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Monday, November 01, 2010

Breastfeeding in public

Yesterday, Alex, Toby and I went on a leisurely walk around the West Village. (It was such a pretty fall day!) Toby breastfed a couple times while we were out, and Alex took a few photos, which I figured I'd share.

Since Toby was born, I've met so many wonderful moms who are nervous about breastfeeding in public--they worry that people will give them weird looks or say something negative, or they just feel uncomfortable baring a boob.

I totally understand that, and when I was pregnant, I thought I might be shy, too. But once Toby was born, I actually found myself feeling surprisingly passionate about breastfeeding in public. After all, I figured, I'm feeding a child, and what's more important than that?

I was also really encouraged by my friend Leigh and her blog (she writes a lot about breastfeeding). When Toby was one week old, I breastfed him in public for the first time, and I actually texted Leigh to thank her for inspiring me. She wrote back, "You fierce, fearless mama! You go right ahead." I loved that. :)

When I was pregnant, I had also read a few stories about restaurant owners or random passersby saying negative things to nursing women now and again, so I came up with a phrase that I'd have at the ready, just in case. Want to hear it? :) I planned to say, "It's my legal right to breastfeed my baby anywhere in public or private; if you have a problem with it, you can look away." Haha, sounds dramatic, but I felt good knowing that I'd have a reply, if the situation ever arose! Luckily, strangers have actually been great. You know, 99% of the time, people don't even notice that you're breastfeeding (it's so subtle!); and when they do realize it, people have even walked by and said, "Aw, that's so sweet," or "Isn't that beautiful?" which was a nice surprise.

Overall, I'd love to encourage women to feel proud to nurse their sweet babies in public. As you can see from the photos, it's really modest (the baby's head covers up almost everything; and I'm also wearing a Boob nursing shirt). At this point, I've ended up breastfeeding Toby all over the city, and it has been a wonderful, fun, cozy, intimate, freeing experience. Now I barely think twice about it! I just bust out the boob!

Anyway, I want to give a huge thumbs up to all you mamas out there, no matter what you choose to do! If you don't want to breastfeed in public, by all means, don't; but if you do want to or are thinking about it, please feel encouraged to go for it. And know that I'll be here in the blogosphere, rooting you on. xoxoxo

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spottedinflorence said...

i totally agree with you!!!
alice
http://spottedinflorence.wordpress.com/

七十樓危危下望 said...

supports all the way from hong kong!

Manhattan said...

La vida se abre camino. Enhorabuena.

Aine said...

What a great post! I am also breastfeeding my baby boy and it is just so handy to feed him out & about. It's great to promote it so fun & stylishly on your blog! I love it so much too, I always feel like shouting about it :D

Miss Sensible said...

You and Toby are so nice. I like the photos :)

valerie said...

excellent post! i am still breast feeding my 15 month old and still do so in public. i've found that having lots of friends with babies the same age, who are doing the same thing is incredibly empowering. as is this article...have you read it?:
http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/ruth_kamnitzer.html

it bums me out to read a few people commenting that breastfeeding makes them uncomfortable. i'm sorry for their discomfort, but really, get over it! and i mean that in the nicest way possible. :)

Ania Florek-Kozakiewicz said...

It's sad that such a natural thing becomes an issue for some women but it's great that there are posts and articles like that! I breastefed my boy in public without any problem and loved the freedom of going out for a whole day and being able to keep feeding him. I actually miss it:) Thanks Jo for reminding me these beautiful times!

mama bear said...

I'm so with you on this one. Good on you for posting these pics joanna. They're awesome. xx

Tali Schiffer said...

Looking at your pictures that does look very modest (I've never heard of a boob feeding shirt... where does one get it??), But I have to tell you, I am a manager at a restaurant in Tel Aviv, and some mamas sit in the middle of everything, lift up their shirt, no covering or modesty whatsoever and they bare it all for everyone, and it does make people uncomfortable to sit and eat when they just stick it ALL out in front. So while I am all for what you're saying, I still have to say that it needs to be considerate of the rest of the environment

Jill Elaine said...

I sooo totally agree with you! It is a beautiful thing to see women breastfeed their babies. I've never seen anyone do it without being subtle about it but even if they were baring all, hey, it's the job they were made for right?? when I was breastfeeding I wasnt' the least bit embarrassed about feeding my baby in public. It isn't hard to be discreet and somehow it just wasnt' a big deal! It seems like it would be when you aren't breastfeeding but when you are it's just what you do:)

Tae said...

i think public nursing is totally fine, but what's wrong with throwing a little nursing cover/blanket over yourself when you do it? i think it's a lot to ask for everyone to have to be comfortable seeing a boob, even if it's for something wonderful and nurturing like breast-feeding. not all men want to see other women like that, and i just think it would be great if we recognize that too.

Lara said...

This is a great post, and there are so many positive comments! It's so encouraging. Go Joanna!

the boot said...

joanna you are such a beautiful mom inside and out! toby is so lucky to have you and alex as parents! great job!
-marissa

Bronwyn said...

Incredible post! I think that you are so very brave to do this in public... I know my mum did it, too....
Very inspiring - thank you!

Helena said...

Thank you!

secret, fragile skies said...

Bravo for this great post, Joanna! This is such a small window of time in your life and the moments you spend holding your beautiful little guy will be precious memories. Nursing/not nursing - whateverworks. No one should feel guilty. I nursed all of my boys (four) when it was not in vogue. I did it at first just because it was easy. I was in school with my last one and nursed him for three years (honest, I'm not La Leche) - it was the only way I could quiet him while I wrote my papers! I would go back in a heartbeat! Best to you!

Not your goddess said...

What a wonderful post :)
I think we have a few funny ideas about the States over here in Europe, I was always under the impression that it was illegal to breastfeed in public in America. Maybe that's in some other states?
Anyway, it's good to learn something new :)
I have fed both my boys wherever I want and need to and will do so with baby number three on the way... yay :)

Stephanie Sabbe said...

Joanna! you are so awesome. I'm 18 weeks and love all your PSA mamma posts. Please keep them in the mix.

Michelle said...

Damn straight! Way to go, I love it, and I will be right there with you some day, I hope :)

samantha hahn said...

i do it everywhere and have lost all modesty¡¡¡

Anonymous said...

It's great that you feel comfortable breastfeeding in public but why do you think it's cool in France? I spent several years there as a young mother and got some pretty dirty looks when I breastfed in public. Unlike the States, there are no special areas to do it, and some employers don't even allow time for new moms to pump. Unsolicited advice comes with new parent territory, but if you're breastfeeding your four-month+ baby in Paris you're in for an earful.

Michelle Kendrick Hartney said...

Thank you so much for writing this. I might borrow your line for when I start breastfeeding. (My first child is due in March) I've been trying to come up with a good response in case anyone says anything negative about me breastfeeding in public, which I plan to do, and I know I need to have something prepared because I will stumble on my words!

Maiz Connolly said...

Thanks for this post, Joanna! I never knew I was "making a statement" until I breastfed my babies in public. Now I am sure to give a friendly nod or thumbs-up to the mamas I see nursing out there. It is a crazy world here, where so many people let their children watch all kinds of horrific violent images, but don't want them to see breastfeeding, which is pure peace and love!

This may seem way out there, but this article first appeared in Mothering Magazine a couple of years ago, and is SO interesting. If you're used to a culture that is squeamish about nursing in public, toddler nursing, or breasts in general, you should read about how they do things in Mongolia:

http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/ruth_kamnitzer.html

Rock on, Jo! Thanks for posting these great pics!

p.s. You made me homesick for my old WV home!

kath4656 said...

Loved your post. My "baby" is now 11, and I miss that time. My funniest public "feeding" occurred outside the Pig Barn at our state fair. I was nursing outside, while the giant pig was nursing her 9 piglets inside...Ah, Mother Nature's irony at its best!

carly said...

This post made me so happy. I am not yet a mother, but ever since I was younger my own mother taught me how beautiful and important breastfeeding is. I even walked around with my baby doll held up to me like I was breastfeeding, a little embarrassing now that I write that, but hey! I was doing what I saw my mom do to my younger brother and still to this day I think that it is beautiful. It's a shame that women have to feel threatened or nervous for such a natural and primitive act of a mother. Thank you for this post, Joanna and for sharing such special pictures.

hedonista said...

Great post! Our baby turns a week old today and we have to go vote and do a couple other errands. I think today will be the day i bust out the boob in public!

clementimes said...

Wow, what a beautiful bunch of photos and a thoughtful post on such an important part of motherhood.

No babies here, but sending love and support to all you young moms out there who are figuring it all out. Very inspiring, Joanna. xoxo

Jess said...

I just discovered your blog and i like so much your post! also I envy you because you have a sweet baby!! I want to be mother too!! and when it happen i think that i do breastfeeding in public too.

Sammi said...

I think I am with you on this one Joanna. I couldn't imagine doing it right now, but probably in the event of having my own child would be okay with it. I don't have a problem with anyone else breastfeeding, however I never know what to say.

TheBeautyFile said...

I have a 2 month old and have been breast feeding or pumping since the beginning. I was up at Blue Hill at Stone Barns a few weekends ago and breastfed in public for the first time! It was actually kind of cold, but it felt great to do it! My mom used to tell me how when I was born she would go out for lunches with her mommy friends and all six of them would breast feed at the table!!! Power to the BF'ers!

anna said...

I love love love this post! I remember with my first how awkward breastfeeding was for me and I was very self conscious--more about how uncomfortable I looked trying to wrestle my baby to my breast than anything. It was quite a while before I became comfortable and the positive attitude towards breastfeeding in public, here in this little town of Stratford, helped tremendously.

You seem so contented and relaxed with yourself and your Toby. Like the most natural, beautiful thing in the world. Which it is. Bravo!

Colleen said...

I have wanted so badly to be able to Breastfeed in public but my son who was born June 29 does not like it gets way too distracted and pulls off! I am still trying! I love those boob tops and the sweatshirt, I live in Canada though and I can't find anywhere that ships here!

Glenda said...

love it... go Joanna! go Toby! love, love your phrase ready to give them your 2cents. I, like you, am always prepared for a phrase... ha! love the pictures! keep doing what you're doing...you're doing great "mama" ;D

etoilee8 said...

Anonymous 11:54 was a little harsh. But I think the gist of what she/he was saying was "maybe if we stop making a big deal about it, other people will as well". I agree with this completely. Morals in this country are really screwed up. It takes more time and energy to give someone the stink eye than it does to politely look away if you disagree. When and if I have kids I plan on feeding them wherever and wherever I please quietly. No one needs to tell me it's okay to do it and I also don't need pats on the back telling me how awesome I am for doing it. After all, it's just one boob, people. Go to a nude beach and then we'll talk about daring ;)

the Shutter said...

I love this post. xoxo

Enza said...

Joanna,
Thank you so much for this post! I am expecting my first baby in December and am going through all the emotions that you said you did about nursing in public. After your inspiring post, I'm going to try and be less worried about others think and more focused on the fact that I'm feeding my daughter! Thank you for helping me put my mind at ease :)
PS- I need to order some of those BOOB nursing shirts ASAP!

Beth-Anne Jones said...

I never breastfed my children but I find people's intolerance completely frustrating. I wrote an article about an incident with a friend on my blog.

http://4mothers1blog.wordpress.com/2010/10/22/why-don’t-you-put-a-blanket-over-your-face/

A said...

I'm glad to see so many positive comments on here about breastfeeding. OF COURSE it's a personal decision for every mother to do what is best for her and her child (formula feeding, bottle feeding breastmilk, breastfeeding in private or public, etc.) but I truly hope that those who express their discomfort with public breastfeeding will come around. To compare the right to feed a baby with the right to talk in a movie or flip someone off seems absurd. These aren't even in the same realm. For those who are squeemish, please consider whose needs are more important...an infant who needs nourishment or your own comfort level (which can easily be restored by averting your gaze). Should a baby be forced to go hungry until the mother can make it back home just so that you don't accidentally catch a glimpse of an inch of barely exposed skin? This makes little sense to me. Bravo to all the mommas putting their children first (no matter what means they are feeding them by).

Shelia Day said...

I just thought of something....people think it's gross to breast feed your baby in public, even if it's discreet, but they will eat milk that came from another animal's nipple????? So weird!!!

cyn said...

I breastfed my babies in public all the time and can't remember ever receiving any negative comments. And you're right - you can usually do it very discretely without any effort at all. One memorable time, my girlfriend and I were both nursing our babies in a little local coffee shop. After a while, I realized that there was a table of two older couples nearby and they were talking about us. After a little while they got up to leave and the two women came over to our table. I looked up in surprise, half expecting to deal with something possibly negative. Instead, the women praised us.

I encourage women to do it as long as they can - most of society thinks you're doing the right thing by your child. Those that don't have fluffernutters for brains and are not worth another thought. :-)

mirella said...

Awesome post! When I had my baby, I was so nervous about public breastfeeding. I'm a pretty modest person, so it took me a few months to feel comfortable with it. I'm also large chested, so for me, it's not possible to be subtle at all. I try not to whip out the boob in all situations given this fact, but have gotten way more confident about it. Thanks for this post - totally inspiring! :-)

simpleblissbycourtney said...

I so appreciated your post and loved the photos. I am a new mom trying to get back into the real world and am just starting to breastfeed in public. It was a challenge at first trying to figure it all out... not trying to flash anyone the boob, crying baby grunting and all that... but it's getting better day by day. thanks for sharing.

Gracie said...

Joanna you really are a lovely lady xx

Anonymous said...

Hello,

I hope this comes across the right way because I know this a very sensitive issue for so many people.

I think breast feeding is a truly beautiful and natural thing. Heck, that is the purpose of breast in the first place right?! If you feel comfortable than you should most certainly breast feed in public. There is tons of research proving how much healthier the child will be from breast feeding.

That being said, I think there are some times when it is polite to be a little discrete. In my twenties I was a waitress and witnessed many women who breast feed at the table. Some mothers were so discrete you could barely tell she was feeding her child, others brought a small cloth that they could throw over their shoulder and create a little tent. Then, there were some that flopped the whole thing out. I realize that these woman are very comfortable but, the truth is I felt terrible awkward having to talk to them at such a close distance. In attempt not to accidentally stare I often found myself looking at the wall or glancing up at the ceiling.

My suggestion is if you are in a situation that requires someone who does not know you to come into such close contact with you, like a server in a restaurant, you don't know their comfort level so maybe be a little more discrete.

If it were a woman breast feeding twenty feet away on a park bench I could care less.

stefanie said...

thank you so much for being an example of proud breastfeeding from the less crunchy, more "cosmopolitan" (that sounds dorky, but whatever) end of the blogging spectrum!

Anonymous said...

Good for you! I am glad you feel comfortable bfding in public. Every woman should feel that way. I had the opposite problem...I had trouble breastfeeding, great trouble, and eventually had to pump and/or use formula. So I would bottlefeed in public, and the looks and comments I would get from other moms...someone told me "Do you know what you are doing to your baby with that". It is unbelievable how people judge others. I hope you experience nothing but positive attitudes from others. It is your right, and your baby's right, to eat when he is hungry, wherever you are!

Ashley said...

You look great!

Being a momma looks so great on you!
So happy!

Cathleen said...

this looks like a sponsored post for Lansinoh -- any disclosure necessary here???

Karin said...

If only all women could breastfeed in public discreetly, but unfortunately many do not and those are the ones that give it a bad name. Personally, I have no interest in seeing any portion of an exposed breast, however I am a supporter of breastfeeding. In my opinion, I think a nursing blanket should be used, or something to lightly cover the baby. I do think women (and I am a woman myself) should be respectful of their surroundings and take their company into consideration. I would never say anything negative to a nursing mother (because I have major respect for mothers), but I will definitely have a look of shock and disgust on my face if a woman has her whole breast hanging out in a public place (oh, I've definitely seen the WHOLE thing before!). With that said, it seems to me that breastfeeding in public in an appropriate manner is truly an art form...an art form that you seem to have mastered! Kudos! :)

Melissa Jade said...

I'm definitely of the "Ick" group (for myself that is) but YOU may rock on my dear!

kaila said...

100% love!

JENNY said...

Joanna! You rock! Alex took lovely pictures...really captured the bond between mommy and baby! Toby's adorable!!! Congrats

Theresa said...

YES! As a new mom of a 14 week old I've fully embraced breastfeeding in public. I feel so lucky to be living in Brooklyn where it feels not only embraced but the norm! Thank you for this post the more we do it, the more we'll all embrace it. I was just telling a friend the other day that breastfeeding my son is one of the things I'm most proud of. It's such a natural beautiful thing.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this post! I am still nursing my 3 and a half year old. It is such a beautiful time for us. There are many reasons to continue to breastfeed past one year.

Allegra said...

LOVE this post! When I first had my son, I was very self-conscious about breastfeeding in public, but after a few months, I realized that all I was doing was feeding and nourishing my child, and I shouldn't have to do that in a bathroom or a stuffy car. Sadly, it was only after my son stopped breastfeeding that I discovered people like Leigh (and you) who champion this. Thank you for easing new moms' minds!

xoxo,
Allegra

Lauren Knight said...

Yes! You go! I breastfed both of my boys in public, but felt the need to cover up b/c of other people's stares. But once, while sitting on the floor of the children's area in the Building Museum in Washington, DC (while breastfeeding my ONE-WEEK-OLD under a blanket, nonetheless)was told to leave and go to the lobby. Oh, wait, first she asked me if I was breastfeeding b/c it wasn't apparent! She said that the rule was that there was no eating or drinking in the children's area of the Building Museum(!!!). I asked her if she was afraid I would spill something. She told me she was only following the rules, and that I would have to take my two-year-old and newborn into the lobby to finish. INFURIATING! I wish I hadn't burst into tears, been stronger, and just stayed put. Thank you for being such a positive influence for something EVERY woman should feel is her right. To feed her baby.

jessica said...

This is such a lovely post. When I was pregnant I worried a lot about breastfeeding in public, too, and was similarly armed (in my mind) and ready to fend off the haters! Alas no one ever said a word, not even a disapproving glance or snicker (I also happen to live in a pretty enlightened, "progressive" town). Breastfeeding has been one of the sweetest, most special experiences in my life. My son is 10 months and I am weaning now (so I can get pregnant again) and I will miss it immensely!

Anonymous said...

Just so you know, you look absolutely fantastic!

Lisa said...

Oh my gosh Joanna,
I think my milk just came in!
Just kiding, my kids are now
16 & 18...years that is.
I breast fed both of them for almost their first year
and then went to Rice Dream
in a cup.
We loved every minute of it.
I could be out all day
with them and never run out
of bottles or formula.
Taking the time to sit
down to feed them
was good for both of us.
I was in SoCal so there
was not much scrutiny, only support which was nice.
So happy that it has
worked out for you both!
He is so darling and you
look just great!
Lisa

LPC said...

^^^
Lisa! How fun to see you here. And, I was thinking the exact same thing. This thread made me feel like I was lactating again, and my youngest is 20:).

jaime said...

so i did it. after reading your post and feeling down about having to feed in either the bathroom or car, today i sat on a bench and breastfed my baby at the mall! it wasn't weird or awkward at all. no one even paid attention to us. thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this!

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Joy Bela said...

I am so glad you posted this. I wish more women felt empowered to put themselves and their babies first, before the opinions of others. It just plain doesn't make sense to me why so many people are uncomfortable with breast feeding! I am only in college and don't have a baby, but feel very strongly about this and know that once I have a baby of my own, I will be walking around the streets of nyc breastfeeding as well!(except on the upper west side :)) This post is wonderful and beautiful--both you and Toby look 100% happy and very content- the most important thing! (And this makes me miss the west village so much, can't wait for thanksgiving break!) Now the question is--Would you breast feed on the subway?? My mom said she did it with me without a problem, but that was 20 years ago, and I wonder if people would be even more rude about it? What do you think, have you done it or thought about it??

Em said...

I don't really have a problem with women breastfeeding in public, if it's done in a modest fashion. I don't plan to breastfeed at all, so I can't speak personally, but if you have a nursing shirt, or a blanket, or position the baby just right, nothing can be seen. I did, however, have a customer at my restaurant just hike up her t-shirt and start breastfeeding right at the table, switching breasts without even trying to cover up. That did bother me, because it's a crowded restaurant, not a street where you can just keep walking and ignore it if you so choose. Being proud of your motherhood is one thing, but it was more of a flash show than a show of nurturing in that case. *lol*

Joanna Goddard said...

thanks for all these comments!! and caroline, no -- to answer your sweet question (thank you!), i used to blow it dry everyday, but now i just pull it into a low bun with a ponytail holder. that's it! i think it looks better in photos that in real life :) haha but thanks for your question!

hazel and hunter said...

love this post!! i felt shy about feeding in public at first too, but now i don't even think about it. thankfully montreal's pretty pro-baby and most people don't even notice, or just smile if they do.

kate said...

A friend of mine sent me the link to this fun Etsy item, and I thought you too would get a kick out of it!

http://www.etsy.com/listing/58969933/boobie-beanie?ref=mt

It would definitely make folks take a double-take!

Nerissa said...

Thank, thank you for this post. I am struggling with this. I bought the Boob shirts on your recommendation, and I love them. One question--do you wear a bra underneath?

I love that you don't fuss with a nursing cover.

BethanySusan said...

I think people are just uncomfortable because they don't know where to look! When women just pull one out in my restaurant it makes my male staff uncomfortable and other guests as well. I'm not saying it's right or wrong. It just makes people feel awkward, especially those of us who don't feel passionate about mothering.

BethanySusan said...

Also have to say there are discreet ways of breastfeeding in public, (such as the way you do it, Joanna, where it looks like you're merely holding your babe) and there are the mothers who will either expose the entire scene to the world (Really? Did we need to see a nip?), or set up an entire nest around them (can't help but draw the eye- what is she setting up for anyway??) The former, I think is great. The latter, not so much. :)

Anna from Lyon said...

You look great and your baby is sooo cute.
However...that's a very personal thing.
Love your blog but it seems that "because it's so french" is not the reason.
Loving your adorable kid is the reason.
WTF..
It's very french to leave dog poop on the street...just saying.

Anonymous said...

I'm a new mom, too (my little guy is one month younger than Toby), and I'd like to breastfeed where ever he needs to be fed, but I think it's a little more difficult as a large-breasted woman. The poor boy's head is dwarfed by the size of my boobs! It's hard to be discrete in that situation.

Jennifer said...

Personally I'd rather not see a kid sucking on boob. I know it's natural, but some people (like me) find it disturbing. I can't help it.

I don't harass anyone or think less of women who choose to breast-feed, and would stand up for someone who was in that position, but I do hate when "pro-breast-feeders" try to convince everyone around them that it's as awesome as they think it is.

Props to you for doing what you feel you should, even if it makes people like me uncomfortable. (Not trying to be snarky, even though it sounds like it, haha)

Julie said...

Very very nice post. It's so beautiful to see a mother breastfeeding her baby. It reminds me of happy and cherished moments with my 2 children.

Anonymous said...

right on, lady!

Anonymous said...

gorgeous photos - gorgeous writing - hooray for another mum who feeds in public!

Gaia• Illustration said...

I hate that this is an issue! But I LOVE this post. I'm passing it on to my mama-to-be friends!

Kara said...

Great post!! My son is 2 years and 10 months old, and while we don't often nurse in public anymore, (he's usually too busy when we're out and about!) I used to breastfeed him in public all the time. I never had a bad experience, and I also had something ready to say should anyone give me a hard time. Thank you for posting this and yur photos. I think so many people's argument is "well they just whip out a boob" (which certainly wouldn't bother me, either) and it's so rude, etc, etc. I hope your photos make people realize that breastfeeding is not only NOT LUDE, but beautiful.

sunshinefields said...

I had a woman come up to me and thank me for nursing my son in public, that it was such a beautiful thing. It definitely gave me the courage to continue. <3

Dagmar said...

Joanna, this is so lovely! We need to see more of this! I started breastfeeding my son 4 years ago and would nurse him anywhere, any time he wanted to feed. I won't have a discussion about it -- if it bothers you, then please don't look or leave -- I'm feeding my child and am not going to hide in the bathroom.

I have become an avid breastfeeding advocate and am a cheerleader and resource for breastfeeding moms with my blog, Dagmar's momsense.

Surprisingly, my son has not yet self-weaned, and now I have become an advocate for moms who breastfeed past the recommended 2 years. There are so many health advantages to it for him AND me, why not? I'll miss it when he's done nursing while snuggling and before falling asleep.

You might like to read this recent post about breastfeeding in public, extended style :)

http://dagmarbleasdale.com/2010/10/the-benefits-of-extended-breastfeeding/

You are such a great example of a young woman nursing in public, please keep it up :)

My best,
Dagmar
Dagmar's momsense

Sarah said...

Toby looks so big!!!!!!

ladybonq said...

hi joanna,
i know this has nothing to do with breastfeeding (which i think is great!), but... where is your coat from?

Kathryn said...

I always feel a little uncomfortable about breastfeeding in public, but you do what you gotta do. I'm only uncomfortable because of my large cup size; I can't pull it off with the same subtlety you can.

Oddly, the person who freaked out the most about it was my sister (not a mom). I just laughed at her and it became something the family could tease her about.

Toby's outfit is so adorable! He is getting so big! My Sam is about a month older than Toby and lately I've been struck by how much he is starting to look like a little boy rather than a baby. Development happens so fast; it's amazing.

Denise Laborde said...

Nice post. I am an American living in Toulouse (all three of my sons were born here) and I've never questioned where to bf my babys. You're right, here it is considered a natuaral thing to do :)
BF is not only convenient, but a special thing between you and your baby, I'm glad to read about your positive experience!

Laura said...

Hi Jo! I live in Bristol, England, which is one of Europe's hotspots for breastfeeding (the city won an award this year for its openness to it and support for it from the health services). I love it! My baby is a little younger than Toby and I just got a Hotsling which is the perfect way for feeding on the move. It's like a hammock for your baby that hangs from you - and it's comfy. They're a US invention - you should try it!

Laura said...

Hi Jo! I live in Bristol, England, which is one of Europe's hotspots for breastfeeding (the city won an award this year for its openness to it and support for it from the health services). I love it! My baby is a little younger than Toby and I just got a Hotsling which is the perfect way for feeding on the move. It's like a hammock for your baby that hangs from you - and it's comfy. They're a US invention - you should try it!

Kelsey said...

The pictures and your writing are so beautiful.

Anonymous said...

What a fabulous post mama! Thanks for sharing. I would have done something like this but my husband takes AWFUL PHOTOS OF ME! but my 4 year old is a GREAT PHOTOGRAPHER! HA! Even with my big ol DSLR! I need to just ask him to take pics for me LOL! My daughter is at that stage now where she wants to get a little "acrobatic" while nursing so I try to make it quick when we are out and about and get her to let go when she starts bouncing around with my boob still attached ha ha! But still with both of my kids, I've never had anyone even look at me sideways (but then I never really looked at other people to notice or care), but definitely only had a few nice comments other than that, nothing....I'm so discreet no one knows what I'm even doing.

bieber4EVA!! said...

these pictures are terrible!! the baby is in the way in every picture, i cant see anything

Ruth Barzel said...

It's great that you did a post on this. I breastfed both of my kids, and it was such a great experience that I really hope others will choose to do the same (not to mention the fact that they are both extremely healthy, and so am I!). I'm sure your post will make more new moms feel more confident.

susannah said...

i super love this post. i am laughing too, because my husband & i just visited nyc a few weeks ago and i just blogged about how i nursed all over the freaking city. http://goodbuthard.blogspot.com/2010/11/be-kind-rewind-or-day-that-i-was.html

(oh, and i love the bravado nursing tanks. wear them under everything. they are fabulous.)

Christine said...

Awesome post. And somewhat off-topic, where did you get those jeans? They are perfect!

Bri (like the cheese) said...

At some point, I'll read through some of these comments, which I am sure say all kinds of great things about NIP (nursing in public) :o)
I finally got to where I will nurse my son during church services without leaving to go to the nursery. I don't want to miss the service & it's more disruptive to the congregation when I'm getting up and down out of my place to go feed him. I doubt anyone has noticed what I'm doing, and I'm sure nobody will comment.
I think people are unlikely to make rude remarks because, even if they're squeamish about the idea, they know they're wrong.

Ólöf said...

Bravo to you! I'm a mother of 2 that has no problem breastfeeding anywhere. I'm from Iceland but I live in Tulsa, OK and lets just say that the majority of people here are still very backwords. Women cover up or leave the room when they are at home and family comes over. I don't feed so that everybody can see much of anything. Like you most people don't notice until they are right in front of me looking down on the baby. But I am doing the best thing for me and my child. When I hear that women decide not to breast feed their child because they are too modest I feel great sorrow. How can a person feed their child something that is chemically altered by scientists when the perfect food for their child is right there, free, and at the perfect temperature. That is what boobs are for. They are considered sex symbols because they show that you would be a good mother that can provide food for your child.
Thank you for showing that breastfeeding is nothing to be ashamed of and it is even beautiful.

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shoegirl said...

Ahh, Puritanical America...It's so sad that it is taken to the point of making women feel bad for feeding their children in public. The human body is a beautiful, natural thing. If and when I have children, it makes me feel good that I now live in Europe where these kinds of ridiculous reactions do not happen.

mridula said...

I breastfed and for years, although once the kiddies were past the age were breastfeeding was their prrimary means of getting nutrition I no longer breastfed in public. The issue is not modesty. And if it were then my response would be that there is nothing immodest in a woman meeting the needs of a child who has no other way to gain sustenance. The issue is the sexual connotations ascribed to a woman's breasts. Until more women breastfeed American society will continue to believe the breast is a sexual toy and any exhibition of the breast is a sexually provocative act. In cultures were women do breastfeed in public - big breasted and small breasted women, covered up and uncovered, only their newborns and even their toddlers - it is not so much that people have gotten acclimatised to a shockingly immodest act by being exposed to it again and again, but rather that they have been allowed to remember the breast has a function that is other than sexual.

All of this is to say Hooray for you Joanna. People will be uncomfortable. And slowly they will stop being uncomfortable.

Mridula

{lovely little things} said...

Good for you, an inspiring post!

sisters in black frocks said...

i will fully admit i don't have very many maternal instincts, and i think its your duty as a mom to feed your child, but i am not so much into the glamorization of it. its a job that must be done, and doesn't bother me in the least when its done in a tasteful way in public.

Desiree Fawn said...

Heck yeah! We're all about anytime/anywhere over here!! <3

Terri said...

Thank you Joanna! I love this post! I think the biggest myth out there about breastfeeding is public is that you are baring yourself to the world. That's just not so... it can be extremely modest even without a blanket or nursing cover. My youngest always wanted to be in a sling and I breastfed her all over the place. No one ever knew!

Cannelle Et Vanille said...

Hi jo- loved that you posted these pics! I've breastfed in public (discreetly like you) both my kids and have never had an issue. It's a wonderful thing!! xxoo

Anonymous said...

Great post! I feel the same way as you do, it's great to show how natural breastfeeding is, and how acceptable it should be to do everywhere.

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Anonymous said...

my baby is now 18 yrs old and was breastfed for 2 years.it was the best experience of my life(aside from feeling the baby move.i was never shy about doing it in public and had very few weird remarks or looks.it is definetly a beautiful thing.enjoy!

Marissa June said...

I worked at a gallery that had a "breastfeeding-friendly" vinyl sticker in the window! It was part of this organization's initiative: http://breastfeedingcanada.ca/html/bfi.html.

However, in the two+ years I worked there, I never saw a single visitor breastfeed! But I wouldn't have batted a lash either way.

Thanks for posting this, Joanna!

Kathryn said...

I was once told by a restaurant employee that I should nurse my baby in a bathroom stall. I asked him how often he has his lunch in a bathroom stall? He left me alone. I was very discreet as most moms are so there wasn't anything to see unless you really STRAINED!

beth said...

Hi Jo! I love reading your blog and check in on it often for inspiration.
I find it oddly coincidental that I actually had a twitter conversation about this yesterday with some other tweeters. What started as a simple tweet I made in reply to a friend who tweeted about seeing a woman breastfeeding in Starbucks and "gettin' a full shot of the goods" was blown out of proportion, and I was harshly reprimanded by complete strangers who inserted themselves into a conversation.
My stance: I don't always appreciate the "subtle art" of women breastfeeding in public. Disclaimer: I am not a mom. I know that I may very well feel different about this when I am. Until then, my question is Why? Why does it need to be done for everyone to see? By all means, mothers should be able to go out with baby and have fun and do routine errands or brunches with friends or walks in the park.
All I am saying is that some women have no sense of decency while they're doing it; they're not at all subtle and they don't care about the nifty "breastfeeding shirts" or covering up or turning themselves at a certain angle so that the guy sitting across the cafe doesn't get a peep show. I just don't understand women who whip it out with no regards to the unsuspecting people that can't avoid that initial awkward shot in passing, etc.

Mother and baby may be having an intimate moment, but intimacy, by definition, isn't shared by the public. I get it; breastfeeding is a part of nature, it's a gift and a bond between mother and baby, and it in and of itself is not indecent. However, choosing to "bare all" with the excuse that they're feeding their child IS indecent, in my opinion.
Breasts are sexual organs, which is why they are so sexualized in society, and why this issue has a stigma of controversy. The way I think about it: in any other circumstance, would I want my male coworker or the lady that hands me my latte or a teenage kid seeing my bare chest? Um, no. I'm still in public, I still have to abide by the laws of public decency and respect for others.

I just don't see that "feeding your child" is an excuse for women to expose themselves. Sure, we can "look away" once we've recognized what's going on, but usually it's that initial, unintended glance that always throws people off guard. I mean, is it really that big of a deal to acknowledge that strangers don't want to see it all?

I don't feel your post addressed how the non-mothers of the world (or strangers in general) feel about SEEING a woman baring her breasts in public while feeding their infant. I'm glad you experienced some sense of appreciation from people who agree with your perspective, but I'm betting that there are some people out there (like me and my twitter friend) who don't appreciate it, but aren't mean and don't want to say anything rude. We don't want mothers to NOT feed their babies, we just don't want to see a boob in the process.
Despite all this, I do want to say that think the tone of your post was a positive, personal perspective that doesn't judge mothers and women who may not agree with you. No, in response to Ms. Anonymous up there that SERIOUSLY needs to get over herself and shut the F*** up, your post WAS NOT at all obnoxious.
After yesterday's twitter tongue-lashing, I'm glad I actually got to read your post, which was starkly different in tone and perspective from the enraged women that overloaded my twitter feed.

Jill said...

I am glad to see so many women suporting breastfeeding in public and will to do so themselves. I personally do not have children yet but have an aquaintance who had encountered issues with it in a Walmart store. She was so upset that she actually called the local newspaper and had a decent amount of coverage in Canadian newsmedia. Walmart eventually apologized.

You can read more about it here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breastfeeding_in_public

And here:
http://www.vancouversun.com/life/Walmart+apologizes+asking+stop+breastfeeding/1804833/story.html?id=1804833

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Ann Hooker said...

Breastfeeding is a perfectly natural and best practice for a growing baby. Call me old fashioned, but come on cover up with a sweet little blanket. It's the right thing to do. I mean really. The world does not need, nor want to see your exposed private parts.

Anonymous said...

In regards to the folks who judge those moms nursing toddlers, get over it. In many, many cultures little ones easily nurse until three or four, IN PUBLIC. I finished nursing long ago and hope young people have a more open mind today about the needs of children.

Maria Claudia said...

Hi Joanna,
I write from Brazil and breastfeeding in public here is even more rare than in USA - try to understand it, we use the tiniest bikinis in the world, but we are embarrassed of showing our boobs while feeding our babies! I have to admit that I never thought of breastfeeding in public up until two weeks ago when I was on a trip to São Paulo with my husband and my 4 months old Antonio. There I realized how stupid it would be to wait for us to arrive at the hotel every time my baby was cried from hunger. So I just fed him on the taxi, on the plane, while we were visiting my sister-in-law, all around!!! I definitely see no problem in that, it is actually and act of love that should inspire other moms!
Loved your blog and will be following it.
Wish you all the best,
Maria
www.thebabyboom.blogspot.com

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Jaja Shah-Mohen said...

I love breastfeeding my daughter and I want to feel free to breastfeed her anywhere without the fear of being stared at. I used to cry when I read on other women's stories of how they are treated when they breastfeed in public. But thanks to more strong women like you voicing out and writing about breastfeeding in public, I'm more confident now to breastfeed my daughter wherever I am.

Thanks for this post!

Anonymous said...

where I work at there is a marine there who made a VERY GOOD POINT. Him and his girlfriend is due at the end of the month and he said it himself he said, "Its ashame that people have problems when a mother breastfeed her child in public, BUT people don't have a problem watching porn." He made a very good point. It shocks him. He have no problem when he sees a mother breastfeeding her child. He knows that mother is doing a good thing for her and the baby.

brooklynash said...

i realize i'm commenting on this 2 years later, but i would've said "we're animals. this is how we feed our young." sometimes i think people tend to forget that.

ps i also realize your response was much more practical.

. said...

Thank you for this post, I just came home from New York ( im from iceland) where I breastfed in public but I was really stressed about it. No one commented but It is really important that more women do this, to show everyone that babies also have to eat when they are not at home !!!!

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Anonymous said...

A few years ago, you wrote this on your glamour column, Smitten:


"The other day, I was at brunch with a lovely new friend, when all of a sudden, she whipped out her breast and started feeding her baby. Her bare nipple was a mere two feet away, and suddenly I didn't know where to look except down at my scrambled eggs. As liberated as I hope I am, I have to admit, I felt a little awkward when her breast was suddenly Right There.

What do you think about breastfeeding in public? Is it a friendship do or don't? What did you think of Brad Pitt's now-famous photo of Angelina Jolie breastfeeding one of their babies? I thought it was completely lovely and endearing, but there has definitely been some controversy. "

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2008/10/friendship-do-or-dont-breastfe.html

I have total respect to breastfeeding moms and their right to feed their children, but like you having been in that same position before, I do feel some awkwardness. Can there be a compromise somewhere? Like a scarf or blanket maybe?

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