it wasn't him it would have been some older dude. It's never caused problems for us. I just think because I'm so young (23 almost 24) it's initially shocking. But when I'm like 30 no one will care :-)

Tica25 said...

My husband is 20 years older than me. He's such a gentleman.
He learned from his mistakes in the past...he is a fantastic dad and a dedicated husband.
I'm 30 and very happy with our marriage. Nothing is perfect, but this is as good as it gets.
He built his own business and now he has the time to come home early and cooks, cleans our two little guys before bedtime and helps me with the house.
He always says that he couldn't do that in his thirties or forties, but now he can stop and smell the roses :) or the dirty diapers :(
I couldn't be happier with my decision.
Funny enough when we were dating people looked at us...but who cares?
People will always talk and if I cared I wouldn't have the family I have now.

Tara Galuska said...

I am a whopping 3 days older than my husband and it seems to work great :)

Sue said...

Well when you put George up there looking like an Adonis how can anyone resist whatever age? I am 7 years older than my husband and we have been happily married for 18 years :0) xx Sue xx

Fiona said...

My boyfriend is 31 and I'm 24... There's a 6-year-7-month difference between us. It makes no "real" difference to us. We joke about it quite a bit and are aware of it. But he's better than any other man I've been with, so yay!

JeNifer said...

i've dated guys younger, older and same age. My husband and I are 7 1/2 years apart (he's older) and i don't even notice the age difference except when he starts reciting lines from early 80s movies! lol. even though i am an 80s child (born in 1980) movies that my hubs watched in 1985 when he was like 12 yrs old, were not movies i watched when i was 5! ;) When my husband and i very first met in college, i was 20 and he was 27. So, back then he was like this older, long haired, goateed guy who used to work in executive protection and drove a '76 red corvette...in other words, he was very intimidating! but we became best friends all throughout college. I remember my father was all "who is this guy!? and why is he friends with my daughter??" haha! Thing was though, we were JUST friends. My mother always said we should date and didn't understand why we didn't. We both dated other people for 8 years, plus he moved around the USA. But during those 8 years, we remained very close friends. Then 3 years ago, (he was 36 and me 29) something happened. Something clicked, it was like a big light switch got flicked on and we looked at each other and thought "hmmmm, wait... how come we didn't date, why aren't we dating now??" So, we went on a date and with one night our years long friendship turned into a really wonderful relationship and now marriage. :)
Oh, and my dad absolutely loves his son-in-law and needless to say, my mom was thrilled that we finally "realized it"!

jenny said...

i have dated guys 10 years or so older than me - i was always into "older guys" for some reason. i think because i grew up an older sister, was often the oldest among friends who were all a few years younger.. i think i just wanted someone older than me for a change! but that all flew out the window when i met the guy i am going to marry. he's a year and a half younger at 33, but at least he still has more gray hair than me. ;)

gia said...

My ex was 15 years older, and I usually date guys that are about 10years older. I think I like the security. Now I'm trying to get that security for myself!.. and become the person I was looking for.

Side Note: My parents are 9 years apart and they say it helped when my mom hit menopause, bcs. my dad was older and didn't mind her lack of sexual drive. And now it seems they have gotten it back.

Josslynn Nicole said...

Normally not more than 5 years, but I would definitely make an exception for George!
xoxo
josslynn nicole

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chanel said...

Well thank goodness! My husband and I passed the test. He is nine years older than me and it's something neither of us really seem to notice. We think it's pretty perfect but hey, we're probably bias right?!? :)

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Anonymous said...

My husband is 21 years older than I am and just five or six years younger than my parents. We got together when I was only 23 -- 26 years ago! -- and were often mistaken for father and daughter. I loved that he already knew what he wanted to be when he grew up and had already done so much. The fact that he's about to turn 70 is a reminder to enjoy every minute.

Amor às Riscas said...

Alex is 13 years older, Joanna???!! I'm stunned! I must say he looks much younger. You can let him know that :)
I once dated a boy 6 years old than me. It didn't work but it wasn't because of his age. Altough he was older, mentally he was so much younger than me!
I'm from Portugal and I adore reading you every single day! You are my absolute girl crush (blushing)

Ven said...

My boyfriend is one year younger than I am, which is basically no age difference at all. I never think about that. Also, I'm more of a Johnny Depp girl myself ;)

NebloStudio said...

Dating an older man for women is a doctrine inculcated into we, women since young. But when you found somebody younger and he loves you more than anything else, i guess, Age doesnt matter. You can kick the silly doctrine out!

Iz Originals said...

I've always been attracted to older guys. My mom used to tell him in high school it was because I was "mature" for my age. I used to hate hearing that. But, maybe there was something to it, as my HS sweetheart was 2 yrs older, my college BF, 8 years, and my hubby is now 11 years older than me! My friends thought I was crazy when I first started dating him, but we work perfectly - so age doesn't matter!

Karenina said...

Yes, by ten years. And I married him. Best decision I ever made!

La chica said...

In my lates 30's, I am dating twentysomethings... but I'd prefer dating someone older... I supose my guy is already married :(

Caroline said...

Tom is 21 years and 2 weeks older than I am. We met when I was 21 and he was 42. We were friends first and it quickly turned into a wonderful and loving relationship. 14 years later we are still madly in love with each other.

virginia said...

The oldest guy I dated was 2 years older than me. The man I'm with now is actually a few months younger than me, but you'd never guess it because he looks and acts older.

Anonymous said...

My husband is 12 years older than me. I never really cared about age. He was the one to put a end to things after a couple weeks, only to take it back the next day & we were married a year later. Now happily celebrating our one year anniversary this weekend :)

Anonymous said...

i was hanging out with a guy who was in his 50s (i was 30 then) and it started to give me the creeps. especially when he walked me to meet my parents one time, and i realized he looks older than my dad!

Bun said...

for the longest time I always dated older men (usually 8-10 years older). until my current boyfriend came along, who is only 2 years older than myself. made me kind of think that age really isn't always the main factor- that maybe it's simply based on finding your perfect match- aka- your soulmate.

xoxo bun.
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Anonymous said...

The half your age plus seven rule (start with the older person's age) works every time...

Lindsey said...

The "oldest" I dated was five years older. I don't think I could date an older guy to be honest. My husband is six months older (to the day!) and we love that we grew up with all the same stuff. I have many friends with older men and most of them seem perfectly happy, but it's not for me. <3

Alexa said...

I've never dated someone more than 3 years older than me, but I would. As long as he isn't closer in age to my parents, I'm open to the idea :)

On the flip side, I don't think I would want to date someone younger than me...

Kristina said...

I would date an older guy if his first name was George and last name was Clooney. ; )

Alexandra said...

My husband is 11 months and 16 days older than me. I have never dated an older guy, but I never ruled them out. My parents are 10 years apart and still married more than 30 years. My older sister married a man 13 years older than her and they have been married 18 years and have 5 children. So, it can definitely work.

Manda said...

Never would have guessed Alex was 13 years older than you! My husband is 19 years older than me. We started dating when I was 21. I am closer in age to his two children than to him. I feel like a lot of people think it's very weird - until they get to know us. I rarely think about our age difference.
Love seeing that so many others are in similar relationships!
And would love to hear more about your relationship Joanna - did your/his parents think anything of it? Friends?

Laura Jo said...

Tell Alex he looks very young for his age - not that 45 is old in any way.
My husband is 8 months older than me. Age wasn't an issue for me in dating, but I do like that my husband hits the next age before I do, so I can kind of be the younger woman ;). By the way, he loves Alex's posts and came home the other day and said, "Can we be friends with Alex and Joanna?"

mandyface said...

Clooney, yes. Hugh Jackman, yes. Jack Donaghey, yes.

R @ Learning As I Chop said...

My husband is 8 years older than me. We actually break that rule in your post, oh well. My mom thinks it's good because "I'll always be the younger woman." I find that pretty funny.

Anyasr said...

How about the other way? My mom is 4 1/2 years older than my dad, and they been married for almost 29 yrs!

And my boyfriend is 11 yrs my senior. :)

dana @ wonder forest said...

my rule of thumb was always that i couldn't date a guy who was older than my brother. that would just be weird haha. that also only gave me a 3 year window. i think the oldest i've ever dated was a year older. seems to be my track record ;)
xo dana
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kristen said...

my husband is 11 months older than me. so yes! i would date an "older" man! and even if i were single i would then too. younger guys are sweet, but older guys are more sexy to me.

Helena said...

well, i've just fall in love with a man almost 6 years older than me (i'm 34) with premature gray hair :-) for my surprise, not only the gray hair is a turn on, but for the first time i feel i'm really ready to commit!

Amelia said...

I'm also married to an older man - my husband in almost 10 years older. It took us awhile to start dating because of the whole age difference (and he was my boss), but we couldn't keep away from eachother and 4 years later we were married :-) Our 3rd year anniversary is comming up in September and i'm 15 weeks pregnant! Needless to say - we're super excited. So i'm happy that the age thing didn't deter me ;-)

Kaley said...

My fiance is 24 years old than me. We met when I was 18 and he was 42. We started dating a few years later, and now we've been together 6 years and are getting married in November! Age is just a number. What's more important to me is how old do you ACT. My cute (50-in-7-months-gasp!) fiance surfs, skis, used to play in a rock band, rides a Harley, etc etc...you get the gist. He's no golfing grandpa.

As long as you find some common ground and are comfortable with the personality of the other person...that's all you need. That and it helps if they make you laugh. No matter what age, that's a must! :)

Ariel said...

I always liked older guys. I've never even dated anyone less than 3 years older than me. But when I was 18, I dated a guy who was 27 and that didn't work. He was great... But he wanted to get married and I needed to explore and grow up. I was too young at 18 to handle that.

I am now 28 and happily married to a man 3 years older than me. But I feel that it wouldn't matter if he were 10+ years older now that I'm more mature.

Blaire said...

Minus my high school boyfriend who was 6 months younger than me all my boyfriends have been older ranging from 1 month older to 8 years older. I get attracted to them because I see them as stable.

Allison said...

my boyfriend is 4 years older than me :) no biggie! and love the george clooney pic, my mom has such a crush on him that my dad has given her a free pass if she ever happens to run into him, ha!

Anonymous said...

I once dated a man 15 years my senior, I was 32, you can do the math. At first it was so charming, he was a writer and I a designer. We did the old movies and cooking and such but after three years the age difference became a problem for both of us. We were a whole generation apart! The songs that reminded me of my youth were just dumb to him and the things that he remembered as a teenager were from a time before I was even born. In the end we split and 16 years later I am very happy for it. I'm a young 48 now and he would be 64! That seems really old to me.....

My next boyfriend was 8 years my junior and needless to say the same problems arose and we split after 3 years. Today I'm married to a man my age and we have so much in common. We both watch old reruns of shows from our twenties and we both graduated college around the same time, we are both at the same point in our careers and we have both had the same bad hair cuts from the 80's.....maybe this does not apply to everyone but I'm glad I'm with someone my same age that gets where I'm coming from.

Cynthia said...

First let me say that I would date Alec Baldiwn as Jack Donegy ANY DAY!!!!

I have had 2 boyfriends my entire life (the last one I ended up marrying) and they were both my age. At 20 I couldn't think of dating someone older because I felt so young and inexperienced. However, I see nothing wrong with age differences.

Notes from Holly St. said...

My husband is eight years older than I am. I always thought men my age weren't quite there as far as maturity went which is probably what attracted me to my hubby in the first place. He was well read, had more life experiences than I did and a lot more mature than the guys I had dated in the past.

teacupdancer said...

Gah, this is always a weird topic between my friends and I. I'm sort of the odd ball and generally don't even consider a guy if they aren't 25 years and older. I'm twenty one.

I had dated a guy whom was seven years older than I was, when I was 19. I loved everything about it!

Tess L. said...

Just wanted to put it out there that my parents are 26 years apart! They had both been married and divorced once when they met - needless to say they got it right this time as they've been happily together for almost 35 years now and I couldn't have asked for better parents (I'm 18). It might be important to note that when I was born my dad was 60, and my mom was 34. I've learned so, so much from my father and I'm so happy to have had him in my life - but it has been a source of inexplicable grief since I turned about 10 or 11 that I knew I'd lose my father, and soon. Most people grow up knowing they'll have their parents there for them into their forties and even fifties. I've known for years that my dad might not see me get married, have children, or even graduate college. And I wouldn't wish that on anyone. It's an interesting situation to be in and it has affected almost every decision I've ever made. That said, I wouldn't change my life for anything - my dad has been mistaken for my grandpa since I was born but he's been able to teach me things about life that others will have to learn on their own.

supreme courtney said...

Whew! This post hit close to home. REAL close to home.

I ONLY date old guys. Not Anna Nicole Smith old but older. When I was 26 I dated a 50 year old... Now at 29 I just broke up with a 47 year old.

I live in Los Angeles where guys live in a little bit of an arrested development life. 28 year olds act 22, 35 year olds act 25. No mathematical equation to my theory, but it's true! Trust me.

Love your blog! Blog and Baby are beautiful!

Jaime Lee said...

Yes, older guys normally have it together. But not the two you have listed, good actors, but way to arrogant for my taste. You should list some Tim Mcgraws or George Straits. Handsome, respectful and normal.

weaser said...

The largest age gap for me was 13 years as well. Since I am the youngest of a large family and my oldest sibling is 12 years my senior, I tend to relate well to older men. Although I am currently dating a gorgeous man who is two whole weeks my junior and loves to refer to me as his "cougar". ;-) I think age isn't always link with compatibility - ya never know where love is waiting for you!

acp said...

Alex looks much younger! I would date older!

carolyn said...

my current boyfriend, at 6 years older, is the oldest i've dated yet (and the best). highly recommended!

Jessica said...

My husband is three years older than me and we get along great. I don't think that's a big difference. I'm 29 and just did the calculation to see, and I according to that I could date someone who is 21... yikes! No thanks! haha.

Christina H said...

My boyfriend is 15 years older than I am. When I met him, I figured he was around 10-12 years older, and I was OK with that because we got along really well and I'd dated guys who were 8 years older before with no problem. After a few dates I tried asking him how old he was, and he wouldn't tell me! Finally he broke down and told me his age: 48, I was 33 at the time. I was a bit freaked out but I figured what's another three years? We've been together for four years now. We do get some weird looks and rude comments from time to time, but I've gotten over caring what others think.

Tasha Imajin said...

I am 9 months older than my husband. We like to joke that I was born around the time he was conceived so his mom was having more fun than mine was that August!

Catherine Masi said...

Older men, sure (my husband is about five years older- which has always been just fine with me!) Younger men, generally not... but who the heck knows. I mean, I think it comes down to the basic respect, awareness, and love of any individual. Though, and that said, I am finding now that I am in my 30's, I am less attracted to men in their 20's and more so to those in their 30's to 50's. Kind of wish men felt the same way about women- just for a better balance in our society. But there's not much to do about that except love who you are, where you are.
By the way, your blog gives me nice, happy mini breaks throughout my oftentimes long work day. Thanks for that!

Jennifer @ Muse Lodge said...

I love old guys! No, seriously I prefer to date older men. My boyfriend is 13 years older than me and his age was almost a deal breaker. I'm so glad it wasn't. We started dating when I was 23....it was really awkward telling my family his age.

M said...

My husband is three years older than me, and it's absolutely perfect. I think society has some rules for how old is too old, but it really does end up being an personal choice. In the end, age doesn't matter as much as compatibility and being on the same page on the issues that really matter.

Laura said...

my 32nd birthday was just last week. maybe george will make an exception for me?!?!

Not so esoteric said...

The biggest age difference in guys I date was only 5 years my senior. He commented to me at one point that it was weird that I was so much younger (I was 24). I was confused at his comment because his maturity level was about the same as a guy in his early 20s. It didn't last long.

My love now is a little less than 2 years older but I have become increasingly attracted to older men because of they are more established in their careers, general knowledge base, and most of all confidence.

Not so esoteric said...

Joanna- your husband looks so young. You guys looks great together. But we are just curious....did your family say anything about the age difference?

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